What I was specifically calling stupid and untransgressive IS certain kinks themselves to be fair. And I don't think that they are harmless I just don't think that people should be doxxed, stalked, or lolcowed about it. A block and go is usually enough.
Kink communities can have transgressive people in them as a whole because of their connection to the queer community and work that's done to destigmatize sex but neither of those things are specific to the kink community. Although there isn't a singular kink community so I am generalizing quite a bit.
But regardless of if or how someone interacts with their fetishes many of them are not ever going to be transgressive or profound in any way, particularly if they're rooted in the fabrics of our bigoted society.
The human psyche is really complicated and sometimes people get aroused by things that are bad. I don't think that's abnormal or that people should be punished for that response inherently but they have to realize that they cannot separate their daily lives and notions from those fetishes.
I think people into raceplay are typically racist, I don't think that's unreasonable to say. You are playing up existing racial stereotypes and biases to get off. I don't want to be around people who do this, even who do so in private away from me. People are allowed to find that repulsive and choose to distance themselves and criticize it.
A lot of kink related content is deeply unserious. Its performance and playing and assuming that everyone involved consents to this that's less likely (not impossible, particularly when you post about this stuff on the internet without proper warnings and easy ways to opt out of it) to cause significant harm to an individual but I don't consider all kinks harmless no.
When people get off to things like incest, abuse, slavery etc that is a reflection of a society that normalizes those things. I think this can confuse people because none of those things are openly normalized and society pretends those things aren't accepted but once you peel back any of the layers it starts becoming clear.
People will say that incest is gross and make fun of it (in ways that further stigmatize victims but I digress) but they think it's normal for a father to treat his daughter like he has ownership over her. They will not blink when christian girls will have mock weddings with their fathers (purity balls) or when mothers treat their children's bodies like they own them because they birthed them and many many other actual applications of incestuous abuse IRL.
I am always going to inherently see someone who recreationally cosplays and roleplays MY lived reality and trauma in an exaggerated way to get off as an asshole. I think it makes you unkind and often times undereducated on the realities. I don't think that the government should have the ability to punish you about it (so long as no one is being actively victimized] but I'm not going to like or want to associate with you if you do that.
That's the point I'm making. I am anti harassment. But sexualizing harmful things woven into the fabric of our society and repackaged and sold to the masses as being fetish material makes a person uncool, often times repulsive even.
It's also just not as edgy as people think. Half of the shit people say is sexy is (repackaged as queer) messaging from the mormon church. It's shit that the literal puritans also fetishized and got off on (because they weren't anti sex they were anti women having bodily autonomy, they were constructing a hierarchy of who gets to have sex and when and that has nothing to do with fetishes. People really want to make evangelical christians against things they aren't to push an agenda but they generally love abuse fetishes if they're the right genders and presentations.)
Like it's about as transgressive as twilight. That's the level people put themselves on and it's embarrassing. I'll protect your human rights but by god is it embarrassing.
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