Just Personal

I am catholic and I love cats...Thus Cat-a-holic. Follow for random: Cats, Catholicism, Musings, and much, much more!

[cat-a-holic]

In the words of @lululeninn "CHARGE!!! TAKE NO PRISONERS!!!"

[vinelark]

hmm my former landlords are trying to deduct a frankly off the rails amount of money from our security deposit…my time has come once again

[vinelark]

i was chatting with a coworker about this whole saga today and someone nearby popped into the convo to be like “you know, you can use chatgpt to write a demand letter!” and i sort of blinked and went, “okay. i did it myself, though.” and she was like, “yeah but it can tell you what laws and stuff are relevant” and i was like, “i also did research myself.” and she was very well-meaning but she said “chatgpt” like six more times before she left and it was genuinely baffling to me, this insistence on it.

and in the one hand, did i enjoy spending hours researching housing regulations in my state? not especially. drafting this email was stressful. but on the other hand, did i learn a lot by doing that research? yeah, i did. i’m more prepared for my current and future leases. i used some of that info to make decisions about a new renter’s insurance policy. i already told three different people about things i learned that are relevant to their leases that they didn’t know yet. (pro tip: see if you’re supposed to be getting annual interest payments on your security deposit! also look up what specific appliances your landlords must legally provide as of 2026.) i also got to reconnect with my cousin for a bit because her job gave her specific insight on part of the situation, and i’d much rather do that than have a chatbot make shit up for me.

also, i drafted that email with the power of friendship (friends angry on our behalf) and spite (from landlords telling me not to do my research). chatgpt could never.

(we got the money back, by the way 💪)

[chantylay]

Please never use generative AI tools for any kind of legal dispute. It does not know what laws or court cases are. It will make up something that sounds favorable to you, and you will get crushed. There are free resources out there to learn this stuff. And sometimes attorneys will offer free consultations or volunteer at a free legal clinic. OP didn't just do it themselves to do extra work or some shit. This is really the only viable way to do things short of hiring a professional to do it for you.

ChatGPT is not easier or faster in matters like this. It is a shot to the foot.

[art-but-only-sometimes]

I luv them 💖🌌✨

Based on this picture:

Days to complete: 3

Made in Clip Studio Paint

Tablet: Wacom

[ash-elizabeth-art]

A little sleeping kitty

[portraitsofsaints]

Saint Emily de Vialar

1797-1856

Feast Day: June 17

Patronage: single women

Saint Emily de Vialar was born in France, to the physician of Louis XVIII. She cared for the children and sick of the town, trying to repair the harm done by the French Revolution, while also caring for her widowed father. In 1835, St. Emily and 26 women took religious vows, calling themselves the sisters of St. Joseph “of the Apparition.” (referring to The angel Gabriels’ telling St. Joseph to flee to Egypt) By the time St. Emily died, 42 foundations were established all over the world. Four years after her death her body was found incorrupt.

Prints, plaques & holy cards available for purchase. (website)

[roach-works]

speculative fiction writers i am going to give you a really urgent piece of advice: don't say numbers. don't give your readers any numbers. how heavy is the sword? lots. how old is that city? plenty. how big is the fort? massive. how fast is the spaceship? not very, it's secondhand.

the minute you say a number your readers can check your math and you cannot do math better than your most autistic critic. i guarantee. don't let your readers do any math. when did something happen? awhile ago. how many bullets can that gun fire? trick question, it shoots lasers, and it shoots em HARD.

you are lying to people for fun. if you let them do math at you the lie collapses and it's no fun anymore.

[roach-works]

YOU GET IT

[storyweavingspider]

There’s a spider in your computer. Her name is Astrid. She heard the World Wide Web needed a World Wide Spider, but she needs some help getting to each place. Can you reblog her to help her get everywhere?

[fieropasto-deactivated20210613]

me studying anything in history

[fieropasto-deactivated20210613]

[mycatstail]

Its my cat's 7th birthday!

[dadwhosagirl]

concept by my roommate

[weisskralle]

King Corky has some quality beans

[leahzepam]

Mr babyman ::33

[queermania]

i think before you marry someone, you should sit down and go through the AITA subreddit with them and see what their take on those situations is

[queermania]

does your potential future spouse think it's reasonable for their mother to be involved in your family planning? or to make comments about your body? do you? how does your future spouse feel about girls and/or boys nights? situations involving exes? cancelling trips last minute? under what circumstances do they think it's reasonable to host somebody in your home and for how long? etc.

and the goal of doing this isn't to agree one-hundred percent on every single thing. it's to understand how you both view obligations, family, friends, finances, conflict, etc. and to make sure that even if you don't have the exact same perspective, you can understand where the other person is coming from without feeling like they're a crazy person. you have to be able to come to reasonable compromises and sometimes that involves one person fully caving, and sometimes it involves the other person fully caving, and sometimes it's both of you giving a little, but you need to understand what things you both are and aren't willing to compromise on because those types of situations are going to come up in a marriage.

[queermania]

also, since this has turned into actual advice: you should talk through why you think what you think, even when you agree, because you might not be agreeing for the same reasons.

[diamondsandphoenixfire]

Another factor is that some things are more important to one person than another.

If it’s very important to your partner to limit how long houseguests stay / have vegan utensils / that the dog does not get on the couch, but you don’t particularly mind either way, that’s one situation where just going with what one person wants is appropriate. Sure, I’ll keep the dog off the couch, not because I particularly care, but because it bothers my wife. Etc

I have a particular tone of ‘sure honey’ that says ‘that is not the decision I would make, but clearly this matters a lot more to you than me so do what you want and I’ll deal with it.’

[comicgeekscomicgeek]

These are all really good points. And can definitely be used to suss out whether or not your partner will have your back. Many of the situations, assuming they’re real, prove the partner (usually male) isn’t going to be cutting the apron strings or even consider taking your side in a debate. Or is unwilling to rock the boat, even when it’s appropriate; there’s many stories of just wanting the partner to go along with mistreatment to keep the peace, with keeping the peace being more important than actually doing anything.

And as prev notes, sometimes it really is a matter of “who cares more”

[darnitjack]

All of these are SO much better at finding out if yall are compatible than sex.

[hometoursandotherstuff]

[irishironclad]

Hey fun fact, Russia is allowed to exist as a country, Russians as a collective to not bear any responsibility for what their government does nor are they required to risk their life to stop it. Russians are allowed to exist as a people and a culture. Talking about them like they're some cartoonishly evil orkish people does not actually solve anything. I am tired of seeing people borderline to genuinely calling for revenge genocide against a whole people it's gross.

[kilimiria]

@/imperfectidealist on TikTok

[so-i-did-this-thing]

GOOD NIGHT