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I love seeing people say "when i was in undergrad" because it means there's a way out that is possible and has been done before
does anyone know what comes after
Hi! So I was in a pretty similar situation to you a few years ago. I want to share my experience and some hopefully practical/realistic advice in hope that it will make things seem a bit less daunting :) Just some context as well I am from the UK so this is how I have found the post-university experience here, specifically for someone who is now doing a PhD.
All my life my goal was get a degree and then there wasn't any plan after that bc it was always so far in the future that it might as well not exist. But then suddenly it does exist and you are suddenly shoved into being a Real Adult and it's scary as hell! I also had no real idea what I wanted to do specifically. Like I knew I enjoyed my degree but I took natural sciences (a physics, chemistry, and maths pathway) so I literally had a Being Indecisive degree. I knew I liked academia and ultimately wanted to stay in it but I had no idea in what and was also so burned out that any time I tried to write a CV or do anything like that in my final year I was just so stressed I started crying and couldn't do it.
So I decided ultimately what I needed for a bit was rest and space to make a decision on the path to my future. I took a year out where I still lived in the city I did my integrated masters and just took any job that I thought wouldn't drive me too insane bc I needed money for rent. And I will be real, I ended up hating the job I was doing, it sucked ass. But it gave me enough time to look for and apply to PhDs at my own pace when I didn't have any other deadlines on my shoulders.
Even when looking for PhDs I had no real idea what I wanted to do. I just put 'mathematics' into findaphd.com and scrolled through every. single. page. Most of what I looked at seemed like it wasn't quite right for me or my specific background wouldn't quite be suited to it even if it did seem interesting. I eventually only ended up finding one that sounded super interesting and it's the one I ended up doing, and so I diverged from a maths specialism into chemical engineering. The thing about PhDs is, there will almost always be ones out there that are willing to train you up / give you time to learn some aspects of undergrad that you haven't happened to have studied. I didn't really know any statistical mechanics before starting my PhD, but I was honest about this in the recruitment process and highlighted my adaptability instead and they were perfectly happy for me to learn this on the job.
Now I've been here nearly a year I'm finding what I do interesting enough. I just mainly enjoy all the fundamental work rather than any potential applications my project might have and I'm just someone who is built to be an academic so I'll enjoy pretty much any kind of research. I even think that after this I will see if I can get a postdoc in a slightly different field to what I will be specialising in over my PhD. Not because I don't find what I'm doing now interesting (bc I do) but bc I have many academic interests I'd be equally happy to pursue. And this is something that happens way more frequently than you think in academia, I know of biologists whose degree are in physics even!
This is all to say really, the main pieces of advise I have are:
If you search for it, you will find something that interests you. This may not come immediately. It might take a year or a couple years doing some shitty job you don't like that much to finally come across an opportunity that seems like it might be right for you. And unfortunately this time in between may suck ginormous balls, I'm afraid sometimes there is no way around that and I know that this sucks so bad. But you've gotta keep in mind that whatever you're doing right now does not have to be forever and you are the one to choose your path forward, and hobbies and friends will be the thing that get you through this time.
You are never stuck in one thing forever. You'd be surprised how many people started out doing one thing and are now doing something completely different. STEM undergrad really just teaches you problem solving skills at its most fundamental and these are applicable to so many areas. You often find PhD students doing something that is quite different to their undergrad, and also after a PhD you're not locked into the one thing you studied forever either. Additionally, with the right supervisors and project you could even have some flexibility in what you study. If you chance upon something interesting one day and talk to your supervisor about what you found they could ask if you want to discuss options for exploring it!
You don't get anything if you don't ask. If you're looking for a PhD, just arranging an informal meeting with a prospective supervisor for a project you think you might apply for is, in my opinion, an essential first step. It gives you a chance to ask questions and determine if the opportunity sounds like it might be right for you. It also gives you the opportunity to be open about any skills you feel you may lack, and get honest answers about whether this would impede your application or your ability to do the project. I don't know too much about the main job market personally so I don't know to what extent this advise applies there, but I'm pretty sure all interviewers will ask if you have any questions for them.
It literally is not a race. Being a brand new Proper Adult is daunting. When you're whole life up til now has been education, it is only natural that once that stops being the case you feel like you have no idea what the hell you are doing. You need to give yourself kindness, grace, and time where you allow yourself to feel scared in this period, and know that pretty much every graduate is feeling a similar thing. Current education systems, at least in the uk but I'm sure this extends to other parts of the world, are fucked and really are not designed to teach you how to exist in the real world. Take your time, do things at your own pace, and don't be hard on yourself if you feel like you don't know what you're doing. With time, whatever amount of time that may be, you will come to understand more about yourself and your desires for the future. Take every opportunity that didn't work out for you not as a failure, but as a learning experience that you just didn't like something. Everyone is learning about themselves all the time and no one truly will ever have it all figured out.
Lastly: if it sucks hit da bricks!!! You are always allowed to leave. YOU ARE ALWAYS ALLOWED TO LEAVE. Even if you thought this was your dream opportunity, sometimes we don't like things as much as we thought we would and that is perfectly ok!!! No one should hate you if you have to leave a job or anything similar. And if they do they're almost certainly a toxic coworker who you are dodging a bullet by leaving behind anyway. If deep down in your gut you feel like you need to leave then you should listen to it, it may suck in the moment, but ultimately it can lead to you being a million times happier in the long run :)
This turned into way more of an inspirational speech than I intended aha, I don't intend for this to come across as preachy even though I am aware it may sound like that a bit. I just wanted to try and share my advice since I have been in several situations where my life took a dramatic turn academically that I didn't ever expect and I feel like I've learnt a lot from those experiences.
Tldr: things will come with time, it is perfectly ok to take the time you need to discover yourself, sometimes things will suck but hobbies and friends will keep you sane, and you are never ever trapped in one thing forever
I hope this has helped a bit 🫶
pjackk being brought back is incredibly funny but also not a great look on tumblrs part like why can't u do this for the hundreds and hundreds of unfairly banned trans women and black people. lol
isn't it fucked up how computer infrastructure generally cannot deal with characters that are not strictly in the english alphabet and will break if you use some?
I had a few folders written with accents (in spanish) and my browser wouldn't let me upload files from those folders, giving me a "connection error" and it took me like 15 minutes to figure out it was the containing folder name. and I am fortunate enough to speak a mother tongue based on the latin alphabet
Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.
if i had a dick i would love to have a disappointing orgasm in the shower while thinking of something or someone that i felt i should not be thinking about & then stand under the water with my forehead against a wall watching the proof of my guilt & shame go down the drain
The insight I get into the female mind thanks to this website is amazing.
not a female 👍
pause everybody take notes. real trans ally
my ocs need to get More Normal i am no longer asking
Gift illustrations I did for the MMOLB secret skeletons! The Kyoto Storm System, Tuesday No Problems, and the Haynesville Hazard Materials Crew.
val my tumblr keeps making me unfollow you I'm crying. ANYWAYS the return of dakota
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hello dakota! okay im going to b real im not getting notifs for you following or unfollowing but!!! welcome back hii
i am also up at 1 am thinking about my ocs but also i am thinking that when im done writing All This i should save the pieces i like and print them out
if edenfrommyocs was real i would need to take his hand and jump off a very very high cliff with him i fear
number one rule! never believe ur thoughts after 10 pm . unless its about The Character then believe all of your thoughts wholeheartedly
dude, this is really scary, and liminal as well. It's like the bathrooms
im so ocpilled i had a dream about them >_<
#this will not become canon!!!
okay. U wont guess what im writing about btw
just saw a 'comments' tab on someones blog you know where the following and likes tabs would be if enabled and it was just showing all the replies theyve made on peoples posts. this is fascinating when did this feature come out
EMERGENCY - ITS AUTO ENABLED!
if you've made replies on posts there is now a tab on your blog showing every post youve replied to and your reply.
if this is not what you want, either go to your blog and click comments and disable it from there or just go to your individual blogs setting pages. just change it from blue to grey if you dont want everyone to see your replies AND the post you're replying to
PLEASE BE ADVISED that it is set to disabled for blogs that have not made any replies but it will turn ON if you reply with that blog in the future.! i just tested it with my main, which was greyed out but it turned on the moment i left a test reply
figured i'd get the word out bc i have not seen a single mention of this and i'm sure there are plenty of people who maybe comment on things they don't want on display for everyone to see on their blog lol. you can still look at your replies with it toggled off just no one else can, like locking the following and likes list
so for some reason this feature was actually announced on the tumblr engineering blog. interesting choice not to reblog it to the staff or tumblr blog, esp considering they asked for user input on how to implement it, but i suppose considering the response to the last update maybe the replies would be too overwhelming...
so couple of clarifications. comments are disabled as default for primary blogs that have their likes disabled. they are seemingly enabled for all other blogs that have replied to posts
posts you comment on may show on your followers 'for you' page if you leave your replies publically available. they may, in the future, show in on your followers dashboard if your follower goes to their dash settings and enables this. apparently, if your likes are enabled, your followers can already see those on the dash if they've gone into preferences and selected to do so, which I was unaware of, and that seems to be disabled at default, but it's possible i disabled it previously and forgot about it ig
tbh think if ur gonna give the like button a trans flag animation you should like stop banning trans women en masse, among other things. like as a requirement.
just found out you can do more than one thing each day. i was just doing the one
