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thememedaddy

weepingwidar

Andrei Pokrovskii (Russian, 1996) - Untitled (2026)

txttletale

medieval peasants actually had access to far more Doritos than we do nowadays

creekfiend

until you go looking for them, you have no idea how many very kind and friendly middle aged or older hobbyspace weirdos would love to have many pleasant interpersonal interactions with you about, for example, fishing lures.

catilinas

emily wilson translating the odyssey a second time???

wavesofundoing

yuridiot

watching heat 1995 for the like third time will have you saying shit like maybe the tv set is a symbol of divorce

power-chords

It sure is! The television is the only personal possession Vincent appears to have brought into the Gustafson home, and it is explicitly an information system on the urban domain, so that when he leaves the world of the job he does not have to relinquish full access to it. He plunks it right on the dinner table to watch the news while eating a chicken leg with no plate (lol). He invades the sanctity of the domestic sphere with what amounts to a cathode ray periscope. Even when he is with Justine, his attention is not fully devoted to her. He keeps an eyeball out.

When he kicks it out of the car by the bus stop, the act symbolizes his commitment to a life lived fully “on the street.” It’s aggressive and cathartic, sure. But he also just doesn’t need it anymore.

ymutate

Andrej Dugin -Russian artist

"Hamlet"

Watercolor on paper

duginart

winged-void

the full beer can is the natural prey of the dejected princess

Delicious Dungeon

Being a calm, gentle, non-reactive person is really hard work, which is probably why many people are none of these things. Personally I think it’s worth it but sometimes one does want to just roll around on the floor wailing at the top of one’s lungs

kuttithevangu

People in my notes who think I’m repressed or dissociating: you will feel better when you learn emotions are not a binary of Not Feeling It vs Being Overwhelmed By It

blorbospinninhouseplant

Ok but How Do I Do That

kuttithevangu

Learn strategies for enhancing self-regulation skills, and discover the benefits of mastering this essential life skill to help emotional dy

There are many techniques (also, there are drugs)

blorbospinninhouseplant

Thank you, but do you have any advice for teens?

kuttithevangu

So my FIRST piece of information if you’re still a teen is that genuinely as you get older it will get easier to regulate your emotions. During adolescence our brains are undergoing a lot of growth and change that genuinely does make it harder to do this, on a scientific level. However, practicing emotional regulation skills can still help a lot and if you can find something that works it will make life easier going forward

This page has more information and recommendations for some basic exercises:

Discover effective strategies for teens to manage intense emotions, develop emotional awareness, and improve overall well-being. Expert tips

weepingwidar

Paree Rohera (Indian, 2003) - What Happens in Vivendi (2024)

draconym

It's nuts how common it is to not allow children to be angry, even (especially) in households where adults are angry all the time. As a child I knew my own anger was unacceptable--not just expressing it outwardly but feeling it at all. So now as an adult my immediate reaction to my own anger is often to feel guilt instead of like. Noticing when someone is being rude or unfair or my boundaries are being violated or whatever. fucked up.

jackawful

to this day "who is allowed to be angry" has been an incredible benchmark for teasing out who, in abusive situations with mutual accusations and DARVO happening, is being abusive and who is being abused. one of my favorite resources about this, the Creative Interventions Toolkit, phrases the question "who sets the weather?" in the relationship and I think about it so so often when I think about my own childhood. I was parentified in a way that set me up for future abusive relationships, because I had to soothe my parents' anger while not being allowed to feel angry myself. I am extremely grateful to everyone outside myself - friends, therapists, partners - who's gotten angry on my behalf about how I'm treated or let me know something I'd been excusing or blaming myself for was actually Not Okay. I guess the good news here is that it's possible to learn how to access anger again in a healthy way, it just takes support, like doing physical therapy for a muscle that didn't develop quite right.

draconym

I relate so strongly to this.

This is not to say that feeling anger is abusive; it's human to feel anger. But if you've ever felt like your anger was "unjustified" or were afraid to express it outwardly because you expected it to be dismissed ... ask yourself how you would react if the roles were reversed. I find that a lot of folks who were The Grown Up in a relationship with their parents hold themselves to much different standards than they hold other people.

I've seen plenty of situations that involve two or more people hurting each other and not admitting any fault because they want to protect their own egos. But. Notice when you think you're not entitled to be upset about something. When someone tells you you shouldn't be upset. There's a difference between taking your anger out on other people and just. Being allowed to feel angry.