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tonight at interactive introverts, dan said he and phil were soulmates, he called himself phil trash #1 again, and he said that if one day human souls could be implemented into technology, he would want to live in the sims world with phil so they could be “proper sim dads together”. my heart is full.

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How the types differ by one letter

INTJ vs ENTJ

INTJ: They don’t care to get to know everyone, but everyone at least knows of them

ENTJ: They know everyone and everyone knows them. How else would one move up the social ladder?

INTJ vs ISTJ

INTJ: That quiet straight-A person in class who indulges in nerdy interests in their spare time when they’re not studying

ISTJ: That quiet straight-A person in class who indulges in even more studying in their spare time than INTJ

INTJ vs INFJ

INTJ: *Is quiet and detached around someone* “Not my problem if they think I’m rude”

INFJ: *Is quiet and detached around someone* “OMG WHAT IF THEY THINK I DON’T LIKE THEM AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA”

INTJ vs INTP

INTJ: Doesn’t show their caring side unless they really care about you. And I mean REALLY care

INTP: You’re at least a good-tier friend of theirs? Time for them to tell you about everyone they truly care about and why they do

INFJ vs ENFJ

INFJ: Makes friends when extroverts adopt them

ENFJ: Is the extrovert friend that adopts introverts

INFJ vs ISFJ

INFJ: Cares for you by helping you survive and advance in life

ISFJ: Cares for you by giving you kind words and sharing food with you

INFJ vs INFP

INFJ: “I know you’re just going through a phase, but I’ll still love you and support you no matter what”

INFP: “IT’S NOT A PHASE MOM, THIS IS WHO I AM”

ISFJ vs ESFJ

ISFJ: Will cuddle you in the comfort of your or their own home while you tell them what’s bothering you

ESFJ: Will take you on an adventure to your favourite fast food place while you tell them what’s bothering you

ISFJ vs ISTJ

ISFJ: Hall monitor in elementary school

ISTJ: Cried when they didn’t get the hall monitor position in elementary school

ISFJ vs ISFP

ISFJ: Saw Paul Blart: Mall Cop in 2009 and thought it was pretty good

ISFP: Started ironically liking Paul Blart: Mall Cop cause of Tumblr, eventually actually saw it and started unironically liking it

ISTJ vs ESTJ

ISTJ: Too quiet when working on a group project

ESTJ: Not quiet enough when working on a group project

ISTJ vs ISTP

ISTJ: *Shows up late to class for the first time all semester* “omg look how rebellious I am”

ISTP: *Shows up to class on time for the first time all semester* “omg look how responsible I am”

ISTP vs ESTP

ISTP: Alienates people by being too edgy

ESTP: Alienates people by almost landing themselves in jail and/or the hospital one too many times

ISTP vs INTP

ISTP: Stays up till 5 am reading articles about how to be attractive and looking at specs of expensive watches, cars, and whatever tech they’re interested in that night

INTP: Stays up till 5 am watching anime and reading about philosophy

ISTP vs ISFP

ISTP: Ironically writes sad poetry

ISFP: Unironically writes sad poetry

ISFP vs ESFP

ISFP: Has coffee running through their veins

ESFP: Has vodka running through their veins

ISFP vs INFP

ISFP: Wannabe Instagram model

INFP: Wannabe Tumblr model

INFP vs ENFP

INFP: Has a “whatever” attitude about their introversion

ENFP: Refers to themselves as an introvert or ambivert cause they don’t see themselves as a Basic Outgoing Extrovert™

INFP vs INTP

INFP: Has a selfie of themselves wearing a flower crown as their profile pic on Tumblr

INTP: Has a picture of an anime character or a superhero as their profile pic on Tumblr

INTP vs ENTP

INTP: “Wouldn’t it be hilarious if we went to Wal-Mart and shouted swear words into the PA system?”

ENTP: Actually goes to Wal-Mart one day and shouts swear words into the PA system

ENTP vs ESTP

ENTP: Shows their friends their best Batman impression while quoting lines from Batman movies

ESTP: Googles how long it would take to become as strong and fast as Batman and designs a workout program based around getting on Batman’s level of athleticism

ENTP vs ENFP

ENTP: Would work for Reddit if they could

ENFP: Would work for Buzzfeed if they could

ENTP vs ENTJ

ENTP: Either an overachiever or underachiever in anything, no in-between

ENTJ: Underachiever in absolutely nothing

ENFP vs ESFP

ENFP: Goes out dressed in thrift store clothes

ESFP: Goes out dressed in designer clothes

ENFP vs ENFJ

ENFP: *Person admits feelings to them or asks them out* “AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA WHAT DO I DO”

ENFJ: *Admits feelings to crush / crush admits feelings to them* “I HAVE BEEN AWAITING THIS DAY FOR CENTURIES”

ESFP vs ESTP

ESFP: Gets awkwardly hit on at bars

ESTP: Awkwardly hits on people at bars

ESFP vs ESFJ

ESFP: “Yo let’s go dance”

ESFJ: “I’m not really a dancer”

ESTJ vs ENTJ

ESTJ: Has to resist throwing a fit when they don’t get to be the leader/boss/supervisor/alpha/top dog of something

ENTJ: Somehow always ends up being the leader/boss/supervisor/alpha/top dog of everything they do

ESTJ vs ESFJ

ESTJ: Is the person you go to when you need help getting a job

ESFJ: Is the person you go to when you need help texting someone you want to date and/or hook up with

ESTJ vs ESTP:

ESTJ: Honour roll student, multiple sport athlete, on student council and multiple school committees, volunteers and works in their spare time, has a 3-4 GPA through all of high school/college/university, lands a decent job right after graduating

ESTP: Puts how many Tinder matches they have and how much they can bench on their resume

ENFJ vs ESFJ

ENFJ: Seems slutty, is actually pretty wholesome

ESFJ: Seems wholesome, is actually pretty slutty

ENFJ vs ENTJ

ENFJ: Has thoroughly planned out future living situation, relationship, and type of social life

ENTJ: Has thoroughly planned out future career and how to attain it

sensa-tion

How the types differ by one letter

INTJ vs ENTJ

INTJ: They don’t care to get to know everyone, but everyone at least knows of them

ENTJ: They know everyone and everyone knows them. How else would one move up the social ladder?

INTJ vs ISTJ

INTJ: That quiet straight-A person in class who indulges in nerdy interests in their spare time when they’re not studying

ISTJ: That quiet straight-A person in class who indulges in even more studying in their spare time than INTJ

INTJ vs INFJ

INTJ: *Is quiet and detached around someone* “Not my problem if they think I’m rude”

INFJ: *Is quiet and detached around someone* “OMG WHAT IF THEY THINK I DON’T LIKE THEM AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA”

INTJ vs INTP

INTJ: Doesn’t show their caring side unless they really care about you. And I mean REALLY care

INTP: You’re at least a good-tier friend of theirs? Time for them to tell you about everyone they truly care about and why they do

INFJ vs ENFJ

INFJ: Makes friends when extroverts adopt them

ENFJ: Is the extrovert friend that adopts introverts

INFJ vs ISFJ

INFJ: Cares for you by helping you survive and advance in life

ISFJ: Cares for you by giving you kind words and sharing food with you

INFJ vs INFP

INFJ: “I know you’re just going through a phase, but I’ll still love you and support you no matter what”

INFP: “IT’S NOT A PHASE MOM, THIS IS WHO I AM”

ISFJ vs ESFJ

ISFJ: Will cuddle you in the comfort of your or their own home while you tell them what’s bothering you

ESFJ: Will take you on an adventure to your favourite fast food place while you tell them what’s bothering you

ISFJ vs ISTJ

ISFJ: Hall monitor in elementary school

ISTJ: Cried when they didn’t get the hall monitor position in elementary school

ISFJ vs ISFP

ISFJ: Saw Paul Blart: Mall Cop in 2009 and thought it was pretty good

ISFP: Started ironically liking Paul Blart: Mall Cop cause of Tumblr, eventually actually saw it and started unironically liking it

ISTJ vs ESTJ

ISTJ: Too quiet when working on a group project

ESTJ: Not quiet enough when working on a group project

ISTJ vs ISTP

ISTJ: *Shows up late to class for the first time all semester* “omg look how rebellious I am”

ISTP: *Shows up to class on time for the first time all semester* “omg look how responsible I am”

ISTP vs ESTP

ISTP: Alienates people by being too edgy

ESTP: Alienates people by almost landing themselves in jail and/or the hospital one too many times

ISTP vs INTP

ISTP: Stays up till 5 am reading articles about how to be attractive and looking at specs of expensive watches, cars, and whatever tech they’re interested in that night

INTP: Stays up till 5 am watching anime and reading about philosophy

ISTP vs ISFP

ISTP: Ironically writes sad poetry

ISFP: Unironically writes sad poetry

ISFP vs ESFP

ISFP: Has coffee running through their veins

ESFP: Has vodka running through their veins

ISFP vs INFP

ISFP: Wannabe Instagram model

INFP: Wannabe Tumblr model

INFP vs ENFP

INFP: Has a “whatever” attitude about their introversion

ENFP: Refers to themselves as an introvert or ambivert cause they don’t see themselves as a Basic Outgoing Extrovert™

INFP vs INTP

INFP: Has a selfie of themselves wearing a flower crown as their profile pic on Tumblr

INTP: Has a picture of an anime character or a superhero as their profile pic on Tumblr

INTP vs ENTP

INTP: “Wouldn’t it be hilarious if we went to Wal-Mart and shouted swear words into the PA system?”

ENTP: Actually goes to Wal-Mart one day and shouts swear words into the PA system

ENTP vs ESTP

ENTP: Shows their friends their best Batman impression while quoting lines from Batman movies

ESTP: Googles how long it would take to become as strong and fast as Batman and designs a workout program based around getting on Batman’s level of athleticism

ENTP vs ENFP

ENTP: Would work for Reddit if they could

ENFP: Would work for Buzzfeed if they could

ENTP vs ENTJ

ENTP: Either an overachiever or underachiever in anything, no in-between

ENTJ: Underachiever in absolutely nothing

ENFP vs ESFP

ENFP: Goes out dressed in thrift store clothes

ESFP: Goes out dressed in designer clothes

ENFP vs ENFJ

ENFP: *Person admits feelings to them or asks them out* “AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA WHAT DO I DO”

ENFJ: *Admits feelings to crush / crush admits feelings to them* “I HAVE BEEN AWAITING THIS DAY FOR CENTURIES”

ESFP vs ESTP

ESFP: Gets awkwardly hit on at bars

ESTP: Awkwardly hits on people at bars

ESFP vs ESFJ

ESFP: “Yo let’s go dance”

ESFJ: “I’m not really a dancer”

ESTJ vs ENTJ

ESTJ: Has to resist throwing a fit when they don’t get to be the leader/boss/supervisor/alpha/top dog of something

ENTJ: Somehow always ends up being the leader/boss/supervisor/alpha/top dog of everything they do

ESTJ vs ESFJ

ESTJ: Is the person you go to when you need help getting a job

ESFJ: Is the person you go to when you need help texting someone you want to date and/or hook up with

ESTJ vs ESTP:

ESTP: Puts how many Tinder matches they have and how much they can bench on their resume

ENFJ vs ESFJ

ENFJ: Seems slutty, is actually pretty wholesome

ESFJ: Seems wholesome, is actually pretty slutty

ENFJ vs ENTJ

ENFJ: Has thoroughly planned out future living situation, relationship, and type of social life

ENTJ: Has thoroughly planned out future career and how to attain it

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Just because two people aren’t romantically involved doesn’t mean they can’t be super important to one another.

Just because two people are super important to one another doesn’t mean they have to be romantically involved.

It is okay to love people deeply without wanting to be with them romantically and people should not make your friendship uncomfortable by consistently nagging you to date.

Let’s appreciate and support friendships and stop demanding people to have feelings they don’t have.

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#MOTIVATION #empowerment #quote #goodvibes

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Dealing with Imposter Syndrome & Remembering to Keep Receipts

Imposter Syndrome is thinking you’re a one-trick pony putting on a series of lengthy shows and believing someone in the audience will eventually stand up to call you out. If the show went well, you won’t think “Hey, maybe I’m not so bad after all.” You’ll instead let out a sigh of relief that you “got away with it” this time, but next time you might not be so lucky. Success feels undeserved and you’re reluctant to take credit for the good things that happen.

And that’s exactly how I’ve felt since high school with grades and leadership roles and college apps. I got into a UC because “I probably picked a major that was easy to get into” (vs. I had a high GPA, average test scores, a bunch of extracurriculars, and threw my heart into my personal statement). I didn’t walk at my college graduation because I felt like everyone else studied something more difficult and were more deserving. Graduating with honors in my major felt like nothing, and my imposter syndrome continued to impose doubt post-grad.

As a self-taught graphic designer with an unrelated background in psychology & human development and having realized my true passion only after graduating, I felt terribly behind compared to people who actually studied design. Creating my first portfolio after graduating and publicly declaring myself as a graphic designer felt like fraud. Listing typography as a skill and claiming Adobe Illustrator as a mastered tool on my resume felt like bluff, and having had any design experience prior felt like luck. Yeah, I designed a couple of things here and there, but I don’t know anything to be good enough.

To my surprise, I landed a full-time job within 5 job applications, 2 phone interviews, 2 design challenges, and 1 on-site, all within a month of starting my official job hunt. What I saw as a lack of a design education, a constant need to ‘catch up,’ and an overwhelming fear of not knowing enough, my employer acknowledged as initiative, ambition, and a capability to self-learn. Yet, I told myself, “It was all luck!” To not have to submit 200 job apps, face 199 rejections, and spend months and months in uncertainty, of course my offer felt like luck and I should be forever grateful.

Even while reading my offer letter, I thought, “It was all thanks to the people who helped me. They were the ones who read my cover letters, edited my resume, answered all my questions, and gave me mock interviews. I owe it to them.” People provided me guidance and support along the way, but I forgot that it was I who crafted individual cover letters for every company I researched and applied to. It was I who designed my resume and gave people content to edit. I was the one who was brave enough to reach out for help even if it made me anxious. And it was I who made the effort to perfect my elevator pitch. Forgetting my part in the process made me nervous to start work. What if I couldn’t live up to my employer’s expectations?

For the first few months of work, my lack of confidence showed. I felt that I was always one mistake away from being exposed. They hired me thinking I knew what I was doing and here I was, pretending that I knew–imposter syndrome at its finest. It took me 6 months at a job I love to realize, I am where I am today because I made the effort to get here, but more importantly, I did the work it took to stay here. Luck and happenstance was only a portion of it. How do I know? Because I haven’t gotten fired yet–you can only fake your abilities for so long.

Here’s what I discovered. The secret to getting over imposter syndrome is keeping receipts. Imposter syndrome takes the form of a lack of confidence, self-imposed fear, and an irrational disregard of your own role in your achievements. You have to counter it with logic. Collect evidence. Prove your thoughts wrong.

Ever since high school, I always forgot the process of what it took to achieve something. I’d acknowledge the end result, but forget about the process. I’d forget how many all-nighters I pulled to crank out those papers, how much I cared about my grades to stress over them, how many times I woke up early to squeeze in some last-minute information.

Revisiting my success in my job hunt, I found that I wasn’t lucky (for the most part). I had worked my ass off to get here. Here’s what it took:

And the list could go on with each item on that list containing their own set of difficulties and hard work.

To make myself believe now that I’m a ‘real’ graphic designer, I have a notepad listing all the projects I’ve completed since starting my job and the both positive and negative feedback I’ve received from them. I write down every single compliment I get from my mentors, coworkers, and managers. Essentially, I’ve kept track of all the things I’ve learned about my work and myself, exactly how I’ve progressed, and how to keep growing. And when I’m occasionally feeling like an imposter, I’ll pull these receipts out to remind myself I’m good at what I do, and show myself all the reasons why.

tldr; It’s possible to be both humble with yourself AND confident. You have to believe in your own success by not forgetting the process. If you put time and effort into it, let it count. Log every step of the way and soon, you’ll notice that that the littlest things add up and you’ll know exactly where your achievements came from. Achievements don’t just happen to you. You MADE them happen. You really did.