[jettreno]

can u imagine tho if the doctor and clara HADNT asked the time lords for extra regenerations and the doctor was fully prepared to die but then regenerates anyway and twelve and clara are just looking at each other like “what the fuck”

[jettreno]

clara: did you like…..count wrong?

twelve counting his past regenerations on his fingers: i dont think so???

clara: are you including the-

twelve: YES im including the war doctor

[official-bremen]

[gallusrostromegalus]

So my mom worked as an educational consultant for HP (AKA translating Engineer into Normal Human) and part of her job was working with the overseas translators to make sure everything said approximately the same thing and that all the languages fit on the documentation. And that said documentation looked pretty enough for marketing.  marketing would always get real pissy if there was leftover margin space at the end of the instructions, which is to say, One Guy Named Carl would get real pissy over ‘wasted space’ and because they happened to work in the same building, he’d always come bitch to my mother.

For like, an hour.

Eventually, Mom realized that while English, French and nearly all the other languages took up the same amount of space, German always took up 20% more space and Japanese about 20% less.  If she included both languages at the end of any documentation, they’d fill up the margin space *perfectly*.  So she just started including both languages, regardless of whether or not that documentation would be distributed to Germany or Japan, just so she could fill up the margin space and also Mrs. Yamada at the Kyoto office needed the extra hours.

Carl, who only sort of paid attention to his work, told her he was very pleased that there was no more “wasted paper” despite the fact that most of the documentation was about 20% longer now.

Eventually, all the other documentation coordination people noticed mom’s practice and started including German and Japanese, and started doing it too.  Then the inclusion of both languages became Official Documentation.  Then it became Standard Practice for HP and any firms it worked with.  Then it became the Industry Standard across Silicon Valley.  If you open up the user manual on a new computer these days, you’ll often find German and Japanese, right at the end, because it’s a semi-official practice now.

…some 20 years after my mom started this, my fiance got a high school German assignment to translate a piece of formal writing, and he chose the documentation for his new HP laptop.  He had fun with that assignment, and it encouraged him to stay in German, eventually travel overseas, and when he met me, we had a lovely conversation in German and I decided he was worth going out with.

Thank you Mom, for finding a way around Carl’s bullshit, and me my husband.

[agnesmontague]

red, pink, or white roses? strawberry, chocolate, or vanilla? pumps, flats, or sneakers? daffodils, daisies, or lilies? pizza, sushi, or burgers? rubies, sapphires, or diamonds? 

[chaosnmayhem02]

me: makes a shitpost on Instagram about laps

my friends: i have no idea what you're going on about but you can do it!!

my league: is there any other training out of derby you can do to try and improve?

[earlgraytay]

i’ll probably expand on this later, but the best ADHD Hack ™ I’ve found/sussed out is: 

bundle habits together, but don’t bundle tasks together.

[staticandlove]

Explain …

[earlgraytay]

So okay. When you have ADHD, one thing your brain is very very good at doing is making connections between things- ideas, concepts, people, states of mind, etc. This can be a superpower- if most people wouldn’t think to make a connection between doing a) and b), and you make that connection, sometimes you can outthink people who aren’t as good at snapping things together.

The problem comes in when you start connecting things that you don’t need to connect, like “mild displeasure” with “OH GOD EVERYONE HATES ME” or “I feel a little crummy” with “I AM THE WORST PERSON IN THE WORLD”.

So when we’re talking about Life Skills/ADLs, you gotta use that power to make your life easier, not harder. You gotta connect things when it makes your life better and NOT do it when it makes your life harder. 

Here’s an example of the habits: 

I had a stretch of time where I was too sick to do much of anything. I could barely get out of bed to get to the bathroom. I was walking with a stick and generally just… le dead. And one of the problems I had was that I could almost never remember to take my morning meds. 

I decided that the first time I got up to use the bathroom every day, I’d take my meds. That way I was taking them no matter how crap I felt- I had to get up to pee, like it or not- and it was getting done pretty early in the morning. 

Getting up to pee meant taking my meds; they were the same thing. I didn’t have to remember to take my meds separately, or set an alarm to remind myself, or anything like that. I just did it as part of something I had to do anyway.

As time went on and I started getting better, I realized I could do the same thing with other parts of my routine. If you connect something you need to do with something you have to do, the thing you need to do gets done.

So like… say I’m already in the habit of getting up to take a shower. I’ve lived in crappy apartments my entire life, so the water takes a minute to warm up. Since my countertop dishwasher is right outside my bathroom door, I’ll take a second to empty and load the dishwasher while the water’s still heating up. It just becomes part of the routine of taking a shower. 

You don’t have to think about Doing The Extra Thing. Connecting it to something you’re already doing means that, after a certain point, it just… happens, automatically.

 The problem comes in when you start trying to do this with tasks- things that you only have to get done once, that already have a fair few steps to them. Especially if that task is has a lot of steps, has a time limit, or is otherwise Hard for you. 

Figuring out tasks with dependencies (I have to do this before I can do this!) is already hard for us ADHDers. Sometimes what happens is that you bundle two tasks together- you decide you can’t do something until you’ve done the other thing, even though these tasks are in no way connected. 

Here’s an example: 

I have three packages I need to mail. One of them is a gift for a friend in Australia, which costs a lot of money; one of them is a package for my Etsy store which is Not Finished Yet, and one is a very late Christmas package. 

I might decide, “hey, I need to mail all three of these packages together! I can’t mail any of these packages until I bundle all of them!” But it’s probably smarter to mail them separately! I don’t want to make my friend with the late Christmas package wait any more, so I can mail that first, and then mail the Australia package when I have the money and the Etsy package when it’s finished. 

But if I insist that I have to bundle these tasks… I won’t get any of them done. I’ll be too stressed out about the Etsy package not being done to mail the other two packages, and then I will run out of money for the Australia package, and the Christmas package will not get sent til Labour Day.

If you’re stressed out about a task with a lot of steps, sometimes it’s worth it to check and make sure you’re not bundling multiple tasks together. Can you do the thing without doing the thing that comes before? Do you have to do the other thing immediately after? 

[sunrisingblue]

A combination of undiagnosed ADHD and severe depression resulted in me hardly ever brushing my teeth (thank god I’ve got good genetics – they might not be straight, but they’re predisposed to resisting problems). Ten years I went about my life being my teeth I’ve every two weeks, maybe a month.

Fast forward to finally getting my ADHD addressed, and as a result of never building the habit I was still having trouble.

I rely on getting ready mostly in my room. I can’t trust the bathroom will be free when I need it (a separate issue with no known cause except “plan for the worst”) and I insist on having deodorant on every day. That’s something I never forget.

…so I put my deodorant in the bathroom. I have another one in a difficult to access place in my room in case the day comes where I actually can’t access the bathroom and I’m in a hurry, but now I’m forced to go to the bathroom to put on my deodorant. And every time I stomp to the bathroom, I remember why I left my deodorant out of reach and I brush my teeth.

It’s still not perfect (after all, it’s still easier to just swipe and go) but I’m *there,* and I’m awake, and I’m remembering. And my teeth are getting brushed 6/7 days of the week.

Wield the habits you don’t have to think about. Attach them to things you have trouble with, it really works.

[whitepeopletwitter]

[glacecakes]

I am OBSESSED with this tiktok

[theflowersthatbe]

Finally ordered one of my dream plants and it’s getting here tomorrow aaaahhhhhhhHH I’m so excited

[depeachy]

The Master: *appears*

Me, every damn time: For the love of god will someone please hug him

[chaosnmayhem02]

The Doctor and The Master just need to hug

[chaosnmayhem02]

lol my league is falling apart because everyone's leaving and taking breaks and there's so much league drama so at the minute i can't wait to move to uni but don't tell the team that because i love them it's just Too Much

[jonesmartha]

does this guy talk about anything else

[chaosnmayhem02]

honestlyyy

[precioustranswoman-deactivated2]

There’s so much info about tucking and gaffs (less so) but to all new trans girls.. just get some cotton panties like boyshorts style and push it back gently.

 Like you might have to do slightly (slightly) more for tighter clothes or different fabrics but like… ya don’t need to tape yourself every day… or ever… and gaffs are good but unless you’re wearing something tight n thin cotton boyshorts or some other strong underwear will do the trick.

 Like all this info pretending like you need special gaffs, tape, to shove ur testes up into your inguinal canal, etc. is classist, physically harmful, and preventatively daunting information to be spreading without disclaimers like this.

[polyhedralprincess]

Idk if this has been said before but a long time ago another trans lady and I kinda realized we could just wear 2 pairs of underwear and call it a day without taping or anything fancy. Its definitely a cheap alternative and Ive been doing it for 6 years 👍

I wear jeggings to work and when im out and about and I never get looks or comments, idk if this is helpful to anyone tho 😅

[drumandbassdoll-deactivated2023]

to every transfemme person: please read this it will save you so much time, money, and energy

[chaosnmayhem02]

I'm 18 in just over 6 weeks which means it's really not long until I get to train with the whole league and I've never been so excited

[simoneashley]

harley: you just killed a person

helena: (◕‿◕)

[bezakonik-deactivated20210314]

i don't get anon hate simply because everyone loves me and im their favourite. this is true

[bd-doughnut-boi]

GAME IDEA REBLOG THIS AND TRY TYPING YOUR URL EYES CLOSED

VD&diydgbyt-buh

[alltheghostssayno]

alltyegjosyssauni

[chaosnmayhem02]

chaosnmauhem02

[emoternity]

who’s beautiful today? the nonbinary person reading this. there is so much pressure on you to look androgynous, to use ‘non gendered’ pronouns. you don’t have to fit anyone’s view of what you ‘should ’ be. the only thing that matters is that you be yourself. that’s the only perfect way to be nonbinary