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Please do not send me asks for donations

Here's why:

I have NO money to give you

I'm not a popular enough blog that I will give you any reach

I am a minor, and most of my followers are too

It makes me feel extremely guilty

Seeing pictures of injuries or hospitals etc are triggering for me (which are in most intro posts for this sort of thing)

They are always worded in a way that makes me feel like I am a murderer if I don't donate

It makes me feel uncomfortable

I said I don't want them, and my boundaries should be respected

I can't tell what is a bot and what isn't

I get a lot of spam from this. It is disappointing to see 10 new asks in my inbox just to be the same ask for donations over and over

Please, just respect the fact that I have said this.

Edit: To all the people reblogging this, I'm sorry you have had to deal with this too. And yes, you can put this in your pinned post! Stay safe <3

#all are true except for the minor part #but i was not too long ago

mintsky420

these miis are driving me nuts

toxetta

collectivemusings

The text is:

OH, YOUR FAVORITE PERSON DIDN"T TEXT YOU BACK?

Im sorry dude. They probably aren't purposefully ignoring you or trying to abandon you though, they may just be busy or exhausted. Your feelings are valid, but it's also important to remember they're their own person and need space too. I promise they still care about you.

king-monky

Marriage is good and weddings are great but I hate modern wedding culture. You don’t need to bankrupt yourself to have a nice wedding. Stop supporting the wedding industry, stop buying outrageously priced engagement rings, stop spending 10k on a dress you’ll only ever wear once.

tidy-tidings

Coming from a professional event planner - weddings are egregiously expensive because companies openly raise prices at the word “wedding.”

Pro Tip - Never drop the word wedding while planning if you don’t need to. Most things can be for “an event you’re planning.” This obviously doesn’t include things like the venue, DJ (who needs specific wedding songs), and the wedding dress company if you’re going that route versus just buying a dress.

For my wedding I got “discounted” cupcakes, flowers, decor, bridesmaids dresses, groomsman attire, and invitations. I did this by either searching for things that aren’t marketed for weddings or not telling the companies I was working with it was for a wedding. Because honestly, most of the time they don’t need to know why you’re ordering.

These companies target people planning their weddings and markup everything the second “wedding” is said. And it’s said often because people assume the services change exponentially for weddings. They absolutely do not.

The best example are the cupcakes I had for my wedding. I used a designer cupcake store in town instead of spending $1000 on a wedding cake. If you place a large order of cupcakes with a cake tree for display - it costs about $150 for 100 (which is what I did). When you order their “wedding” package - the price raised to a $700 base for 100 cupcakes. The only other perk includes a “tasting.” Forget that. Our tasting was buying a few cupcakes in flavors we thought we’d like and picked three. It cost maybe $20.

What these companies do is scummy and targets people who don’t have information about the event industry.

I will yell it from the rooftops until people realize there’s a better way.

emberphoenixisgoingtolivee

a guide to apologies. since some people. don't seem to get it.

"im sorry for shouting at you today" <- yes. good. correct. don't need any more

"it's just so frustrating being me and i do all this stuff for you [1] and it's utterly thankless and you never act grateful [2]. and you refused to come and stand in the kitchen for two minutes while i talked to you [3]. this is just thoughtless behaviour from you [4]." nope terrible apology don't do that please stop you are not even apologising anymore you are just venting and making the person you're apologising to feel so much worse to the extent they're not even sure you even feel guilt in the first place and won't accept your performative apology

and the footnotes:

1 - i never asked her to

2 - i thank this person all the time

3 - i am physically disabled and my hip and feet hurt at that moment. standing was painful

4 - you cunt