Rebuking anonymously and sharing a personal conflict in public are two different things. Everyone can see your post naming her name public, and it could very easily cause another to stumble into judging the situation without knowing anything about it. If a person is not part of the problem or solution it's called gossip. Is the whole entire Tumblr community part of the problem or the solution? You welcomed a public rebuke when you publicly sinned against a sister.
Also, just something to perhaps keep in your heart and think about, is there a possibility that perhaps some people won’t want to rebuke you if you know their name because of the attitude you bring back to them on your blog? Perhaps they are afraid others will judge them if you put their name out publicly on your blog like you do to others. Just something to think about. You don’t have to respond in public about this. It’s just for your own personal thoughts…
Let me make a few things very clear.
1. I don’t mind you having an opinion about my opinions. It’s the fact that you’re telling me I’m wrong about something that you yourself are doing that I have a problem with. I have an issue with the complete double standards of your entire “rebuke.”
2. I did not sin against a “sister.” Calling someone out for something they did wrong is not sinning. If so, then you yourself are in sin as well. Congratulations.
3. Attitude from me only comes when necessary. We’re supposed to turn the other cheek, but Christ never said we had to let people treat us like door mats. If you come to me with an attitude, don’t get offended when I dish it right back. I’ve had people come to me with issues about something before and they have done it in complete kindness. This, however, has been a blind and unmerciful attack on something that doesn’t even involve you. Back down, sparky.
4. Being afraid isn’t a good reason to come to me or anyone else anonymously. It’s just being a coward. If you can’t be man enough to show your face, don’t clutter my inbox with your negative mail about an issue you know nothing about.
5. And, yeah, rebuking anonymously is a a different thing. Wanna know why? Because it’s hiding behind a nice little grey face and never having to face up to a real confrontation. That’s why it’s different. Not because it’s not public. Your message is still public. You’re just afraid to make your identity public, it doesn’t change the message being public at all.
6. Why do you care so much about this? Seriously? If you know me in real life, why not just come to me as a friend and say something? If not, why does it matter to you? And if you’re a friend of hers then you aren’t a very good one. True friends don’t hide behind faceless, nameless avatars.
7. Also, according to your definition of gossip, I’m not gossiping so…I don’t really see what the problem is here.
8. Regarding public rebuke. Lemme just make a public announcement here: DO NOT SEND ME INBOX REBUKE IF YOU DO NOT WANT YOUR NAME ON MY BLOGGGG. I will post every message of rebuke that comes into my inbox whether you’re anonymous or not. Guess what? You’re on a public forum! Welcome to the internet! If you say something, it doesn’t just go away…it becomes public property. Therefore, do not be surprised if, when you make a decision on a public forum, your name shows up on my blog. My parents always used to tell me never to say something unless I was willing to write it, sign it, and tell it to the world. I would say that the same applies here. Don’t say something to me if you’re ashamed of it being public knowledge.
So why don’t you consider keeping all of that in your heart and thinking about it? Maybe you need to examine your heart as well.
