This is us about 1 month before we broke up.
There are so many things to say I donât even know where to start.
We loved each other, we had different attachment styles. She needed more space, I wanted to be close. I took her needing space personally. It wasnât personal. She didnât know how to make me feel close to her in her absence.
We ran, and are continuing to run a successful business together.
Sheâs forgetting about me as a lover, my heart is in 1 trillion pieces, i miss her more than I miss going home (heaven).
I depended on her for so many things that I shouldâve depended on myself for, or on friends for.
In my search for closeness I crossed her boundaries.
I supported her a lot financially and spiritually.
Her savings got the business off the ground.
She couldnât find the space to support me emotionally. She didnât know how. Sometimes I felt she didnât want to.
I know how I could do better next time.
IM PISSED. I wish I had had a more serious relationship before her to learn all these lessons, so I didnât have to fuck up on the love of my life!!!
IM PISSSSSSSEDDSSDSS UGH.
I know how Iâd do better this time. Iâve been reading books.
1. Donât take distance personally. Distance is good.
2. Sessions, sessions, sessions. Hold that space for each other.
3. Know how to meet, and make the effort to meet each otherâs needs.
4. Respect all boundaries even if theyâre new and have never been there before.
6. Kiss her like itâll be the last time, every time.
7. Check in with how things feel. If youâre not sure, ask.
8. Cultivate self awareness around your actions. How are they affecting other people.
9. Be aware of the language you use, no one can make you feel a certain way. You feel a certain way, and thatâs just how you feel. You control how you react to situations.
10. Money, gifts, food, love canât buy you love.
11. Put your needs first. Never put aside your self development for another.
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