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Sarah/26/US just trying to survive out here

[only-tiktoks]

[killlyourproducer]

would you still love me if i was a worm? wait no sorry that’s stupid let me rephrase that would you still love me if I was of no value to you anymore? if I broke my vows by turning into someone you never agreed to be with if I suddenly couldn't be a wife couldn't be a mother if I couldn't clean the house and I couldn't put dinner on the table and couldn't have sex would you still love me? would I even be me, to you? do you love me or the things that I do? when wives get life threatening illnesses 1 in 5 husbands leave those don't seem like good odds so I'm just asking if I turned into a worm tomorrow and I could no longer provide you with anything at all, would the love remain? would you find a terrarium and fill it with mulch and keep me in the bedroom? would you spray me with water? would you keep me alive? would you throw me out onto the pavement? I think I would make you a house of popsicle sticks if you were a worm

kirburb on tiktok

[herpsandbirds]

[ralfmaximus]

Awesome free anti-vaxxer block list in the comments!

[thistoowillpasss]

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[treasuredplanet]

I think that when you're overstimulated you should appear kind of grayed out and no one should be able to interact with you like a locked character in a video game

[themoonforjoy]

I need to set the record straight for queer people who don’t have a transphobic government holding their birth certificate hostage.

In the United States the average native-born citizen can prove their definitive citizenship in terms of eligibility for work through either a birth certificate or a passport. Birth certificates are legally owned and issued by the government of the state you are born in.

I was born in Texas. Texas has banned trans people from changing our birth certificates to match our name and gender. Texas will put me on a list if I reveal I am trans in any legal way, including having ever applied to change my gender marker. I cannot change my birth certificate.

This means the only way I can prove my eligibility for work is with my passport. Without my passport, I can’t legally apply for work.

That is why the executive order banning trans people from changing our passports to match our gender identity is such a huge problem. It’s not boo hoo I can’t leave the country to go on vacation, it’s stripping me of my labor rights and daring me to work in a sweat shop if I want to survive.

And say I did want to cross the border because oh, I don’t know, fleeing to seek asylum in a new country suddenly becomes very important—wouldn’t it be a good idea to have a passport that matches my identification to show local authorities, so they don’t deport me back to America?

I know not everyone can read legalese, but I need the LGBT community to at least try to stay up to date and connect the dots on the legal ramifications of orders like this if we are going to fight back. Because frankly, my passport was recently threatened, and I was not impressed by the ignorance I was met with from cis gays and trans folks who hail from the east/west coast.

[penrosesun]

I don’t know how the fuck we got to a place where people are seriously claiming that passports are frivolous and that restricting them is no big deal

Like idk if it’s just because I’m a Jew and this

German Jews' Passports Declared Invalid | Holocaust Encyclopedia

October 5, 1938. On this date, the Reich Ministry of the Interior invalidated all German Jews' passports and required them to have a "J" sta

is burned into my cultural memory, but your passport is your fucking life, and there has never been a single point in time when I was old enough to know what one was and didn’t understand that fact

Your passport is the thing that protects you with the force of your home government while abroad, and it’s what lets you escape if your home government turns rotten. It’s the one document you grab if you can only grab one. It lives in a safe place always, and when things are really bad, that safe place is on your person, on your body, with you, so that when a jackbooted thug with a gun on his hip says “papers, please” you can say “yes, sir” and flash him the last thing still keeping you under any color of legal protection at all, and live to see another day. If they try and take your fucking passport, you should always always assume that the next thing they’ll take is your life.

Like holy shit y’all. If you have an association of passports = rich person vacations, you are coming from a place of ludicrous privilege, and you need to check yourself and dial the fuck in to the reality of what the “undocumented” part of “undocumented immigrants” actually means.

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

you can start anytime.

you can brush your teeth in the middle of the day. you can wash the dishes at 2am. you can do things outside the normal times assigned by society.

[ijustwannafallunderyrsawteeth]

I'm really worried for all of us. I want us to be as well as possible and for that to be the case we really gotta stay informed:

(resources compiled by sp0receress and agitpropnabsurdity on IG, I just copied em to share here)

best way to protect yourself is to wear a mask (n95 or kn95) wherever possible and do social events outside if you're not gonna mask. though the latter isn't foolproof, I read a case study of a jogger infecting a bunch of people in a park. it can happen.

[madphantom]

"I'm just a girl☺️🥰💖💞💅🌺🌷🦄" when you were eight and the teacher said she needed some strong boys to carry something you used to be furious, and when you convinced them to let you help, you carried twice as many chairs as the boys with the righteous anger of a girl who knew she was just as capable as them. Where did that go?

[eenocs]

contemplative morning

[resiliencewithin]

Every day is a fresh start. Yesterday’s anxiety belongs to yesterday. Whatever you accomplish today is enough. You deserve fun, rest and peace.

[imissthembutitwasntadisaster]

"I know chatgpt is bad but you just don't really have any choice" you literally do. Don't use it. Have some moral backbone.

[birdsareblooming]

it's been like 2 years. i havent touched it. never needed to. "you don't really have a choice," are you so swift to forget the recent past? Bitch i still use itunes to download mp3s to so i have them forever and any song i want, then my sister burns them to CDs. When boycotts rolled out my other sister got no thanks to scan what products we shouldn't buy. i still use corded headphones not because "its older" but because it's easier. a fool criticizes those who buy candles 200 years after the invention of the electric light until the power goes out. become ungovernable. you are not immune to propaganda. you've never had Chatgpt forced upon you, the only thing forced upon you is the idea that Chatgpt is forced upon you. why claim you need something today that you didn't need yesterday. little bitch.

[pyrus-salicifolia]

“Normal” test results are not the relief people think they are. When you wake up in pain and continue to be in pain for hours every day and your tests come back normal you don’t stop being in pain.

[yardsards]

when *routine* tests come back normal: a good sign! your body continues to function as it should!

when *diagnostic* tests come back normal: bad! this means you're gonna have to do even more tests in hopes of finding out whatever the fuck is clearly going wrong in your body

[kirikunai-deactivated20250922]

i dislike charlie kirk as much as the next guy but if you're out here posting the uncensored video with no warning at all i have absolutely zero respect for you

i feel as if posting an uncensored murder or act of violence in general is unforgivable, and only amplified by the lack of warning given; especially on an app like tiktok of all places

you have no idea who is viewing your content, and the least anyone can do is censor the gore or put a long trigger warning

[angstbotfic]

FYI if you chance across it (or anything similarly distressing), the best practice is:

apparently it helps you not form a long term memory of it.

[rowark]

Yeah that makes sense, like a sort of pre-emptive EMDR therapy

[robotogato]

I haven’t seen it. It’s that graphic? It’s nuts that people are posting that without any warnings.

The Tetris thing is such a good thing to know too. Is it just playing it yourself that will help or would a lets play of it also work?

[rowark]

I haven't seen it personally, but I did see Hasan Piker reacting to it (it wasn't on the screen, you could just see the reaction, and it was when there were just rumours that Charlie Kirk was shot, someone sent him the video) and like... this guy covers Gaza like every day, sees all sorts of devastating photos and videos, and the look on his face when he saw the video was all I needed to know it's bad

he said multiple times during that stream not to watch the video, because it is super graphic. There's more than one, and there's one specifically that was filmed by someone who was only like a few feet away when it happened, that's the one that is traumatizing people, because it's so close up

As for the Tetris thing, I'm assuming any Tetris where your eyes have to keep moving would work? I'm guessing it works like EMDR (eye movement desensitization/reprocessing), which is a type of therapy for PTSD, where you do the therapy while moving your eyes back and forth. Since your eyes are connected directly to your brain, it does some sort of bilateral stimulation when you keep moving your eyes, and it's supposed to reduce the emotional distress from traumatic memories

[angstbotfic]

the Tetris thing was specifically identified as part of ways to help content moderators who have to watch horrifying things all day long. the thread has a link to a study.

[directactionforhope]

Not only is having intergenerational friendships literally not creepy, imho it's actually essential. You NEED friends who are older to do things like help you when there's a problem with your taxes, and give you job advice, and relationship advice, and especially if you are part of a marginalized group, and especially if you're part of a marginalized group and don't have contact with a ton of other members of it, you need older friends to show you that there IS a future for you, for people like you, and what it looks like, and the way it doesn't even have to involve turning into your parents

[hiccup-queen]

conversely, you need friends who are younger to help introduce you to new ideas. You need friends who are younger to drag you out to try some adventure because they thought it looked cool. You need younger friends to help you fix problems, because they may have faced something similar in the past! You need younger friends to keep you up to date on slang so that you can embarrass your teenage family members by intentionally misusing it.

Cross-generational friendships are not some weird sin. My best friend is nineteen years older than I am - im closer in age to her children than I am to her. She's still my best fucking friend.

[genderkoolaid]

having friends who are older than you helps inoculate you against ageism towards older people.

having friends who are younger than you helps inoculate you against ageism towards younger people.

you need to be able to see people of all ages as people you live in a community with, people who are similar to how you once were or will be, people you can learn from and people you can teach.

[nudityandnerdery]

[vaspider]

Look. The way you ask for a refill?

Sometimes, what you need to do is literally ask for a refill. I know that can be scary and upsetting and requires you to be willing to be vulnerable, but please consider two things:

One: if what you want to do is be able to fill other people's cups, you can't fill from an empty cup. You literally can't do the work if you're emptied out. You need to do this so you can help.

Two: for the people that love you, the people that really matter, you aren't imposing on them by asking for a refill. This is one of the things I really internalized from coming home to Judaism: when someone asks me to help them, they're giving me the opportunity to perform a mitzvah. No matter your belief system or outlook, I think we can probably all agree that being given an opportunity to be more awesome is pretty great.

So ask. Here are a few scripts you can try.

"Hey, I am...

... having a bad day.

... really struggling.

... really hurting because of the state of the world.

... having a hard time focusing on positive things.

... feeling emptied out.

Could you please help me? I could really use...

... some company.

... to hear about something beautiful you saw today.

... to hear some good news.

... to see a picture of your pet.

... to be told something you like about me.

... to be reminded of something I do that you like.

... your silliest new meme.

... to go for a walk with you.

... to hear about your favorite show.

... a hug."

I have genuinely never asked my friends to love me a little bit louder and gotten anything but an outpouring of support.

People love you and want to take care of you. All you have to do is give them an opportunity and maybe tell them the best way to love you right now.

[dimespin]

“Why do you beat yourself up so much over little mistakes?”

[chronicdisaster-deactivated2017]

This is such a good illustration of emotional abuse

[artist-rayne]

Just a reblog to spread the most UN noticed abuse, be aware

[monochrome-flight-feathers]

and reminder for everyone to be patient with your loved ones who apologize constantly, or have a really emotional reaction to something that seems insignificant to you.

[polkavona]

Another post that breaks my theme. But I really like seeing problems myself and other people have being explained in such a wonderful way

[myalgicencephalomyelitiscfstom]

Unusual but sympathetic paper:

Language Matters: What Not to Say to Patients with Long COVID, Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and Other Complex Chronic Disorders

https://www.mdpi.com/1660-4601/22/2/275

[myalgicencephalomyelitiscfstom]

Another article on this: What Not to Say to People With Complex Chronic Illness

Image is a screenshot from June 2025 AMMES e-newsletter

What Not to Say to People With Complex Chronic Illness

Language matters when interacting with patients who have conditions such as long COVID, myalgic encephalomyelitis/chronic fatigue syndrome,