My Fucked-Up World

Father, cis male (he/him), poly, feminist, liberal, atheist, geek, pan, dom/switch, New Hampshire, Boston, chubby, bearded, 40, punk, me, Feel free to talk to me or ask me anything. PORN-ONLY BLOGS STOP FOLLOWING ME!!! I WILL NOT FOLLOW YOU BACK!!! 18+ Only!

[margot-terc]

[infinitevibes]

[chubby-punk]

You spelled "revolution" wrong.

[meadowkitten]

I have a very big crush on u but sadly I am only a little bug and u are a garden

[chubby-punk]

Without the little bugs, the garden cannot grow.

[sickfvck-deactivated20250629]

Therapy? You don't need to go to therapy. Just come over and let me rub your cunt and slap you across the face until your mind goes fuzzy. You'll feel so much better

[chubby-punk]

They aren't mutually exclusive. Do both.

[chubby-punk]

If Murderbot was forced to make a choice between making eye contact or naming who its second favorite human is, I firmly believe it would say it's Gurathin

[lilyblisslys]

if you’re in leftist or trans or any community ever I am begging you to be normal about fat people pls

[automatic-caution-door]

[bestworstideaever]

i”M CRYING

[citytogalaxy]

Literally no comedian could plan out something funnier than this

[chubby-punk]

Wtf technology!?

[bastard-unlimited]

americans be like ‘thank you mr. soldier for killing civilians’

[folklorebrunette]

this is my favourite poem

[wilwheaton]

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[bitchtiddeh]

This whole NSFW ban is a real scooter to the ankle

[chubby-punk]

I'm so glad @staff fucked this place up! Now I only get 4x more spam followers than before this site became a shithole.

[matchingvnecks]

[teachingwithcoffee]

It’s time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Carol

[bigbutterandeggman-deactivated2]

Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s. 

So. Here’s the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today’s worldview to the song, yes, you’re right, it absolutely *sounds* like a rape anthem. 

BUT! Let’s look closer! 

“Hey what’s in this drink” was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there’s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol.

See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude’s house. In the 1940’s, that’s the kind of thing Good Girls aren’t supposed to do — and she wants people to think she’s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she’s really concerned about: “the neighbors might think,” “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious,” “there’s bound to be talk tomorrow.” But she’s having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink — unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That’s the joke. That is the standard joke that’s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says “hey, what’s in this drink?” It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped. It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.

Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject men’s advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it’s normal and expected for a lady’s gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won’t be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than “I’m staying because I want to.” (That’s the main theme of the man’s lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he’s pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and she’s using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can’t say so. She states explicitly that she’s resisting because she’s supposed to, not because she wants to: “I ought to say no no no…” She states explicitly that she’s just putting up a token resistance so she’ll be able to claim later that she did what’s expected of a decent woman in this situation: “at least I’m gonna say that I tried.” And at the end of the song they’re singing together, in harmony, because they’re both on the same page and they have been all along.

So it’s not actually a song about rape - in fact it’s a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it’s also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. It’s a song about a society where women aren’t allowed to say yes…which happens to mean it’s also a society where women don’t have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.

[aphnxrising]

[xtrapockets-deactivated20171024]

remember loves: context is everything. and personal opinion matters. If you still find this song to be a problem, that’s fine. But please don’t make it into something it’s not because it’s been stripped of cultural context.

[vorked]

This is actually really interesting. I’ve never known a lot of the background to this song.

[cisnowflake]

I’m reblogging this once this year and I’m not talking about it again.

[chubby-punk]

But you know what’s funny... you’re playing the song today... so it has to be listened to in the context of the day.

[astrodidact]

https://www.democracynow.org/2018/12/13/you_are_stealing_our_future_greta

You Are Stealing Our Future: Greta Thunberg, 15, Condemns the World’s Inaction on Climate Change

Fifteen-year-old Swedish climate activist Greta Thunberg addressed the U.N. plenary last night in Katowice, Poland, condemning global inacti

[wilwheaton]

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[cineraria]

[tinybluedeer]

this cat is cooler than i’ll ever be

[chubby-punk]

I need to point out that there is no board in front of that man in the first part! This is a fraudulent kitty trick! Stop using this beautiful beast for your lies!

[yayroos]

For everyone’s information:

The plan for the 17th, when the adult content ban comes in, is to protest.

To do that, we are making as much noise either side of the 17th as possible, and using the site as normal.

On the 17th, dead silence.

People are saying log off but what they really mean is don’t open the site or the app.

But, on the 17th make as much noise as possible on every other platform. Tweet about it and post on facebook and instagram and everywhere else.

What this does is causes a massive dip in ad revenue for one single day. That does not make staff think ‘oh everyone’s gone let’s shut down.’ What it actually makes them think is ‘oh shit people aren’t happy and if people don’t keep using our site we’re out of money and out of jobs.’

A boycott reminds a company that the users (consumers) have the power to make their site (business) worthless with one single coordinated decision.

If you want to join in, here’s what to do:

Do:

Close all open instances of the app and site on all your devices before the 17th

Make posts before and after the 17th on tumblr and other platforms, talking about why this ban is bad

Make posts on other sites during the 17th. Flood the official tumblr staff twitter and facebook with your anger and your opinion

Come back on the 18th and check in

Don’t:

Delete the app from your phone (this doesn’t affect their revenue and since it’s off the store at the moment it’ll be hard to get back)

Delete your account. I mean you can if you want to, but if you keep your account and don’t use it you’re saying to staff that there’s still time to save it. If you delete it’s hard work to come back.

Open the app or website (including specific blogs)

Make any posts (turn down/off your queue and make sure nothing is scheduled)

Go quiet elsewhere. Make it clear that this is just about tumblr, not a mass move away from all social media.

Remember: the execs don’t care about anything but money. Shutting down the site means there’s $0 further income from it. That’s their last possible course of action. If we make it clear we’re not happy, they’ll have to do something or we can do more and more until it becomes too expensive.

Protests take commitment. They’re a defiant action against a business that is doing something wrong. They will try to scare you into not participating, because they’re scared. We hold all the power here, sometimes the execs just need to be reminded of that.

[savageymir]

Reblog and spread the word

[evilbuildingsblog]

A lighthouse in Michigan, before and after major ice storm

[bunjywunjy]

it’s probably fine, just a lil freezerburn