Flotsom and jetsom

Born 1960. Looking at what the tide of life brings in.

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12 Heartwarming Times Grown Adults Understood Their Parents’ Kindness Was The True Inheritance

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Take a moment and read this: there's still good in the world.

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ALL. OF. THIS.

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This, this, this. SO important!

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The Original Rainbow Pride Flag (1978) by Gilbert Baker.

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Hoo Boy!

Just finished reading Jennette McCurdy's book I'm Glad My Mom Died.

Wow, this is a hard read, folks. As a parent of kids growing up watching Nickelodeon I knew the show iCarly and always though McCurdy had terrific comedy chops. Figured she could easily be the next Tina Fey or even Carol Burnett. So reading about how her mentally ill mother gaslit her into an acting career was shocking. And heartbreaking as well. There is physical abuse in many forms, including coercing her into anorexia, and mental abuse in constantly manipulating McCurdy's emotions and fears. All of this is delivered in a dry straightforward writing style that never asks for pity as it delivers the facts.

It hits too because I am familiar with this part of SoCal, and with Mormonism and Disneyland and dysfunctional families to a certain degree. McCurdy's gradual awareness of her situation runs parallel to her growth into a young adult, and it's clear that while she is working to deal with the damage, it's still evident in her life. I commend her for writing the book, which was probably therapeutic, and I hope she continues to write since it's clearly the vocation she's drawn to.

Because honestly? I'm glad her mom died too, yeesh!

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Happy Friday

I called my son to check in with him and see how he's doing. Hubby and I were both nervous to do so since the last time we texted him he was still drinking and seriously worried about being kicked out of the Navy.

I found a post on Reddit from a Navy counselor who was answering the question of 'what to do if rehab fails'. Copied and pasted that to my son who apparently took the advice, which boiled down to 'Reach out to your Sarb counselor and get them to help you; they will set up help so you can get back on track.'

Son took the advice!

When I checked in he was sober, with an entirely new course of treatment. He realized/came to grips with--the fact he also has depression. I suspected it but having that confirmed was a relief. Son is bemoaning that he's lost time by not finding this out earlier but I assured him the way forward isn't a race and all the motherly stuff.

All of us are so relieved! I know he still has a long way to go, and that relapses will happen again but this is the first true turnaround for him and I will never underestimate the power of prayer too.

Honestly, this is one of the best ways to end a week.

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Hey do you know what rumination is?

Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

What to Do When You're Triggered

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Just want to add that if you're on the spectrum, you may also experience Autistic Rumination, which is distinct from the obsessive variety, despite the two having some overlapping characteristics!

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People without autism or OCD can also experience rumination! Often people with anxiety or depression experience it.

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like to charge, reblog to cast.

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Ugh

Stomach issues.

Two nights now (not consecutive) I've had nausea. It initially started last week when my cardiologist put me on a drug that definitely was making me sick. Since then he's changed it to something else and I thought we were done with nausea and retching.

Apparently not.

(I have serious trouble throwing up. My body fights it SO hard, tensing to the point of serious muscle strain. Yes I know whatever is in my stomach needs to leave, but my body is always, 'nope, you ate it, you keep it!' so it's incredibly painful for me. I know I'm not alone in this response and honestly, retching is torture. At least when I finally do throw up I know the pain will end.) And of course I'm left incredibly sore from all the strain.

Not posting all this to gross anyone out, but I sometimes think doctors forget that vomiting is not a natural or easy process, so having to deal with it more than once is alarming and depressing. I'm looking into whether the new drug is the problem now and will be calling my cardiologist today.

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Dear Starbucks

I've been a member with you since 2012. I've visited my local drive-throughs all during the pandemic (bless you!) and chatted with dozens of baristas who made my day nearly every time. I've tried new products, been consistent in my likes and generally support you because I like your coffee.

So now I'm in that elite Reserve company--the one with the new and fancy tiger logo. Very James Bond with the all-metal card in matte black. It's kinda cool until I go look at your store and the apparel in the merchandise section.

3X. That's the top size for both men and women. 3X. And I, a 4X woman once again feels let down by a corporation that fails to see those of us who aren't within societal norms. Come on, man! You have no problem taking my money, be it cash, card, digital transaction. So why is it so hard to add one more size to your wearables? I'm not asking for diamond studded sleeves or a LaCosta shirt with your mermaid as the logo here. I just want a sweatshirt or hoodie in my size. Something I can use to billboard your products as it were.

I'm not going to quit you over an item of clothing; I'm too damned fond of your flat whites to do that. But I am definitely disappointed that a place that sells Trentas when it comes to drinks can't go up in size with your gear as well.

signed,

A disappointed-in-you customer.

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Watched Project Hail Mary

Dang it, did note expect to become a Ryan Gosling fan.

But there it is. Between Barbie and this movie I find myself thinking this dude has definite comedy chops and a way of becoming a new character in every film. He carried a one-man show for the first third of the film-(I was reminded a bit of Bruce Dern from Silent Running)--and then the First Encounter was very moving. Then silly. Then dramatic. Then bonding. All of it done very well. Sure the lingering shots in some cases could have been trimmed, and much as I love the shift of plot it too could have used some editing, overall I was pleased.

Rocky is a good companion and Grace grows as a character overall which isn't a huge deal but right now a well-done feel-good movie meant a lot to me.

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Nope

Don't want to see anything Trump is setting up for his birthday. None of it. I refuse to give him any attention for his crap 'spectacular' in any way.

Damn I wish the media had the courage to do the same. Just mention it in passing as they focus on more important stories and not feed his ego but that won't happen, especially with Fox News.

But seriously, wouldn't it be hysterical to just deny him an audience? To have things as poorly done as that awful military parade he insisted on having? Just--cheap shit that falls apart while events are happening because of course he low bid it all. Have huge delays and shutdowns because nobody thought about the power grid or parking or port-a-potties?

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For those of us who observe it!

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If you are here, you need to not be.

The mandatory evacuation zone stretches from Ball Road to the north, Trask Avenue to the south, Valley View Street to the west and Dale Avenue to the east. That includes parts of Garden Grove, Cypress, Stanton, Anaheim, Buena Park and Westminster.

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Potential blast zone:

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No news is, unfortunately, also bad news. It means we've come up with no new viable solutions. So we're still left with worst outcomes only (the tank spilling 7000 gallons of methyl methacrylate or exploding).

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Firefighters were able to examine the tank and discovered a possible crack, which may be helping relieve pressure.

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Yeah this is within six miles of me so I'm reblogging it for other SoCal folk---

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$50,000 immediately dropped into my bank account wouldn't improve EVERYTHING but boy it sure would be a grand, sexy little start to a good, happy life path, don't you think

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Reblog for unexpected $$$ dropping into your Bank account.

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uhh did i forget how time works or was the first post in december 2018 and the second in august 2018

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Reblog for time travelling $$$ dropping into your Bank account.

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Oh, why not? *reblog*

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*fingers crossed*

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He relapsed, first day out.

And again today.

I have to hold to what Al-Anon has taught me:

I can't cure this; I can't control this; I didn't cause this.

But it's so hard, friends. So very, very hard for all of us.

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So much in this...the crushed past..the courage ...the resilience to aim forward...but gently 🙏

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This came across my dash and it is oh-so-perfect for the circumstances. I'm grateful.