~Kitten~

33• Female• United States NSFW Must be 18+

[i-wrotethisforme]

You need someone who wants to be there when it’s messy and when it’s hard, not just when it’s fun and when it’s convenient. And you need someone who chooses you when it might not be the easiest choice. And you need someone who would rather do nothing with you than anything in the world with someone else.

[nawtigir1]

Yes this is exactly what I need, because my life circumstances are quite difficult and choosing me will complicate things for you too.

[xxxreesareesareesaxxx-deactivat]

[imyourgoodgrl-deactivated201902]

So needed 💙

[clairegro]

Beyond needed 💝

[juicy-estrob3ri-deactivated2019]

[clairegro]

Me haha 💝

[whataboutbob2021-deactivated202]

“Your tumblr speaks volumes about who you are as a person. It shows what kind of images you see in your head, who you love, who you hate, even what you think about other people. But most of all - it has all of the words you never said to people, all of the words you couldn’t have said but should have said.”

— Unknown

[clairegro]

Good morning my lovelies!! Happy Friday- May your coffee be strong and sex be rough.

[kelcf]

werd.

[clairegro]

Redhead = soul sucker hehehe 😉

[books-n-quotes]

“I’m not used to being loved. I wouldn’t know what to do.”

— F. Scott Fitzgerald, More Than Just A House

[clairegro]

How I feel constantly lol

[thesensualdominant]

[doctordaddysir]

Intimacy

I had someone send me a message and asked that I not make it a post. Her question was this:

“I’m just getting into my submissive side, I’m exploring with a Dom. I don’t know if I’m cut out for this because I’m missing the intimacy of my vanilla relationships. I love pleasing him but I miss touching, I miss cuddling, I miss conversations. I get that he’s my Dom and doesn’t need those things, but what do I do?”

Well, for starters. If you have a “Dom” that tells you that he doesn’t need to do things like touch you, talk to you, hold you, you really need to think long and hard about whether he’s right for you. I’m not gonna just call him out as an asshole, ok….yeah….I am, but you need to really see some red flags here.

The BDSM World is full of intimacy. Intimacy comes in many different forms depending on your dynamic, but to me there are a few basic things that aren’t even really intimate but I guess can be considered that if you are missing them. You hit all three, communication (small talk), touching (hugging, running fingers through hair, just letting her hold on to my leg as she kneels by me, etc), and aftercare (cuddling).

I don’t consider those intimate alone. Those are basic essentials. If you are missing those things enough to say they are “intimacy” you need to reconsider who you’re with possibly. I don’t have all the details so I won’t just say run. To me D/S relationships are even more Intimate due to the trust needed.

Intimacy definitely falls in all areas, touch, talk, holding, etc but even things like pet names, repeat phrases, asking about rules and tasks, setting rules and tasks, deciding what clothes your sub wears to lunch with a friend or family, a funny inside joke, a pet name that no one else would understand but you two, even using her favorite riding crop because she likes the sting of it instead of your favorite impact toy. (Try that last one if you’re a Dom. Really know what she loves and surprise her with using it for her and tell her it’s for her, thank me later)

My point is intimacy comes in many many ways, learning your subs fears and limits, understanding how you can help calm her anxiety on a bad day, making sure she goes to bed early before a big work meeting, etc. All of this is intimate because it shows effort, trust and honesty between partners. Yes, a Dom and a Sub, a Daddy and a little, you’re partners in this. Period. If you or your partner don’t see it that way there’s an issue.

Basic parts of a relationship aren’t really intimate unless they are missing, then I guess I’d think they were too.

Just be careful and look for warning signs. I dont know full details of this one so I try not to judge. Have a real/Meta talk and tell him how you feel and what you need.

[cherishedproperty]

I had a Dom who would roll his eyes whenever I asked him to kiss me. “That’s so vanilla.” At first, I shrunk when he said it. Like I should be ashamed of needing such ordinary things. But you know what? Fuck that. So I started responding with, “So what? If you can’t kiss me, you can’t beat me. Period.” Because needs come before wants. Them’s the rules.

Since then, I have had good D/s relationships that were downright ordinary at times—kissing and snuggles and talking about our work days and curling up on the couch with popcorn and a movie. You can’t live coldness and high protocol all the time. If you want a life built on D/s, a life includes everything—vanilla and power exchange. And if your Dom can’t see that, he’s not the right one for you.

[thealphawithin-deactivated20230]

Let’s be very clear about this, D/s contains ALL the vanilla stuff and takes it to another level, in my opinion, a real D/s relationship HAS TO BE intimate, extremely intimate.

[gingerplays72-deactivated202505]

I have found that all the “non intimacy” rules you hear from so called Doms are just guys using BDSM and D/s to hide behind that status so they can fuck without commitment. That simple.

[thealphawithin-deactivated20230]

☝️☝️☝️☝️

[verse50]

This thread is gold.

[nelmaladeirablog]

[clairegro]

Happy time

[clairegro]

[clairegro]

[racksley]

If she chooses you, first and foremost, understand how lucky you are

If she chooses you, don’t get upset when she grows distant, she often gets caught in her own thoughts but she will always return to you

If she chooses you, don’t make her feel that her desire for affection is needy, some days she simply craves to be close, to be reminded that she is wanted

If she chooses you, remind her of her beauty each day, and always kiss her twice because kissing her once just isn’t enough

If she chooses you, give her the space she needs when she’s frustrated and surprise her with flowers on random days rather than out of apologetic flashes or set holidays, she hasn’t been shown that appreciation enough

If she chooses you, call her randomly just to hear her voice, and make sure to remind her of how gorgeous she is on that call even if you haven’t seen her that day, she is always beyond stunning

If she chooses you, tell her she’s doing good and encourage her, because she often feels alone in taking on the world and she won’t ask for help out of her desire to be independent

If she chooses you, applaud her parenting, she often gives all of herself without allowing herself enough sleep or self care and self love to stop and realize how exhausted she is

If she chooses you, understand that she gets excited over random songs and the moments when you listen, she’ll tell you her entire world so long you give her your attention to

If she chooses you, show her patience, she hasn’t been loved the way she deserves and often doubts that her emotions are valid, she will beat herself up for feeling sad or reflecting on her past

If she chooses you, hold her when she doesn’t ask, she will melt into your arms as if she was meant to be there, and it will fill your entire body with love rather than solely your heart

If she chooses you, understand her strength and remind her of it, she has survived evil so powerful it could break a person, yet she still stands

If she chooses you, love her through her past, her present and her future, she carries the weight of the world on her shoulders

If she chooses you, play with her hands and keep your hand on her thigh whenever you get the chance, you’re lucky to touch her and she will adore the soft intimacy of your affection

If she chooses you, understand she’ll tell you about her past in time, and when she does, kiss her and remind her of her value, she is worth more than you or anyone else deserves

If she chooses you, love her for her laughter and the way she throws her head back, it’s the most beautiful sight

If she chooses you, ask her what’s wrong and when she responds that she’s okay ask again because she won’t want to burden you with the thoughts in her mind

If she chooses you, spoil her with more than your affection, she deserves the entirety of the goodness in this world

If she chooses you, take the time to learn about her kids as much as you learn about her, she will fall in love with you for the value you bring to their childhood

If she she chooses you, buy her wine randomly because it calms her from stressful work days, and make sure you hug her and tell her how important she is and how proud you are, it will make her breathe a little easier at night

If she chooses you, scratch or rub her neck, she will love you for the simple things

If she chooses you, make sure she eats lunch and dinner, and even breakfast, because she often forgets or doesn’t make the time to do so

If she chooses you, bring her caramel frappuccinos with a shot of espresso in the mornings, it’ll help her kickstart the day after she’s been up all night being the best mother her kids could have,

If she choose you, never take for granted the honor you have winning her heart, make sure you respect her and you work each to day to get closer to deserving her

If she chooses you, please make sure you don’t let her fall asleep upset, because she’ll wake up the next day feeling as if she’s lost her place, when really she’s the only place anyone with eyes should ever want to be, her and her happiness

If she chooses you, no matter what, make sure you tell her you love her

If she chooses you, please choose her too, she is fragile and kind and she is made of all of that goodness in the world that she deserves,

You are beyond incredibly lucky,

You have the best opportunity in getting her love because it’s the best thing you could get in your entire life

If she chooses you, please don’t stop choosing her

If She Chooses You Part 2 // ARH

[clairegro]

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[clairegro]

What more could you want? 💗