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bisexual, tired, gender critical, learning. this is a sideblog.

[zmpl]

go onto any career-related subreddit and you’ll find someone making a post like “hey everyone! i’m considering going into this field, any advice for a newbie? :)” and all of the comments will be like “do NOT work in this field. i’m $200,000 in student loan debt. i get paid $0.15/hour and i work 80 hours a week. my manager and my coworkers all beat the shit out of me every wednesday.” and this is in literally any subreddit about work. i’m sure there’s a reasonable explanation for this

[clitorcrit]

it's so funny that when I was a little girl in the early aughts and I'd say I never want to have a baby or be a mom, this was treated by my family -- my generally liberal, very supportive family! -- as an anomaly that I would probably grow out of.

the unspoken vibe was vaguely along the lines of 'we'll obviously support you if you end up really wanting this, but you'll probably change your mind like most girls do.'

and then here we are now and blah blah blah declining birth rate, and there are way more intentionally childfree women in the world and in my life than I'd have ever have dared to imagine.

just thinking about societal trends and how they manifest in ways that feel natural to us. I grew up thinking I was pretty alone in this.

anyway I'm so grateful for freedom, and for having parents who weren't outwardly hostile about my wishes for my life.

is any of this anything

[insecuregodcomplex]

[fairycosmos]

your problem is you think if you communicate with clarity and earnestness that people will actually understand you

[kragehund-est]

hey i just saw your post critiquing a societal norm. well, i like doing everything that society expects of me and i was actually raised in an empty 8x8 cube for the first 18 years of my life. i am the only person to have ever been raised in a vacuum and i came out with all the behaviors expected of my age, sex, and origin without ever having seen another human being before. so. maybe keep that in mind next time you post, mkay?

[laurierrose]

my hot take right now is that just as a family annihilator would rather kill himself and his family than see his wife be independent of his control, men are embracing fascism and other destructive politics as brutal but necessary corrections to the historically unprecedented freedom women have had in the past 50 years

[stephexmachina]

when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.

[stephexmachina]

AND SO IS BEING SOMEBODY'S MOTHER‼️

[stephexmachina]

it is about being a woman. hope that helps!

[gnomebutch]

I find it so insidious how people see the obvious correlation between autism and gender non conformity and say it’s because autists are somehow biologically more transgender on average rather than realizing that gender as a whole is a oppressive construct that punishes those who aren’t good at fitting into social norms

[gatekeeper-of-witchcraft]

I feel that the idea of being penetrated is so married to having a vagina, perhaps even more so than femininity and femaleness are. people cannot conceive of a woman who just doesn’t want to be entered by anything (toys, fingers and tongue included) without it making her sexually dysfunctional in some way.

no one bats an eye if a man says he doesn’t want to be penetrated or have his nipples touched or something. of course, that’s natural, he’s a man. but when a woman says it, it’s weird and wrong, because she’s a woman, of course she must desire sex in that way.

I feel it’s just another layer of biological essentialism/determinism in the same way that “women must be naturally feminine and any deviation therefrom is dysfunctional” is.

[hyeenagurrl]

its hard to know where to begin with these anti-jkr people. its like arguing with christians about whether god is real. “shes KILLING trans people with her MONEY.” okay well. thats not reality. step one failed already

[moonstonetombstone]

[mummer]

it’s crazy how when you’re 11 you think wow nationalism is the root of all evil and war is despicable and religion is the opiate of the masses and misogyny is everywhere and climate change is our most dire threat. and you start to grow up and you think well surely it will become more nuanced to me, surely there must be a reason adults arent breaking down wailing in the streets due to the cruelty of this world. and then you become an adult and you think wow nationalism is the root of all evil and war is despicable and religion is the opiate of the masses and misogyny is everywhere and climate change is our most dire threat

[godspeedyoublackemperor]

childaborting hips

[radfemcroatia-deactivated202505]

[oleskyfm]

[brokenbythesirensound]

[skyjellyfem]

Absolutely fascinating to see people say “Wow, apparently white women were some of the biggest beneficiaries of DEI, and now that it’s rolled back, they’re losing their jobs! Take that, white women!”

Like, yes, they know. The conservatives know. That’s the plan. Because women are an oppressed class. Yes, even the white ones. It’s actually pretty widespread.

I’m not saying I’m surprised. It’s just interesting how misogyny is basically never recognized by self-proclaimed leftists as a source of oppression, so they basically view white women as no different from white men, politically. And even revel in them no longer having access to DEI, because it gives them a group of women they’re “allowed” to hate while still being “progressive”. Just a thought.

[aristocat98-deactivated20220407]

women have uterii not because birthing new humans is their purpose, but because it's their option. your body isn't hurting you as a punishment for not conceiving a baby as if it was a chore, your body is making effort to maintain it as an option for you. you don't have to ever use this ability or value it for yourself, but it's important to remember that your body isn't working to pressure you into it: it's working to keep providing a choice. your body isn't working against you, your body doesn't hate you the way misogynistic narratives about femaleness claim it does.