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cheese24k

Wait a second, am I tripping balls?

arewefadingout-deactivated20170

HELP I CANNOT STOP LAUGHING

mandopony

Sometimes life is just beautiful.

blueorca2000-blog

i thought about this the other day and it shook me but his quirk is literally those zach king jumping through walls vines

anyway i’m glad to see my boy in the anime finally..

nasfera2

Earth, Wind & Fire - September

postmarxed-deactivated20190429

IT’S TIME BABEY

raikkousaki

(based on post by @incorrectpsinan!)

theambassadorposts

The ignorance of the American public is manufactured and deliberate as a means of social control

pinkcheesegreenghost-deactivate

we need reconstruction and reparations now

justbadpuns

Top 5 posts here on justbadpuns this April

mahoippu-deactivated20200905

this is gay privilege

deficiencyincourtship-deactivat

void-flesh

this is the most realistic queer dialogue ive ever seen

zeverity

Important context: they’re married to each other.

malkoir-blog

If Mario Kart was JoJo’s bizarre adventure.

zodiacsociety

If Your Zodiac Sign Was a Drug:

WRITTEN BY ZODIAC SOCIETY || THEZODIACSOCIETY.COM

ARIES- CRYSTAL METH: If Aries was a drug they would be crystal meth. It increases their energy and alertness, and Arians have a lot of energy to dole out. When excitement comes over them, they have a strong desire to go for it, and when they want something, they’ll go after it with full force. They are quite impulsive and impatient, and may suffer a lack of tact or self-control. They get restless especially if life gets predictable.

TAURUS - ECSTASY: If Taurus was a drug they would be ecstasy. It increases your awareness of the sense, and Taureans truly enjoy the sensual pleasures of life. When they look they have to touch, because they simply love indulging all of their senses. They especially have a great need for a lot of physical expression. They have a strong appreciation for music and the comforts that surround them.

GEMINI - SALVIA: If Gemini was a drug they would be Salvia. The effects can be short-lived much like a Gemini’s attention can be fleeting. They are quick to change their mind and attitude just as well. They are carefree and lighthearted. They have their heads in the in so many things and have a love for life and laughter. Gemini is definitely fun to be around, and their charm is endearing and engaging.

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niambi

I’m????

alarajrogers

Oh my God this actually explains so much.

So there’s a known thing in the study of human psychology/sociology/what-have-you where men are known to, on average, rely entirely on their female romantic partner for emotional support. Bonding with other men is done at a more superficial level involving fun group activities and conversations about general subjects but rarely involves actually leaning on other men or being really honest about emotional problems. Men use alcohol to be able to lower their inhibitions enough to expose themselves emotionally to other men, but if you can’t get emotional support unless you’re drunk, you have a problem.

So men need to have a woman in their lives to have anyone they can share their emotional needs and vulnerabilities with. However, since women are not socialized to fear sharing these things, women’s friendships with other women are heavily based on emotional support. If you can’t lean on her when you’re weak, she’s not your friend. To women, what friendship is is someone who listens to all your problems and keeps you company.

So this disconnect men are suffering from is that they think that only a person who is having sex with you will share their emotions and expect support. That’s what a romantic partner does. But women think that’s what a friend does. So women do it for their romantic partners and their friends and expect a male friend to do it for them the same as a female friend would. This fools the male friend into thinking there must be something romantic there when there is not.

This here is an example of patriarchy hurting everyone. Women have a much healthier approach to emotional support – they don’t die when widowed at nearly the rate that widowers die and they don’t suffer emotionally from divorce nearly as much even though they suffer much more financially, and this is because women don’t put all their emotional needs on one person. Women have a support network of other women. But men are trained to never share their emotions except with their wife or girlfriend, because that isn’t manly. So when she dies or leaves them, they have no one to turn to to help with the grief, causing higher rates of death, depression, alcoholism and general awfulness upon losing a romantic partner.

So men suffer terribly from being trained in this way. But women suffer in that they can’t reach out to male friends for basic friendship. I am not sure any man can comprehend how heartbreaking it is to realize that a guy you thought was your friend was really just trying to get into your pants. Friendship is real. It’s emotional, it’s important to us. We lean on our friends. Knowing that your friend was secretly seething with resentment when you were opening up to him and sharing your problems because he felt like he shouldn’t have to do that kind of emotional work for anyone not having sex with him, and he felt used by you for that reason, is horrible. And the fact that men can’t share emotional needs with other men means that lots of men who can’t get a girlfriend end up turning into horrible misogynistic people who think the world owes them the love of a woman, like it’s a commodity… because no one will die without sex. Masturbation exists. But people will die or suffer deep emotional trauma from having no one they can lean on emotionally. And men who are suffering deep emotional trauma, and have been trained to channel their personal trauma into rage because they can’t share it, become mass shooters, or rapists, or simply horrible misogynists.

The only way to fix this is to teach boys it’s okay to love your friends. It’s okay to share your needs and your problems with your friends. It’s okay to lean on your friends, to hug your friends, to be weak with your friends. Only if this is okay for boys to do with their male friends can this problem be resolved… so men, this one’s on you. Women can’t fix this for you; you don’t listen to us about matters of what it means to be a man. Fix your own shit and teach your brothers and sons and friends that this is okay, or everyone suffers.

thecraftybear

Seriously, either I’m very “broken” as a man and have been for a good chunk of my life, or I somehow evade men’s stereotypical mental deficiencies.

I’ve rarely had problems with sharing my personal problems with other people in the last umpteen years (in fact, it’s my parents and extended family that I haven’t been able to open up to, for a good reason). Sometimes this borders on TMI, when people ask me about something out of their small talk habits and then have to hastily retract their question in order to stop hearing the unsightly, uncensored truth.

Makes me wonder if I’m really a man. Not in the “sexual identification” meaning, but rather “if other men can’t handle the stuff I handle, then how do I relate to them?”.

You know I think I’m starting to understand the deeper workings of my hatred of misandry. I’m very much unlike the stereotypical male most misandrists use as their strawman, and it angers me that, while beating on their strawman, they extend these perceptions to me - simply because I happen to have a Y chromosome, a pair of testicles and a more or less solid identification with these two elements of my being.

alarajrogers

This is the fundamental truth that underlies all research into differences between the sexes, and all statements made about said difference – it’s referring to a statistical average, because there is no such thing as a true statement that can be made of all men that cannot be made of some women, and vice versa. (Given the existence of trans men and women, even old standbys like “no man can get pregnant” are not true.)

Many people are outliers. I myself, and I wrote the post, am a woman who finds it hard to emotionally open up to anyone. And one thing I’ve noted is that over time, this particular issue is weakening – men of my grandfather’s era were much more rigidly resistant to sharing their emotions than, say, millennial men. But I’m sure there were sensitive, open guys even then.

So anything anyone ever says about “men” or “women” is either referring to a broad statistical average which contains many, many outliers that don’t exhibit the trait… or it’s lying. And that’s why it’s bullshit to judge people by gender. If a person behaves in a gender-stereotypical way it’s a good idea to understand why they did that, what drives the behavior, and why you’re likely to encounter a lot of that from people of their gender… but you can’t assume, on approaching a stranger, that they will behave in a gender-typical way (you can’t even assume a stranger’s gender, honestly.) And people who don’t conform to a stereotype are just as much “real” examples of their gender as people who do.