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ATTITUDE VS EXPERIENCE: WHAT REALLY MAKES A GREAT HIRE?

A discussion- hiring for the past vs hiring for future performance.

Why hiring for the past often fails—and how to hire for future performance The long-standing debate of hiring for attitude versus aptitude h

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SCARCITY MINDSET EXPLAINED: SIGNS, PSYCHOLOGY, AND HOW TO OVERCOME IT - (CHAPTER 01)

Explore the scarcity mindset, its hidden behaviors, psychological roots, and practical ways to overcome fear, lack, and short-term thinking.

Most of us learned scarcity long before we learned the word for it.

Think back to musical chairs: the music stops, the pressure spikes, and suddenly everyone is competing for one less seat than they need. In that moment, it is not just a game—it is a lesson in fear, urgency, competition, and survival psychology. There was something about that one-on-one physical competition and face-to-face conflict fighting for something tangible that added spice to the game.

This is often one of the youngest experiences that we have of a scarcity mentality that can be translated to adult life. That same mental pattern follows us into adult life.

We see it in the scramble for jobs, promotions, money, time, attention, relationships, and status. Scarcity mindset is not just about having less. It is a psychological state that convinces us there is never enough—not enough resources, not enough security, not enough opportunity, and sometimes, not enough of us.

And once that mindset takes hold, it quietly begins to shape our decision-making, emotional regulation, self-control, behaviour, and even our sense of self-worth.

Simply put, Scarcity is the condition of having insufficient resources to cope with demand. When we are faced with limited resources, we strive to make effective use of them in the process of making important decisions. Economics is the study of how we use our limited resources (time, money, etc) to achieve our goals.

What Is a Scarcity Mindset?

When we hear the word scarcity, most of us think of money. But scarcity is much bigger than finances. It can show up as a lack of time, love, attention, opportunity, energy, health, confidence, or emotional security.

At its core, scarcity mindset is not just about what we have—it is about how our mind responds to what feels insufficient.

In simple terms, scarcity is the condition of having less than what feels necessary to meet our needs or demands. Sometimes that scarcity is real and practical, like limited money or time. But often, it is also psychological—a mental frame that keeps telling us there is not enough.

And once the brain locks onto that feeling, it changes how we think.

Scarcity pulls our attention toward what is missing. It narrows our focus, amplifies urgency, and makes the mind fixate on the gap. The hungry person thinks about food. The lonely person thinks about connection. The overworked person thinks about time. The insecure person thinks about what they lack compared to others.

This is why scarcity mindset can quietly shape our thought patterns, self-awareness, emotional regulation, impulse control, and decision-making. Instead of responding with clarity, we often react from stress, fear, comparison, and survival mode.

In behavioural psychology, this matters because when the mind is preoccupied with “not enough,” it often prioritizes the urgent over the important. We become more vulnerable to poor judgment, short-term thinking, emotional reactivity, self-sabotage, and depleted willpower.

So while scarcity may begin as an external condition, it often becomes an internal operating system. And once that happens, we do not just experience lack—we begin to live from it.

How Scarcity Hijacks the Brain

Scarcity does not just affect what we have. It affects how we think.

When the mind perceives that something important is in short supply—whether it is money, time, love, security, attention, or opportunity—the brain shifts into a more urgent, survival-driven mode. This is useful in the short term, but harmful when it becomes chronic.

In psychological terms, scarcity creates a kind of mental tunnel vision. Our attention narrows around what feels missing, and everything else begins to fade into the background. We become hyper-focused on the immediate problem, often at the cost of long-term thinking, emotional balance, self-control, and wise decision-making.

This is why scarcity mindset can feel so overpowering: it does not merely influence our thoughts—it starts to organize them.

1) It Narrows Attention

Scarcity pulls the mind toward the most pressing unmet need. The result is intense focus—but also reduced perspective. We become preoccupied with what is lacking and less able to see the bigger picture.

2) It Weakens Self-Control

When mental energy is tied up in worry, urgency, or emotional pressure, there is less bandwidth left for discipline, patience, and thoughtful choices. This is why scarcity often leads to impulsive spending, emotional eating, procrastination, doom-scrolling, overthinking, or saying yes to what should have been a no.

3) It Pushes Us Toward Short-Term Relief

Scarcity makes the immediate feel more important than the meaningful. We start solving for today’s discomfort while quietly damaging tomorrow. This is how people neglect exercise, postpone medical check-ups, stay in unhealthy situations, or make reactive financial and emotional decisions.

4) It Increases Emotional Reactivity

Scarcity tends to heighten stress, fear, insecurity, comparison, envy, and urgency. Even small setbacks can feel disproportionately threatening when the mind already believes there is “not enough.”

5) It Distorts Judgment

Under scarcity, we are more likely to make choices based on pressure rather than clarity. We may chase what feels urgent, overvalue what seems limited, and ignore options that would serve us better in the long run.

In short, scarcity can make us more efficient in the moment—but less wise over time.

That is why scarcity mindset is not just a financial or practical issue. It is a psychological state that can quietly shape our habits, relationships, emotional intelligence, resilience, and overall quality of life.

The Strange Upside of Scarcity

Not all scarcity is harmful.

In the right dose, scarcity can actually sharpen focus, clarify priorities, and force better choices. A deadline can cut through distraction. Limited time can make a moment feel meaningful. Constraints can spark creativity, discipline, and urgency.

Scarcity also reminds us of something important: we cannot do everything, have everything, or be everything. And that is not always a tragedy. Sometimes, it is what gives life depth, direction, and meaning.

The problem begins when scarcity stops being a temporary condition and becomes a permanent lens through which we see the world.

Why Scarcity Feels So Powerful

Scarcity does not just make us notice something more. It makes us feel it more.

The moment something appears limited, threatened, or harder to access, it often becomes more psychologically valuable. This is why people suddenly want the thing they ignored yesterday—simply because it may not be available tomorrow. At the heart of this is a powerful behavioural principle- Loss Aversion

Loss Aversion: Why Losing Feels Stronger Than Gaining

Human beings are generally more motivated by the fear of losing something than by the possibility of gaining something of equal value. In other words, the pain of loss tends to hit harder than the pleasure of gain.

This is why scarcity creates such strong emotional reactions.

When something we want begins to feel unavailable—whether it is a job opportunity, relationship, discount, social approval, or limited resource—the nervous system often responds with anxiety, urgency, and heightened desire. The focus narrows. Emotions rise. Rational thinking weakens.

This is one of the psychological engines behind FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Often, it is not the thing itself that drives us—it is the thought that we may miss our chance.

The Psychological Roots of Scarcity

Scarcity mindset is also intensified by a few deeper psychological forces:

1) Psychological Reactance

When people feel that their freedom to choose is being restricted, they often want the restricted thing even more. This is known as psychological reactance—the inner resistance that arises when access feels threatened. It explains why:

a product becomes more desirable when it is “almost sold out”

exclusivity increases appeal

unavailable people often seem more attractive

bans, restrictions, and “forbidden” experiences can become strangely magnetic

The mind interprets restricted access as a threat—and then starts craving what it may lose.

2) Anticipated Regret

Another force that drives scarcity-based behaviour is anticipated regret—the discomfort of imagining that we may later regret not acting now. This is what makes people think:

“What if I miss this opportunity?”

“What if I never get this chance again?”

“What if I say no now and regret it later?”

That emotional forecasting can push us into rushed decisions, impulsive purchases, unhealthy attachments, and choices driven more by fear than clarity.

3) Competition Intensifies Desire

Scarcity becomes even more powerful when other people want the same thing. The moment competition enters the picture, desire often spikes. Something feels more valuable not only because it is limited—but because others are reaching for it too. This is why:

sold-out events feel more desirable

popular products feel more important

social attention feels more addictive

emotionally unavailable people can become more compelling than available ones

When scarcity meets competition, judgment often gives way to emotion, ego, and urgency.

***To be continued in Chapter 02 (Forms of Scarcity Mindset, Instances around us, ways to identify and mitigate)

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UGADI PACHADI & THE PSYCHOLOGY OF LIFE: TIMELESS LESSONS FROM MYTHOLOGY & HUMAN BEHAVIOR - CHAPTER 02

In a world overloaded with social media, global crises, and daily stress, emotional extremes feel inescapable. But what if these highs and lows are just part of a natural rhythm? True stability comes from embracing emotional contrast—just as the Ugadi Pachadi reminds us to savor both life’s sweetness and bitterness. More than a festival, Ugadi is a tradition of renewal, reflection, and gratitude—a powerful lesson in resilience.

(Discussed previously- Chapter -01: The Deeper Meaning Behind Ugadi: Psychology & Mythology Intertwined, The Story of Yudhishthira and Karna

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UGADI PACHADI & THE PSYCHOLOGY OF LIFE: TIMELESS LESSONS FROM MYTHOLOGY & HUMAN BEHAVIOR - CHAPTER 01

As Ugadi 2025 fades into the night, the festival’s vibrant energy settles into a quiet hum. The air still carries the tang of Ugadi Pachadi,

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THE PATH TO RESILIENCE: ROCK CLIMBING AS A JOURNEY OF PERSONAL GROWTH

A Discussion- Explore the mental health benefits of rock climbing and discover powerful lessons that build resilience, focus, and collaborative strength in us.

Close your eyes. Imagine standing before a towering wall.

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BEYOND WORK-LIFE BALANCE: THE REAL COST OF SEPARATING WORK AND LIFE Discover the real cost of rigidly separating work and life through the Four Burners Theory—explore how outsourcing key burners like work or family creates hidden tensions, and join us in redefining success beyond traditional balance for greater fulfilment and potential.

Work-life balance is the state of equilibrium where a person equally prioritizes the demands of one’s career and the demands of one’s person

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CHOICE ARCHITECTURE: ENHANCEMENT OF HUMAN DECISIONS

Although most of us have the freedom to make a wide range of choices at any given moment, we often make decisions based on the environment we find ourselves in.

Although most of us have the freedom to make a wide range of choices at any given moment, we often make decisions based on the environment w

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SELF-DIFFERENTIATION: THE KEY TO EMOTIONAL BALANCE AND STRONGER RELATIONSHIPS

Balancing authenticity with relational harmony is a common challenge. Self-differentiation helps individuals stay true to themselves while remaining connected to others, fostering clarity, calm, and confidence.

Self-differentiation is a term we do not often hear in everyday conversation, but it is a powerful and essential process for living—and relating—well. It shows up when someone speaks their mind with calm conviction, even when others may disapprove. It is absent when a person defines themselves only in opposition to their parents or colleagues, constantly reacting rather than choosing. It’s also missing when someone silences their own thoughts and emotions out of fear—fear of rejection, shame, or upsetting others.

Story: Bhishma’s Vow: A Legacy of Duty and Self-Mastery

But the defining feature of that moment wasn’t just sacrifice—it was clarity. Bhishma was not swayed by emotion alone or by intellectual pride. He knew what he valued: duty, honour, and his father’s happiness. He stood firm despite public shock, familial tension, and the gravity of the vow itself.

Connection to Self-Differentiation

Bhishma exemplifies self-differentiation. He was able to separate his emotions (love for his father, potential personal sorrow) from his intellectual clarity (what must be done to resolve a dynastic crisis). At the same time, he managed the tension between intimacy and autonomy—remaining deeply loyal to his family without being emotionally fused or reactive.

Prudence and Contemporary Relevance

In a world saturated with competing demands—family expectations, social noise, and cultural scripts—Bhishma’s legacy underscores a timeless truth: inner alignment is essential. Self-differentiation is not rebellion, nor is it blind compliance; it is the clarity to know your values, the courage to stand by them, and the consciousness to choose intentionally.

As we navigate modern life—relationships, careers, identity—this inner clarity becomes our emotional backbone. In an age of groupthink, performative validation, and constant reactivity, self-differentiation is not just relevant, it is vital. It allows us to stay grounded, think independently, and act with integrity, even in the face of noise, judgment, or chaos.

Differentiation of Self

It is a central concept in Bowen’s family systems theory, which explains how individuals operate not in isolation, but within the emotional context of their family or social group. At its core, self-differentiation is about maintaining a clear sense of self while staying connected to others. According to Bowen, the theory has two key components:

Bowen’s insights offer a powerful lens to understand why we sometimes get swept up in group dynamics or feel emotionally hijacked. Developing self-differentiation helps us stay grounded, think clearly, and relate more authentically—even in emotionally charged situations.

Mental landscape Perspective

It is a process of not losing connection to self while holding a deep connection to others, including those we love whose views may differ from ours. For Example, if we grow up in a family in which everyone maintains attachment (or has only brief disconnects) in spite of having different thoughts and feelings, we can begin to self-differentiate.

Greater self-differentiation allows individuals to balance emotional engagement with rational thinking, staying flexible under pressure and maintaining calm. This ability to navigate both emotional and cognitive realms helps preserve autonomy in relationships and fosters psychological resilience.

In contrast, those with lower differentiation often react emotionally, struggling to stay composed in tense situations. When emotion and reason merge, decisions are driven by feeling rather than clear logic, increasing anxiety and making them more susceptible to external emotional influences.

Process Orientation Perspective

We can manage the discomfort that arises from the risks of intimacy, separation, or conflict. A lack of self-differentiation not only sabotages healthy relationships but also creates inner turmoil, often leading to comfort eating. We may become angry when we feel controlled, unable to express our feelings openly. Alternatively, we might silence ourselves to avoid conflict, feeling inauthentic, unheard, or invisible, and turn to food for comfort when our needs go unmet. Core Skills and Behaviours That Reflect and Strengthen Self-Differentiation

Self-differentiation is not just a concept—it is a lived experience, expressed through daily choices, habits, and relational patterns. Below are key skills and behaviours that both signify and support the development of self-differentiation:

As we deepen these practices, we expand our ability to stay rooted in ourselves while remaining meaningfully connected to others—a core of what it means to be fully human.

Emotional Fusion at Work: The Hidden Cost of Over-Compliance and Outbursts

When fusion is high, people become highly reactive to one another’s feelings, often losing sight of their own emotional boundaries. This can manifest in two seemingly opposite ways: “I can’t live without you” or “I can’t stand to be near you.” In both cases, there is a loss of individuality and a sense of “we-ness”—the belief that to maintain the relationship, both people must think, feel, or act the same.

Imagine a workplace where a team member always agrees with their boss to avoid conflict, even when they disagree. Over time, this pattern of over-compliance breeds silent resentment, which can later explode as anger or manifest as quiet withdrawal. Both people-pleasing and reactive outbursts stem from emotional fusion—a state where one’s actions and thoughts are more influenced by others' emotional intensity than by personal clarity or conviction.

Emotional fusion destabilizes us by making our sense of self overly reliant on external emotional cues. While emotions are important, unchecked fusion blurs the line between healthy empathy and self-erasure. The goal is not detachment, but integration: the ability to feel deeply while thinking clearly and stay connected without losing oneself.

In this context, anger and compliance are not opposites but two sides of the same coin—both indicate a loss of internal grounding, where autonomy is overshadowed by emotional contagion.

Understanding Relationships Through the Lens of Self-Differentiation

Bowen’s concept of self-differentiation offers deep insight into how we relate to others—especially in close, emotionally charged relationships. At its core, it is the ability to stay connected while maintaining a clear sense of self. This means thinking and feeling independently, even in the face of emotional pressure from loved ones.

Without this clarity, relationships often become reactive, anxious, or controlling. In contrast, differentiated individuals remain emotionally available without being emotionally overwhelmed. They also set and maintain healthy boundaries without guilt. They understand their limits and express them calmly, protecting their well-being while still offering empathy and support. This builds mutual respect, trust, and psychological safety in relationships.

Practices to Increase Self-Differentiation

The following techniques foster self-awareness, emotional regulation, and boundary-setting—core pillars of this lifelong practice.

1. Cultivate Self-Awareness: Regular reflection—through journaling, meditation, or therapy—helps us identify emotional patterns, clarify our thoughts, and distinguish between our true needs and external pressures.

2. Strengthen Emotional Regulation: Mindfulness practices like deep breathing and muscle relaxation help us stay grounded during emotional turbulence, allowing us to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively.

3. Distinguish Thoughts from Feelings: Recognizing when emotions cloud our judgment is crucial. By accurately labelling our feelings, we improve self-expression and reduce miscommunication.

4. Communicate with “I” Statements: Using statements like “I feel…” or “I need…” takes ownership of our emotions, reduces blame, and fosters more constructive conversations.

5. Reflect on Thought-Feeling Balance: We ask ourselves- What am I feeling? What thoughts are present? Are our judgments about others overshadowing self-reflection? These questions boost emotional intelligence and help us manage reactions, especially in tense moments.

6. Define Your Core Self: We clarify our values, beliefs, and aspirations. This internal compass helps us stay centered amid external expectations. We ask ourselves: What truly matters to me? What do I want my actions to reflect? Where am I compromising in ways that do not serve me?

7. Set Healthy Boundaries: Clear, respectful boundaries protect our identity and energy without isolating us from others. By asserting and communicating limits, we foster mutual respect, trust, and stronger relationships.

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DECISION INTELLIGENCE FRAMEWORKS: THE OODA LOOP & SEAL – CHAPTER 02

Exploring the power of decision intelligence frameworks with the OODA Loop and SEAL. Discussion - how these methods can transform our approach to faster, smarter decision-making in any environment.

***Continued from Chapter 01 (Covered previously: Decision Intelligence and its meaning, The OODA Loop, How The OODA Loop Works: The Four Steps, Success Of The OODA Loop)

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Uses Of The OODA Loop

In general, military planning models are often applied to uses outside of their original context due to their effectiveness in extreme situations. The OODA loop has been adapted to become an important concept in various fields such as business, game theory, information security, law enforcement, litigation, marketing and strategy. Professionals find this compelling because of its common-sense approach to decision-making and its emphasis on staying competitive.

With technology being used everywhere and more emphasis being placed on a company’s ability to collect feedback and analyze competition, this method is now a common approach applied in organizations. In business, OODA loops typically examine what is happening externally and how results are performing to become more agile. Similarly, an organization with a security operations centre (SOC), computer emergency readiness team (CERT) or computer security incident response team (CSIRT) may use an OODA loop cycle to develop an organization’s incident response plan.

Additionally, due to the growth of data analytics in business, the OODA loop is a popular method for handling an influx of constantly emerging information. Companies can achieve better situational awareness when they implement the observe and orient steps to organize data in a way that accurately depicts the business environment. Once the data is placed in context, they can make smarter organizational decisions and actions.

Examples Of The OODA Loop

In its simplest form, the OODA loop is employed by all individuals every day when making a decision.

More complex, higher-stakes versions of the OODA loop in everyday life can be seen when creating a retirement savings plan or buying a home.

Alternatives To The OODA Loop

A few ideas that can be combined with the OODA loop include:

Plan, do, check, act (PDCA) cycle- This is a model geared towards continuous improvement that is also broken into four parts. The process starts by identifying a problem and gathering relevant data to the cause of the problem. Then, this information is used to develop and implement a solution. The results are then confirmed, or checked, before documented and used to make recommendations for further PDCA cycles.

Strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats (SWOT) analysis- This is a framework used in business to identify and analyze any internal or external factors that could affect the success of a project.

Getting things done (GTD) method- This is a time management model that helps organizations break larger projects into smaller, actionable tasks. The GTD method is a five step process that is also sometimes referred to by the steps: collect, process, organize, plan and do. All material should be gathered, analyzed and categorized before being transforming into an action plan that is then carried out.

Objectives and Key Results- OKRs are frequently set and evaluated continuously during the project lifecycle to make sure everything gets done on time. They also act as future references to monitor how well you executed your projects.

Porter's Five Forces- Porter's Five Forces is a model that identifies and analyzes five competitive forces that shape every industry and helps determine an industry's weaknesses and strengths. Five Forces analysis is frequently used to identify an industry's structure to determine corporate strategy and in decision making.

SOAR Analysis- This is a framework for identifying Strengths, Opportunities, Aspirations and Results. It works in any business involved in any marketplace. Unlike some other frameworks, SOAR marries up fact finding about the company and position, alongside the desires of the stakeholders to aid better decision intelligence.

Decision Intelligence and Technology

During the recent decade, we saw a proliferation of data lake or data hub technologies. In spite of substantial innovations in dealing with three V’s of big data (Volume, Variety, and Velocity), we have yet to see any noticeable impact on the decision-action capability of organizations.

That does not imply that handling and managing data is unimportant for decision intelligence, however, we can safely conclude that it need not be the first step and some crucial piece is missing in crafting a decision intelligence system. A well-designed decision intelligence system is less dependent on data as one might think, as it can help make effective decisions even with limited data and can tolerate errors and inconsistencies as well as deal with high degrees of uncertainty.

The purpose and scope of decision intelligence automation is to implement artificial intelligence agents operating by the directives of a decision making framework. The least a framework does is to provide a structure and discipline without which an organization is bound to stay at the lowest level of decision intelligence maturity.

Decision Intelligence Frameworks Today

Early frameworks assumed that decision-making occurs at conscious level of processing guided by rational behavior. Today’s understanding of decision-making theories is much more nuanced:-

The SEAL Decision Model- Evolved specifically for designing human-machine collaborative decision intelligence systems, this stands for sense, explore, act, and learn. Though still transformational in nature, SEAL is designed to support and augment fundamental cognitive processes of human decision making rather than imposing on people to learn unfamiliar paradigms.

On first glance, SEAL may appear similar to OODA, since four elements of OODA can be loosely mapped to elements of SEAL as follows:

Human-Machine Collaboration In Decision Intelligence

The details under these elements are different because of the intent of SEAL to achieve a man machine symbiosis by reducing cognitive burden of decision makers and due to its continuous business optimization focus by explicit incorporation of feedback loops and learning. Some of these differences are:

Unlike Observe in OODA which is focused on sensing the current situation with the reactive intent, Sense in SEAL is proactive by design and predicts future situations that qualify as opportunities early so that organizations have ample time to become ready to react.

Sense agents may reveal multiple opportunities from the same snapshot of observation, thereby, requiring branching of subsequent activity to address them concurrently. Sense in SEAL requires active collaboration among human and machine agents as neither of them on their own can handle massive amount of data and make sense out of it.

Selected alternatives (similar to OODA hypotheses) move to the Action phase where actions are actually executed either manually or via a process automation substrate.

Learning happens at multiple levels - for adaption and fine tuning of predictive models and man-machine interaction. At a macro level, it is about understanding and improving the efficacy of action alternatives executed during ACT phase.

In summary, while OODA and SEAL are similar in emphasizing that a disciplined and facts based approach to decision making is essential for sustainable success in any endeavor, SEAL provides a comprehensive framework for implementing a human-machine decision intelligence system.

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DECISION INTELLIGENCE FRAMEWORKS: THE OODA LOOP & SEAL – CHAPTER 01

Exploring the power of decision intelligence frameworks with the OODA Loop and SEAL. Discussion - how these methods can transform our approach to faster, smarter decision-making in any environment.

All of us, without exception, would love to tame the future and tilt odds in our favor all the time. This lofty aspiration and our incessant effort toward making right choices is what sets us apart from animal species. Decision making is a basic cognitive process of human behavior. Far from perfect, our prowess for decision making stands exposed more than ever in the hyper connected and rapidly changing world we live in.

Decision Intelligence: How can it help?

There is hardly any organization today that does not aspire to power their decisions and actions with intelligence. Enough evidence exists that those who can harness their organizational intelligence and align it to desired outcomes accrue a substantial advantage.

Over the decades of automation, significant strides have been made in codifying human experiential knowledge as well as extracting hidden knowledge from transactional data footprints.

The purview of decision intelligence is to explore outcome-focused and human-in-the-loop approaches to decision automation. A decision intelligence system is a man-machine collaborative system designed to enable and mature decision-action capability in an organization. A decision intelligence system plays a dual role:

A Story

In 1961, Col. John Boyd wrote "Aerial Attack Study”, which spoke about the best dogfighting tactics. In dogfights (close-range aerial battles), fighter pilots need to move at high speeds, avoid enemies while tracking them and keeping a contextual knowledge of objectives, terrains, fuel and other variables. His OODA loop was a concept designed for rational thinking in such chaotic situations.

He said that ambiguity will always be there. Our inability to properly make sense of our changing reality is the bigger hindrance. When circumstances change, we often fail to shift our perspective and continue to try to see the world as we feel it should be. Most important thing is to orient - be connected to reality and act accordingly.

The OODA Loop

The OODA loop (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act) is a four-step approach to decision-making that focuses on filtering available information, putting it in context and quickly making the most appropriate decision while also understanding that changes can be made as more data becomes available.

The strategy is applicable at an individual level as well as an organizational level. It is particularly useful in scenarios where competition is involved and where the ability to react to changing circumstances faster than an opponent leads to an advantage. Many modern environments can be described as volatile, uncertain, complex and ambiguous, or VUCA. Surviving and winning in this type of situation rests upon making better decisions. However, improving the quality of decision-making is something most organizations fail to do.

For example, if a company continues to make choices that do not see a positive return, they are failing to learn from their experiences. The OODA loop acknowledges this habit and provides an approach help make improvements.

OODA Loop Related Terminology

Before the OODA loop can be fully understood, a few related concepts need to be introduced which will aid in understanding it better:

How The OODA Loop Works: The Four Steps

Similar to other problem-solving methods, the OODA loop is an interactive, iterative process that entails repeating the cycle, observing and measuring results, reviewing and revising the initial decision and advancing to the next step. While the process is not always simple or linear, the four separate steps involved may be explained in organizational context or individual context as follows:

Observe: The first step is to identify the problem or threat and gain an overall understanding of the internal and external environment. In the corporate world, this can be equated to data gathering, where all information on the situation (organizational state, competitors, market, etc.,) is collected. The key point here is to recognize that the world is complex. All data is a snapshot in time and must be treated as such. Therefore, entities must gather whatever information is available as quickly as possible in order to be prepared to make decisions based on it.

Orient: This involves reflecting on what has been found during observations and considering what should be done next. It requires a significant level of situational awareness and understanding to make a conscious decision. Since some decisions are unconscious, or instinctual, this step involves considering what and why decisions are made prior to choosing a course of action. When applied on an individual level, this step can be done by creating mental models or mental rehearsal drills to place information into narratives that shape judgement. In organizational applications, situational models can be created with machine learning (ML) tools to identify potential outcomes while removing any bias.

Decide: This phase makes suggestions towards an action or response plan, taking into consideration all the potential outcomes. This can be accomplished through meetings or discussions that are focused around creating a roadmap for the entire organization.

Act: This pertains to carrying out the decision and related changes that need to be made in response to the decision. This step may also include any testing that is required before officially carrying out an action.

These phases have been broken out for the purposes of explanation, but in some real world scenarios they might happen in a fraction of a second. The four steps of the OODA Loop work together in a cycle.

Success Of the OODA Loop

Factor 01

One key to the success of the OODA loop is to make it as short as possible, minimizing reaction times in high-stakes situations. In the OODA loop’s simplest form, there is only one stimulus and one response, but that is not always the case. Hick’s Law can be applied to the reaction time of an OODA loop that has more than one stimulus or response, stating that when there are multiple options available in response to a stimulus, reaction time is slowed down.

Factor 02

The ability to make decisions faster than an opponent is important, but it is not only about speed. Tempo is also critical as the ability to rapidly speed up and slow down can generate unpredictability. Being unpredictable makes it difficult for opponents to understand and orientate themselves to what will happen next. Cycling through an OODA loop with more tempo than an opponent gives an organization more control of the environment and a better chance of succeeding.

***To be continued in Chapter 02 (Uses of the OODA Loop, Examples in Business, Alternatives, Decision Intelligence and Technology, Human-Machine Collaboration In Decision Intelligence)

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OKRS UNCOVERED: HOW OBJECTIVES & KEY RESULTS CAN DRIVE—OR DERAIL—YOUR VISION

OKRs are powerful—but not foolproof. The key is clarity: knowing what matters most, and how progress really looks.

Why do some companies seem unstoppable while others stall? The secret often lies in how they set and pursue goals. Enter OKRs – A Discussion. OKR is an acronym for Objectives and Key Results — a framework for visioning and setting goals within an organization that was popularized by Google.

We often wonder how successful companies continue to navigate and grow and know exactly what direction to go. The trick seems to be an almost irresponsibly aggressive approach to growing key objectives with a talented group of people.

Today, OKR is used at a seemingly broad variety of companies, from larger established firms like Anheuser-Busch and Deloitte to younger tech companies like Eventbrite and Twitter. Therefore, what are OKRs and how do they work, and — most importantly — do they work. Many leaders ask how they can align their team to the vision and set goals within their team.

What is OKR?

OKR is a goal-setting methodology originally developed by Andy Grove, former CEO and Chairman of Intel. In his book, High Output Management, he describes OKRs as being the answer to two questions:

We can expand the definitions of each part of the OKR to something like:

Objectives: Memorable, qualitative descriptions of what needs to be accomplished in a given timeframe. They may be ambitious and feel somewhat uncomfortable. They may also be short, inspirational, and public so everyone knows what everyone else is working on.

Key Results: A set of 2–5 metrics that measure progress towards the Objective. The focus must be on an outcome, not an activity (shouldn’t include words like “help”, “consult”, or “analyse”).

John Doerr, who learned OKR from Andy Grove while at Intel, was the one to teach and instil OKR at Google. He explains that the objective can be broad, aggressive, and even inspirational. But for the key results, the more specific, measurable, and verifiable, the better. Doerr recommends setting a limit of three to five OKRs per cycle, and that each objective should be tied to five or fewer key results.

OKR – An Example

Let’s say our business relies on giving a better customer experience than our competitors. So, our quarterly objective may be - to create an awesome customer experience. But how do we know if we are succeeding in doing this? What form of measurement shows we are creating an “awesome” customer experience?

Net Promoter Score (a tool that measures what people think of the brand) and customer churn rate (how many customers we are losing a month) may be some metrics. A great experience would mean people both say nice things about us and staying or coming back. By saying we want to improve our NPS score and lower churn, it sounds like we are willing to do whatever it takes to make our customers happy. But to run a sustainable business, we need to keep costs under control. Which is why we may add a third Key Result around cost as a countermeasure. Therefore, the sample OKR may be:

Example — YouTube

Suppose the goal is to increase the total usage time of Google products. The tricky part is finding the right metrics in which to progress. Understanding the business is key in being able to identify key growth nuances and folding those nuances into company objectives. Similar to Facebook, YouTube wants viewership, measured in minutes, to go up, because a fixed percentage of that viewership are advertisements. So as total time goes up, so do revenues.

In this case the Key Results may reveal part of the strategy to increase watch time. The first key result sets a numerical goal to hit for the objective. Having this number is crucial (and theoretically could be included in the objective itself) to score the outcome of this objective.

Other examples of OKRs:

Why use OKRs?

At first brush, the appeal of OKR is obvious. It simplifies everything. By calling out objectives, you help your team identify and zero in on what matters most. With the key results, you create measurable benchmarks that help clarify what tangibly needs to happen, and likely hold folks accountable for those outcomes. And lastly, it’s probable that OKRs promote alignment and transparency across the team since everyone knows what each others’ OKRs would be.

Making OKRs Effective

There are nuances around how effective OKRs are in practice. John Doerr himself admitted that “goal setting isn’t bulletproof” and OKRs should not be blindly nor rigidly adopted. Some learnings from those who have used OKRS are:

Know why we are implementing them:- . . . For OKR to work, we have to have a deeper “why” for how OKRs might help you achieve that performance.

Focus on Crafting of Effective OKRs:- . . .

Separate OKRs from compensation — and try hard to separate it from performance reviews:- . . . Tying OKRs to compensation can cause employees to purposefully set lower goals in order to achieve them. Combining performance reviews with OKRs can be counterproductive since someone’s past performance is emphasized more than the binary result of whether the goal was achieved. This can be a challenge to achieve in practice.

Someone who hits their OKRs is going to look better than someone who totally fails to hit them. As a result, it’s important to consider the unintended negative consequences OKRs might have on your team’s performance.

Challenges of OKRs

Missing the big picture:- . . . When goals are too specific people can focus attention so narrowly that they overlook other important features of a task. For example, new ideas or feedback that are brought forward can often be ignored or seen as irrelevant, when in fact they are salient to the task at hand.

Optimizing for short-term, over long-term :- . . . Sometimes the narrowness of goals can come at a cost. It is easy to react to immediate outcomes and focus myopically on short-term gains and to lose sight of the potentially devastating long-term effects on the organization.

Dilution of focus:- . . . Research has shown that individuals are prone to focus only on one goal at a time. As a result, the OKR framework which recommends 3–5 objectives at a time, may prove to be distracting, since multiple goals are being pursued.

Shifting risk attitudes :- . . . Studies show how goals tend to increase risky behaviour. Depending on what domain we are in, this could be positive — but if we are in a negotiation situation, a higher propensity for risk can harm negotiation performance.

Promoting unethical behaviour: - . . . Goal setting can encourage cheating behaviour. For instance, one study found that “participants were more likely to misrepresent their performance level when they had a specific, challenging goal than when they did not.

Harmful to learning, cooperation, and intrinsic motivation:- . . . Goals can detract from our ability to learn and cooperate, as well as, our intrinsic motivation to do a task well. Narrow goals can inspire performance but prevent learning. Goals can foster a culture of competition that can be adverse to an organization.

Motives for Collapse of OKRs (Managerial Perspective)

Smaller teams and organizations tend to have faster rates of change, and so for them, it felt like more work to manage the framework to stay nimble as a team, than to simply execute on the work itself.

Concluding Thoughts

The most salient feature of an OKR is the thinking it produces, i.e., focus on what matters most, and think about clearly how we know if we are going to get there. Whether that’s through the precise OKR framework — or not — is less important.

OKRs aren’t a silver bullet. They won’t guarantee success, and in fact, poorly designed ones can backfire—narrowing focus too much, encouraging short-termism, or stifling creativity.

But when crafted thoughtfully, OKRs act like a compass and speedometer in one: they point us in the right direction and measure how far we’ve come. They force leaders to answer the tough questions—what really matters, and how will we know if we’re getting there?

The research is persuasive: Goals can do more harm than good, especially if overprescribed. At the same time, there is plenty of research that also shows the power of well-defined, thoughtfully instituted goals. In the end, OKRs are less about filling templates and more about building clarity. More so, it is enlightening to know the range of negative consequences so that leaders can consider (a) if a goal-setting framework like OKR would work in our own team and (b) how in general to think about setting goals productively in our team.

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HENRI FAYOL VS ABRAHAM MASLOW: BEHAVIOURAL PERSPECTIVE ON LEADERSHIP

Conversation on how Henri Fayol’s management principles & Maslow’s hierarchy of needs create a complete leadership model that blends structure with human motivation.

In most careers, there comes a point where technical tasks give way to leading people, setting strategy, and shaping vision. Today, that transition is expected — but in the 19th century, many companies simply promoted their best technicians. Henri Fayol challenged that norm, arguing that the qualities of a great worker did not automatically make a great manager.

Who Was Henri Fayol?

Henri Fayol was one of the first to formally define what effective management looks like. His 14 Principles of Management identified the skills needed to lead well — insights that still influence management theory today. Alongside these, he created Five Primary Functions of Management that provide a big-picture framework for running any organisation.

What Is Administrative Theory?

Fayol called managerial skills "administrative functions." In his 1916 book, "Administration Industrielle et Générale," he shared his experiences of managing a workforce. Fayol’s book – and his 14 Principles of Management – helped to form what became known as Administrative Theory. It looks at the organization from the top down, and sets out steps for managers to get the best from employees and to run a business efficiently.

Caveat: . . . . . . . . . . Administrative Theory is characterized by people "on the ground" who share personal experiences, improve practices, and help others to run an organization. This contrasts with the Scientific Management Ideas led by Frederick Taylor , which experimented with how individuals work to boost productivity.

The 14 Principles of Management — A Modern Revisit

Fayol’s principles were groundbreaking in recognising management as a profession in its own right. They emphasise administrative skill over technical know-how, and they remain surprisingly relevant today.

Fayol’s Five Functions of Management

If the principles cover the how of management, the functions explain the what. These five big-picture responsibilities guide where managers should focus their time and attention:

Is Fayolism Still Relevant Today?

Fayol highlighted the differences between managerial and technical skills. What's more, he was one of the first to recognize that "manager" is a profession – one whose skills need to be researched, taught and developed. We only have to look at the language he used to see that Fayol was writing over 100 years ago. For example, he refers to employees as "men."

But, without the contributions of these pioneers, such as Fayol, we would probably be teaching industrial engineering, sociology, economics, or perhaps ergonomics to those who aspire to manage. To be doing so would push us back to the 19th century, when technical know-how reigned supreme as a path to managerial responsibility. When we look closer, we discover that many of Fayol's points are fresh and relevant. Such as:

Some of these ideas may seem a bit obvious, but at the time they were ground-breaking. And the fact that they've stuck shows just how well Fayol's Principles work.

Criticism Of Fayol's Principles Of Management

That's not to say that everyone is a fan of Fayol's Administrative Theory. Some detractors claim that:

The Interlinks Between the Theories Of Henry Fayol & Abraham Maslow

Fayol saw organisational success as the product of clear goals, strong planning, and disciplined execution. These principles also had to be supplemented and supported by discipline and anticipation. He believed these skills could be taught, refined, and applied across all kinds of social organisations — from businesses to governments, and was concerned about improving the quality of management.

Maslow’s theory of motivation, on the other hand, took a more psychological approach, which focused on employee motivation. This theory proposed that within every person lied a hierarchy of five needs – starting with physiological needs and ascending to safety, social, esteem and finally, self-actualization needs. Hence, in order to motivate a person, Maslow stated that lowest level needs must be substantially satisfied before the next level can be activated and so on.

Application of Fayol’s Concepts

Fayol believed that the responsibility of general management is to lead the enterprise toward its objective by making effective and efficient use of available resources.

Fayol’s five functions are the rules of his administrative doctrine. He had shown sustained effort that his administrative principles could be applied to all social organizations from the family to the state. He stressed that the 14 principles must be flexible and adaptable to the situation at hand. The principles of management were aimed at helping managers manage more effectively.

Application of Maslow’s Concepts

In Maslow’s theory, it is assumed that when an individual has the knowledge and skills to perform his or her job, a manager can influence their motivation to achieve levels of excellence. Maslow’s five needs are arranged in a hierarchy of importance that can be described as prepotency. The higher-level needs are not important and will not manifest till lower-needs are met and satisfied. This hierarchy can also be divided into two orders of needs. The lower-order needs are physiological, safety and social concerns, and the higher-order needs are esteem and self-actualization concerns.

Comparisons

Fayol’s ideas of the five functions and 14 principles are good frameworks for managers to follow if they want to manage more efficiently and effectively. Maslow’s ideas on how an individual behaves in a working environment has helped us understand the importance of motivation complementing administration from a managerial point of view. These two concepts complement each other as they help managers better manage administratively and psychologically. It depicted how effectively and efficiently a workplace should function and how employees should be motivated to commit and perform at their best. Hence, Fayol and Maslow’s ideas and concepts have indeed helped us understand the job of getting things done through people.

The Interlinks: Management, Leadership And Transformational Leadership

Management is about the mind. It is the manager’s job to stay focused on the task and goals, to set action plans, thereby helping followers deal with complexity. Leadership is more about the heart, or staying focused on the people and their individual characteristics, creating a shared vision that helps followers to participate in a change process. Transformational leadership is about breaking down resistance to change. This is done both through “assigning meaning to change” and through the change within the leader (him)/(her)self.

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THE CASE FOR LIVING LIFE UNFILTERED: TIME TO STOP OBSERVING & START IMMERSING- CHAPTER 02

(Discussed previously- Chapter -01: When Presence Gets Drowned Out: A Lesson in Stillness and Self-Awareness, The Need to Stop Remarking & Begin Living, Comparison Amplifies Detachment, Beyond the Filter: Escaping the Trap of Performative Living, The Trap of Observing Over Experiencing)

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Beyond the Guidebook: Living the Experience

Yet many of us fall into this trap, mistaking preparation for engagement. We research, plan, and anticipate, but when the moment arrives, we remain spectators rather than participants. The guidebook, meant to enhance exploration, often becomes a crutch—a way to feel prepared without fully stepping in. Instead of immersing in the atmosphere, we check off highlights, reducing the world to a list rather than an experience.

Life, like travel, isn’t meant to be studied from a distance. It demands participation. The most transformative moments happen when we stop analyzing and start living—when we close the book and step fully into the unknown.

From Scrolling to Sensing: Reclaiming Life Through Presence

Modern life conditions us to observe, not engage. We collect facts, narrate our days, and confuse awareness with presence. But life isn’t meant to be studied from a distance—it’s meant to be felt. This constant consumption—of content, products, upgrades—masks a deeper void. We chase fulfillment through purchases, remodels, dopamine hits, even endless doom-scrolling. Yet none of it satisfies, because what we’re truly missing is mindful, immersive experience.

We numb discomfort instead of leaning into it. We scroll to escape, drink to relax, upgrade to impress—but still feel disconnected. Want proof? Try experiencing one moment without labeling it. Pass a flower—don’t name it, compare it, or photograph it. Just see it. Smell it. Let it be. That’s authentic living—life without commentary, stripped of filters.

We don’t need more analysis. We need less distraction and more present moment awareness. We need the raw, unedited experience—not the menu, but the meal.

Overvalued vs. Undervalued: What We Get Wrong

We chase shiny distractions but ignore what truly sustains us. Society glorifies busyness over stillness, performance over presence, consumption over connection. We devour information yet absorb little wisdom, drowning in data but starving for understanding. We overvalue appearing knowledgeable but undervalue true insight. We seek security in the familiar but dismiss discomfort—the very force that drives growth. We consume relentlessly but rarely experience life unfiltered. Breaking free means rejecting the menu for the meal—choosing depth over distraction, engagement over observation. Not just knowing life, but living it.

Overvalued: Busyness. Undervalued: Focus.

Motion isn’t action. Society glorifies packed schedules, but real progress comes from doing less, better. We mistake overwork for impact, busyness for purpose. Think of the endless to-do list—checking emails while on calls, juggling tasks but finishing none. The day feels full, yet nothing truly moves forward. Activity without direction is just distraction. The unspoken belief? “If I’m busy, I must be important.” But true significance isn’t measured by how much we do, but what actually matters.

Overvalued: Unlimited Freedom. Undervalued: Smart Constraints.

We think total freedom leads to greatness—but without structure, we drift instead of create. Constraints aren’t limits; they fuel focus and mastery. We idolize total freedom, believing it breeds success—but without constraints, freedom becomes chaos. True progress comes from well-designed limits. Constraints aren’t shackles; they’re the framework for mastery.

Take India’s dabbawalas—Mumbai’s legendary lunch delivery system. With minimal technology and strict operational constraints, they achieve near-perfect efficiency, delivering 200,000 meals daily with an error rate of just 1 in 16 million. Their rigid system of timing, color coding, and logistics doesn’t hinder them—it ensures excellence.

The same applies elsewhere. An artist thrives with a creative deadline. A writer excels with a daily word count. A professional gains focus by structuring their workflow. Less randomness, more precision. Constraints don’t restrict—they refine. Less freedom, more momentum. Discipline isn’t restriction—it’s empowerment. Constraints don’t stifle creativity—they sharpen it.

Overvalued: Chasing the “New.” Undervalued: Mastering the Fundamentals.

We’re addicted to novelty—new strategies, revolutionary hacks, the next big thing. But no trick can replace the work. A new fitness trend won’t fix inconsistency. A new productivity app won’t replace deep focus. A new writing method is useless if you’re not writing.

Take Indian cricket as an example. The rise of Virat Kohli wasn’t fueled by chasing shortcuts or gimmicks. His success came from relentless discipline—perfecting his technique, maintaining peak fitness, and staying mentally sharp. India’s dominance in cricket isn’t about flashy innovations; it’s built on a deep-rooted culture of mastering the basics—grit, endurance, and technical precision.

The best in any field don’t chase novelty—they refine the fundamentals, day in and day out. Want to improve? Do the work. Then do it again.

Overvalued: Winning. Undervalued: Improving.

Obsessing over quick wins leads to fraud, corner-cutting, and hollow success. CEOs manipulate earnings, students cheat, athletes dope—all to get an edge that doesn’t last. The real power is in getting better every single day. Kobe Bryant didn’t build his legacy on a few victories—he built it in empty gyms before sunrise, outworking everyone. The lesson? When you chase improvement relentlessly, winning takes care of itself.

We’ve never had more access to knowledge—yet rarely felt more adrift. Wisdom doesn’t emerge from noise; it lives in action. We now confuse knowing with doing, analysis with experience, and momentum with depth. In chasing success, we often bypass the process—mistaking motivation for discipline, novelty for mastery. But life isn’t lived through theories, titles, or preparation; it’s shaped in the doing—raw, present, imperfect.

To break free from passive consumption and curated validation, we must strip away distraction and step fully into reality. The richness we seek isn’t in the menu. It’s in the meal.

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THE CASE FOR LIVING LIFE UNFILTERED: TIME TO STOP OBSERVING & START IMMERSING- CHAPTER 01

Are We Living Our Life—Or Just Learning About It? Are we just lost in Knowledge. Are we reading the Guidebook Instead of Exploring the Destination? Telling ourselves about our life is not the same as living it. We scroll, we study, we plan—but are we actually living?

When Presence Gets Drowned Out: A Lesson in Stillness and Self-Awareness

After a day and a half on my motorcycle, carving through long highways and dusty backroads, I reached the marshlands—wide, breathing, untamed. The air was thick with damp earth and the sharp tang of distant salt. This was meant to be a moment of stillness—a chance to surrender to the raw beauty of an untouched world.

I stepped into a small wooden boat with two others. The morning light filtered through mangrove branches. Nature held its breath. Silence settled like a second skin. The water curled around us like dark silk, and the sleepy sky cast a soft glow. The silence was perfect—until it wasn’t.

Then she began to speak.

She was striking—confident, intelligent, and explorative. But her words came fast, dense with facts and stories, leaving no space between them. She narrated the entire journey: birds, trees, explorers, boats, climate patterns, root systems. Her voice sliced through the hush that had wrapped itself around the wetlands, stripping the journey of its quiet magic. It was a non-stop stream of sound—a performance of knowledge that drowned out everything else.

The Trap of Observing Over Experiencing

What could have been a mindful, sensory experience—one rooted in emotional presence—became a intellectual overload. I wanted to feel the landscape: the way mist wrapped itself around my head, the whisper of reeds in the wind, the subtle rhythm of life beneath the water. But instead of being allowed to connect, I was being taught. Or worse—talked at.

While she explained mangrove root systems, my fingers skimmed the cool surface of the water, aching for a connection that had already slipped away. Her voice, for all its confidence, left little room for curiosity. There was no pause, no invitation to reflect. Just assertion. It was as if the land wasn’t enough unless explained. I watched the sun rise through the mangroves while she listed migratory patterns. My body was present, but my attention kept getting pulled away.

It was a moment rich with potential for self-awareness and emotional attunement. Instead, it became an exercise in patience and restraint. I wasn’t just observing the marshlands—I was navigating the noise of someone else’s need to be heard.

Two hours later, we returned to shore. I stepped off the boat not refreshed, but hollowed out. The marsh had been full of life, stories, and quiet wisdom—but I never got to hear it. Because sometimes, the loudest voice in the room isn’t the wisest. And silence—true, intentional silence—isn’t emptiness. It’s presence.

Beyond the Filter: Escaping the Trap of Performative Living

In today’s hyper-connected world, we’ve become spectators in our own lives—confusing visibility with value, and knowledge with lived experience. Like reading a menu and mistaking it for a meal, we consume information instead of engaging fully with life.

The need for Social validation accelerates this performative culture, where even stillness is staged. We meditate and wonder if it’s post-worthy. We cook not to taste, but to capture. Authentic living is replaced by curated moments. This isn’t just digital noise—it’s a deeper drift from emotional intelligence and self-awareness. We stop asking, “How does this feel?” and instead ask, “How does this look?” The pressure to curate our lives turns real moments into performances, disconnecting us from the very experiences we crave. True engagement isn’t about impressing others—it’s about being fully present.

Comparison Only Amplifies Detachment

Social awareness turns into silent competition, where experiences are measured against polished versions of others’ lives. Instead of embracing the moment as it unfolds, individuals judge it by how well it aligns with expectations. Joy is diluted by the pressure to match, exceed, or justify—turning exploration into performance rather than discovery.

In the end, the need to “get it right” distances people from what’s real. Conversations become calculations, interactions are filtered through social norms, and raw experience is lost in the pursuit of approval. The irony? The deeper connections people crave remain just out of reach—not because they aren’t available, but because true engagement demands presence, not perfection.

The Need to Stop Remarking & Begin Living

But a quiet rebellion is rising. Like the quiet quitting movement, many are rejecting performance in favor of presence—choosing depth over display, and connection over commentary.

Modern life teaches us to analyze instead of experience. We collect facts, narrate our days, and observe from a distance—mistaking knowledge for presence. But life isn’t meant to be studied; it’s meant to be felt. Awareness alone isn’t enough. To truly live, we must stop explaining every moment and start immersing in it.

In The Book: On the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are, Alan Watts warns against this detachment, likening it to reading a menu instead of eating the meal. The more we intellectualize our existence, the more we reduce it to a concept rather than an experience. We live in a state of observation—aware but not immersed, informed but not engaged.

Society reinforces this detachment. We measure our lives against expectations, shaping experiences to fit curated narratives. Instead of feeling joy, we analyze whether it looks like joy. Instead of being present, we ask how the moment will be remembered. Authenticity is lost in the performance of living, where depth is sacrificed for appearance. But life is not an idea to be studied—it is a reality to be lived. The challenge is to break free from passive observation and step fully into experience. To taste, feel, and be—without needing to explain.

The Illusion of Freedom

Our hyper-individual culture prizes freedom, but the freedom we celebrate often leaves us more isolated. We can choose everything—our schedule, our partner, our path—yet we are lonelier than ever. True freedom isn’t about more choices. It’s about knowing what we choose for. It’s about surrendering to depth, not skimming for breadth.

(To be continued in Chapter 02 - Beyond the Guidebook: Living the Experience, From Scrolling to Sensing: Reclaiming Life Through Presence, The Concept of Overvalued vs. Undervalued: What We Get Wrong)

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RETHINKING THE ZERO-SUM MINDSET: UNLOCKING ABUNDANCE IN CONNECTION, COOPERATION, AND EMOTIONAL GROWTH

Discover how rethinking zero-sum beliefs about love, trust, and leadership can unlock abundance in relationships, parenting, and emotional intelligence.

In a poker game, someone wins only when others lose. But in love or trust, everyone can win—if we stop treating them like poker chips. What if we've been wrong about how relationships work? In a world driven by competition, where everyone is striving for the best, the concept of a zero-sum situation can often define the outcome. In such scenarios, one person's gain directly results in another's loss, creating a dynamic where no new value is created—only redistribution. Whether it is in the world of sports, business, or entertainment, these zero-sum situations influence the decisions and strategies of those involved.

Introduction to Zero-Sum Thinking

Zero-sum situations are those where one party's gain is directly offset by another party's loss, with no overall increase or decrease in the total value or resources. This concept often arises in competitive environments, where the total "pie" is fixed, and players are vying for a larger share. In India, we see these dynamics playing out in a variety of fields, from fantasy sports leagues to the fiercely competitive world of cricket.

The Reality of Zero-Sum Thinking: When One Win Equals Another’s Loss

In a zero-sum game, no one can "win" without someone else "losing" an equivalent amount. In other words, the sum of gains and losses in the system is zero. If one person gains, someone else must lose an equivalent amount. For example, in a poker game, if one player wins $100, that $100 is taken from other players. The total money in the game doesn’t increase or decrease, it just shifts between players.

This scarcity mindset plays out across industries. In the smartphone market, Apple and Samsung compete for a limited share. When Samsung’s Galaxy Note 7 was recalled in 2016, Apple gained new users—illustrating how one company’s loss directly fueled another’s growth.

In winner-takes-all scenarios, only one can rise: one CEO is chosen, one athlete wins Olympic gold. These are classic zero-sum outcomes—where success is scarce, and every victory implies someone else’s defeat.

These are zero-sum situations—where one person’s success means another’s loss. Whether it’s a job, a championship, or a highly sought-after opportunity, we’ve all felt the tension of competing for something scarce. The stakes are high, and the suspense is real—because in a zero-sum game, victory for one means defeat for another. But what happens when we apply this mindset to relationships, trust, or leadership—resources that don’t have to be scarce?

Rethinking Social Resources: Are We Operating with a Scarcity Mindset?

In a world where competition for material resources is the norm, we rarely stop to question whether the same mindset applies to intangible assets like love, trust, and leadership. Can there only be one leader in a room? If you deeply trust one friend, does that mean you trust another less? Does a mother’s love diminish with each child she has? The answers to these questions reveal a fundamental flaw in how we perceive human relationships.

Trust isn't a limited currency—it grows stronger the more it’s given. This is precisely what new research from Professor Fan Yang and Dr. Kevin Wei at the University of Chicago is uncovering. They are challenging the widespread belief that social resources are scarce and finite, exposing how our assumptions about competition might be shaping the way we navigate relationships.

Challenging Zero-Sum Beliefs in Social Resources

Professor Yang and Dr. Wei’s groundbreaking study examines how both adults and children perceive social resources—particularly love and trust. While much of the existing research focuses on zero-sum biases, where one person’s gain is seen as another’s loss, Yang and Wei sought to flip the perspective: How much of our social behavior is shaped by these limiting beliefs?

As Yang notes, “The literature often emphasizes the prevalence of zero-sum biases, painting a picture of people as narrow-sighted and competitive. We wanted to explore what people perceive as non-zero-sum, and why.”

The Misconception of Finite Social Resources

In their study, Yang and Wei compared the perceptions of competitive, material resources—such as candies or popularity—with non-competitive resources like love, trust, and air. What they found was clear- Social resources are not viewed as zero-sum. Participants generally understood that love and trust could be extended to multiple people without reducing the capacity to give more. A mother can love each child equally, and one friend’s trust doesn’t prevent the ability to trust others.

This fundamentally shifts how we view relationships. Unlike material goods, which have to be divided among individuals, emotional and social resources can be freely shared and multiplied. This finding challenges the widespread notion that trust, affection, or leadership are limited commodities—something many people have unconsciously accepted.

This study is part of a broader conversation on the renewability of social resources. Scholars like Robert Cialdini and Daniel Goleman have long argued that resources such as trust, empathy, and emotional intelligence are not limited, but can actually grow when nurtured.

Both Cialdini and Goleman support the conclusion that social resources are renewable. They grow through interaction, cooperation, and emotional investment, rather than through competition.

The Economic Power of Social Capital: Lessons from the UK

In the UK, there's growing recognition that social capital—networks built on trust and cooperation—is key to long-term economic prosperity. Emerging research and policy discussions suggest that boosting social cohesion can deliver tangible financial returns.

One striking estimate: if the UK raised social trust to levels seen in Nordic countries, it could add £100 billion annually to its economy. This reframes traditional thinking, showing that investing in social infrastructure—from community centers to local initiatives—drives both well-being and economic growth.

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The government is struggling to deliver on its number-one priority: to grow the economy. Amid market turmoil, the chancellor, Rachel Reeves,

Moving Beyond the Zero-Sum Mentality

Shifting away from a zero-sum mindset requires rethinking how we view success, leadership, and relationships. In competitive environments, it’s easy to assume that one person’s gain must come at another’s loss. However, research and real-world examples show that social resources—like trust, influence, and collaboration—can be expanded rather than divided.

Companies that prioritize employee well-being and cooperation tend to outperform those that rely on cutthroat competition. Nations that invest in social trust see stronger economies and better public health outcomes. By recognizing that resources like knowledge, kindness, and opportunity can multiply when shared, individuals and institutions can unlock new levels of success. The future belongs to those who understand that growth isn’t about taking from others—it’s about building together.

Rethinking Scarcity: How Children Perceive Social Resources

For decades, conventional wisdom has suggested that children—especially younger ones—are more likely to hold zero-sum beliefs about social resources like love, trust, and leadership. The assumption has been that children, being naturally attuned to scarcity, would see these resources as finite, competing for attention and affection. However, emerging research challenges this notion, offering a fresh perspective on how children understand the distribution of social resources.

A study involving children aged 4 to 9 found that younger children were significantly less likely than older children to view social resources as limited—even when told they were non-renewable. This finding contradicts previous studies that linked children’s early understanding of fairness with a competitive, scarcity-driven mindset. Instead, the results suggest that children intuitively see love, trust, and leadership as renewable and shareable, rather than something to be fought over.

The Abundance Mindset: Why Social Resources Aren’t Zero-Sum

Leading psychologists and social scientists agree: social resources like trust, empathy, and leadership are not zero-sum. Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, emphasizes that trust and empathy grow through connection—they expand when shared, not shrink. Nobel laureate Amartya Sen similarly argues that scarcity is often a perception, not a fixed truth—especially in the realm of human relationships and social dynamics.

Recent research supports this abundance mindset, showing that even children intuitively view love, trust, and leadership as renewable and shareable. This challenges the belief that competition for social resources is natural—it may, in fact, be a learned behavior.

In rural India, women-led self-help groups (SHGs) demonstrate how shared leadership creates collective empowerment. Organizations like SEWA (Self-Employed Women’s Association) show that one woman’s success fuels others’ progress—proving that leadership and opportunity can multiply, not divide. If children naturally see social resources as abundant, we have the opportunity to nurture that belief into adulthood—reshaping education, social policy, and community life around cooperation over competition.

The Implications for Child Development and Education

This shift in perspective has significant implications for child development, particularly in areas like parenting and education. If children naturally see social resources as renewable, it challenges traditional methods that focus on teaching scarcity and competition. The findings suggest that children may be more naturally inclined toward cooperation and sharing than previously believed.

Emotional & Social Learning: Moving Beyond Zero-Sum Thinking

Cooperation Over Competition: Rethinking How Children Learn to Relate

New research reveals a powerful shift in how children perceive social dynamics—favoring cooperation over competition. This challenges long-held assumptions that children are naturally competitive and scarcity-driven. Instead, it suggests that many children are inherently inclined toward empathy, sharing, and emotional connection.

These findings call for a reimagining of social-emotional learning (SEL) frameworks. Rather than centering fairness and rivalry, SEL can be reshaped to highlight the renewable nature of trust, love, and leadership—helping children understand that social resources grow when shared.

This shift has major implications for child development, education, and parenting. By embracing an abundance mindset in early learning, we can raise a generation that sees collaboration—not competition—as the path to success.

From classrooms to homes, fostering emotional intelligence and mutual support builds more inclusive, resilient communities—where growth is collective and relationships thrive.

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BEYOND PERKS: WHY COMPANY CULTURE IS THE INVISIBLE HAND THAT SHAPES SUCCESS

Discussion - What truly defines company culture, how to decode and shift it, and why leadership behaviors matter more than mission statements in shaping workplace culture.

Everyone wants to improve their company culture. Culture has become the ultimate buzzword these days. Leaders also seem to talk about it all the time. Let’s look past the buzz and grasp the roots of organizational culture. It’s not the mission statement on the wall or the free coffee in the lounge that defines company culture. It’s what happens when no one’s watching. If we want to influence our company culture, we have to start with a keen understanding of what culture actually is.

What Is Company Culture?

Culture is the thing we cannot necessarily touch and feel — it is the invisible binds and unspoken rules that enforce “how people do things around here.” However, this definition can be insufficient at times. “The way we do things” feels awfully vague and amorphous, especially when it comes to thinking about how to intentionally create a company culture we’re proud of. As a result, our attempts to influence culture get muddled. We often mistake surface-level signs (like perks, posters, or policies) for true culture. These are expressions of culture, not culture itself.

According to MIT Sloan Management Review, culture is "a system of shared values (what is important) and norms (appropriate attitudes and behaviors)." We conflate culture with surface-level relics, confusing culture with “Things To Make People Feel Good.” - ping pong tables, happy hours and free lunches. Sure, those are part of “the way we do things” — but it doesn’t explain why we are doing those things. Culture includes that why.

Measuring Company Culture

We can’t. And we don’t want to. Culture isn’t meant to be measured. Why? Because culture, technically defined, is the artefacts, espoused values and beliefs, and basic underlying assumptions that people have. And that can’t be measured quantitatively. Measuring/ quantifying it may erode the point of culture. Culture is an organization’s compass for behaviour. It’s what people use to decide what actions are acceptable, and what are not. For example, at some places it may guide people to publicly report a mistake. At other places, it nudges people to brush a similar mistake under the rug.

Measuring the compass itself doesn’t do you much good. Because if we don’t see culture as a lever that influences what we are trying to accomplish as a team, and instead as the thing itself we are trying to maintain, we lose sight of culture’s power in the first place: Culture helps a group of people get what they want done, done.

As a result, what we can measure are the outputs of culture. The observable behaviours and indicators we see as the consequences of our culture. Possibly the most important output to gauge is progress. Studies show how progress, more than anything, influences employee motivation. This means defining what “progress” looks like on a day-to-day basis. Is it the speed by which things are happening? Is it the quality of the work being produced? Is it the number of people we are helping because our work product exists?

It could also mean asking questions like how helpful managers are in supporting people to make progress, or how frequently they encounter frustrating obstacles in a given week. Therefore: If we want to measure culture, we need to start with clearly defining what the outputs of a successful, healthy culture looks like in our context.

Ignoring Culture Can Be Fatal

Take Uber. At its peak, it had a wildly successful product and global reach—but an unchecked culture of aggression and unethical behavior at the top created widespread toxicity. The result? Brand damage, employee exits, and a CEO ousting. Culture isn’t just "soft stuff." It shapes how feedback is given, how conflicts are handled, what behaviors get rewarded and whether innovation is safe or stifled.

Fundamentals of culture

Why this matters

More often than not, there is a misalignment between the invisible and visible layers. The things we actually believe, versus the things we say we believe and the things we do to show it. Perhaps the most glaring case has been Uber.

If we are looking to truly shift our company’s culture, we have to zoom in on this bottom most layer: our basic underlying assumptions. What we truly believe — not always what we say or outwardly show — is what drives the company’s culture. Changing the company culture is not about just changing the visible signs. Getting beer taps installed in the kitchens doesn’t make the culture more friendly. Nor does building an onsite gym mean the culture all of sudden cares about employees’ health and well-being. Changing the company culture also is not about just changing the espoused values and beliefs. Saying at all-company meetings, “We believe in honesty and transparency” or writing “We believe in diversity and inclusion” on a website doesn’t automatically make those things true.

Changing company culture is about tapping into the core beliefs of each individual, understanding what their basic underlying assumptions are, and creating an environment where those can be listened to, brought together, and reacted to. If we can understand company culture, we can improve it.

Classification of Culture Types: The Schneider Model

The Schneider cultural model isn’t a new approach but it is relevant today. William Schneider describes culture as the answer of “How we do things around here to succeed?” No one culture type is better than another. They only have strengths and weaknesses. Depending on the type and nature of work, different types of culture may be a better ﬁt. Companies typically have a dominant culture with aspects from other cultures. Different departments or groups may have different cultures. (e.g. development vs. operations), and these differences can lead to conﬂict.

Four Cultural Archetypes: Schneider's Culture Model

The Schneider Model identifies the primary, underlying culture which shapes the organisation. There are 4 main types: - Control - Cultivation - Collaboration – Competence

Control cultures (COMPANY/REALITY oriented) are process-driven; the company’s success depends on data, processes, etc. Many energy, aviation and defense companies have control cultures. Control cultures prize objectivity. Emotions, subjectivity, and ‘soft’ concepts take everyone’s eye off the ball and potentially get the organization in trouble. Empiricism and the systematic examination of externally generated facts are highly valued. Control cultures want no competition – they want to be the only players in town. Control cultures are command-and-control/ hierarchical- Leaders manage the work. Examples: The military, Police, Exxon.

Collaboration cultures (PEOPLE/REALITY oriented) – people work together towards a shared goal. The Collaboration culture springs from the household. Relationships are key to getting things accomplished. Google is an example, though it also has cultivation culture elements. The way to success is to put a collection of people together, to build these people into a team, to create their positive touching relationship with one another and to trust them with fully applying one another as resources. Status and rank take a back seat.

Cultivation Cultures (PEOPLE/POSSIBILITY oriented) are often cantered around a greater mission. Cultivation Culture is about learning and growing with a sense of purpose. Examples include religious organizations, non-proﬁts, social impact organizations. Leaders remove obstacles that impede attaining the company’s mission. Example – Zappos.

Competence Cultures (COMPANY/POSSIBILITY oriented) are innovative (possibility) and utilize the best talent to bring ideas to bear. Examples: Deloitte, Apple. In a competence culture, being superior or the best is chief. This can mean having the best product, service, process or technology in the marketplace. This culture gains its uniqueness by combining possibility with rationalism. What might be and the logic for getting there are what count.

Fundamental values are knowledge and information. Formalities and emotional considerations are not important compared to proven accomplishment.

Culture Change: Where Leadership Matters Most

Culture flows from the top. Leaders model what’s acceptable—intentionally or not. Personal leadership behaviors cascade down to shape norms.

Consider Microsoft under Satya Nadella. By shifting from a "know-it-all" to a "learn-it-all" mindset, Nadella signaled psychological safety and learning. This subtle change rewired cultural expectations across teams, transforming Microsoft’s innovation climate.

Netflix’s Cultural Shift: From Radical Transparency to Strategic Recalibration

Netflix, once renowned for its bold culture of radical candor, unlimited parental leave, and the controversial “keeper test” policy, has recently recalibrated its corporate culture. Between 2022-2024, the company revised its famous culture memo, removing the “freedom and responsibility” principle, signaling a shift towards cost discipline and creative oversight.

The outcome has been increased employee anxiety, a loss of trust, and growing concerns about the gap between the company’s espoused values and its lived norms.

Final Thoughts: Culture Isn’t Optional

Culture is not a side project. It's not what we write in our onboarding documents. It's the silent force behind strategy execution, employee engagement, and brand trust. If we want organizations that are resilient, ethical, and high-performing, we must stop treating culture as intangible. We must study it, shape it, and most of all, live it. As Peter Drucker said, "Culture eats strategy for breakfast." Let’s make sure it’s a culture we’re proud to serve.

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ASSESSMENT VS. EVALUATION: MASTERING KEY DIFFERENCES FOR BETTER OUTCOMES

Exploring the key differences between assessment and evaluation in education and development, and grasping how to use both to improve learning outcomes and performance.

These two words have a special significant in the context of education and development, and although many people tend to use these terms…

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