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Also I know the homophobia I experienced in high school was not just about homophobia, it was about the fact I was badbrains and unattractive and weird. One guy literally told me he was “okay with hot lesbians” but not me.
TIL that sexual objectification doesn't count as homophobia.
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I’ve been known to tell it how it is. I don’t use pronouns, nor do I give a fuck about your specific gender. Y’all are the same to me. Nobody is better then anyone else. No race is greater then any other. No gender is better then the other. I don’t care if you like dudes, I don’t care of you like chicks, I don’t care if you like both. but if you try to pull some PC horseshit with me then I will troll the fuck out of you. Try to come at me with your sjw bleeding heart bullshit and I will throw it in your face so hard that you will be forced to climb back into your fathers ballsack. Try me
Pronouns bolded. Grammatical/spelling errors italicized.
In which people are still going on about "circumgender" even though it's extremely obvious that enbykitten was a troll. Their blog is like five days old, they interacted with only one other person who also had a new blog, their "About" page says they're CAMAB (I guess they got mixed up on which fake identity they were going with), and their self-harm image was snagged from a Mirror article.
But okay, keep on ranting and raving about something that isn't even a thing.
fun fact: if youre aromantic asexual and have a “platonic partner”, around these parts we call that a friend. maybe even a best friend!
but nah next we’ll get polyplatonic aromantic asexual aka i dont wanna deal with sex or love but i have a bunch of close friends aka pretentious wankery labeling to the nth degree.
i literally…. how do people say this stuff with a straight face?
I think it’s possibly to actually be in a platonic relationship, where it is your primary relationship, takes up as much emotional energy as a romantic relationship, you even get married for instance, but you don’t have sex or otherwise behave romantically. Like LITERALLY marrying your best friends and you stay just best friends. But that’s not what tumblr is thinking of, in most cases. Because apparently platonic sex is totally a thing where you refuse to admit any sexual attraction to the person even as you consistently fuck them.
Yeah I can see someone who wants to marry their best friend non-romantic non-sexually. But… call them your best friend, like, there is literally no reason to use “platonic partner” or… what was the veg??? Avocado??? No it was Zucchini right right right. At that point it’s pretentious over-labeling. And yeah platonic sex (as opposed to just saying casual sex, or fwb) is [S] sooooo a thing!!! [/S]
I came out to have a good time and I’m honestly feeling so attacked right now.
The reason why we call them platonic partners or queerplatonic partners is because there isn’t a way to describe it that makes sense to people who feel romantic and/or sexual attraction on a socially “normal” level. They think we’re dating or we’re best friends, and it’s neither. Yes, they ARE your best friend, but it’s more than that.
You have a soul connection to them. In the same way as like, a long-together elderly couple, you can’t imagine life without them by your side. They strengthen you and make you want to be a better person, but you don’t want to be with them romantically and/or sexually. It’s all the intensity of those kinds of relationships, just in a platonic sense.
Best friends don’t share themselves the way platonic partners or queerplatonic partners do. They just don’t. I don’t act the same way with my best friend as I do with my QPP.
And zucchini is just a fun, cute term. You don’t need to get your panties in a twist.
What you just described is literally no different from a romantic relationship.
And before you say NO IT’S DIFFERENT BECAUSE REASONS… If you claim not to be able to feel romantic attraction, how would you even know the difference?
I’m not an idiot, is how. You don’t need to feel romantic attraction to know how it works. You don’t need to feel sexual attraction to know how it works. You see someone who’s in a romantic relationship and you can see the signs, you can hear it in the way they talk.
Of course I love my QPP. I’m sure you still say you love your friends, because you do. Platonically. I’m very close with her, in a way that I don’t want to lose her. I don’t want anything to happen to her. Would I care if she married someone else? No, absolutely not, because I’m not romantically in love with her. I’m not her partner, so I don’t get jealous. And I’m not explaining polyamory either, because again, we’re not dating and I wouldn’t be comfortable sharing someone I was in a relationship with, much like has happened to me in the past before I came to the realization that I’m on the aro spectrum.
The best way to actually understand it is to look at a concrete example. Spock, Kirk, and McCoy, of Star Trek. Kirk and McCoy are best friends. Everyone knows that. So are Spock and Kirk. But there’s a reason that Spock and Kirk are the legendary duo, and not Kirk and McCoy. Because their friendship transcends the boundaries of what’s considered normal. They rely on each other, they’re supportive, they’re fearful for eachother’s safety, they bow when either is threatened. They never kissed, they never fucked, they never outed themselves as being in a relationship. But despite that, they’re different. They’re soulmates. And that is what being a QPP to someone is like. That’s not being best friends, that’s being more without stating to the world “This is who I’m fucking and kissing on a regular basis.”
You’re not in a QPP relationship, and that’s fine. I wish you had one. But don’t you dare for a second think that it isn’t a possibility just because you don’t understand it; just because you have a keyboard and an opinion and a cocky attitude. You don’t feel it? That’s fine. But someone else does. And you don’t get to invalidate someone else’s experiences just because you don’t like it.
I do have a relationship like that. She's my best friend. It's insulting that you think best friends can't rely on each other, support each other, fear for each other's safety, or bow when the other is threatened. We don't need a special made-up term that we can use to pretend we're better than everyone else.
tumblr user transgender-harms-women follows you just fyi. someone like that finds your content good
I’ve spoken to them and they like following a range of blogs to get the opinions of multiple groups. I follow them too actually, we’re in a mutual, for pretty much the same reason they follow me.
Guess what? You can follow people outside of your usual circlejerk. You can learn from other groups.
Imagine that!
"i am in a mutual with a vile transmisogynist because i think i can learn from groups whose definition as a group is their hatred of trans women"
i wonder how many nazis they also follow
I followed a nazi for four days once and they literally triggered me five times so I unfollowed. I follow liberal feminists, radical feminists, TERFS, MRA’s, equalitarians, anti-truscum, truscum, pro-Israel people, pro-Palestine people, capitalists, anarchists, socialists, communists. In regards to Irish politics, loyalists and those who want a united Ireland. I also follow a couple of people who are royalists. Oh! and Animal rights people, pro-ALF and anti-ALF, vegans and people who hate vegans. I follow social-justice-wario and also a couple of “realsocialjustice” blogs.
Only on Tumblr is considering opposing viewpoints a bad thing.
Ok except you know what the opposing viewpoint in question is? I think you do. Let's rephrase with that in mind:
"Only on Tumblr is considering transmisogyny a bad thing."
fun fact: if youre aromantic asexual and have a “platonic partner”, around these parts we call that a friend. maybe even a best friend!
but nah next we’ll get polyplatonic aromantic asexual aka i dont wanna deal with sex or love but i have a bunch of close friends aka pretentious wankery labeling to the nth degree.
i literally…. how do people say this stuff with a straight face?
I think it’s possibly to actually be in a platonic relationship, where it is your primary relationship, takes up as much emotional energy as a romantic relationship, you even get married for instance, but you don’t have sex or otherwise behave romantically. Like LITERALLY marrying your best friends and you stay just best friends. But that’s not what tumblr is thinking of, in most cases. Because apparently platonic sex is totally a thing where you refuse to admit any sexual attraction to the person even as you consistently fuck them.
Yeah I can see someone who wants to marry their best friend non-romantic non-sexually. But… call them your best friend, like, there is literally no reason to use “platonic partner” or… what was the veg??? Avocado??? No it was Zucchini right right right. At that point it’s pretentious over-labeling. And yeah platonic sex (as opposed to just saying casual sex, or fwb) is [S] sooooo a thing!!! [/S]
I came out to have a good time and I’m honestly feeling so attacked right now.
The reason why we call them platonic partners or queerplatonic partners is because there isn’t a way to describe it that makes sense to people who feel romantic and/or sexual attraction on a socially “normal” level. They think we’re dating or we’re best friends, and it’s neither. Yes, they ARE your best friend, but it’s more than that.
You have a soul connection to them. In the same way as like, a long-together elderly couple, you can’t imagine life without them by your side. They strengthen you and make you want to be a better person, but you don’t want to be with them romantically and/or sexually. It’s all the intensity of those kinds of relationships, just in a platonic sense.
Best friends don’t share themselves the way platonic partners or queerplatonic partners do. They just don’t. I don’t act the same way with my best friend as I do with my QPP.
And zucchini is just a fun, cute term. You don’t need to get your panties in a twist.
What you just described is literally no different from a romantic relationship.
And before you say NO IT'S DIFFERENT BECAUSE REASONS... If you claim not to be able to feel romantic attraction, how would you even know the difference?
Scenario A: Molly is bi and just got out of a relationship with a woman… Let’s say it’s Sally; they broke up because Sally got a promotion to head up a department somewhere else, and they amicably and mutually agree to split, and it’s sad but it’s for the best….
#i feel significantly dumber having read this
a cis hetero dude who’s having (gasp) sex other than piv with his partner, a cis woman?? STOP THE PRESSES THIS RELATIONSHIP IS IN NO WAY HETERO HONORARY QUEER COUPLE RIGHT HERE. it’s only heterosexual if the dick goes right in the vag igss
Another Thought Experiment
Except you’re conveniently glossing over the fact that in the first scenario we’re dealing with a bisexual woman and an asexual man who the OP did not identify as bi or homo or heteroromantic. So what I understand from what you’re saying is that two queer people cease being queer if they’re in a m/f relationship?
the bi cis woman is queer, the non lgbt guy is straight, the relationship between a not lgbt guy and a woman is a straight relationship
First of all can you again show me where saathi actually indicated that the male in the scenario is straight? And are you not including asexuals in your definition of queer? Because if so we’re speaking different languages and I’m absolutely finished with this.
And even if she had and he is straight, I’m pretty certain that having one queer partner in a relationship renders it queer.
no it really doesn’t. that person is queer but the relationship and how it perceived is heterosexual. and unless an asexual is LGBTQ they aren’t LGBTQ. so yes a cis woman dating a cis man is a heterosexual relationship.
Are you implying that a cis woman dating a trans man is not a heterosexual relationship?
Once upon a time, it was widely accepted amongst the trans community that when cis people claimed not to feel a strong connection to their gender, it was because they didn't feel the dissonance we did. They'd never really had to consider it before. Of course there were exceptions, but that was the general rule. Cis people saying "What do you mean you 'feel like' a girl, I've never felt like a girl a day in my life!" were considered to be the same as a human being saying "There must be no atmosphere because I don't feel these so-called 65 Newtons of pressure you claim exist!"
But now a cis person can claim to be a "demigirl" or a "demiguy" because they "don't feel a strong connection with their gender assigned at birth", and we hail them as welcome additions to the nonbinary movement.
People really are embracing the "Girls who played with trucks instead of Barbies aren't really girls" rhetoric these days, when in the past that was just an anti-trans strawman. Is there anyone who doesn't count as non-binary?
“panromantic lesbian” so like does “lesbian” refer only to sexy-sex-sex now, i guess i shouldn’t be surprised, when have lgbt identities not been reduced to emotionless sexual fixations
#you can see why i don’t really think this romantic/sexual split has been thought all the way through
Asexuals came up with romantic orientation so we could explain to nosy sexuals in kindergarten-simple terms that not wanting to have sex =/= wanting to die alone.
We really, truly never imagined we’d be expected to accept things like “hetero-romantic homosexual” (which sounds an awful lot like internalized homophobia and/or biphobia) and “aromantic sexual” (which just sounds like sociopathy). A lot of us are as confused by all of this as you are, OP.
“aromantic sexual” (which just sounds like sociopathy)
Romantic asexuality is totally cool, but aromantic sexuality isn't?
Are aro-aces also sociopaths, or just people who want dirty nasty sexy times?
2000:
Bisexuals: We fall in love with people for their personalities, not their genitalia. Hearts not parts!
Lesbians and gay men: Wait, what?
2010:
Pansexuals: We fall in love with people regardless of gender. Hearts not parts!
Bisexuals: Wait, what?
2013:
Demisexuals: We're only attracted to people we have a strong emotional bond with. Hearts not parts!
Pansexuals: Wait, what?
