Wise words of Mrs P

@coolmrsp

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A fond farewell

I guess now it's time for me to give up... I think it's time.... Thanks for this amazing forum and the lovely people I have connected with. As a mummy of two gorgeous miracles (each in their own way!) I am to be honest, to knackered to catch up and post in here! Both little monkeys are doing well, Thomas just turned 18 months (going on much more like a very cute little old man!!) and Annie just 6 months, wide eyed and raring to follow in her big brothers footsteps!! Life is absolutely nothing like I ever anticipated it could be, it's hard, it's rewarding, it's one complete family! I wish you all well on life's journey wherever it may lead, and I wish you good luck with your impossible dreams... Keep dreaming xxxx

What a day

Today I was strongly reminded of the importance of naps. Kiddo has been so good about her 10 am nap, that I forgot what happens when it doesn’t happen. My grandpa showed up this morning right as she was nodding off, and thus started a rough day.

Also, good reminder why my project this week to practice one nap a day in the crib was important. If she had been in her crib, his arrival wouldn’t have thrown off the entire day.

Fortunately she’s sleeping like a champ now, and I got a bath, some sexytimes with my husband, and now a good book.

Watch out with sexy time - iccle reminder... I have babies 12 months exactly apart!!! (I didn't believe it would be possible!!!) X

Fun game - is she teething or is it just a cold?

Rosy cheeks, extra drooly, fussy, tired, feels slightly warm. Haven’t taken her temp because I don’t want to wake her up. Whatever it is, I want her to feel better now ♥️

Sounds like teeth to me. Have you tried Ashton and parsons teething powder or nelsons teetha granuals... It's a homeopathic remedy before you turn to calpol!! It's seems to help Annie at the moment anyway! She seems to drool much less when she has had one. Otherwise her hand permanently lives in her gob! I have given her a couple of bendy baby spoons to chew on... Feels nice on her gum, helps her practice gripping an object and will prepare her for weening (spoon will feel more familiar and she will learn the action) X

Male rant!!

So during the night I’ve realised I forgot to buy a sheet on AJ’s mattress and said this to the hubby! When AJ woke up I tried settling him so grabbed a sheet to put on when he was asleep again before putting him back, he started crying tho for food, eventually the hubby actually came to help make a bottle then went straight back to bed so after feeding him I tried to struggle putting the sheet on while holding a sleeping baby! The response I got from the hubby ‘oh you found a sheet’ (they are all in a basket on his wardrobe) then ‘oh I thought you’d put one on’ (what? When he was laid on it?! I know I’m a multi tasking mum but I ain’t chuffin Houdini) seriously I’d love to know how the male mind works sometimes

I soooo live with one of those! Then had a rant and rave at him then realised this is nothing different to pre baby! So was a bit too harsh! Anyway! I’m glad I’m not alone!! Good luck tonight!!

Ha ha, thank you! I just don’t get how after a massive argument the other week he still doesn’t get where I’m coming from or offer help! Oh well at least AJ will have be to rely on and can’t get the blame when he doesn’t have as much of a bond as we do!

Being a new mummy is tough! Mummies still need a hand and a rest sometimes! It’s hard thinking about everyone else first before yourself, and the old routine of being able to just “nip out” for a loaf of milk/loaf of bread/hair cut(that one really annoys me when mr just goes!) is a reAl pain in the butt.

Just remember mummies unite! Us bloggers are here to support you mainly cos we understand each other a lot more than we realise!!

X

Thanks lovely! It is nice to have rant but know you’re not alone in the situation! Men hey, who’d have them?! Ha ha ha!!

Can't live with them (sometimes) deffo can't live without them 😍

Male rant!!

So during the night I’ve realised I forgot to buy a sheet on AJ’s mattress and said this to the hubby! When AJ woke up I tried settling him so grabbed a sheet to put on when he was asleep again before putting him back, he started crying tho for food, eventually the hubby actually came to help make a bottle then went straight back to bed so after feeding him I tried to struggle putting the sheet on while holding a sleeping baby! The response I got from the hubby ‘oh you found a sheet’ (they are all in a basket on his wardrobe) then ‘oh I thought you’d put one on’ (what? When he was laid on it?! I know I’m a multi tasking mum but I ain’t chuffin Houdini) seriously I’d love to know how the male mind works sometimes

I soooo live with one of those! Then had a rant and rave at him then realised this is nothing different to pre baby! So was a bit too harsh! Anyway! I’m glad I’m not alone!! Good luck tonight!!

Ha ha, thank you! I just don’t get how after a massive argument the other week he still doesn’t get where I’m coming from or offer help! Oh well at least AJ will have be to rely on and can’t get the blame when he doesn’t have as much of a bond as we do!

Being a new mummy is tough! Mummies still need a hand and a rest sometimes! It's hard thinking about everyone else first before yourself, and the old routine of being able to just "nip out" for a loaf of milk/loaf of bread/hair cut(that one really annoys me when mr just goes!) is a reAl pain in the butt.

Just remember mummies unite! Us bloggers are here to support you mainly cos we understand each other a lot more than we realise!!

X

Screaming

Just about 2 hours of screaming tonight after a day of refusal to sleep. Feeding, rocking, swaddling, a long walk… nothing would put this girl to sleep longer than 5 minutes.

She stopped crying briefly for her play mat, and again for her entire bath so we’re pretty sure she’s not somehow hurt or sick. She better sleep tonight, that’s all I can say.

Tomorrow is my stepdads 50th birthday celebration so she better be over whatever this is tomorrow. Plus we couldn’t handle 2 days in a row of this. I was about ready to quit my job, sell my house, and move 9 hours away to be near my in-laws so we can get some help. This whole week has been hard but today wins.

I promise it'll get better. The good days will start to out weigh the shitty ones. Hang in there petal X

Male rant!!

So during the night I’ve realised I forgot to buy a sheet on AJ’s mattress and said this to the hubby! When AJ woke up I tried settling him so grabbed a sheet to put on when he was asleep again before putting him back, he started crying tho for food, eventually the hubby actually came to help make a bottle then went straight back to bed so after feeding him I tried to struggle putting the sheet on while holding a sleeping baby! The response I got from the hubby ‘oh you found a sheet’ (they are all in a basket on his wardrobe) then 'oh I thought you’d put one on’ (what? When he was laid on it?! I know I’m a multi tasking mum but I ain’t chuffin Houdini) seriously I’d love to know how the male mind works sometimes

I soooo live with one of those! Then had a rant and rave at him then realised this is nothing different to pre baby! So was a bit too harsh! Anyway! I'm glad I'm not alone!! Good luck tonight!!

You could offer me a million dollars, or hold me at gunpoint, and I still wouldn’t be able to burp my child. Which would be all fine and good if that didn’t then mean her spitting up all over and having a meltdown when I lay her down.

In other words, bedtime is hard.

ETA: I have tried over the shoulder, stomach down, sitting her up, draped over my arm, etc, etc. I promise I’ve tried it.

Hey up! Are you using formula or breast milk? A close friend and I had v similar prob, coupled with explosive bottom (baby not mummy!!) and have switched to hipp organic first formula… I don’t know how why or what but we both now have very content little ladies… It’s worth looking into x

I am breastfeeding - no formula. Ironically the rare times I pump so my husband can feed her, she has no problem burping. I should add that it’s not just him burping her that fixes it - he has no better luck when he takes her after I feed her.

Infacol?

And we all lived happily ever after

I'm so chuffed with how things have just fallen into place, both babies, poochie and hubby and I are having a harmonious and lovely life... I never thought, or dreamed this is how my life would pan out... It's much better!! So happy right now! 😍😍😍

You could offer me a million dollars, or hold me at gunpoint, and I still wouldn’t be able to burp my child. Which would be all fine and good if that didn’t then mean her spitting up all over and having a meltdown when I lay her down.

In other words, bedtime is hard.

ETA: I have tried over the shoulder, stomach down, sitting her up, draped over my arm, etc, etc. I promise I’ve tried it.

Hey up! Are you using formula or breast milk? A close friend and I had v similar prob, coupled with explosive bottom (baby not mummy!!) and have switched to hipp organic first formula... I don't know how why or what but we both now have very content little ladies... It's worth looking into x

Confession time

I have to confess something that I feel will get me kicked out of my Midwestern upper middle-class neighborhood. Or at the very least have me shunned by the mostly white women in their 20s and 30s that I hang out with.

I don’t get what the big deal is about the pumpkin spice latte. I really don’t.

There, I said it. I feel better. Feel free to unfollow me as appropriate.

I dint get it either, let's be kicked out together!!! ;-)

I'm an avoider

I’m currently avoiding texts from my mom, my dad (stepdad), and his new wife all wanting to come visit. They aren’t the “help out around the house” or “let you nap or run errands” kind of visitors - they need to be entertained and just stress me out.

Why do I live so close to my family? We are around 90 minutes apart, and that was fine before. They never had an interest in visiting and we were all agreeable with that arrangement. I’ve had a bad day today, not in the mood to wrangle them.

Totally get that, but as much as your perspective at the moment is "bugger off, I am working hard being a mummy to have to look after you" but you might be surprised! Having a new baby in the family can do some weird things! The world as you know it may change for the better...

Maybe they are super excited to spend time with their new grandchild and they will appreciate that you will be knackered and busy with little one as your top priority.

This is the beginning for many things... Your parents will be there for a long time yet, maybe take this as an opportunity to "set your stall out" and show them how you'd like your baby's future to roll.

Make some happy memories, like another blogger has said, you don't get this time back, enjoy and make the most of it x

I’m waiting for my 6 week postpartum checkup. They’re going to ask me about birth control, and I’m going to laugh at them. Given the number of hoops we had to jump through to have our baby (3x Clomid, IUI, IVF with fresh transfer, FET, FET, IVF with ICSI and PGS), I’m going to say the odds of me magically getting pregnant are pretty slim.

I know everyone has their story about their hairdresser’s cousin’s best friend whose infertility was magically cured after their first baby. And I actually know someone like that as well. But I also know enough science to know that it completely depends on what your diagnosis was in the first place. For me - extremely highly unlikely. So, this should be a fun conversation.

Hmmmm! My mindset exactly 12 months ago... I now sit here two baby monitors in hand... Still in shock that this actually happened to me! I also am laughing at the 6 week check I had, which was a total joke... Within hours of Annie's birth the contraception brochure was thrust in I'm hands. As well as every health professional that saw is post part in raising the subject...

I made a decision well before the appointment... When I do get the method of choice fitted (the coil) baby will be 3 months old - the exact age I "fell on" naturally with her! Now I'm not a sex maniac! Far from it! Plus hubby works away a lot, so opportunities are fewer than average, but intimacy is important to us, and I'm afraid I'm far too scared of a third pregnancy to entertain my old man!

Honestly! I get where you are at, and you have your reasons! But I never thought I'd have one baby, never mind 2. The most annoying part is people thinking Annie is a mistake/ accident ( which irritates me especially when my mother in law repeatedly refers to!) Which is far from the truth! It's just tom took a lot of trying to achieve, so to hit the jackpot at first attempt just blew our minds. I'd say she is an absolute gift and one that I certainly will never regret and was 100% planned. All the trying with tom was for Annie too. We just never expected to be successful or for it to be so soon. So, 12 months down the line, with an 8 week old baby, it's flipping amazing! Yes tiring, yes hands full (especially with a cocker spaniel and daddy working away 4 days a week) but it's far more rewarding than I ever dreamt!

Wishing you a miracle (of you do dream of extending your family) xxxxx

Weaning

Just had a call about our weaning appointment in 2 weeks!!! Aaaarrrggghhhh time please slow down a little!!

On another bad note the little man is on antibiotics, full of cold and a nasty chesty cough bless him 😪

Get well soon mister 😘

Thank you! It’s horrible listening to him struggling to breathe properly and you can’t do anything to help 😢

I have no doubt you are doing a brilliant job to try and make him as comfortable as possible. Keep up the good work mamma! (I prop the head end of the bed up to help, and put some vapour rub on the soles of his feet... Sounds odd but really helps!) x

Weaning

Just had a call about our weaning appointment in 2 weeks!!! Aaaarrrggghhhh time please slow down a little!!

On another bad note the little man is on antibiotics, full of cold and a nasty chesty cough bless him 😪

Get well soon mister 😘

Let's do an older mom roll call!

Some of us moms who don’t fit the “young mom” category have felt left out.

Reblog so everyone can connect.

-MixedLoveFamily, 25 with a 9 month old.

greenrobotmama-deactivated20151

I’m 27 with a 4-year-old and an 18-month-old.

27 with 3 kids/(5, 3, 1. About to celebrate 2 bdays though, so after October it will be 5, 4, & 2!), and pregnant with number 4 due in November 2015!

28 with a 10 year old and 2 year old twins. Been pretty MIA lately though :\

wishinhopinprayin

“Older Mom”… hah.

But I’m 30 in 13 days with two 15 month olds.

I win? I’m 35 with a 1 month old

Hmmm 35 with a 14 month old and a 2 month old... I feel about 90 this morning but some days I feel like a kid myself!!

Any excuse!

Today I was caught off guard! I dunno what day it is half the time! I'd arranged a few weeks ago for a friend to call this morning, of course I forgot! And at 10am there was a knock at the door! My friend and her family all stood gifts in hand waiting to meet Annie! Fine... Apart from I was in my pj's, so was hubby and our babies were in bed having their morning snoozes... Still I let them in, stuck the kettle on and just thought sod it! I've never been in this awkward position and since it took 8 weeks for them to make time to visit, I couldn't send them away! We had a couple hours chat, a lovely catch up and her kids entertained tom when he finally woke up! I shall just use the excuse of I've got a new baby!!

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