I haven't been here for a while but I've got something important to share.
Have you ever made a big decision? Forget what is seen as a big decision by others for a moment…if it felt like a difficult decision to you then it was a big decision.
Now look at the outcome. Are you happy with it? Did you learn from it?
What ever the outcome. Don’t regret it. That decision was important and should have been made the way you chose to…no matter the outcome. Life isn’t lived with phrases like “should have” “would have” or “could have”.
I start with these questions because I have made the biggest decision in my life so far. And I am about to discover the final outcome.
In May I said yes to marriage with the man I have loved since the day I met him. I’m not going to get soppy…as much as I’d love to. The man I love is a U.S. citizen and to live over there requires us to pay the U.S. government large amounts of money for them to process my visa.
It has been daunting, difficult and downright depressing at times. In December I will move over there on my k1 visa (if all goes well with the interview). This whole process would have taken us 6 months….only about 2 of those months we have actually spent in the same country.
I’d be lieing if I said I wasn’t scared but id also be lieing if I said I wasn’t excited. I’m not scared of our marriage, I’m so excited to finally get a relationship we both deserve . I’m scared of getting a job but also excited to be the one with the British accent once I do get a job. I’m scared of making friends but excited too. I’m scared of being so far away from my family but excited to be close to my new family.
The point I’m making is that decisions are never black and white, they’re filled with all kinds of crazy possibilities. I know I have made the right one but that doesn’t mean I’m comfortable, it doesn’t mean I’m sighing in relief. It means I’m on my toes, it means I’m excited and ready for a new life, it means I’m nervous and unsure of what life will bring. Most importantly it means it’s our adventure, our dream of being together finally coming true.
It’s important to make big decisions, not to run away from them or let others make them for you. Be bold and brave, embrace your fears and let them fuel your life.
Some decisions are not nice, not easy, or really sad. Others are fun and exciting but daunting.
Whatever the decision to be made. Make it your own way and stay brave.
