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i'm Low, welsh, late 20s, and i like bad sports teams and loud sad music. pfp @emily-e-draws lboxd | lastfm

[courtsofdandelions]

hi. i’m Low. late 20s demi/aro/ace/whatever lesbian and trans woman. white, welsh.

music: jeff rosenstock, julien baker, mewithoutYou, laura stevenson, foxing, hayley williams, various other loud and/or sad musicians and bands. my url is a mewithoutYou lyric and my blog title is a laura stevenson lyric

sports: chicago bears, ospreys (rugby), sale sharks women, toronto sceptres, miami marlins, colorado avalanche, boston hunters, texas longhorns. i mostly post abt the sceptres and marlins

other: dragon age (the only video game ever) + movies, sometimes + yelling abt transfeminism and aromanticism/asexuality

thanks for reading. here's my cat, Beef

[image id: a black and white cat with long hair, sitting upright leaning back against a wall and looking off camera]

no terfs no swerf no tories no minors and don’t be a shit. diolch!

[12u3ie]

I love sending dms to people who are asleep. guess what! you're going to have a present when you wake up! from ME 😊

[genderoutlaws]

whenever people talk about regret irt medical transition and top surgery especially i always think of an older cis(ish) butch woman who was always quick to tell anyone she saw binding about how she did it for decades because of severe dysphoria and how she absolutely wrecked her back and now in her old age couldnt comfortably bind anymore but also had other like unrelated health and aging issues that meant she no longer felt safe with the risk of surgery besides what she already needed. and basically that she was put off from surgery because of stupid ftm butch border wars and narratives about regret and unnecessary cosmetic surgeries and what she always told those ppl binding was that they should get surgery as soon as possible and not risk another year of binding and developing back pain or risk the possibility being taken away from them. loved that diva down but every interaction with her was so thoroughly colored by the deep regret she felt at not pursuing transition. that's the kind of regret and longing i think about and worry about irt medical transition far far more than regrets about doing the transitioning in the first place ykwim

[duckbunny]

your twenties are not "late" to start hrt. that is a normal time to start hrt. your thirties are also a normal time to start hrt. your seventies are pretty late to start hrt, but not too late. like, statistically, that's at the end of the curve. but if you are not dead, it is not too late for hrt.

[polutropos-puppyboy]

i have for a while been using stepping on somebody's toes as a metaphor for misgendering. and i genuinely think that it's kind of a good one.

[polutropos-puppyboy]

if you keep stepping on somebody's toes for a long time at minimum they're probably going to start really hating you and at maximum you might cause them lasting damage.

if you do it on purpose you're a dick. if it's on accident but you keep doing it that person is still going to be mad at you because you don't care enough to try not to step on their toes

[polutropos-puppyboy]

if you give a grovelling begging apology after accidentally stepping on somebody's toes one time you're going to make the whole thing awkward, but not giving a quick "sorry" before moving on is still kind of rude.

[duckbunny]

fun fact about character development by the way. you can make them develop worse.

[duckbunny]

like I mean this very seriously as writing advice. the character should experience events and make decisions that make them different at the end of the story. they should be changed. they do not have to be improved.

they can get worse. they can make decisions of an increasingly terrible nature. they can stop taking risks on kindness. they can discover how much they can get away with. they can find religion, or abandon it, with negative effects on their moral creed. the character has to develop. the character does not have to grow.

[pigswithwings]

the fascinating thing about being abused is that years later youre gonna be there sitting around going "okay so what now". cause like theres no instruction manual is there

[pigswithwings]

youre gonna be buying groceries and then youre gonna remember you went through all that for literally no good reason and youre gonna go Oh Okay and put paper towels in your bag or whatever

[hellyesbro]

I really do think people should be significantly more ashamed of the way they talk about trans womens bodies

[hellyesbro]

It's crazy because people will act like they are so nervous to speak out of line to us and then will say things you would never in a million years say to someone else

[hellyesbro]

everyone in the whole world understands it would be a massive feaux pas for a tgirl to tell an obviously chest-dysphoric trans man thats she's jealous of the feminine sexual prowess that his large breasts supposedly represent but then will talk about trans womens dicks like toys behind a glass window.

[the-aro-agenda]

as much as i may talk about friendship and queerplatonicism know this. i don't think there is any type of relationship that is inherently more meaningful than any other type. the solution to amatonormativity is not to put platonic relationships on a pedestal

[marsupials-of-mars]

Everyone on tumblr has Conditions. maladies. I log onto tumblr and my mutuals are unwellposting. Conditions I didn't even know existed and sound like dark curses but I will see a post from friend like "died about 60% today, fine now. Made egg on toast #yummytoast". There are so many people in this world with life experiences

[fallhound]

Not an vouyer, not a cuck, but a 3rd thing: an esports commentator

[a-bold-move]

NO ONE HAS EVER DONE THAT!

NO ONE HAS

EVER

DONE THAT

IN THE HISTORY

OF

BLOW JOBS!!!!

[femmestyles]

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[pitchburgh]

okay, yeah

[disabledandtrans]

email to: [email protected] or fill out this form

[disabledandtrans]

progesterone tracker is here.

oestrogen tracker is here.

testosterone tracker is here.

if you experience any disability or neurodivergency please fill out this form. it is equally important to me to have data that says progesterone doesn't affect autism or testosterone doesn't make you hard of hearing or whatever, as it is to document changes. so if you have any health condition. please fill it out. even if it to say "no change". i am begging you all.

and if you can't. please. please do reblog. i need this to be as big as humanly possible. it is the best way forwards to inform decisions.

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IMAGE ID (courtesy of @disabledspoonz):

Are you Disabled? Mad? Do you wish you knew how HRT would affect you? ME FUCKING too!!! This is why have created he Trans and Disabled database! Based on self-reporting across the world. If you want to self-report or access the database, email me at [email protected]. For reports I need your HRT + condition + changes if any.

End of ID.

[gothvince]

i talk about transitioning and all anyone ever says is "I hope you don't regret it" what if instead we said I hope you love it. I hope it's everything you ever wanted. I hope you live the rest of your life in utter bliss. etc etc.

[gothvince]

I hope you transition and I hope it's the best thing you ever did and I hope you never look back and I hope you finally feel comfortable in your own skin

[redstonedust]

kind of embarrasing when your life is actually going pretty well but you still have mental health problems. it's like when you drink water but still have a headache like what the hell. you're telling me this isn't because of the Situations i'm actually just like this. i want a refund.

[the-peoples-puppy]

Hey btw just firing a few rounds into my audience real quick: genuinely at this point with the ways all the boys I was forced to be around in high school treated the girls around them - once had to block a guy from taking upskirts of a girl who was passed out backstage during theater class:

If you feel this like, inviolate respect for women and deep, primal terror that your male sexuality is inherently predatory and invasive and that you should just be as quietly nonthreatening as possible for the continued privilege of being around them instead of having to either be alone or hang out with other boys: you're probably a girl. Like, probably in the way that 99.9999~ is "probable".

Cis boys don't feel that way they see girls as fleshlights that signal to other boys they're cool because they managed to get a fleshlight.

[the-peoples-puppy]

Just like, remembering the way other boys gossiped with me about how much they wanted to fuck the - very attractive let's not mince words - homeroom teacher I had incredible respect and in retrospect almost certainly gender envy for, the way they didn't seem to see her as someone to strive endlessly for the approval of the way I did. It felt actively, viscerally wrong to hear them talking about her that way, so all I could do is nod and smile along because they were older and all in agreement.

The fact I hung out with TWO lesbians who I was deeply regretful I'd never be able to get to date, how pretty I thought their non-feminine gender presentations were, the way I held desperately onto the nail polish a girl had put on my nails during a school event for as long as I possibly could - the way I had been the only "boy" to ask her to do it.

The way I felt fundamentally vulnerable and afraid whenever I was in the boy's changing room, idling and freezing up until they started to trickle out and I could quickly change and be the last one out the door.

If any of this feels familiar, to you in retrospect or definitely if you're going through high school feeling these things right now: you are a girl. I promise you, you will be so much happier being yourself.

[mousidy]

trans women who "don't mind topping" or are "fine with having a penis I guess" take my hand

[mousidy]

swag if you genuinely enjoy these things but it's staggering the number of trans women I've known who feel this way and eventually realize they need bottom surgery more than they realized. take my hand it will be ok I will still love you

[mousidy]

it's scary to go against what people expect from you, and it's scary to accept that you want to summit what seems like an insurmountable mountain but it's ok. I love you. I know you can do it. I can't wait to see the glowing smile on your face

[mousidy]

if this doesn't describe you and you're genuinely content as you are then good! I love you! run free! this is for those of us who need to hear it. only you can answer whether that includes you