the little faggot of sweet herbs

You can call me Nonna 🧿 I'm an adult

[crabapplepectin]

Gardening blog -> @ladybugoflove

[crabapplepectin]

im blessed to have the friends i have :')

[crabapplepectin]

say all you want about short-form content and social media, but my mother, chronically ill with a full time job (aka very busy and exhausted), who's hated gardening her wholeeee life bc she was raised to be ashamed of her poor subsistence-farming family & culture, started gardening bc ppl on tiktok made it look fun and practical and made all the info easily accessible to her

[prideprejudce]

so today a public health official guy came into my class to give a lecture on disaster awareness and he was talking about house fires and mentioned that the reason people most likely die during a house fire is because they refuse to leave their pet inside or they go back to get their pet. and right when he said this my friend immediately turned his head and looked at me and in that moment I had the most complete and genuine acceptance take over my body. I would 100% in front of my family and Jesus himself walk straight back into some raging inferno that was once my house to go get my fat cat. I nodded back

[prideprejudce]

the best part of this post is reading all the tags from animal people who would also go back to save their pets. like no hesitation. walk backwards from heaven straight back into hell. someone even said they would go back for their fish. amazing

[sterna-hirundo]

If you are a person who would walk into a blazing inferno for your animal, and your pet has free movement around the house, here’s a training exercise that could help save you both:

1) Set off your smoke alarm or play the sound on your phone (if your home has no smoke alarms, pease get some!)

2) stand BY THE FRONT DOOR to hand out treats

Do this a couple times and then keep it up NO EXCEPTIONS. Accidentally set the alarm off cooking? Treats by the door. Smoke alarm sound on TV? Treats by the door. Changing your smoke alarm batteries twice a year like you’re supposed to? Give them a test run and your pets get treats by the door.

Most dogs and cats will clue in VERY quickly that hearing that specific sound means go to the front door and wait for treats.

If there’s an emergency and even if you leave by another way, you will still know the most likely place your pet(s) is and can direct first responders to help.

You can also do this for any other kind of emergency alarm. My friend had both her cats trained to go to the front door for a tsunami siren.

[teddyrocker]

best feeling in the world is when you draw something and you’re so proud of it you have to stop and stare at it every few minutes to remind yourself of its beauty like narcissus with his reflection in the pond

[scorpionlafemme]

Every version of you was necessary. Even the ones you’re ashamed of.

[devilspanties]

06/01/2026 The decompression from being Normal all day is very loud. And I just now learned the term “After School Restraint Collapse” https://thedevilspanties.com/archives/17061 Support us on Patreon!

[satanfemme]

otherwise interesting post ruined by the bold insistence that you can never accidentally abuse someone & that all abusive people are self-aware evil masterminds

[satanfemme]

I don't think my parents are aware that what they did was abuse. in fact I think one of the reasons they abused me was because they lacked the self-awareness, introspection, and education needed to realize what they were doing counted as abuse. if they did have more self awareness &etc, they would have likely stopped. it is not productive to insist they woke up in the mornings with the intent to psychologically torture a kid for no reason, when that is self-evidently not the case or within their motivations.

I'm speaking annecdotally here but I think many cases of abuse are like this. I think when reckoning with the reality of how abuse functions in our society, you must come to terms with the mundanity of it including the fact that abusive people are primed to overlook the harm of their own actions through the shield of mundanity and (lack of) intent.

[enki2]

[crabapplepectin]

imo one of the major downfalls of pop psych and relationship advice from an individualist ableist culture, is so much of the advice out there encourages the erosion of access intimacy.

i just dont see how you can form genuine, long-term, meaningful relationships with partners and communities without sacrificing some of your comfort and time and pick others up where and when they fall and give them grace and a safe space to make meaningful changes. i dont think the options are simply "be a doormat" or "never meet people where they are at"

[justryingtovibe69]

[crabapplepectin]

i wish i enjoyed casual sex 😞

[crabapplepectin]

every fucking time i drink i get horny and then i think of that "what is it about wine that makes me feel so sensual?" "dionysus" comic

[lamignonette]

[vee-dmsr]

[caydencrypted]

the wisdom ive learnt is that becoming part of a friend group 1) takes a long time and 2) involves a lot of feeling awkward and left out at first. there’s nothing terrible about this but if you grew up chronically lonely or have any kind of trauma relating to social isolation this likely feels Really Wrong and activates danger signals. but both fortunately and unfortunately it’s just how becoming close to new people works most of the time

[caydencrypted]

another thing that was not intuitive to me as someone who grew up an autistic loner: basically everyone on the planet is starved for connection all the time and almost everything people do is an attempt to reach out to another. most seemingly illogical interactions and behaviours can be explained by this. you have to take as many of these invitations as you can. even if you're wrong you still attempted to bring more warmth into the world

[alexanderwales]

I took a shower today and thought about how incredibly lucky I am to live in an era where I could have hot water whenever I wanted it. I'd been taking indoor plumbing for granted.