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[cursedwithcaution]

Hello friend! I'm Charlie

but I also answer to Cursed, Caution, cwc -- pretty much anything that starts with a C. And also Wirt. My pronouns are he/they :]

I am an adult. I’m fine with minors interacting, but please keep those interactions in public (asks, comments, reblogs are all fine, but direct messages are not). My ask box is open and you're welcome to send me questions, comments, and memes there any time.

On that triple-A battery bullshit (aromantic, asexual, austistic). Currently into the Owl House, but I do not limit myself to one specific fandom. I don't censor myself and I do sometimes discuss triggering topics (tagged accordingly).

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My Fanfics

Finding Palismen

Ongoing, currently at 106/? chapters. Angsty. Rated T. It's really good you should read it (if you can stomach it)

short of it: a post-canon TOH fic written as Hunter's journal entries addressed to Flapjack as he processes his grief and trauma.

long of it:

Hunter believes he can finally leave his past behind to create a normal life for himself. Wishing he had his first friend to talk to again, he starts writing letters to Flapjack. He starts his first term of school, spends quality time with his friends, and avoids thinking about everything that came before this moment. Who cares that he’s a grimwalker or that he was the evil emperor’s right-hand-man or that he’s always staring at other witches’ palismen? None of that matters. The past is in the past. But the past isn’t so easy to ignore when you were made from a 350 year old body. Not every mirror can be covered; not every secret can be buried. As Hunter’s past gets dug up and put on public display, he fights to keep it buried—even if that means he’ll have to bury himself.

[There are a lot of content warnings so be sure to read the tags before reading the fic. Finding Palismen covers a variety of heavy and triggering topics and it's best to be aware of that ahead of time.]

Mother of Six

A collection of 7 Owl House one shots written for @camilamamaweek 2025.

The Parts of Me You'd Recognize

A Grunkles-centric Gravity Falls fanfic written as part of Fandom Trumps Hate 2025.

Safe and Sound

A wholesome Over the Garden Wall one shot.

Other stuff I make:

Cursed with Art

Cursed with Answers (ask box responses)

Cursed with Writing

Posts about Finding Palismen

Ask box is open (incl. anons)!

[uhnonymoos]

i grew up around muslims, i am also trans and leftist.

people in every queer and trans community i go to set an expectation: i should ofrever abandon my muslim past, i should explicitly stop associating yourself with it whatsoever, you either get to be queer or you either get to be raised-muslim.

in reality, there's no such expectation for christianity, and none of them are ready to dismantle their "inner christian" in their heads as much as they expect be to dismantle my "inner muslim"

none fo them get to admit how most first world countries are culturally christian, because christianity is "default" to them, as well as first world, as well as white.

me having a complicated relationship with islam doesn't mean i absolutely despise every piece of it. it means i distanced myself from ummah, but won't hear islamic criticism from non ex muslims at all, because you expect us to dismantle "our inner muslims" in ways you aren't ready to dismantle imperialism and racism in you.

your expectation is us "acting white", you don't want us unless we're that, which means you don't want us at all.

a lot of people claiming to want to uplift brown queer voices and such don't procced to do anything meaningful for them, or for brown people at all. it's just virtue signaling, homonationalism. you'd only care of brown people being queer, and you want the "brown" part of it gone as much as possible.

a lot of people say they want the leftist agenda to stop being us centric and imperialist, but then it's just pretending to care about it. you already made is so little and unhearable you'd have to get out of your way to seek for us speaking. then you'd not seek or if you find us, you will just pass by. hoping someone else would amplify the voice you took from us? and that someone else would hope for that too, so what?

you want us only when we agree with everything usa says about us, you want us until our lives don't put you into too much discomfort. when they put you into too much discomfort, you don't ask why, you'll restore the comfort by banishing us again. your tolerability of us is so intricately conditional, to meet those a third worlder has to build themselves into a first worlder mindset. this is your (inter)nationalism hey.

anyway, islamophobia hurt me more than islam did. now what

[uhnonymoos]

just so you know a tumblr user with "ubermensch" in their username what rants about "religious people not being human" on their blog replies saying i'm propagating nationalism with stating how all the hate (as in: ideological excuse to carpet bomb brown people) and "not doing anything good for them" like have it occured to you i am from, you know, a muslim majority country, maybe, just maybe, just an ounce of thought that that racialized girl might be NOT lying about it, maybe, maybe, or maybe you are what my grand grandpa used to shoot. a nazi.

now ask youself HOW COME racialized and third worlders are so invisible over here :^)

[starsinoursystem]

this pride month I'm gonna need everyone to be radically pro transgender and also pro intersex and also pro ace and aro spec peoples thanks

[stuckinapril]

“Do it scared” “do it alone” are all great tips, but my biggest takeaway from therapy is do it messy. This is especially true if you’re getting out of a burnout, which I experience often. Literally just do it messy. You don’t need to pick the perfect trail to walk, the perfect playlist to listen to, whatever the fuck it is. You don’t need to have a meticulous to do list and wake up at the exact time you planned and drink the exact amount of water you planned to drink. Like the biggest thing for people like me to remember is sometimes it’s okay to do it messy. Put on a random yt workout and just get it done in sweats. Do 5 minutes of a daunting task and go from there. Sometimes just getting up is a win during intense burnouts or depressive funks. Literally just do it messy.

[beardedmrbean]

[datclassydame]

Can @raccoonmilf vouch for this? Super rad if true.

[raccoonmilf]

Yes it’s true

[argentiston]

Reupload + the last of my old Beastlos art that I wanted to show!

[mister-celery]

nonbinary i had in my pocket

[anistarrose]

[ID: art of Raine from The Owl House in their time skip design, pointing at themself and laughing playfully, with their eyes closed and a big grin. End ID.]

[interestingmistakes]

Reblogging this manually. Op doesn't want credit for fear of being terminated.

[left-lateral-incisor]

[ID: A picture of the progress pride flag. The chevron with the stripes for trans people and people of color, as well as the intersex flag, have been replaced with the Tumblr "This content has been removed for violating Tumblr's Community Guidelines." /End ID]

[pastrypen]

This is a message for queer and/or abused youth in countries passing the under-16 (or younger) child social media bans:

Please live. Please, please, please live. I know when you're cut off from your only community it can feel tempting. But please don't. You are going to grow up. You are going to see beautiful sunsets and eat tasty meals and find constellations in the stars. It will be worth it. You will be worth it. You already are. So live. And some day, come back and tell us how you did it.

[lesblackwidow]

reminder to visit museums, even if you feel out of place. you feel out of place because there is an established concept of inaccessibility of "high culture" to the masses, purposefully developed to distinguish between social classes.

take up space, read the plaques, get the audioguides. you are just as entitled and right in being there. visit museums, boycott museums, be expressive about your opinions about museums.

a lot of museums are free, or discounted for youth and students. take advantage of that. check your local art museum. check your local history museum. museums are there for you, they are there to educate the public, not to distinguish between class. it isn't a private collection, it's a public exhibit.

GO TO MUSEUMS!!!!!!!

[djbodyhorror]

your mom jokes don't work when you know someone too well. I would never be in bed with such a wicked woman. That's not even what I had your mom saying last night. I wouldn't speak to her.

[shegs]

I FOUMDH IT

[princess-anri]

Regular Couple

[pawhold-deactivated20180415]

this ended homophobia

[nikoni]

happy pride month

[cursedwithcaution]

I LOVE SAFETY AND IM NOT AFRAID TO SAY IT

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.

[once-a-polecat]

Can I just reblog this every single day of pride month? Will my mutuals be annoyed?

[annabelle--cane]

semi-regular psa that depending on where you live, getting a few doses of narcan might literally be as quick, easy, and free as pouring river water in your socks. it's small, light, and easy to carry around in any kind of bag bigger than a wallet; it's simple to administer; it doesn't become hazardous after its expiry date, just very slowly less effective but still okay to use; it's safe to give multiple doses of it in succession; and it won't cause any harm even if given to someone not experiencing an opioid overdose. (due to the nature of how it works it is a potion of instant withdrawal and might make someone very sick very quickly for that reason, but you can't give someone a hazardous overdose of narcan.) even if you don't think anyone in your life licitly or illicitly uses opioids it's still worth it to pick some up just in case. if you are the Purse Bitch of your friend group and have ever said something like "well what if we do need two full boxes of bandaids all of a sudden" then you simply owe it to yourself to see if a public health center near you has a free narcan distribution service.

[zombielenin]

For those curious on how to respond to an overdose using Narcan/naloxone, NYC’s health department has a good video on the subject. For those in NYC, their website also has information on how to obtain it.

[paladudette]

always great to carry narcan, and while you CANNOT give an “overdose” of narcan, you can effectively drown somebody if you give a large dose. the “drowning” is flash pulmonary edema, and is associated with larger amounts of narcan being administered to somebody who is overdosing.

so absolutely please get some and carry it with you, and remember that you don’t need 20+ mg of narcan to reverse an od!

[lycanthre]

Adding onto the last rb as someone who works in harm reduction and has given overdose reversal trainings.

First want to say that OP your post is great but it's important to mention that you NEED to wait 2-3 minutes before administer a second dose of naloxone (the generic and frankly better version of Narcan, Narcan is a for-profit brand so if you can it's better to get the generic from your local SSP or HD), for folks who are dependent upon or otherwise regular users of opioids naloxone can precipitate pretty nasty symptoms of withdrawal, no one is gonna feel *great* after an overdose, but acute withdrawal can lead to vomiting, shakes, and a whole slurry of symptoms ranging from unpleasant to medically dangerous.

While were here, here is a quick runddown of symptoms of an opioid OD to look out for:

- Person’s skin might look blueish or greyish, depending on skin tone

- Skin might feel cold or clammy

- Might hear “agonal breathing” - a gasping/gulping/grunting sound sometimes mistaken for snoring

- Sometimes you might not see or hear any of these obvious signs. The person might just seem like they are sleeping or in a heavy nod.

You can check for responsiveness by verbally calling for them and doing a sternum rub (running your knuckles up and down the center of their chest), but don't spend a bunch of time trying to get them up-- every secound counts.

Second major point: when reversing an OD you are looking for a return to regular breathing, NOT for the person to wake up. Adulterants like xylazine (tranq) and medetomidine are fairly common in the US fent supply, and given that these are sedatives they can put folks out for hours at a time. Make sure to give rescue breaths and monitor breathing continuously until emergency service providers arrive (or if you are unable to call 911/999/etc, have someone stay with the person for at least 90 min). The biggest mistake I see people make is, since they're in a panic, they continuously administer naloxone without waiting and without watching for breathing bc they're worried about the person not coming to. I get that it's really scary, but it's vital that you're focusing on the correct tells.

Like last rb said too, you don't need a crazy mg amount to reverse an OD, in fact you don't need more than 4mg max (6mg if the person REALLY isn't breathing) for nasal naloxone and 0.8mg/ml max for intramuscular naloxone. This is about 2 doses for each type, and often one dose is enough to stabilize someone (when the medicine wears off any opioids left in the system will rebind to opioid receptors, though, so keeping a dose on hand is vital especially if they can't get to the hospital for monitoring). There is no evidence that high dose naloxone such as Kloxxado is more effective in reversing overdoses, and actually poses a greater danger due to its ability to quickly lead to acute withdrawal. These products are produced by for-profit companies co-opting panic surrounding the present street opioid supply, and are not recommended by anyone with experience in the field.

If you want to find free naloxone near you but aren't sure where, NextDistro is a great resource for those in the US

[arodabi]

Whats an aromantic flag and why you should include it in your pride posts

disclaimer: i know theres fighting every year about who should and shouldn’t be included in pride posts, this isn’t to argue with people who just hate aspec ppl, this is an informational post. don’t send me bullshit about it

Why should you include aro flags?

many people believe that aromanticism is covered under the asexual flag, so if they include that they’re including aros, however that’s not the case. aro and ace people share the aspec community, but one identity does not fall under the other. It’s less like using the trans flag as an umbrella for all trans and nonbinary people even if there’s a separate nonbinary flag, and more like using the transmasc pride flag to represent all transmascs and transfems. Aros are just not covered under the ace flag because both groups are separate identities. people can be aro and ace but not all aros are ace.

aro is also an incredibly important identity for a lot of people, something we take a lot of pride in. we get relegated to “minor or add on identity” all the time because people keep thinking of us as the -romantic version of asexual. we have multiple terms, multiple flags, and a huge array of different aro experiences, we are not a subset of asexuality and many of us wish for that to be more respected.

last on the reasons of why you should include aros in pride posts is that we have no larger umbrella flag, unless we’re counting the rainbow flag. the aro flag is the umbrella flag for arospec identities. if you don’t include it then we aren’t being included. and this isn’t me telling you you have to include an aro option for everything you make (tho that would be nice) ppl have the right to choose what flags they want to include. but theres been many times when i see people add  flags representing all parts of the community except aro, and then add on smaller more niche flags. i don’t want this to come across as another post like “how dare you include X flag but not Y flag!!!” because i think everyone should have the joy of representation, i just think many people don’t realize they’re even leaving aros out. either through lack of awareness or lack of knowledge on what the aro flag actually is, and that’s what i wanna help with this post.

What even is the aro flag?

Let’s start with what it’s not:

[ID: a flag with four horizontal stripes. from the top down they are green, yellow, orange and black. End ID]

This was the first proposed aro flag. We do not use it anymore for a couple reasons, the main one is that it resembled another countries flag too closely and was getting confused. I’d think this one would have died out by now but i literally just saw a post include it today.

[ID: A flag with five horizontal stripes. from top to bottom the colors are dark green, light green, yellow, grey, and black. End ID]

This was the second popular aro flag. It is very close to the main aro flag now except the middle stripe is yellow. That stripe was changed due to causing some people sensory problems. This one is sometimes still accidentally used, probably because it looks very close to the main flag, but it’s not the main aro flag either.

[ID: A flag with five horizontal stripes. from top to bottom the colors are black, grey, white, light green, and dark green. End ID]

I’ve actually seen this flag used a lot by people not very knowledgeable about aros. This is a flipped version of the aro flag. I also for the life of me can’t find an example of this but i’ve seen more than once a version that is flipped and removes a stripe of green so it looks like a recolored ace flag. These are pretty common, enough for me to have seen multiple people selling merch with this incorrect flag. I think it comes from people thinking the aro flag is the same as the ace one which does start with black at the top and has only four stripes.

[ID: A flag with seven horizontal stripes. from top to bottom the colors are black, grey, white, green, white, grey, and black. End ID]

Yeah, this is the agender flag, not the aro flag. I see these get mixed up all the time. It’s not hard so see why with similar colors and a white grey black gradient, but as someone who is agender and aro, it kinda gets on my nerves when people mix these up. Also no this is not the same color palette as the aro flag. I’ve seen people make designs labeled as agender/aromantic that just use the agender color palette. The aro flag has two greens and they’re both different than the agender green.

[ID: Two flags next to each other. The first one has five horizontal stripes. from top to bottom the colors are orange, light orange, white, light blue, dark blue. The second flag has eight horizontal stripes. from top to bottom the colors are dark green, light green, white, grey, black, grey, white, and purple. End ID]

These are two common aroace flag designs. These flags are used by a lot of people and you might see them included in pride posts. These are good flags, however, they should not be used to represent all aros. Including an aroace flag does not mean you’re including all aros and all aces, it means you’re including just aroaces. There’s plenty of aros who aren’t ace and aces who aren’t aro. It’d be like putting a gay trans flag in a post and saying its there to represent all gay and all trans people, when the flag is usually used to represent only people who are both gay and trans. Again, these flags are not bad, and them being included in pride posts is good actually, but they should not be used to represent all aro and all ace people.

Now let’s go over what actually is the aro flag:

[ID: A flag with five horizontal stripes. From top to bottom the colors are dark green, light green, white, grey, and black. End ID]

This is the main aro flag. It’s the one most widely used and recognized. The color meanings are dark green and light green representing the spectrum of aro identities, white meaning friendship, and grey and black representing the spectrum of sexual identities in the aro community.

But wait there’s more!

The aro identity is a spectrum, meaning theres more identities under aromantic, and they have their own flags too. If you really wanna go wild and include some other aro flags heres some more. (this is not a full list of all arospec identities, just some i see around the most. feel free to look into more arospec identities and flags! also all of these definitions are coming from me and my personal knowledge of aro identities, i do not identify as any of these though, only as aromantic, so if i give the wrong definition please tell me so i can fix it!)

[ID: A flag with five horizontal stripes. From top to bottom the colors are dark green, light green, white, yellow, and dark yellow. End ID]

This is the alloaro flag. Alloaros are aros who aren’t ace. They deserve more support and attention because they’re really amazing members of the aro community.

[ID: A flag with five horizontal stripes. From top to bottom the colors are dark green, grey, white, grey, and dark green. End ID]

This is the greyromantic flag. Greyromantic means someone who feels romantic attraction rarely. The term greyromantic is also sometimes used to mean aro identities that still feel some form of romantic attraction.

[ID: A flag with four horizontal stripes. From top to bottom the colors are black, green, aqua, and grey. End ID]

the quoiromantic or WTFromantic flag. It means someone who can’t or doesn’t want to tell the difference between platonic and romantic attraction basically. It’s got a special place in my heart bc i used to id as quoi.

[ID: A flag with five horizontal stripes. From top to bottom the colors are red orange, orange, yellow, white, and black. End ID]

This is the Lithromantic flag. Lithromantic means someone who feels romantic attraction but doesn’t want it reciprocated, or may no longer feel romantic attraction when it is reciprocated.

[ID: A flag with a black, sideways triangle on the left side pointing right and three horizontal stripes. The first stripe from the top is a thick white stripe, the next stripe is thin and dark green, and the bottom stripe is thick and grey. End ID]

The demiromantic flag. Someone who is demiro doesn’t feel romantic attraction until they have formed a deep emotional connection with someone.

And there’s many more arospec identities!

I hope i’ve helped to clear up some misconceptions about aros and our flags! We’re not under the ace umbrella, we’re our own community. We all have different experiences, different relationships to our identity, and I hope to see more people represent aros this year!

Have a happy pride month!

[nullpointr]

this pride month remember to love and appreciate aromanticism, aromantic people, aromantic love, aromantic relationships. this pride month get more aromantic

[nullpointr]

everyone reblogging this to also mention loveless aros YOURE SO RIGHT!!!!! LOVELESS AROS I APPRECIATE YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!