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28 - U.S. - 🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤 (tentative)

[orteil42]

given the current climate this pride especially i feel i must mention that i love my trans friends, i stand with trans people in the fight against transphobic legislation and those who would enforce it, and this blog is not a good place for you to be if you do not vibe with that

[tragicwaif]

when a cloth mutual sees your wire post it’s not that bad but when a wire mutual sees you clothposting……😓

[21st-century-minutiae]

The above is a reference to a famous mid twentieth-century psychological experiment by Harry Harlow involving infant monkeys. The experiment involved providing infant monkeys with either a minimalist "wire mother" statue or a more comforting "cloth mother" statue. These statues were either equipped with milk, or lacked utility. The experiment famously proved that infant monkeys (and, it was inferred, other primates like humans) preferred the "cloth mother" whether or not it provided food. The experiment was used to show that comfort and care was an important part of psychological development, rather than simple sustenance.

The above poster is making an allegorical reference to this famous experiment. These are not commonly used terms or standard metaphors, so it would not be clear to early twenty-first century readers exactly what was meant. But it can be inferred that the poster may be using the term "cloth" to refer specifically to the "cloth mother lacking milk" from the experiment, and "wire" to refer to "the wire mother possessing milk." The two other experimental variables ("cloth with milk" and "wire without milk") are ignored.

Presuming this interpretation is correct, then "cloth" becomes an allegory for "a source of comfort and joy, despite its lack of utility" and "wire" becomes an allegory for "a source of stark utility, lacking any comfort or attachment."

"Mutual" is a term in Tumblr, referring to an account that one is following and is followed by in turn. Mutual accounts allow two way communication in the website.

It can further be inferred that a "wire post" is some plain, useful, but otherwise uninteresting subject, and a "cloth post" is something weird and joyful and unnecessary.

Following all that, the above post could be translated to mean: "There is no issue when a person who you know via your shared quirks/kinks sees you talking about something mundane. However, it is a source of great discomfort and distress a person you know for a mundane reason (such as being coworkers or fellow students) sees you talking about something quirky or kinky."

[paper-mario-wiki]

do not forget the patron saint of these weeks that we celebrate ourselves proudly and openly in the streets

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

thank you, Marsha. we remember you.

[omtai]

Im sorry I didn’t reply to your message for three weeks. I did not forget about it infact I thought about it regularly every day. It will happen again

[dogpuppy]

[dogpuppy]

mixed reviews

[godlessondheimite]

In 2026, the chicest thing a gay actor can do is never explicitly come out as gay but also make it abundantly clear that he is. Coming out is too modern. Staying closeted is too old fashioned. But this method merges contemporary freedom with Old Hollywood glamour and allure, and it weeds out the dumbest people who truly don’t get it. I call it the Pascal Method.

[nobodys-odyssey]

Taylor Swift does this

[godlessondheimite]

no she doesn’t

[nobodys-odyssey]

You clearly don't go here or to queer history and signaling, or both, enough to have this conversation and I'm not going to explain it to you. You could have asked questions, you could have done even a modicum of research. You didn't and you made yourself look ignorant. Goodbye.

[dancinbutterfly]

#I'm fucking crying#this is an instant classic#this is the next meme#i can't believe I'm here to see a baby copypasta nary two hours old#I can't#lol#i laughed way too hard#iconic

[angelsaxis]

i went to queer history and signaling and i didnt see taylor swift

[feralratbitesu]

can i be honest tho i kinda hate makeup bc i love licking my lips and rubbing my hands on my face like a cat or a fly annd i also love wiping my eyes like a sleepy infant all the time so basically i cant do it

[winry-lucy-beth]

I've recently learned that escaping enshitification is actually really easy. When I was younger I would use FOSS (free and open source software) because I usually couldn't afford anything else. Back then the paid options were usually significantly better than the unpaid options so when I finally got money I started using the paid stuff and completely forgot that Foss existed.

If you don't know why Foss is awesome its not just that its free. Open source software has a huge set of advantages. Most software is proprietary meaning that its code cannot be viewed by other people. Open source softwares code can be viewed by everyone and people can contribute their own code to make it better. Open source is often more secure than proprietary because more people have more eyes on it and more people have contributed to it's security. Its also easy to know how much privacy you have with every software because you can read the code. No more "trust me bro I'm not harvesting and selling your data" you know if they are collecting and selling because the code is publicly available.

In the last two months I have been switching almost completely to Foss. I was worried at first because when I stopped using Foss over 10 years ago the average Foss software was genuinely worse than the paid proprietary alternative. Thankfully things have really come full circle. 90℅ of the software I have tried in the last 2 months works better than the proprietary alternative and is 100℅ less obnoxious.

So here is a list of every Foss software I have tried and recommend. There is way more than this available. This list is just what I have used and like personally. Anyone can feel free to add and we can turn it into a master list. Please just take these as a place to start and do your own research to see if these softwares will work for your use case before you fully ditch your proprietary software.

Operating systems

Graphene os: android alt. Security and privacy focused. The most secure and private smartphone currently available.

Linux mint: easy to use linux, 100℅ better than windows.

Pop!: The Linux distro you should use if you have nividia hardware and want to play games using said hardware. Very intuitive and easy to use.

Kubuntu: Ubuntu Linux with KDE desktop. This is the linux distro one I am currently using and I don't have any plans to jump ship again. Better than windows and better than Mac. The companion app for your phone makes life soooo easy. Its pretty and easy to customize to a ridiculously granular level. No fucking notes.

Kindle jailbreak- ko reader: use jailbreak to free your kindle from the tyranny of the bezos. It will download ko reader which is a Foss OS that has every fucking feature you always wished kindle had and let's you read whatever the fuck you want, and have whatever the screensaver you want (no more ads!). Soooo fuck amazon and use this. I genuinely cannot recommend it enough.

Linux FOSS: (some available on windows and android as well)

Calibre: Foss desktop eBook library. Packed with features. You will want to use this with koreader to make managing your kindle easy.

Manuscript: skrivner alt. Does absolutely everything I need.

Bitwarden: password manager (use a keepass fork if you want self hosted)

Next cloud: private google drive and cloud alternative that you can self host if you want but it's not required. App available

Proton VPN: to the best of my knowledge it is the only Foss no log VPN you can get. You can pay for higher speeds. App available

Quad9dns: free encrypted DNS provider. App available.

News software:

Use any Foss RSS reader and for the love of god stop getting news from social media. Take control of your feed!

Apps (I only know for android)

Fdroid: great app store to find Foss android apps and download them.

Antennapod: you can get all of your podcasts fetched to one feature rich app via RSS feed. No need to rely on spotify or music steaming services.

Openreads: it's good reads but private and 100℅ stored locally. No amazon, no social media aspect, it just tracks your reading, you can import your good reads but if you want to import from storygraph you have to make a good reads burner account, import to good reads, then import to openreads. The menus Navigation on this one is a bit cumbersome but honestly good reads app is worse.

Newpipe: YouTube frontend that let's you have YouTube subscriptions, watch YouTube in the background, and blocks all ads, without logging in to YouTube. You will want to use this one with a VPN set to Canada (or any other country) so YouTube doesn't keep blocking it in order to force you to sign in. But even with that extra step its worth it for the privacy and the lack of ads.

Proton mail: one of 2 more private gmail alts. But you should note that email cannot be 100℅ anonymous or private.

I think that's it. There are still a lot software varieties I am slowly finding.

[anistarrose]

if you are a parent, or may become one, or you are otherwise likely to arrive in the situation of caring for a child while they eat, promise me this: if a child doesn't like a certain food or food group, you will ask them WHY. and specifically, you will pay attention to either confirming or ruling out "it makes my mouth itch" or "it makes my stomach hurt," both of which are medically important info that children may not provide unprompted. which i know because this PSA has been brought to you by "i spent my entire childhood and much of my early teens eating peas and lentils while wondering why everyone else liked the Violently Itchy Mouth Sensation so much, like were they a bunch of legume masochists or something, before i finally realized that Violently Itchy Mouth Sensation was in fact a sinister demon appearing only to me, and her true demonic name was: Legume Allergy"

[anistarrose]

with nothing but affection and care for many of you reporting itchy mouths and "spicy" foods in the notes:

Oral Allergy Syndrome: Why Foods Make Your Mouth Itchy

Learn more about oral allergy syndrome, an allergic reaction to certain foods, including fruits, vegetables and nuts.

[ID: edited conversation screenshot:

Blue: what are u trying to say

Yellow: (image of the Cleveland Clinic's Oral Allergy Syndrome article) go here

Blue: in the oral allergy syndrome information ?

Yellow: go in the OAS information

End ID.]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[ramshacklefey]

No IDs, but these tags got me in a huff:

So ok look. The point is not the flared leg by itself. These cannot be yoga pants. These are, and you have to understand this if you are too young to have worn them, BLUE JEANS. And this was the last years before all jeans were 70% spandex.

They were denim, and they weren't bell bottoms. They hung loose from the knee in a way that would make a wizard envious. We all walked around like we were wearing hakama. And they dragged on the ground. That was important. Ragged cuffs. If your jeans weren't so long that they had ratty cuffs, they were embarrassingly short.

And the thing about denim is that it's a twill weave and it's cotton. So not only does it hold a lot of water, it wicks. Walking around in these suckers on a wet day could get you wet to the knees even if you never stepped in a puddle.

Then you'd go inside and take off your shoes and try to avoid letting your freezing, wet, filthy pant legs touch your skin.

Yoga pants. Hmf.

[elodieunderglass]

people in cold climates would have a tide line of white marks around their knees (if they were normal height) in the winter.

From wicking up road salt.

[taibhsearachd]

The visceral memory of that time is something that never leaves you. Everyone's jeans were many inches higher in the back than the front because you kept stepping on the hem and ripping it off. Your lower legs were so very cold. Every new pair of jeans literally enveloped your entire foot, they were so so long re: leg-to-waist ratio. Walking on a rainy day was a legitimate workout. You have no idea.

[no-one-offical]

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[vedurnan-archive]

[junglejim4322]

They need a pride flag for this

[fuzzypuppybuddie]

It's everywhere

[fuzzypuppybuddie]

There's also it's more 'diverse' fandom twin

[amagicalmoonlight]

[ID 1: drawing of four non-descript characters smiling lined up, three of them have pale skin while one has brown skin and a more mischievous expression, the characters has text pointed to them reading “that one character that gets the melanin because they’re angry/agressive” End ID]

[ID 2: drawing of four non-descript characters lined up, three of them have varied brown skin and expressions while one has pale skin and a more calm smile, the characters has text pointed to them reading “that one character that gets less of the melanin because they’re passive/calm/fancier” End ID]

[genericpuff]

ok hot take incoming but

breathes

while it's obviously very funny and relatable and worth talking about because everyone knows at least 5 movies or shows or comics that have done this exact trope and it's old and bored and exhausting

we still need to be careful when we reduce the historical complexity of racial stereotyping to such broad simplified strokes

because it can very quickly become a problem, especially for the writers and artists who actually belong to these racial groups

because when someone actually wants to write an authentic, interesting, three dimensional character of a specific race (whether they're explicitly that race or are just some fantasy species that's racially coded as a real world race) sometimes that character will have traits that are normally considered 'stereotypes' for that race, and so it might automatically come across as a misinformed stereotype.

this isn't without good reason. the reason we're so on guard with spotting stereotypes is because those stereotypes have been weaponized against their respective cultures / races before (and many still are). there's rarely ever anything 'harmless' about the depiction of the "greedy Jew" or the "savage red-skinned Indian". so these 'less obvious' stereotypes can often be used as dogwhistles for hateful racist rhetoric.

but we always, always, ALWAYS have to be careful when taking the offensive towards perceived stereotyping and casting such a wide net over what could be considered malicious.

because if you affiliate one simple normal trait as being an automatic stereotype when assigned to a person of a certain race, you're simultaneously limiting what people of that race are allowed to be, which is also in itself extremely harmful, and often was even the point of these stereotypes becoming weaponized in the first place - to force people of these races to be ashamed of who they were so they'd conform to a majority ideal of who they should be.

writing in this way can more often than not make for weaker characters, especially when it results in budding writers with good intentions (or even professionals within the industry) becoming afraid of their own characters and story because they immediately fear writing something that could be harmful. audience members can tell when a work is afraid of them.

yes, it's always important to do your research! it's always important to study the relationship between stereotypes and the races that these stereotypes were weaponized towards. if you're not the race you're trying to depict in your story (esp if you're trying to depict cultural-specific stuff like setting your story in Japan or writing about a Polynesian tribe), for the love of god, speak with someone from that culture who's willing to help out so you can get an informed opinion. this is bare minimum shit.

context also matters. obviously a white person taking from Indigenous culture to write Pocahontas set in space isn't gonna come across as helpful or sincere as an Indigenous person writing that same story. trust me, this trope of the "angry wild brown person" is EXHAUSTING when you know for a fact it was made by someone who's never actually seen or met an Indigenous person before. it's not representation at that point, it's just cultural tourism / theft.

but remember, before they were stereotypes, they were just normal human traits, oftentimes traits that were culturally significant to these groups before they were weaponized against them by majority groups in power who stood to benefit from turning their own traits against them, as a means to disempower them on a social, economic, and political level.

speaking from personal experience as an Indigenous person, the stereotype of the "angry savage Indian" wasn't created in a vacuum, it was propaganda created by English colonizers specifically designed to villainize Indigenous peoples who didn't conform to oppressive English norms and were simply fighting back to defend themselves.

so when I write about my Indigenous-coded fantasy OC whose aggressive small-attack-dog personality was largely influenced by the experiences of the angry little undiagnosed Indigenous-in-an-all-white-school teenager who came up with her 15+ years ago?

please for the love of god don't reduce her to a stereotype. we both deserve better than that.

ofc I'd like to believe most people who see the above graphic will know it's an oversimplification for the sake of comedy. I don't want people thinking I'm nitpicking the creator's intention or arguing with their point or being intentionally obtuse lmao

But I also know from experience how much budding writers - especially younger folks - tend to internalize these ironic gags that are pulling double duty in trying to make a point to such a degree that they wind up tripping over themselves. They see the point and immediately go "wait, shit, am I doing that?!" and then they panic and stress out and lose their capacity to understand nuance or context because all they might interpret on their end is, "DON'T MAKE BROWN CHARACTERS ANGRY!!!" (especially neurodivergent writers, hello, it's me)

Yes, it's important to check! Because sometimes you really are writing through stereotypes! But that doesn't automatically mean you've committed a hate crime or that your work is now exclusively propaganda material.

A lot of us write from what we know, and the unfortunate but inevitable reality is that we're all susceptible to propaganda from the moment we're born, and much of that propaganda is often extremely subtle and designed to not be noticeable. That's what makes it propaganda in the first place.

So take a step back and examine your reasoning for writing the character the way you did. Analyze the works you were inspired by. Always be willing to look at your work and the works that inspired you through new angles, as that's the only thing that will help you gain confidence and figure out if what you're writing is authentic or just misinformed.

These things are way more nuanced and complicated than we give them credit for - but also way more flexible !

Just do your research, and be open to learning and changing and growing ~ヾ(・ω・)

[rohirric-hunter]

There are only so many ways to politely say, "I understand that what you are telling me is that you are an executive at [CLIENT]; however I have never seen you before in my life and you don't have a badge or company ID so could you please provide even one single piece of evidence for this claim"

[mollyjames]

I still cant believe tumblr tried to make it so there was an individual note count for each post addition; as though best part of successfully adding to a post isn't that you get to sit back smugly as the original poster's notifications are rendered unusable

[lakemojave]

Reblog this post to render OP's notifications unusable

[mollyjames]

HEY

[pangur-and-grim]

it’s so…… stupid that grey rocking, or making yourself as non-reactive and boring as possible, is in part the solution to domestic abuse, and stalking, and grizzly bear attacks, and online harassment, and enduring my fucking eight pound cat. because he wants fun things to happen, and it’s fun when I dash over and go “ohhhh noooo, nooo” and it’s even more fun when I pick things up, because then he can bat them down again. it is taking so much strength of will to ignore the loud and ominous thuds from the other room, but this is the only way. I can see him checking on me to make sure I heard. his pupils are so big and evil. Belphie, we can play fetch on the catio in 10 minutes, but right now I need to renew my government dental coverage.

[ace-disgrace-on-the-case]

It’s wild how when you’re fat or even just not skinny you don’t get to wear fucking anything

[lizardsister]

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