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@darrellblackmore
Unbiased journalism is not pretending both sides are equally valid. Unbiased journalism is reporting the facts even if those facts include that one side is irredeemably awful. False neutrality is propaganda.
Repeated for emphasis: False neutrality is propaganda.
if 99 experts say one thing, and 1 expert says another, presenting both sides as equal is misinformation
Which is why our media is saying stuff like ‘Trump once more makes unsubstantiated claims about election fraud’.
And I know which of the two breaks more easily.
disclaimer: I am east asian. if anyone who is not white sees anything wrong with my phrasing, inaccuracies, or insensitivity, or something I missed, please feel free to add on. I’m just one person with one perspective; none of what I say should be taken as The Singular way to draw an Asian character. if you havent done so already, please take the effort to expand your view of Asian culture outside this one tutorial.
if a white person reblogs this and adds something stupid I’m going to bite and kick you like a wild animal
I LOVE this post and wanted to add some additional info, cause I see a lot of people who assume that drawing asian hair is the same as drawing white hair. This is not the case! There’s more to it than just the color.
Image description for the original post and my addition are underneath the read more at the end.
Thank you for reading! Once again, image description for my images and OP’s images are under the cut.
Just like OP, I’m only one single person, so if anyone wants to correct me or add something I missed, then go for it. And further disclaimer, there are exceptions to everything I’ve said in this post, and it only applies to East and Southeast asian people who are either not mixed or white-mixed, as those are the hair types I’m most familiar with.
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I’d like to add that there are Black people of non-African decent in Asia. We exist. So the whole “I won’t draw Black people in anime because it’s set in ~Asia~” is absolutely bullshit (besides the fact that those of African decent also live there). The so called “negrito” ethnic group is comprised of many different cultures throughout south and southeast Asia and are considered Black (they have dark skin and coiled ‘Afro-texture’ hair) Additionally, the Moluccan and Papuan people of southeast Indonesia are Black.
Also regarding hair, naturally curly hair absolutely is a thing in e/s/se Asia. Our hair runs the gamut from loose wavy curls to tight, kinky coiled hair.
Blonde or red hair and blue eyes are also possible in Maluku and Papua, due to genetic quirk that has nothing to do with having white heritage.
On to types of curly hair Asian people can have:
[A picture of Sandra Oh with a long, curly shag haircut, wearing a pink blouse against a white backdrop] Sandra Oh is a great example of an east Asia person with curly hair. She has wavy/curly hair.
[A picture of Aarti Sequeria, an Indian woman with medium skin tone, shoulder length medium curls, wearing a green blouse against a colorful background]
Curly hair is also common in south Asia. This is Aarti Sequeria, an Indian person with tighter curls.
Then we get to the tightest curls.
[Three pictures of young people from Maluku or Papua Indonesia. The first shows two boys in blue shirts with dark skin and curly hair. The boy on the left has loose, dark curls and the boy on the right has dark red-blonde tightly coiled curls. The second picture shows a child with very dark skin with red undertones. They have tightly curled dark red-orange hair. The last one shows a boy with dark brown skin, dark ash blonde hair, and dark grey eyes. He is not wearing a shirt. End description]
These are all people from Maluku and Papua in southeast Indonesia. This is their natural hair color and texture. Also note how warm their skin tone is. As a note, the reason these are all pictures of children is that more often than not, those with blonde hair as children will have their hair darken as they get older. Additionally, note how the roots are much darker than the ends. This is because most of the blonde hair comes from sun bleaching rather than it coming out of the scalp blonde.
My family is from Maluku and I have cousins with the same bright red hair, and both of their parents have dark brown/black hair. I also have family who have blue eyes, but both of their parents have brown eyes. So while it’s very, very uncommon, it is possible for an Asian person to be blonde. However, unless you are depicting someone from these areas, the blue eyes/blonde hair is still very much a don’t do this, especially if you are a white artist.
There are so many ways to look Asian. So many hair textures, so many skin colors. Asia is a lot more diverse than the west depicts it to be.
We need to thank the Navajo a nation! They all got out and voted with no cars and few polling places- their population was enough to swing BOTH Arizona and New Mexico
there had better be video. in 4K, with clean audio i want to hear his shoes scrabbling on the floor as he's dragged out
I want him to be shot with a tranquilizer dart like a feral animal and dragged away
I hope the agents that had to escort him when he was sick but not wearing his mask, get to do the honors.
disclaimer: I am east asian. if anyone who is not white sees anything wrong with my phrasing, inaccuracies, or insensitivity, or something I missed, please feel free to add on. I'm just one person with one perspective; none of what I say should be taken as The Singular way to draw an Asian character. if you havent done so already, please take the effort to expand your view of Asian culture outside this one tutorial.
if a white person reblogs this and adds something stupid I'm going to bite and kick you like a wild animal
Random note: Indonesian + Caucasian mixed blood can look incredibly varied. Guess what they’re often mistaken for when their looks fall inbetween the two ethnicities? Turks. As in, they get treated as shit by people who hate those of Turkish descent. Also, even the Turkish migrants will mistake them for being of Turkish descent.
I wish people didn't identify as Republicans or Democrats. If you aren't an elected politician, I don't think it is healthy to apply those labels to yourself.
It turns politics into a game where "your side" wins or loses, instead of actually considering how particular policies impact our county. It makes it so much harder cognitively to learn about issues in an unbiased way (rather that just instantly adopting the party platform. It turns people into FANS of politicians who need to support their faces, instead of being constituents that politicians need to serve.
TL:DR- Find words that describe your positions, but don't dedicate yourself to a party.
How about we just vote 3rd party instead of Republican and Democrat?
I do in situations where a third party candidate best represents my position on issues. Which happens sometimes, but not all the time.
What about this time with the presidential race?
Voting third party in US presidential races has the same effect as voting for the Republican, in this case Trump. You have a binary choice in this election, and nothing else.
Not if enough people vote for it.
Which we KNOW won’t happen. So why are you trying to get Trump to win AGAIN by encouraging people to throw away their vote? Who’s paying you to get the sexist racist to win so he can completely destroy the Supreme Court and the country for decades to come?
Where the hell did I say that i want to have trump win again??? I'm saying vote 3rd party and then we wont have to deal with EITHER of their bullshit. I don't want him in office, but I also don't want biden in office either, so I'm voting 3rd party. Stop putting words into my mouth. Part of getting a party in office is to encourage people to vote for it. Saying that 'oh it will never happen" isn't encouraging it, It's making us even more into a 2 party country. It's a team effort, damn. God people like you are why I hate everything past 2008. People used to be nicer to others and more open minded but now all we have are assholes on top of assholes everywhere.
You know full well a third party candidate will never win. Which means you’re deliberately encouraging people to throw away their vote, rather than voting for a somewhat-decent candidate over a sexist racist piece of human garbage, all in the hope that Trump wins.
Stupidity stopped being an excuse after the 2016 elections. Your deliberate malicious manipulations are the perfect proof you’re a MAGA asshole. There is nobody who would ever believe you don’t know EXACTLY what you’re doing by trying to get people to throw their vote away.
People like you are why I hate assholes like you and have been since the damage your ilk caused in 2016. Your racist ass disgusts me. You say you care about people, but you deliberately try to sabotage Biden’s chances to win, in the hope that Trump will cause even far worse violence towards them. You’re nothing but a racist lying piece of human garbage, just like the man you claim not to follow.
You’re pushing for a fake agenda of ‘hey if enough people vote 3rd party, the 3rd party stands a chance’, while you KNOW that the only thing voting 3rd party does, is giving the worse candidate a better chance to win. And yet you want to claim I’m the asshole and block me for calling you out on your third-party-bullshit? Try again, MAGA-nutjob. Hell, the candidate you’re promoting is disgusting, not even a person of good morals, yet you’re claiming you’re an okay human being. >_> Glad you blocked me because I tire of your lies.
I wish people didn't identify as Republicans or Democrats. If you aren't an elected politician, I don't think it is healthy to apply those labels to yourself.
It turns politics into a game where "your side" wins or loses, instead of actually considering how particular policies impact our county. It makes it so much harder cognitively to learn about issues in an unbiased way (rather that just instantly adopting the party platform. It turns people into FANS of politicians who need to support their faces, instead of being constituents that politicians need to serve.
TL:DR- Find words that describe your positions, but don't dedicate yourself to a party.
How about we just vote 3rd party instead of Republican and Democrat?
I do in situations where a third party candidate best represents my position on issues. Which happens sometimes, but not all the time.
What about this time with the presidential race?
Voting third party in US presidential races has the same effect as voting for the Republican, in this case Trump. You have a binary choice in this election, and nothing else.
Not if enough people vote for it.
Which we KNOW won’t happen. So why are you trying to get Trump to win AGAIN by encouraging people to throw away their vote? Who’s paying you to get the sexist racist to win so he can completely destroy the Supreme Court and the country for decades to come?
Where the hell did I say that i want to have trump win again??? I'm saying vote 3rd party and then we wont have to deal with EITHER of their bullshit. I don't want him in office, but I also don't want biden in office either, so I'm voting 3rd party. Stop putting words into my mouth. Part of getting a party in office is to encourage people to vote for it. Saying that 'oh it will never happen" isn't encouraging it, It's making us even more into a 2 party country. It's a team effort, damn. God people like you are why I hate everything past 2008. People used to be nicer to others and more open minded but now all we have are assholes on top of assholes everywhere.
You know full well a third party candidate will never win. Which means you’re deliberately encouraging people to throw away their vote, rather than voting for a somewhat-decent candidate over a sexist racist piece of human garbage, all in the hope that Trump wins.
Stupidity stopped being an excuse after the 2016 elections. Your deliberate malicious manipulations are the perfect proof you’re a MAGA asshole. There is nobody who would ever believe you don’t know EXACTLY what you’re doing by trying to get people to throw their vote away.
People like you are why I hate assholes like you and have been since the damage your ilk caused in 2016. Your racist ass disgusts me. You say you care about people, but you deliberately try to sabotage Biden’s chances to win, in the hope that Trump will cause even far worse violence towards them. You’re nothing but a racist lying piece of human garbage, just like the man you claim not to follow.
I wish people didn't identify as Republicans or Democrats. If you aren't an elected politician, I don't think it is healthy to apply those labels to yourself.
It turns politics into a game where "your side" wins or loses, instead of actually considering how particular policies impact our county. It makes it so much harder cognitively to learn about issues in an unbiased way (rather that just instantly adopting the party platform. It turns people into FANS of politicians who need to support their faces, instead of being constituents that politicians need to serve.
TL:DR- Find words that describe your positions, but don't dedicate yourself to a party.
How about we just vote 3rd party instead of Republican and Democrat?
I do in situations where a third party candidate best represents my position on issues. Which happens sometimes, but not all the time.
What about this time with the presidential race?
Voting third party in US presidential races has the same effect as voting for the Republican, in this case Trump. You have a binary choice in this election, and nothing else.
Not if enough people vote for it.
Which we KNOW won’t happen. So why are you trying to get Trump to win AGAIN by encouraging people to throw away their vote? Who’s paying you to get the sexist racist to win so he can completely destroy the Supreme Court and the country for decades to come?
I learned recently that at least some tribes of early Britons (in particular the Silures and Picts) were actually dark-skinned people with curly black hair. Contemporary sources compared them to Iberians and even Africans.
This supposedly has to do with the fact that the original Celts were Iberian and their ancestors migrated across the strait of Gibraltar from Africa. The red-haired and pale look typically associated with Celtic identity likely comes from admixture from Germanic peoples. Remember that everyone’s ancestors came from Africa if you go far back enough.
Evidence of this phenotype can still be seen in some people today, particularly those from Wales and other western coastal regions. For example:
Welsh presenter Alex Jones
Welsh footballer Chris Coleman
Welsh actress Catherine Zeta-Jones who can notably pass for Hispanic.
English actor Ian McShane
It’s important to note that none of these people are immigrants or descended from immigrants. They all come from families native to the British Isles.
The take-home message here is A) don’t ever let anyone tell you British = pale and B) this
may actually be one of the most accurate versions of Guinevere we’ve seen so far.
This post is hard to find because Tumblr hates links so I’m giving it a boost.
Hold on they are Welsh?!
@matzahball
For a second I didn’t realize it meant “high” as in a stoner--I thought “High Geologist” was like a rank of geologist or something and he was insulted you would challenge him to naming stones
great poast every one👍
I have drawn him.... The High Geologist
Can’t believe he’s ace
He is now And here’s the photo evidence:
this morning NASA abandoned their mars rover Opportunity (aka Oppy) because it (she) got hit by a storm on Mars and it knocked her camera and wheels out and her last words to the team were “my battery is low and it is getting cold”. I know she’s a machine but I’m devastated. Oppy is the one who discovered water on Mars. RIP oppy ily space baby
they didn’t abandon her!! they tried eight months to reach her!!!! as their last farewell to her yesterday they played her “I’ll be seeing you” by Billie Holiday:
“I’ll find you in the morning sun
And when the night is new
I’ll be looking at the moon
But I’ll be seeing you”
They love her so much and they tried so hard!!!
Oh man, It doesn’t end there.
This isn’t the first song NASA sent Opportunity. They had a playlist:
https://www.space.com/41434-mars-rover-opportunity-wakeup-music-playlist.html?fbclid=IwAR3uL6q4tOmLQTIEhiwYegGc99nv4N01HQKItpCLQiQYIptBOevNN6uIyT8
It’s on Spotify, it’s called “Opportunity, wake up!“
This is what’s great about NASA and it’s what’s great about people. These are world-class engineers. When they sent a rover to another planet they could have easily looked at it as just another scientific tool. But people don’t do that. We can and will get emotionally attached to the most inanimate of objects. We can and will anthropomorphize anything. And frankly Opportunity’s camera mast looks like a little face with eyes and everything, so why not?
So they started calling it her.
They nicknamed her Oppy.
They told her to take a selfie not long ago.
After 15 years of Oppy flipping the double bird to her original 90 day life expectancy, when a planet-spanning dust storm finally knocked her out and she stopped responding to the engineer’s wake-up messages, they started playing music for her.
And after 8 months and almost 1000 unanswered wake-up messages, when it was finally clear that Oppy was never going to wake up, the last thing these world-class NASA engineers did for their little rover on another planet
Was play her a love song
oh my gosh… sometimes I recognize that Humanity kind of sucks… But I live for content and feelings like this. Thank you, NASA.
It’s been two years since this happened and it still hurts.
TWO YEARS?!
Our instinct to pack bond with anything includes our machines.
Excuse me, I was using those feels. One of these days I’m going to write some martian colonization thing where they found the exploration robots, fixed them, and named nearby citydomes after them.
Capsule hotel
The one exception I have to that: Grimm. I was PISSED that they made Hitler a Wessen.
Note: Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez graduated Cum Laude from Boston University.
Wasn’t she working as a bar tender before she got elected?
Folks on the right always seem very concerned that AOC was a bartender. They ignore her prestigious education and the fact that she graduated with distinction. They ignore that she has relevant degrees. And they ignore that she worked for the nonprofit National Hispanic Institute gaining relevant experience in activism.
I’ve also noticed that conservatives constantly complain about “elites.” They propped up “Joe Six Pack” because they felt too many lawmakers were out of touch and they wanted people who understood the common folk. Blue collar workers are the heart and soul of America, right?
Did you know that nearly half of congress is filled with lawyers? And the rest are mostly businessmen. What do lawyers know about my life? What do lawyers know about struggling to pay bills? What do lawyers know about what it’s like to hold a low wage job? How are they supposed to represent me and my needs?
Do you know why AOC worked as a bartender? Her father died and her mother’s jobs as a house cleaner and bus driver were not enough to fight foreclosure. So Alexandria put her career ambitions on hold and got a job as a bartender to help her mom. Conservatives are all about “family values” right? AOC valued her family so much that she worked a grueling job out of love for her mom.
And you want to trivialize that?
AOC knows my struggle more than Mitch McConnell and Donald Trump. I have confidence that AOC will represent me and my family’s needs more so than any lawyer or businessman who is just looking to enrich themselves.
Maybe we need a few more bartenders and a few less lawyers.
Republicans: “Work hard and get a better job, snowflake” AOC: *works hard and gets a better job* Republicans: “N-No, not like that”
Also, can we stop implying being a bartender is some kind of low skilled job.
You have to:
Remember where everything is.
Be able to mix all the common cocktails, plus any signature drinks, accurately, every single time, from memory.
Be adaptable enough to deal with that customer (hi) who hands you their phone and says “Make this,” or who asks for “something fruity”
Possibly create those signature drinks.
Have amazing customer service skills.
Be able to deal with some schmuck spilling everything out of their mouth while drunk.
Know how to tell all the ways drunk people act so you can properly judge when to cut somebody off.
Know how to cut somebody off without them throwing a punch at you.
Practice high levels of hygiene.
Have good math skills.
Be able to work out what the heck to charge when that customer (hi) hands you their phone and says “Make this.”
Be able to track inventory.
Be able to mediate between customers. Including customers who are married.
Basic technical skills (The beer pump breaks, what do you do?)
Be fit enough to be on your feet behind the bar for several hours a day.
Stay calm no matter what.
Look appropriate at all times.
Seems like a pretty dang good preparation for politics to me.
Tending bar is tough. I’ve never done it, but I watch a hotel bar on a busy night and suspect I never could.
YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER WHERE EVERYTHING IS. I’m dying. That’s not labor that’s how you avoid running into walls lmao.
I meant where all the bottles are! Sheesh.
@claytonfromillinois
Glitch please, I have trouble finding the spices I already used before, I’d never be able to find the right whiskey or other bottle without having to scan at least ten others first.
Hypotheses
This meme always leaves out
Step 3: Write it down
Which we all know is the real difference between science and fucking around.
Step 4: Do it again.
So many Pro-Spanking advocates talk about how they “Deserved” to be hit by their parents because they were “a bad kid.” And it makes me so sad.
You weren’t.
You weren’t a bad kid, and you didn’t deserve to be hit. Maybe you were a difficult kid, maybe you struggled with boundaries or rules or expectations. Maybe you had bad behavior much of the time. But you, yourself, were not and are not a BAD person for that, and you didn’t EARN violence. You didn’t have it coming. It shouldn’t have happened to you.
Someone’s kids are spoiled rotten little fucks who don’t know how to behave in public or at home. There have been many attempts to successfully pull spanking from parenting in recent years as the post modernist mentality hit that realm. But there is a reason is it a tried and true part of parenting because there is a balance to achieve between rewards and punishment. Some parents are too liberal with spankings and others won’t even hold it in reserve for the worst of behaviors. New age parenting is incomplete because it only looks at half of the nessisary puzzle to raise your child. If you look at studies previous to the 90s you find that spanking was beneficial, but when the post modernist echo chamber started impacting psychology this flipped to reject all classic knowledge as is a trend with post modernism as a whole.
Spanking does more harm than good
The AAP stance on discipline
Research on Spanking: It’s Bad for ALL Kids
10 Reasons Not to Hit Your Child
Reduced Prefrontal Cortical Gray Matter Volume in Young Adults Exposed to Harsh Corporal Punishment
Mothers’ Spanking of 3-Year-Old Children and Subsequent Risk of Children’s Aggressive Behavior
Physical Punishment and Mental Disorders: Results From a Nationally Representative US Sample
Spanking and Child Development Across the First Decade of Life
Ten (more) Reasons Not to Hit Your Kids
Seriously, Don’t Spank Your Kids
Why parents should never spank children
PLEASE DON’T SPANK YOUR CHILDREN AND WHAT TO DO INSTEAD
Don’t spank your children. Do these 5 things instead.
And all of these are post 1990. Did you even read what I said, or simply get triggered by my statement so quick you just replied.
The first one explicitly says that its built off 50 years of collected meta data. Soooo.
And Also “This science is too recent” is an interesting methodology. Like…that…isn’t how sociology works.
also, the main reason nonviolent parenting styles haven’t worked isn’t because you need violence to parent, it’s because the various methods never actually address the problem. we have this weird idea that consequences are the best deterrent to bad behavior, but that simply isn’t true. If consequences- be it spanking, a time out, losing your video games, going to jail, etc- are the ONLY THING keeping you from doing something bad, you’ll more than likely do it if you think you can get away with it. or, alternatively, you’ll be so afraid of consequences that you’ll be mentally incapacitated at the slightest hint that someone is upset with you, killing your social life and any chance to learn the skills you need to handle that situation. what actually stops being from misbehaving is understanding WHY they shouldn’t do something. and “my house, my rules” doesn’t cut it as a reason; there needs to be an understandable reason. sometimes it’s an inherent consequence; you can’t put a cookie in the ps2 because then the ps2 breaks and you can’t play video games anymore. sometimes it’s a moral reason; you can’t hit your sister because it hurts her and makes her upset. sometimes it’s a social reason; grandma will think you’re rude if you drop a hard boiled egg in her water glass. you need to actually talk to your kid and help them understand these things with whatever level of reasoning they have. and if they’re too young to be reasoned with, they’re too young to understand why you’re hurting them. another issue is that many times, the child does understand why they need to be better, but they’re unable to. bad grades are a huge example of this. getting spanked for a bad grade never made me do better, it just made me cry so hard i choked every time i got anything below a C. it took until highschool, with no help from my parents or teachers, to realize that the reason i was failing was because i had memory problems, and it took another year to figure out how to remember better. if my dad had sat down and taught me some ways to remember better instead of putting me over his knee, i would have been doing much better. and this may surprise you, but the reason we’re finally understanding that spanking DOESN’T benefit kids is because we’re finally looking at them as people, not pets or property. child psychology is about understanding that this is a human being with all the same capacity for feelings that you have, maybe even more, and not nearly enough resources to express them. children aren’t little monsters that need to be herded and corralled and trained. they’re very tiny, very confused people, and it’s our responsibility to teach them how life works.
I was spanked as a child all the time. In fact, the only reason my parents stopped spanking me was because I built up a tollerance to it and it no longer hurt. That being said, when I get married and have kids, I will spank them too. As a child I was (and still am) very strong willed and very argumentative. I wasn’t a bad kid, I just knew how to argue and wouldn’t take no for an answer. Spanking helped me stay out of any trouble I could possibly get into, and by associating doing wrong with pain it actually built my empathy because anytime I would accidentally hurt someone I would instantly feel awful and apologize. Spanking did me a lot of good growing up and that’s something I want my future kids to have as well. It’s not abuse. It’s not beating your child. It’s a spanking used as a punishment for a behavior that your child should not be displaying.
well maybe (as a child who was also spanked) you should first try to find the reason why they were acting out because hitting your child no matter what the reason is fucking wrong.
and there are other ways to punish them than making them associate physical pain with you and anger. talk to your fucking children. find out what’s fucking wrong.
all that spanking taught me was how to better hide my rebellious tendencies and fake a personality better. my relationship with my parents will never be what it could because from a young age i couldn’t fucking trust them to not hit me when i screwed up.
Did your parents just spank you randomly??
Literally the only time I was ever spanked was when I broke a rule, did something with malicious intent, or was doing something I shouldn’t have been doing. Spankings did absolutely nothing to my relationship with my parents because it was understood that I wouldn’t get spanked if I just stayed out of trouble and didn’t do anything with the intent to upset someone.
Plus every single time I was spanked my parents would tell me exactly why I was being spanked abd how many spankings I would receive as a punishment beforehand. Then afterwards they would ask me why I was spanked so that they knew that I understood that they weren’t spanking me because they hated me, but instead because I did something I wasn’t supposed to.
I’m sorry your parents spanking you had such a huge effect on your relationship with them, but I still hold my belief that when done correctly spanking can be an effective disciplinary action that doesn’t leave psychological effects on the child.
Again -points to over 50 years of study on this-
Have you considered that hitting children and then telling them “mommy loves you, but I HAD to hit you because you deserved it. Sometimes the people who you WILL hurt you and it will be your fault because you were bad” is a BAD lesson for children?
Also “my parents hit me and I WILL hit my own children” is not the strong argument you think it is. All that shows is that you haven’t learned any way other than violence to solve issues with children.
I’m glad that you personally don’t feel like your parents hitting you scarred you, but your personal feelings on the issue don’t negate 50+ years of peer reviewed research.
If you read the notes on this post regarding the conversation I had earlier with someone else, you would see that I already said that if spanking my children brings any psychological harm to them, I would immediately switch to a different disciplinary tactic. The system my parents used with me left no mark on our relationship and even helped me build empathy for others, which is why I would like to try it with my future children.
I would also like to state as someone getting a degree in psychology and as someone who has experience in the mental health field, those studies are great and everything, but you have to look at who funded them. Many times studies get carried out because a certain group wants to push something for their own agenda. That’s why awful treatments such as gay conversion therapy lasted for so long, because those who didn’t support the lgbt community wanted to make being gay an illness. Even now, being asexual is considered a psychosexual disorder in the DSM5. I’m not trying to discredit the APA and all the work psychologists have put into bettering the mental health field, but you have to look into where the funding for the research came from.
Psychological harm can take YEARS to manifest. You dont get a notification on your phone that pops up “oops! An action you just took has scarred your child for life.”
These are long term effects and you DO NOT and CAN NOT know how they will affect a kid until the damage is done. We know there is a risk, we know it is not best practice, we know there are better and safer alternatives. If you choose to hit your kids anyway, then you have decided that it was easier to risk their mental health than it was to learn nonviolent parenting techniques, and THEY have to live with that.
And while, yes, science is not always perfect- do you ACTUALLY have any evidence that ANY of the studies I linked are dubious in anyway? Or are you just in general trying to discredit science because it would make it harder to justify hitting your future children?
Neither me nor my sister have suffered any effects from the system my parents used for us growing up.
Also if an experience was truly traumatic for a child, you WILL be able to tell with in a few days. Children become very quiet and usually will not want to talk about what happened. They will more of less avoid eye contact with people and many times will either isolate themselves or will only spend their time with a person they feel safe with. Of course there’s other symptoms abd each child is an individual, but these are fairly prevalent.
While a child can take psychological trauma from the duration in which a traumatic event lasted, no child (or even adult for that matter) will go through a traumatic experience and feel nothing until years later and then suddenly have trauma from that experience.
And regarding your links you posted, I couldn’t use half of those in an academic setting. At the university level they are not considered credible because they don’t come directly from academic journals and if I used them in an essay to prove my points I would not get credit for the essay. Also remember, I’m getting a degree in psychology. I’m studying to be a doctoral holding psychologist. I also have extensive experience in the mental health field, especially with childhood depression and childhood ADHD. I’m not some random person on the internet trying to discredit science. This is my degree, my career, and I’m educated regarding this area.
Also mind you, my objective is not to be able to beat the shit out of my children. Ever. In fact, I’ve never even been able to raise my hand to someone ever in my life. I hate the idea for ever bringing physical pain to someone, but if my parents system (which I described earlier in the notes of this post) worked for both me and my sister and neither of us had any sort of trauma from it, then it can possibly be utilized for my future children.
Again, YOUR personal feelings about whether or not you have had any adverse affects from being hit as a child doesnt negate 50+ years of scientific peer reviewed research. Even if YOU truly dodged the bullet here, that doesnt mean your kids will. (Also, the fact that you claim that you would never raise a hand to anyone, except your young children if they misbehave isnt a glowing endorsement of how you ‘turned out’)
And also, for the record, my degree is in education, with studies in early childhood psychology and pedagogy. So if you wanna talk about what methods are the most effective at teaching children, I promise you, HITTING them doesnt make the list.
But yes, there are a LOT of links up there and many of them arent the studies themselves. Lets just focus on this one.
An analysis of 50 years of research showed no evidence that spanking does any good for children; instead, it increases their risk of detrime
Why do you think this SPECIFIC study isn’t valid?
“ I’m not some random person on the internet trying to discredit science. This is my degree, my career, and I’m educated regarding this area. “ Quit your degree and career then, because your willful declaration to hit your kids, and denial of all science that you don’t like the results of, shows you should be kept as far away from all children as possible.
