[glumshoe]

I’m tired of seeing people compare all kinds of “fantasy intimacy” to sex. Mind-melding, drifting, fusing, touching someone’s daemon, etc, are deeply intimate acts in a fantasy context, yes, but they’re not “sex”. Fantasy intimacy usually centers around some act that allows you to be known and understood by another person, almost in a sense of shared selfhood. Even the best sex can’t allow the literal transference of subjective qualia. Fantasy intimacy is a realization of the impossible human desire for flawless interpersonal communication of inexpressible ideas.

Yeah, sure, ‘fantasy intimacy’ isn’t something characters will do on a whim with any old bastard. There are parallels with sex in that it’s deeply personal and trusting, and can be incredibly violating when not consensual. But looking at a piece of media in which children combine or touch souls and calling it sexual is… oh, please.

[dateon]

i just want to offer my condolences OP for the shit sex that you have had n hope 4 u to have good +understanding filled mind melding inducing sex in the future

[profbastard-replies]

The poor-reading comprehension of tumblr strikes again

[dateon]

kid youre telling on your own self im going to be out here literally experiencing mind melding miraculous sex with my significant other u can do watever

[lookataleaf3000]

no offense but if your hard line ideological group *demands* the kind of purity of adherence in your personal & intimate life (body, dating, etc) and language to the point where if you actually followed it somehow you’d be completely unable to interact with anyone outside your corner of a corner of a group. 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚨 🚨 🚨

[dateon]

this post: hey go outside, the world is homophobic. gotta take it +like in it anyways, asshole.

the woman literally lives a life supporting the homophobic ideas our “”scare quotes hardline ideology!!!” pearl clutch!!! DEMANDS... (how DAre You!!!) your take is fucking weak. goodnight

[radfemtimelady-deactivated20190]

As long as religion exists, nothing will ever change. We have grown ass adults in the government who won’t do anything about global warming because they believe that a magical being in the sky created the earth and will protect it.

[dateon]

the magical being in the sky is the sun and she will swallow us all

[news-queue]

Upskirting to become crime carrying two-year sentence

Campaigner Gina Martin said she was exhausted and happy after taking photos under people's clothes became a specific offence.

Upskirting is to be a criminal offence after the bill passed its third reading in the House of Lords.

The campaign, started by Gina Martin, sought to make it a specific offence to take a picture under a person’s clothes without their consent.

Last June, the Ministry of Justice (MoJ) said it would back the ban which formed part of the Voyeurism (Offences) Bill.

On Tuesday it received its third reading which means it will soon be on the statute book, and law.

Ms Martin tweeted: “I am over the moon. Upskirting will be illegal.

“After becoming a victim and recognising a gap in the law, I partnered with Ryan Whelan of Gibson Dunn and began 18 months of exhaustive, emotional and life-changing work.

“Now? We have changed the law!

“I always thought politics was impenetrable but with the right help and willpower you can do it. We did it. We made upskirting a sexual offence!

“I am exhausted and so so happy!”

The bill is part of the sexual offences act of 2003. Upskirting is already a crime in Scotland.

Ms Martin, a freelance writer living in London, campaigned for the banafter two men took a picture up her skirt at a festival in 2017.

She spotted one of the men sharing the image on his mobile in front of her. Despite snatching the phone and presenting it to police, the case was closed four days later.

Victims previously had to use other avenues likes outraging public decency but upskirting offences will now come with a sentence of up to two years in prison.

Baroness Anita Gale tweeted: “The Voyeurism Bill received its Third reading in the House of Lords this afternoon so it should soon be on the Statute Book.

“Victims of upskirting will now get justice and the perpetrators will be brought to justice.”

In the Lords, Baroness Chakrabarti said: “I pay tribute to the campaigner Gina Martin, whose original indignity was converted into a powerful campaign to do something important that we can all agree on.

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[dateon]

this is interesting given that man that got 18 months for sexually abusing his daughter or watever.

[lilmamabeyellin]

[liquidlimits-deactivated2019032]

I just opened up a check in the mail, went to the ATM & found 20$ 😭 I’m not passing these shits up NO more on my mama!

[razxion]

Even if I do not receive money or good news, I did smile at seeing this smiling Buddha.

[dailypattondoodles]

^^^^

[black-hippie-moonchild]

Same here ☺️☺️

[vladtheunfollower]

I used to follow this hippy woman on ig that said she is only planning on having sex that is “soul satisfying” and honestly …I felt that. bring the love and spirituality back into our sexual lives please

[bushlesbian-deactivated20190425]

everyone read up on the Erotic by Audre Lorde

[dateon]

@glumshoe ...

[glumshoe]

I’m tired of seeing people compare all kinds of “fantasy intimacy” to sex. Mind-melding, drifting, fusing, touching someone’s daemon, etc, are deeply intimate acts in a fantasy context, yes, but they’re not “sex”. Fantasy intimacy usually centers around some act that allows you to be known and understood by another person, almost in a sense of shared selfhood. Even the best sex can’t allow the literal transference of subjective qualia. Fantasy intimacy is a realization of the impossible human desire for flawless interpersonal communication of inexpressible ideas.

Yeah, sure, ‘fantasy intimacy’ isn’t something characters will do on a whim with any old bastard. There are parallels with sex in that it’s deeply personal and trusting, and can be incredibly violating when not consensual. But looking at a piece of media in which children combine or touch souls and calling it sexual is… oh, please.

[dateon]

i just want to offer my condolences OP for the shit sex that you have had n hope 4 u to have good +understanding filled mind melding inducing sex in the future

[deejay]

Reblog if you need this energy

[guy]

big check energy

[wellyfullofale]

I think next thursday is gonna be the best day of my entire life tbh

[thequeenofsunflowers-deactivate]

reblog for next thursday to be the best day of your life

[sstudyblr]

not risking it

[cyanidegay]

im going back through some old posts of mine and i made a post about how transphobes don’t belong at pride and someone reblogged it saying that wanting trans people at pride made me a homophobe,, my guy.

im gay

[thisispeaktrans]

You are a straight girl. You are not gay. You do not experience homophobia.

[cyanidegay]

i am a gay man

[thisispeaktrans]

You are a boring white girl larping as a gay man. NEXT

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

[cyanidegay]

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

Press X to doubt

[cyanidegay]

well shit better not press x

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

You’re right, cause then you’ll be exposed as a straight girl :0!!!!

[cyanidegay]

and youll be exposed as a transphobe :0!!!

wildly enough no natter what you say ill still be a happy gay trans man

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

Lol, I’ll be here when you grow out of this phase. Leave actual gay men alone, they want nothing to do with straight girls like you. ✌🏻

[cyanidegay]

quote from my cis gay boyfriend: fuck off

quote from me: im gay!

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

Quote from reality: he’s bi at most and you’re straight as hell!

[cyanidegay]

quote from reality: the pride revolution wouldnt have started without trans women of color and if youre too transphobic to realize that, dont show up to pride! my boyfriend is bi and i am too but that doesnt change the fact that i am his boyfriend!

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

LMAO THIS AIDEN THINKS GAYS DIDNT EXIST BEFORE A DRAG QUEEN THAT DIDNT EVEN DO ANYTHING IM LAUGHING

[cyanidegay]

actually my name is peter! miss marsha p johnson and miss sylvia rivera were trans women surrounded by gay and trans people fighting for freedom. i actually (fun little blurb here) taught a gay history class and did my goddamn research. i really hope yoi have a great day, and maybe someday you’ll realize that all youve been doing is excluding people who would gladly stand alongside you in the fight for our rights.

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

Buzzfeed doesn’t count as research, Aiden, and drag queens aren’t trans just because they wear clothes often worn by the opposite sex.

[cyanidegay]

buzzfeed is bullshit, marsha p johnson and sylvoa rivera were trans, and im a man! facts of life 😘

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

Wikipedia doesn’t count either, facts of life, girly 😘

[cyanidegay]

wikipedia is helpful but inherently unreliable, i agree. though, as i mentioned, i am a man! i hope it gets through your skull this time

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

@shollymannon will hook you right up with reliable, certifiable proof as to why you’re making a fool of yourself, hopefully your entitlement hasn’t thickened your skull too much.

[cyanidegay]

im a man and nothing you or anyone else can do will change me

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

You’re right, only growing up can show you how cringy this little phase is, my mistake :)

[cyanidegay]

i’ll be a man until the day i die! your onky mistake is excluding members of your own community

[quite-corking-deactivated201907]

Homophobes aren’t LGB and no amount of telling yourself that will change your being a girl, maybe one day you’ll accept being female

[cyanidegay]

im a bisexual man and i love myself! i hope someday you find enough self love to stop harassing and bullying lgbt minors and people in general.

[magic-pansexual-boi]

@quite-corking didn’t she say she was a gay man? Now she’s saying she’s bi?

[cyanidegay]

he, (i) am a bisexual man, but its easier to say gay bc im a lazy asshole

[eh-papi]

“I’m a bisexual transman but I’m gonna keep calling myself a gay man (even though it doesn’t apply to me) because I’m to lazy to care that I’m homophobic!”

[cyanidegay]

get off my post boo

[eh-papi]

Mad that you’re a homophobe getting called out aren’t you 👀

[cyanidegay]

bro we’re both bi transmen what fuckin damage do you have with me? go learn how to support your community insteaf of siding with people who hurt us, asshole.

[eh-papi]

None if you stop calling yourself gay and a male. ‘My community’ has no homophobes, therefore does not include you so… I’m supporting gay people, if you think that goes against a community, boy do I have some news for you.

[cyanidegay]

im gay

[official-chicago-dyke-march]

^op is bisexual

get over your internalized biphobia soon!

[cyanidegay]

im gay and bisexual bitch!! 😘

[official-chicago-dyke-march]

it makes just as much sense to call you straight, bihet. bisexual aren’t gay. sure this isn’t a weird fetish for gay men you have?

[cyanidegay]

nope! fuck you and fuck you for assuming my sexuality is a fetish. imma go cuddle with my bf, have fun being salty about how gay i am!

[official-chicago-dyke-march]

lmao these hettie bettie bisexuals are so cringy. enjoy your bf without pretending you’re actually gay, what a weird thing to force on someone you have feelings for. don’t you care about anyone but yourself?

[cyanidegay]

he fuckin helps me through my transition and is the best support a boy could ask for. he loves me, his boyfriend, and i hope you find that kind of support someday.

[official-chicago-dyke-march]

the person who loves me isn’t an enabler made miserable by my selfish demands, and i have the ability to care for ppl outside my own head. maybe one day you’ll learn how to give instead of take take take.

go cuddle instead of being a homophobic twat on the internet. you’re not gay. you’re anti-gay. go enjoy your relationship without demanding the world validate you, weirdo.

[dateon]

god why are straights so annoying... its to pep up the boring.. 

[iclaimwealthandprosperity]

May you receive good news on something that you have been patiently waiting on. The Universe will grant you what you manifest.

[kotbliny]

[eroscestlavie]

Update I just got an opportunity to make exactly $115 and i’m not kidding so like. Reblog to make $115.

[radfem-gossip]

I love this "how can you hate children and mothers?! Hurr durr you're not a real fememenist!" I don't hate little girls; just little boys. And I don't trust women who defend them. I think they're blinded by their maternal instincts and don't understand that every terrible man was a child once. They believe they can "fix" them, how is that different from "not my nigel"?

[womyn-are-rad-deactivated202003]

It’s a fucking child you imbecile

[artemiswasamerf]

How about instead of complaining about it on tingl.com you get off your crusty ass and start helping young boys understand boundaries and what it is to treat a woman with respect. Little boys can be taught to be decent human beings, but obviously someone missed out on that lesson for you.

[2lazy-2die]

Where are those decent human beings? The majority of men watch porn. The ONLY semi decent men I knew were gay and pro left, but even they weren’t free from misogyny.

That’s my favourite line tho: How about instead of complaining about it on tingl.com you get off your crusty ass and start helping young boys understand boundaries and what it is to treat a woman with respect

It’s not women’s job to fix men. That’s libfem rhetoric. I won’t waste my time on “fixing boys”. I want to prioritize females in my life. Now another pro-birthing-boys and pro-fixing-men “radfem” will probably block me because I hurt her feelings. You’re all so easy to read. We’re doomed anyway, the so called “LGBT community” is doomed, feminism is doomed, the only good thing we can do with the time we have left before this world collapses is raising awareness among females who want to listen (the majority of women won’t listen, because they’re ok with the status quo and they will NEVER give up their relationships with men).

[homosupremacist-deactivated2022]

After my 10/11 yo cousin sexually abused my little gnc cousin who was 6/7 at the time (both male) I really stopped believing men are born pure and socialization is what fucks them up. I can’t feel any more tenderness for them, and if I ever adopt a daughter I will make everything in my power so that she grows away from males, including children. Male children are also cruel.

[343-guiltyspark]

i’ve been groped by MULTIPLE little boys whilst I was a pubescent teenager. they learn that they can get away with this shit at a young age. male children do things like watch porn and sexually abuse other children, it’s not unheard of in the slightest. every rapist and violent man was once a sweet widdle boy who can do no wrong and is “just a child”. I can fully understand women who fear giving birth to a male and raising him and loving him only for him to turn out to be a rapist or abuser despite her attempts to teach him not to. it happens all the goddamn time, constantly. teach males not to rape and they fucking do it anyway.

I fully support women who would choose to abort male fetuses and know not to waste time trying to reform males. if males want to force women to abort female fetuses or kill female babies at birth, like they already do, women should be able to exercise the power to withhold life from males.

[abfabrad]

these women will be in for a wild awakening when their failed little boy projects turn out to be rapists, porn watchers, molesters, etc. make no mistake: your precious little boy is harrassing little girls when you’re not looking and likely to be watching hard core porn by the time he is 13. congrats for ensuring the perpetuation of patriarchy. what would patriarchy do without women like that, huh.

“How about instead of complaining about it on tingl.com you get off your crusty ass and start helping young boys understand boundaries and what it is to treat a woman with respect”

ok, any person who thinks that: a. males can change, b. women have a duty to change them, simply does not have any meaningful understandingof  feminism and of what males are and do to females. and we are supposed to believe that woman like that are gonna raise better boys? what the hell are these kind of women going to teach their precious babies? that theyre the center of the universe, and that girls and women have an obligation/duty to make them better? i seriously would not trust these women, or their sons. at all.

[abfabrad]

one more thing: this absolute refusal to recognize that male tendencies for violence exist and play a part in how males are, makes social constructionists’ reformist strategies really hard to take seriously.

IF they recognized the preexisting tendencies, like most people pretty much always have, and drafted a reformist strategy that takes that into consideration, i would at least like…appreciate the honesty.

but the fact that social constructionists refuse to even admit that males have tendencies for violence, and don’t take this into consideration when advocating for ways to raise boys, and when actually raising boys of their own…it only confirms that their effort will be useless, since it doesn’t take full reality into consideration. 

[aristoclit]

Like I get lesbians have it worse than bi/het women and some bi/het women are homophobic and gross but the way some of yall talk about bi women (nuthuggers, dick worshippers, bislut, demons (??) handmaidens), is disgusting imo

[aristoclit]

I will always make it known that while some bi women are shit, I will also defend my bi sisters, always. Especially from the surprisingly misogynistic insults thrown at us from radfems.

[aristoclit]

The point of this was ‘you can call women out without being a misogynist’, not ‘fuck those mean lesbians’. That’s it. That’s the whole post. Let it die

[medaea-deactivated201839183999]

i’m sorry you’re getting shat on we stand with our bi sisters 💖💙💜

[patronsaintofprincesses]

What, I still can’t believe people hate bisexual women and men. That’s absolutely ridiculous.

[aristoclit]

I don’t think it’s hate I think it’s people thinking they can use whatever language they want towards us (when we do super shitty things), just bc were bi, when you can just call someone an asshole

[flowerlygirls]

i think its kinda similar (even tho still less bad) to for example white women calling out misogynistic men - which would be good - but using racial slurs or being generally anti-black and think its okay. or calling out gay men while using homophobic language.

[aristoclit]

Yeah that’s a good comparison!

[sespursongles-deactivated201906]

It’s a great comparison, seeing as white women do not suffer from racism, so white women using racial slurs is exactly comparable to lesbians using “misogynistic” language, since, as we all know, lesbians aren’t women and do not suffer from misogyny! And bihet women being called out with language that refers to their hetero attraction is exactly comparable to gay men being called out with language that refers to their same-sex attraction, since gay men are oppressed for their same-sex attraction and bihet women are… wait…

The problem here is your collective, massive denial of your straight privilege and your capacity to oppress other women (namely lesbians) on an axis that has nothing to do with misogyny. This is the thing you all refuse to understand or acknowledge. This is why you can’t see that when a lesbian calls you a term like “manlover” or “nuthugger”, what is being attacked is not your womanhood but your hetero attraction and the way it privileges you over lesbians and the way you constantly hurt lesbians because of it. You will continue to pretend this is pure misogyny because you will continue to pretend you don’t oppress lesbians as male-attracted women.

And @theboringprincess who tagged her post with #what did we do? #we’re so nice -  Here’s a bi woman with a “sapphic sex ed” blog giving helpful pointers to a straight male rapist on how to coerce his lesbian girlfriend into sex she does not want. Here’s a bi woman who calls herself a lesbian while married to a straight man and talking about how much she loves sucking his dick and telling lesbians we aren’t real lesbians unless we like dick too. Here’s a bi woman who wrote a book in which a lesbian character falls in love with a man *, and dozens of other bi women defending her and calling lesbians Nazis for criticising the book and telling us we are only trying to “protect our own privilege”. Here’s a bi woman who just generally hates lesbians in every possible way. Here’s a bi woman who responds to a post that just says “bisexuals are not gay” with “I AM GAY I LIKE LONG BIG COCKS”. Here are twelve bi women who hate lesbians for not liking dick. Here’s a bi woman calling lesbians “transphobic as fuck and a piece of shit” for not liking men/dicks (aw no, I used the word dick worship in my response, go protect your bi sister!)

If my community was such a disgusting homophobic cesspool, I wouldn’t even dare make posts crying in my hands about the mean words lesbians use to defend themselves. Lesbians don’t react to bihet radfems’ lesbophobia in a vacuum; we react to it in a context of constant, relentless homophobic hatred from bihet women, who can’t find enough ways to remind us that we are inferior to them, disgusting, bigoted, evil, a piece of shit, Nazis, because of our lack of hetero attraction. But god forbid lesbians react by attacking you for your privileged hetero attraction - manlover, nuthugger, dick worshipper - i.e. for the same reason you are attacking us, but reversed. Suddenly it’s time to erase your heterosexuality and homophobia from the equation and make it all about misogyny. We’re all sisters! (Unless, like flowerlygirls, you decide to make it about racism, in some frankly bizarre plot twist.)

* And, speaking of bi women writing lesbian conversion therapy books, I got some book recs on anon since I made that post yesterday, and one of them was a book in which a lesbian character fantasises about having an affair with her male professor. It’s written by a bi woman who once wrote an article about her experience as a lesbian who married a man.

[dateon]

call a spade a spade. male worship is male worship.

[approvers]

[dateon]

in the G R O U N D !

[rumour-deactivated20121224]

is it true that girls have to be careful when they take baths because their vaginas can like swallow water or something and then get infected and then they can die or is that just a myth

[boredbarbara-deactivated2019073]

did you take sex ed in texas

[michelleion]

let me just say that i live in texas and in my sexual education a girl asked what the clitoris was and the teacher told her that it didn’t exist.

[dateon]

i would say depending on how nasty the bathtub you are sitting in is, maybe. also, MAAYBE, if you open ur legs and gape ur pussy open a lot while you are in hte bath you could damage ur ph potentially and irritate ur vagina. but like, that shit stays closed, mostly. esp when you are sitting down?? its a muscle? part of ur pelvic floor? literally part of the muscle system that helps hold you up. SO. 

[goldstar-goldfish-deactivated20]

I was reading an article about a FTM trans person suing a Catholic hospital for refusing to allow a hysterectomy and the comment section was so ugly

“Wants to be a man, still a stupid bitch.” “Hysterical whiny bitch” “This cunt deserves whatever happens” “Stupid bitch” “Ugly slut deserves to be pregnant”

So, you know, misogyny doesn’t exactly end once a female has transitioned.

[lesbian-lizards]

I hope you don’t mind me adding a comment like this but I was just thinking about how a lot of the porn that involves trans men (or c*nt boys) also involves things like threat of/forced pregnancy, humiliation based around their female anatomy, or being vaginally raped. A lot of transphobia against trans men is just straight up misogyny, often incredibly violent and sexualized. And I’m sure that having to deal with it only further fuels their dysphoria, too.

[omnivore-odyssey]

Misogyny is not the hatred of the feminine, but hatred of the female. Unfortunately you cannot identify out of experiencing misogyny.

[lovcare-deactivated20170326]

i would love to add this post:

this was during 2014, where transwomen would attack critical thinking transmen.

[radfemhunny]

Holy shit… how fucking male. And I’m supposed to believe this is a woman?

[oceanlesbian]

@lesbian-lizards is this one of the reasons there are articles by transwomen about how watching porn helped them become comfortable in their identity, while i’ve not really seen anything of that number from transmen…

[radbee]

Anybody remember that post a trans woman made that just said: MtF > FtM. I do.

[lesbian-lizards]

Or this?

[womynretribution-deactivated201]

I honestly don’t get how people don’t see trans women and trans “activism” as inherently male and misogynistic.

[girlsmoonsandstars]

Ooh ooh or the one about trans women eliminate cis and keeping some trans men around for breeding purposes

[translesbophobia]

Okay and one of the other comments on this even points out that ftm-themed breeding kinks are popular on here? (or, were? I guess? Before the porn purge)

[dateon]

this is so true tho. for a trans female assumedly the most vulnerable and sad and painful part of them would be the vagina, so thats where theyre raped for highest sadism. for “cis females” its the anus/mouth. thats what will humiliate and violate them the most. porn is evil and males are evil.