I was watching, I am watching this show on Netflix and in one of the episodes they bring up cheating or being cheated on while in serious relationship.. And whether or not you would want to know immediately or just have it play out.. It all depends on your situation and well I was thinking about it and I wouldn't want someone crashing down my world I've already been hurt like that.. I was living with someone for almost three years we had discussed this topic if the situation should ever arise I wouldn't want to know from anyone else and if the felt they wanted to see where it was heading with the other person.. All I asked was for a heads up from them to let me know first.. I would of appreciated at the very least a warning I trusted him to be up front and tell me to my face that it was over when he no longer felt the same so I never saw it coming from one day to the next just like that it was like I didn't even exist anymore to this man that once had asked me to marry him and because of him I became cold and untrusting.. I do think if he had told me he no longer wanted to try and work it out that he had found someone before things got so out of hand that I would be a little more trusting in letting my guard down instead I find ways to push people away or lean towards relationships that have no out come I've become a master at self sabotage
