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the best fanfiction you've ever read was written by a woman in her 40s before she made dinner for her kids. it was written by a teenager after school when they should've been studying for a history test. and a barista came up with the idea while they cleaned the espresso machine and busser fact-checked it on their break and the post-doc edited between writing grant proposals and the nurse apologized for typos in the notes after a long shift and behind every drabble and one-shot and multi-chapter fic there is a person with a wonderful and interesting and chaotic life and it is such a privilege that we get to be a part of it because they decided to do this thing we all share, for fun.
moral scrupulosity ocd has me thinking things like “are you sure that reply where you said “hi how are you” isnt a string of heinous slurs? yeah go check for the 10th time”
how it feels to check my email to see another radqueer I’ve reported got banned
ID: A cartoon drawing of a yellow emoji smiling. /END ID
its not my fault the “hate speech violation” section of the tumblr reports looks at me with beautiful sparkling eyes everytime somebody posts any radqueer flag that is related to trans(insert bigotry flavor here)
I have SO many concerns with those "develop a fragment" or "anti-endo/anti radqueer build a headmate" blogs popping up. like I have no ill will but this can truly hurt someone with a CDD.
The concept of these blogs normally seems to be: someone sends an ask like say, "I have/am a fragment, assign me an identity, name, pronouns, traits, and faceclaim". Often, they will request a specific aesthetic, theme, fandom, character, or general concept to associate them with. The person(s) running the blog responds accordingly.
Often the responses use images of real people as faceclaims. I don't like telling people what to do but honest to god PLEASE don't do that, it's weird, inappropriate, and you probably wouldn't want someone to post a random picture of you to go "hey here's a faceclaim for you".
But for the most part it seems harmless enough. Helping someone find themselves, or something like that, that's the idea I think. I don’t think the intention behind blogs like this is malicious. And I don't fault people who just want to help and think this is healing or productive because these online communities not only reinforce and reward identity elaboration, performance, and presentation, especially aesthetically but, it seemingly revolves around it.
However, intention and impact aren’t the same thing. Encouraging elaboration in someone with structural dissociation ignores the functional purposes of a CDD, and that it is a survival mechanism meant to compartmentalize trauma. You must not forget this fact.
Even if the blog says “this is anti willogenic/radqueer/endo, endos fuck off!” the mechanism being encouraged is very similar. It's online suggestions shaping identity formation in people with a dissociative disorder. You can name your demographic, but your blogs are identical without that specification. Call it anti- whatever you want, do what you want, but I can't ignore that fact. I see no distinction. I point this out to emphasize how removed it is from clinical reality.
Don't get me wrong, I have a problem with all of the BAH type blogs. But if you have a CDD, you're probably ignoring the rq/endo oriented ones (ik there are exceptions). The anti endo/rq ones are more dangerous imo. It uses the framework of structural dissociation and invites people with a severe psychological disorder to interact, while a "transplural build-a-headmate" blog doesn't intersect with medicalization and tell people with a disorder "this blog is for you, specifically". Those blogs are dangerous and offensive in their own ways but that's not what I'm focusing on right now.
But, this is where it gets concerning for me. Like, really really concerning.
Early DID treatment guidelines emphasize stabilization before elaboration. There’s a reason clinicians don’t sit down and go “alrighty let’s flesh out your fragment’s aesthetic, gender microlabel, and social persona! Any characters or aesthetics in mind?”. Increasing identity complexity too quickly can increase emotional flooding and trauma leakage. Kluft, Howell, ISSTD guidelines, all caution against pushing identity elaboration too fast. This is genuinely dangerous. In worst case scenarios, life threatening.
And when it’s happening in a public, performative space where differentiation is socially rewarded, that risk increases.
Fragments in CDDs are typically narrow-function states. They hold specific affect, memories/memory clusters, or defensive responses. They’re not however, blank slates waiting for aesthetic completion. That's the thing. Identity elaboration in dissociation usually develops internally over time and in response to lived experience and/or therapy.
When you start externally "customizing" identity for something that’s already dissociated, you risk reinforcing separation without stabilizing it. And if you don't understand why this carries such a risk, I don't feel you are in a place to give advice of this nature to pwCDDs. In my humble opinion.
Assigning names, pronouns, gender identities, and personality traits can strengthen differentiation in a way that increases compartmentalization. For someone with high dissociation, that can destabilize communication, increase internal barriers, and intensify identity shifts. I do not feel as though the risks are being assessed. In my opinion, while often well intended, it's highly, highly irresponsible.
Parts are more than welcome to explore identity just like literally anyone on Earth. I don't think I need to establish that, but I want to be clear on that- alters/parts can and do often elaborate naturally. However, when you're here treating fragments like customizable characters and not trauma organized states, you blur the line between stabilization and aesthetic identity. And that can have real psychological consequences. Devastating ones, in worst case scenarios.
Again, not saying someone doing this is inherently bad, malicious, or dangerous. But this conceptually, has the potential to severely harm pwCDDs in particular so I just think that should be highly taken into consideration for anyone running or submitting requests to blogs like this.
Just because I follow medical texts and say “you need trauma in order to be a system” doesn’t mean:
I’ll not accept you for not remembering any trauma
I’ll force you to uncover traumatic memories
I’ll expect your system to function in one specific way
I’ll force you to talk about triggers
I’ll force you to tell me about all your trauma
And so much more that my brain has blanked on.
The only thing that I will expect of you is to go find a therapist or psychiatrist as soon as is feasible for you - and I don’t care if that means now, in a months time, when you move out of your current living situation, in a few years once you have some financial stability, whatever. I just want you to get help as soon as that opportunity comes.
Hey so, did you know that being anti-para in general is actually ableist? Did you know that putting random teenagers out there is bad? Did you know that you aren't making the world a better place by harassing people?
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i think you mightve gotten the wrong guy, im deeply supportive of people with paraphilic disorders
people have gotten to the hating stage where theyre just making shit up
if youre talking about my dislike for radqueers you should know that the radqueer community is acrually far more harmful for paraphiles especially those with paraphilias that would cause harm if acted on. they also promote beliefs that are blantantly untrue and against science. thanks much love
Radqueers are actively more anti-para than most antis. And I don’t mean individual radqueers I’m referring to how they participate in paraphilic ostracization by insisting that they are the only communities that will accept us. And then they fuel fantasies that many disordered paraphilics are ACTIVELY DISTRESSED BY. The radqueer community has little to no sfw space. There is no healing, no recovery from fantasies you don’t want. It’s a nightmare.
I feel like I'm progressively losing my mind logging on to Tumblr and seeing people say things like "wow, I wish we knew how splitting and switching worked, too bad DID is so under researched :("
My friend. Respectfully. We know both of those things.
We know way more about DID than the internet would lead you to believe. We know how DID forms initially, how alters split afterwards, what happens on a psychological and neurobiological level when switching, we know what kinds of trauma will cause DID and what kind of trauma cause specific alter types, we know what leads to specific presentations of DID, we know how DID presents across the lifespan, so on and so forth.
Basically all of this stuff is covered in the theory of structural dissociation. You know, that scientific theory everyone loves to name drop but no-one actually reads? You should read it. Find a PDF of The Haunted Self or Coping With Trauma-Related Dissociation. You will find basically everything you want to know.
DID was first added to the DSM-III in 1980 (although under a different name). But we've been studying dissociative personality systems since the early 1900s, and even that was based on earlier work in related areas. The theory of structural dissociation is essentially a compilation of all the research on trauma and dissociation from the past century, and it has been continuously expanded upon and validated by modern day research involving things like neuroimaging techniques. The references section of The Haunted Self alone is 48 pages long.
There is so much research out there. There is so much information publicly shared by credible professionals that can educate you on this disorder. Don't just assume we don't know the answers to your questions if you haven't even checked if the answers are out there.
Of course we don't know everything. But DID is certainly not this completely mystical disorder that no-one understands.
Can this one guy stop tagging his anti radqueer posts that he crosstags into radqueer tags in anti endo dont get me wrong im all 4 being anti radqueer but it has nothing to do with systemhood or endos and hes not a system himself
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i stole this from yaoipathic on twitter bless
The rest of the space is going to be pretty pissed when they see this.
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Asexuals were always part of pride and it really fucking shows when people think it's a recent term.
Although not going by the term "asexual" yet, asexuality was spoken about alongside homosexuality as far back as the 1890s. Asexual history is just as vital to queer history as any other term and I'm so tired of watching us being treated like a new thing
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deltarune textposts ive been compiling for fun. more under the cut
Every day I handle more money than I will ever make. Every day.
At the start of my employment, my boss showed me videos of people stealing, and we both had a chuckle about it. How silly they were! There was a camera overhead, and it’s not to watch the shoppers. See, we can’t actually stop shoplifters. They get away with it maybe nine out of ten times. But we, who are watched and tallied and witnessed? We are always caught.
At first it was hard to hold one hundred dollars bills. An amount I had never seen before. An amount that didn’t exist in my household. It’s normal now. Here is something that is not for me.
“What the hell, I’ll take another,” says the man, pondering our 200 dollar watches. What the hell. Total comes to 580 and not even a flinch in his face. I have been working for 11 hours today and made only 110 dollars. It will go to my rent. Today I work for free, it feels. When I get my check, I will have 35 dollars left for food and saving.
The six hundreds he hands me go into the cash register. For a moment, I imagine having money. Then I put it away, counting out his change.
I know for a fact we sell our products for double what they are worth. That I could be making commission. That they could hand me those 580 dollars and change my life and not even mark the difference in their checkbooks. He’s not the only sale they make today, but I am the reason they made it. He’s not the only one spending 600 dollars, but if I hadn’t spent two hours with him telling me about his life, he wouldn’t have spent any. I go home. I don’t own a watch.
I have watched and rewatched a video on how to make salmon four ways. My shopping list is always the same. Pasta. Rice. Tuna. If I can afford butter it was a good week. I dream of the world I will never walk in, where I can throw the best fish fillet in the cart with a shrug. I hold hundreds in my hand and look up at the camera. I put them under the cash drawer.
I go to work. I scrap together my savings. I eat my bowl of rice slowly. My manager takes a paid week off from work just for his birthday. He owns a yacht.
I’m not worth the cost of a watch.
i wrote this while i was working at orlando’s walt disney world parks.
i was part of their college program. i moved to the state for it. they legally owned the building i was living in and still charged me rent. i ostensibly was being charged to work for them. it was a 2 bedroom apartment and they placed 6 adult women in it in forced triples.
as many as one in ten disney employees have experienced homelessness while working for the company. despite huge efforts to unionize, strike, or otherwise demand fair treatment; disney has refused to increase employee quality of life.
disney admits publicly that a good portion of their success is because the employees (“cast members”) are dedicated, passionate, and selfless. this is never reflected in pay. even “face” characters (ie those that are princesses etc) make barely above a minimum wage.
at the time that i worked there, i made $8.50 an hour. at one point i was asked to create a human shield around a bag because a bomb dog had alerted to it. for eight fucking dollars an hour.
i now work a very cushy office job. i have bought the salmon and cooked it all four ways.
i go to the store. i am nice to the person behind the counter. she looks up at the camera while she counts out my change. there is nothing fundamentally different about her and i.
we are both worth more than the watch, anyway.
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The trans guy neck hump, or “dowagers hump” is not exclusive to trans men but it is a result of a specific hunching posture trans guys often use to hide their tits. It’s barely noticeable to the average person so it’s not worth getting insecure about, but there are ways to get rid of it. I got rid of mine with lifting/stretching/being more aware of my posture.
Many have noticed that the medical professional is wearing a San Francisco Giants jersey, this is because it’s legendary baseball player Barry Bonds who holds the record for most home runs in a single career, making him the most qualified man for this maneuver.
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