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jongho ∙ the world ep. paradigm ∙ preview
hedgehogs duking it out for infinity
me when the emotionally repressed character is revealed to have had something happen in their childhood that was completely out of their control but changed them in a way they can never come back from
Put your lazy meal in the tags
‘On Track’ Minho is something that can be so damn personal!!
Random Minho gifsets (20/?)
KILL DIE THE VIOLENCE GUY
*KILL!! KILL!!! KILL!!! KILL!! KILL*
#unless they’re a straight up pedophile#or a rapist
I suspect you may have missed the whole entire point of having a justice system. No, the police aren’t supposed to kill people for committing crimes that are horrifying enough to disgust you, either.
You support the death penalty for rape? Fine. That happens AFTER the trial, by the state, using laws supported by the people. NOT via the mob justice of state-funded gangsters with sidearms acting on their own discretion.
Honestly this perspective indicates an understanding of justice so warped that I don’t think productive discussion is even possible until you’ve done like 6 months of education on the basic philosophy of a justice system. “Extrajudicial murder of people on the street is okay if they’re Bad Enough People” is a whole fucking red flag parade of a position to hold.
every so often I get notes on my “deciding people are guilty from the get go and then denying them rights based on that decision is Bad” post with “except pedophiles and rapists!” and like, 1) way to miss the entire point, and 2) the recent surge of casting queer people as “child groomers” should make it pretty damn clear that that line of thinking makes it really easy to justify murdering queer people on sight. “but who would do something like that?” I don’t know, maybe the same people who justified lynching black men by accusing them of rape and murder?
The appearance of abandoned structures reclaimed by nature. The firet 4 are art installations but it doesn't make them any less desolate looking.
diversity win: this anime woman is over the age of 25
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Sonic n' Shadow
the more i replay the more unhinged about them i become (also it’s age of calamity’s fault)
In one of his books, Kantor offers insight at other facets of AvPD that exist beyond the DSM criteria, that are often overlooked (and aren’t easily explained by other disorders).
On “classic” avoidants (Type I):
“(…) profile of pervasive shyness and fearful isolation. Within this class, variations of severity exist on a continuum. Some of these individuals live by themselves or with their family, either staying at home and not socializing at all, or socializing only with a few selected individuals, attempting to meet people but having difficulty connecting as they try, but fail, to form sustained and sustaining relationships. Others form relationships that are only partially avoidant: limited in degree or of reduced intensity such as bicoastal marriages; serial monogamous relationships; or relationships that are stably unstable, dysfunctional because being with unattainable partners makes the relationships unlikely to come to fruition, or if they do, sooner or later, they are destined to dissolve.”
A fear of flooding and losing control of various impulses due to overstimulation (…) disturbing inner peace (…)
A fear of failure, accompanied by a paradoxical (masochistic) fear of success (…)
Self-criticism due to self-condemnation by a harsh, unforgiving, shaming conscience, causing one to become guilty over legitimate desires and ordinary (but to the avoidant extraordinarily shameful), interpersonal foibles (…)
Relational idealism consisting of a disdain for relationships that appear to be imperfect, originating in excessive expectations of oneself and others (…)
Covalent characterological features, including histrionic (oedipal) rivalry that buries the potential for closeness, intimacy, and commitment under competitive struggles with others—as Gabbard notes, “entailing an aggressive demand for complete attention… associated with a wish to scare away or kill off all rivals… [with the competitiveness] interwoven with a sense of shame” obsessive fretting about the correctness and propriety of one’s interpersonal actions (…) paranoid suspiciousness about the negative things others are, or might be, thinking; depressive alarmism and pessimism that nothing will ever work out as hoped and planned for and the worrisome fear that if all is not already lost, it soon will be; excessive “don’t make waves” passivity, accompanied by a paradoxical fear of passivity and so a need to be on constant alert and continuously active to assure always being in complete control of everything about one’s relationships; extreme dependence possibly leading to a codependent relationship with one person to avoid having to relate to any and all others (…)
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Excessive Defensiveness
Avoidance is not a static, but an active, dynamic condition—what Millon and Davis call an “active detachment,” that is, one with important defensive components. Sullivan describes avoidance as a “somnolent detachment,” the protective dynamism “called out by inescapable and prolonged anxiety.” (…) What is avoided is an allusion either to a temptation for the warded-off drive or to a feared punishment or both.” Therefore some observers, emphasizing how the avoidant inhibits important aspects of living to reduce (social) anxiety, suggest that the term inhibited personality could substitute for the term avoidant personality disorder. Avoidant detachment is made up of the following defenses, among others:
Identification with the aggressor. Avoidants create expected losses actively to handle the possibility of experiencing unexpected losses passively, for example, “I fear your rejecting me” becomes “I reject you to avoid being rejected by you.”
Masochism. Self-sacrificing, self-abnegating, and self-punitive responses are an avoidant’s way to counter forbidden desire. Avoidants commit a kind of social suicide to punish themselves for what they consider to be their unacceptable instinctual urges. They suffer now to avoid suffering even more later.
Repression. Repression is the avoidant’s way to detoxify anxious thoughts and feelings by suppressing them, then acting as if they no longer exist (…)
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Associated Characterological Problems
Obsessionalism. Avoidants are worrisome individuals (…) often rigid, inflexible people who, stuck in routine, have difficulty adapting to unexpected life changes. Also, ambivalent about relationships, instead of settling in to a given relationship, they do and undo it: attempting to relate, becoming anxious, pulling back, then trying again either with the same person or with someone different, ad infinitum (…)
Paranoia. Avoidants are hypervigilant individuals who fear something bad can or will happen to them (…) They take impersonal matters far too personally and see rejections that are not there as a clear and present danger, or actual attack. A difficulty with basic trust leads them to become highly skeptical of everyone, convinced that no one will show them any goodwill whatsoever, and certain that either they will trust everyone and get burned, or trust no one and get dumped (…)
Depression. Avoidants tend to be depressed individuals with intense negative moods (…) They hold the pessimistic view that when it comes to relationships, there is no sense even trying since there is little chance of ever succeeding. Depressive cognitions prevail (…) so that they readily come to believe that any sign of disinterest in them constitutes a turndown, a turndown a rejection, and a rejection an epochal tragedy (…)
And “counterphobic” avoidants (Type II), who are avoidants who unlike the “typical” ones, manage to form connections, albeit in turbulent ways.
Type IIa avoidants can generally maintain superficial, short-lived, relationships with people and the subtype, “mingles”, jump from relationship to relationship unable to settle and not minding quality.
Type IIb avoidants, “seven-year itch”, can form proper bonds with others but for a limited time, because they burn out or become disinterested as time passes.
Type IIc avoidants, have severe codependency tendencies.
Seonghwa: I win!
Hongjoong: I have you pinned to the ground
Seonghwa: I know
Hongjoong: