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Lock | They/Them | INFJ agender • ace • aro 📖 | 🎨 | ☕ | 🐕 | 🌃 | 📝 ― New (more active) blog: @bleared!!

[myazori-deactivated20160710]

[kuroto0101]

少し前に描いた新ドリフトと、昨日勢いで描いたウィンドリ絵です。

ウィンドリ絵は素敵なお話を拝読させて頂いた結果生まれました。

いやー泣いた泣いた……

[kaar-ne]

Aaaaah! These are so amazing~

[ruenesca]

Ajaksksjdjdkd!!!! ♡♡♡♡♡ That’s all I have to say

[avengerds]

@dearlock

[dearlock]

THESE ARE CU T E. PRIMUS,,

[stiltje-blog]

tips if you are friends with a person who suffers from borderline personality disorder:  * if you love them, tell them often (bpds lack emotional permanence which means we know you love us, but we can’t remember what it felt like to be loved thus leaving us in a very needy and uncomfortable position)  * COMMUNICATION AND HONESTY - I can’t stress this enough. if you’re angry with them, tell them. if something they did made you sad or upset, tell them. bpds tend to overthink and find every possible sign that you’re upset with them, which is why you should be honest right away. don’t try to hide your feelings, they will know instantly. * ease their fear of abandonment by doing things like let them borrow something from you (it means you’ll definitely see each other again) or (when you part) use reassuring phrases like “see you soon” or keep talking to them even after parting with them. * talk to your loved one and ask them to try to explain to you how they work. a lot of people with bpd come from an abusive environment can therefor be more sensitive and broken than they like to admit. listen to them and validate their experiences. * educate yourself. this is the most important thing because bpd it is a very hard disorder to have in an uneducated environment. realise that not all bpd people are the same. some of us struggle with relationships more than others, some of us can’t handle impulsivity and some of us find it physically impossible to regulate emotions and some of us are a mix of all of this or other symptoms - we are all different and work differently. * don’t read idiotic things that makes us out to be abusive and monstrous. bpd people are smart and creative and we love stronger than anyone. our diagnosis doesn’t automatically make us into every bpd stereotype that you can find online on sites written by ableist assholes.

[dearlock]

person: So tell me about yourself

me internally: I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM, I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM, I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM, I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM, I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM, I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM, I DON'T KN

[dykespeare-deactivated20181228]

this mermaid is velma’s gf i dont make the rules

[dykespeare-deactivated20181228]

this is literally so fucking gay ….wtf the fuck

[burning-yaungol]

Is this Alphidyne

[punlich]

Undertale 2 looks really good

[bigbadbeetlebutch]

holy shit

[dearlock]

I might move Tumblrs again?? I’ll get to this when I have a clue on what to do because it’s been weird lately

[dearlock]

Woohoo update: by at least the 25th of the month, I'll officially be on @bleared from now on.

[dearlock]

I might move Tumblrs again?? I’ll get to this when I have a clue on what to do because it’s been weird lately

[kimbleefucker]

no one talks about that Great BPD thing where you perceive all non-positive responses as negative and aggressive. there are 2 emotions people have: happy, and angry

if someone responds to you with just “OK” or “yeah”, there’s no way to apply a neutral tone to it you just?? feel that its angry and intimidating and they’re just telling you to go away

no one talks about this?? there are so many BPD symptoms that get brushed under the rug but this one is so huge because you know you’re being illogical and you know they’re being neutral but there’s no logic in this sort of thing you just feel that fear and shame and internalize it and let it keep happening

idk i saw a post in depth about BPD and it mentioned that and i was really happy about it.

[unstablesuggestion]

i dont know how to live please tell me how

[unstablesuggestion]

you told me that you loved being close to me but then why did you not reassure me when i asked?

[ignoredsuggestion]

id like to start again, but i just cant with you still in my head

[ignoredsuggestion]

tfw you have friends who are closer to each other than they are to you and they always talk about stuff they like and you're praying that they will stop and notice you for just a minute and that makes you really sad.

[ignoredsuggestion]

I STILL EXIST! PLEASE TALK TO ME!! I FEEL LIKE I'M INVISIBLE! JUST TALK TO ME! PLEASE! I DON'T WANT TO BE ALONE!

[withdrawnsuggestion]

you’ll always be an outcast.

[withdrawnsuggestion]

telling yourself you don’t miss them doesn’t make it true.

[withdrawnsuggestion]

take comfort in not having friends. no one expects anything of you now.

[aroluna-deactivated20201212]

I’ve seen very little talk about hyper empathy so here’s some examples of it:

it can feel like the emotions of others are permeating a space and/or spilling into you causing high anxiety even when they’re not directed towards you/you’re not expected to react to them.

some people experience it by not being able to handle world tragedies or negative news reports because they feel a highly personal connection to the pain in those people with no way to help them.

it can also be empathy directed towards objects or animals that seems disproportionate to others.

this is something that a lot of autistic people deal with, so it makes me sad that I’ve seen basically no information about it in the communities on here

[pragnificent]

Finding out that this is a trait that is sometimes associated with autism is one of the reasons I wonder if I am on the spectrum.

That said, it can actually also be a trait of ADHD. It’s also sometimes linked to trauma/abuse, including PTSD, especially when associated with hypervigilance. 

[gmby-deactivated20160707]

i find that imbalanced empathy (occasionally high and other times low) is characteristic for all of these conditions (Autism, ADHD, trauma, etc)