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The Deegatalk Blog, It all starts with a Talk! Speak up, Tell your story, and let me do the Talking! هتكلم عن العلاقات، والحب، والسجاير والخمرة والنسوان هتكلم عن ولاد الكلب، والناس الشمال، وولاد الناس الكويسين، هتكلم عنِك و عَنه! اموت انا واجيب في سيرة...

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Belief of the fearless...The Morning Talk

Good Morning Dearest Deegatalkers,

The moment you start to realise things around you is when it all begins. It starts when you start questioning things around you, and reasoning them. 

They might try to force it at an early age, but they can never force you into it. They will judge you for not applying it the way they want you to, and will harass you for not following the rules. But it has no rules, the only rule you should follow is your heart. 

Belief it is.

It’s a gut feeling, that pushes you to do what must be done. It affects you actions, behaviour and character. 

This takes me to a conversation I had yesterday with a couple of friends yesterday, when we mentioned the series “El Khawaga Abdelkader” and how he shifted into a certain religion with passion and love. Two days ago, my friend was discussing the Fashion Trend of the Sibha...and how everyone is wearing one for the sake of fashion. I thought at this point “What’s the problem with holding a spiritual element or even wearing it throughout?” I mean we all have this sort of spirituality inside us, regardless of how we want to name it. 

Society, in a way or another tries constantly to force a certain form of spirituality, let it be prayers by force, religious properties that one should go to, , a certain pattern of visible religious behaviours or even certain religious outfits. 

While religion, beliefs and spirituality are considered to be very personal, many do not see it that way. If you’re not following us, you’re bad, if you’re not doing that, you’re bad, if you don’t believe the way we do, you’re bad and will be sentenced. 

Who are we to say what is good and what isn’t? Who are we to force something that cannot be materialised or touched? Who are we to contain and limit feelings and emotions?

Surprisingly, if any strictly religious people are reading this...They would think I’m simply saying nonsense, since there are notions, studies and practices about this topic. But let’s think about it that way

Belief, comes with trust, total trust, love and a sense of confidence. Im confident with what I believe in, I’m confident with whom I believe in and I have faith. 

Belief doesn’t come in with fear, belief comes with love. 

If you don’t then you must reevaluate your beliefs, regardless of what you believe in.

Could be just an idea, a person, or an element. 

Find something worth believing in, find something worth living for, pay close attention to the signs and let your heart lead you.

If you believe, then you trust then you love.

Learn to fall in love

Have a great day, 

*Suggested readings: 40 Rules of Love, Elif Şafak

Watch: El Khawaga Abdulkader Series by Yehia el Fakharany 

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Read... #Themorningtalk

Goood morning Deegatalkers, 

Hope you had a great weekend.

Throughout the weekend I had this thought that couldn't leave me : 

Since when did relationships became a "Seen" & "Read" sign? 

 Since when did we judge the others person's interest by whether he "Read" the message...and took time to reply...or never replied at all 

 Since when did the "Online" button while the other person isn't answering back means cheating or ignoring. 

 And since when did some stupid symbols created by web developers affect our lives to that extent. 

The more the digital world tried to facilitate our lives...the more it destroys our interpersonal relationships. What about life 50 years ago?...When Abdelhalim sent Lobna Abdelaziz a love letter...walked down her balcony just so she might see him...when he sent her the love letter inside a book, or even a laundry bag. 

They fought, waited...waited and waited...yet fell in love and had some of the best love stories in history. 

Their love story definitely did not include 

"You're last status" 

" You're display picture" or

" You were online and didn't answer my txt"

"Who's that girl and why is she texting you?" Yet they fell in love. 

They weren't frustrated waiting day and night for that txt 

They didn't stalk Instagram, Facebook and Twitter 

They didn't stalk the other person's friends and their social media activity to find a picture or a status that would give any hint 

They didn't write "مافيش حد بيتجرح اوي غير لما بيحب اوي " Yet they fell in love 

They learnt to give everything it's time...not to rush things, wait and fall in love passionately

They fell in love, without "Read"ing or being "Seen" So please...don't let a tick✔✔ affect your relationships

 Have a great day

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It all began in Summer...#Themorningtalk

Good morning Dearest Deegatalkers,

It’s the weekend...Yaay! I guess we’re now all back to reality, no more Sa7el, no more Summer...well that sounds boring

The word summer itself brings so much excitement to my ears...Summer means fun, excitement, adventures and endless stories.

But to me, my admiration for summer goes way back to my childhood, it takes me back to my first crush, our walks, talks and endless memories.

Each summer came with a unique story that I’ve lived throughout the whole year, and waited for another year to begin a new story.

In Summer, I fell in love.In Summer we belonged to one another while the sea witnessed every detail of our story. He was our companion. We first met by the sea, we clicked by the sea, and promised to belong to one another forever by the sea. He fueled our story forward, and healed all our wounds...he was there...the sea was there...until he landed us safely on the shore. 

Some of my stories continued for sometime, and others ended with the first rainfall. 

But still, stories that started by the sea remain the remarkable ones.

What about you? What’s your summer story? 

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Experience..The MorningTalk

So..its Thursday

And I have no idea for today’s morning post..But my team suggested the word “Experience”

So..”Experience” it is. 

Ever since I’ve started college, and even earlier since school, I’ve been working day and night, joining clubs and extra curricular activities just to build “Experience”

Whenever I had any interview, and been asked 

-Why do you want to join us?

- To build my experience and enhance my skills.

And by the end of college, I’ve seen many who wanted to join clubs, do extra work to sum it up in a Title and place on their CVs.

They told me

“Ana 3ayez a3abby el CV”

Some never really worked for it...But they were satisfied by a Title and a huge amount of places they’ve been to and event’s they’ve participated in. 

For my first job, I was asked, why should we hire you?

And off course my answer was ...”I have experience”

But never really had actual professional experience...and to my surprise, the corporate and professional entities rarely do they appreciate “Experience”

They might see you as a proactive person, someone who likes to work without being asked for it, someone who’s on the go...knows how to work in teams and lead others...but the question goes here

What kind of experience are we developing? In other words, is the Title or The character?

Experience definitely helps you see so many areas you’ve never been through, but it helps you also build yourself through it.

Experience is not only about knowing how to do the job, it’s about learning how to live it.

It’s about knowing what do choose

Whom to choose

What needs to be done...and what doesn’t

What’s a priority, and what isn’t

It’s about developing yourself through each stage.

Knowing who you are, what do you want now...and what can wait for later

It’s about setting your dreams, goals, mission and vision

It’s about admitting your flaws, and knowing your strengths

It’s about knowing how to deal with others, and how to lead them when necessary

And enhancing your character

That’s what experience is all about. It has nothing to do with Titles or َQuantity, and that’s what corporate professionals try to see in you..but off course you need to have more “Experience” before hand 

The more you move through your life...the more you build up you learn the more you build up your experience.

Have a great weekend,

Enjoy it..and wait for my upcoming Talk tomorrow. 

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Books for life...The Morning Talk

Morning Morning Deegalkers,

Last talk, I talked about love, and told you also never to judge a book by it’s cover, this morning I’m talking about the book itself. 

Yesterday, my colleagues at work were discussing with me how do I get this ability to read that much and finish a book in a day or two, and I went like and so what?

I remember my love for owning books in my childhood but never actually reading any, it was a tough duty when I had to. It brought pleasure choosing books with weird titles and great designs. But I’ve never read any.

When I used to read, I read the tiniest books ever, with minimum number of pages. Until the day where my eyes fell on Paulo Coehlo’s masterpiece “Zahir”, It was a book I could never read, but took this challenge one summer on a boat trip to finish it all, and it happened. Since the very first moment I held the book, I kept on reading non stop and couldn’t leave it a second, until I’ve finished it in 3 days.  

That was it...that was the start, reading novels, self development and fictional books. I’ve never actually go the idea for people who don’t read. To me reading is sexy, it’s attractive, no matter what you read, whether politics or fiction or even romance, it is sexy. What’s even sexier is having discussions about what you’ve read and getting into a conversation about it. Conversation, Reading and Books...what’s only missing here is a good cup of coffee and some music. 

Ok, so books books books. Imagine yourself getting into the lives of so many people when all what you need to do is just open up. It’s exactly like what I was talking about yesterday, judging it by it’s cover won’t take you anywhere. Unless you get deep into it, go through every word, dot and sentence. It’s not about how much you do read in an hour, day or even year...it’s about how each word made you feel and how it might have changed you. 

So I’ll list down a bunch of my favourite books

1. Zahir, Paulo Coelho

2. Aleph, Paulo Coelho

3. كتاب مالوش اسم، احمد العسيلي

4. الكتاب التاني، احمد العسيلي

5. اسرار صغيرة، ريتا خوري

6. هيبتا، محمد الصادق 

7. نور عبدالمجيد، رغم الفراق

8. Tuesdays with Morie, Mitch Albom

9. تحيا جمهورية قلبي، لينا نابلسي

10. المانيفستو، مصطفى ابراهيم

11. Girls of Riadh, Rajaa Alsanea

The number of my favourite book is endless, but if you want to check out my Goodreads account please do.

https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/9466681-khadiga

And to sum this up..

“There is no friend as loyal as a book.” ― Ernest Hemingway

Now you know what reading is all about?

What are your favourite books?

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When in love...The morning Talk

Morning Morning Deegatalkers,

Well I’m glad you read yesterday’s talk and liked it. Now you’re encouraging me even more to write.

Yesterday I read a post about falling in love, and it said something along the lines of 

“Don’t ever judge someone, by who they fall in love with, falling in love isn’t a choice and doesn’t need any permission to reach you, it just happens”

In a world like the one we’re living, we always judge the book by it’s cover…even without reading the headline or checking the synopsis, we usually check the design, the colors and whether it’s big or small, but we rarely go through it. 

...And love has to be deeply felt...but society never approves. Society wants you to love, provided you're following its manifesto. Wants to to be loved, the way it wants to see you being loved. Wants you to feel the way it wants you to feel...according to it's feel chart. And in action, please make sure to follow the guide. But truth is, actual love, has no Manifestos, Rules, Charts, Guides or even Video tutorials....Love's only rule is to open up yourself to it. 

When in love, Allow yourself to feel,

See things the way you do not how others see it 

Stop over thinking 

No expectation bar is the actual bar 

When in love,

Society is your worst enemy

 Just don't allow it to get through you 

When in love act... Don't react 

When in love be happy...Please 

 "When in love..." 

 It's one of the deepest most pure feelings ever that we try to suppress and mock...all the time. We ask why...while love knows no Whys or Hows. We try to rationalize...while love has no rational. We try to materialise...while true love can't be materialised. 

 When in love..just allow yourself to fall in heaven...even for sometime...you need this

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The morning Talk

“Make new friends but keep the old, for one is silver the other is gold”

That’s my first day in being 24! Feels quite awkward, I’m not young yet not old

Bar2os 3al selem ya3ni

When I was young, elders used to tell me to appreciate school friends, they are the ones that last. And when I used to look at my friends I thought, could they be my lifetime friends? Will I make new ones? Would we remain the same?

And growing up as an extremely shy girl, I’ve always feared approaching new people or making new friends, and always stayed in my comfort zone. It was a challenge…to go and say Hi to anyone.

I’ve always feared rejection, mockery, difference and change

In class my teachers gave me the rabbit as my animal, very shy very quiet.

Bit by bit, I started working on building up myself for my career, until it turned me into the person I am today.

I turned out from being that Shy Rabbit, into Deega…Deegatalk

Throughout the way, the number of people I’ve met and got in touch with is humongous, however the number of real humans and souls, goes down by far.

People are everywhere Friendships are rare Real great souls are extinct

It’s not about how old or new is your relationship, what matters is whether it’s true and sincere. What matters is whether you both appreciate and add to this relationship.

What matter is the strength of your relationship At the end of the day, make precious friendships and appreciate them. Have a great day

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افهموا بقى(١): يا اهل مصر

من ساعة مابتديت اكتب كلامي بالعربي او الإنجليزي

و مشكلتي الأصلية ف الأهل

مش ف الشباب

الشباب اللي كبر على ان الغلط غلط والصح صح

والنقاش عيب و مقاوحة

والتفكير...خروج عن الأدب

و كل ماينفعش بيجي وراها

“الناس هتقول ايه”

اهو انتوا اهتميتوا بالناس اكتر ماهتميتو بولادكو

افهموا بقى

الشدة من غير مبرر هتوصل لمشاكل انتوا مش قدها

والتقفيل بزيادة...بيجي بطرق تاني للهروب من التقفيل ده

 و عدم التوعية بيجي ب مفاهيم غلط و تصرفات غلط اكبر

عشان انتوا قررتوا ماتتكلموش فيها

افهموا بقى

سنة الحياة بتقول ان البنت والولد لازم يتعاملو مع بعض

مش بس لما يجي العريس

وبتقول انهم اتنين بيكملوا بعض

ماينفعش الفصل مابينهم

الفصل، هيولد رغبة في المعرفة اكبر

الفصل هيولد مفايهم غلط هيدورا عليها عند صحابهم او اونلاين

والإختلاط موجود فالشارع، فالدرس و فالشغل

يعني مش فارقة من الآخر

افهموا بقى

ربوهم عالقيم

“عرفوهم ايه اللي ممكن يحصل و امتى يعرفوا انهم دخلو مرحلة “الغلط

عشان كل ممنوع مرغوب 

افهموا بقى

المراقبة بزيادة هتولد طرق جديدة للكدب

لأن المراقبة سجن..مش حل تطمنوا بيه عليهم

و سهل عليهم يحسسوك انك عارف و شايف كل حاجة و هم بيعملو كل حاجة فالخفا

افهموا بقى

ماتطلعوش جيل كداب عشان ياخد اللي هو عايزه من الدنيا

افهموا بقى

الناس هتتكلم هتتكلم

ف الصح هيتكلموا

و ف الغلط هيتكلموا

و هيلاقو اي سبب ينهشوا في لحم اللي قدامهم

و يبرروا اللي علي مزاجهم

افهموا بقى

قبل ماتربوا عالصح والغلط

ربوا عالمبادئ اللي مبنية على الثقة

يعني ماتصحبيهاش عشان تفتني لأبوها على كل حاجة

هتخسريها للأبد

ماتقوللهاش احكيلي احنا صحاب

و تضربيها او تجرسيلها لما تحكيلك

كدة تبقى خاينة

خاينة للأمانة والثقة بينك و بين بنتك/ ابنك

ربيها انها ماتحكمش على حد

وافهمي جيلها بيفكر ازاي بدل ما انتي اللي بتحكمي عليها من وجهة نظر تربيتك انت

في وقت كله بيسابق الزمن والدنيا بتاعة زمان مش هي بتاعة دلوقتي

افهموا بقى

الضرب مش حل

الشتيمة مش حل

كلها حاجات هتطلع 

ناس مذبذبة و مشوهة نفسياً

افهموا بقى

العفة والشرف مش معناهم الطرحة اللي على راسها

...ولا هي بنت ولا

 العفة اساسها من جوة اوي...من القلب و العقل

ده اللي اهم من كل ده

افهموا بقى

تربيتك ليها اهم من مراقبة الفيسبوك والسوشيال ميديا

تربيتك ليها اهم من هي بنتك بتكلم ولاد ولا لأ

تربيتك ليها اهم من انها طول النهار والليل فالشوارع

تربيتك ليها يعني هي اللي بتقول عالغلط لأ عشان عندها يقين بده

و بتعرف تفرق بين الصح...والغلط

تربيتك ليها معناه انها بتعرف تفكر لنفسها

افهموا بقى

ماتمسكوش ف تفاهات

امسكوا اللجام اللي بيحرك الحصان بدل ماتضربوه عشان ماشي غلط

قالوا زمان ان الأم مدرسة

 طب المدرسة دي هتربي ازاي لو هي اساستها رخوة و مبنية عال: كدب، الخداع، عدم الثقة، و عدم الوعي، و الضعف

هتقع ف ثانية مع اي لفحة هوا

وكدة ولا كدة...الناس هتتكلم هتتكلم

فوتكم بعافية

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Rainbow

Holla! Its time for my weekly talk. Did you get the chance to read last week’s talk? It was a bit dark I know, but real, If you used to do that or had a friend to used to harm himself with blades or are sticked to a relationship till they become so miserable, you’ll relate . Anyways, tonight’s talk is much much lighter. We’re talking about rainbows and unicorns and cupcakes…Yaay!

*If you missed last week’s talk check it out: http://goo.gl/8cmvTE

No kidding…but tonights topic does include rainbows. I remember in 2010 when I first went to London in summer and there was like this huge parade all colourful with weird people wearing weird costumes and feathers and music, then I discovered it’s the Gay parade of the year….Wow, what? Gay Parade

It was when I’ve discovered for the very first time Rainbow colors represents LGBT. 

When I wanted to mention homosexuality in one of my episodes my dad went like, “No No No, you’re not discussing that…not over my dead body”, why dad I mean it’s trending…but he just couldn’t get it.

And last week when suddenly my timeline turned into rainbow colours everywhere, I’ve decided to open up the topic while having Iftar with my parents

“ايه رأيكو ف ال

Rainbows 

اللي قالبه فيسبوك؟

اصل انا كنت هكتب على فيسبوك : اؤيد زواج المثليين”

Suddenly my mum stared at me, and was like it’s 7aram how come you approve. I mean mom is personal freedom, I’m not talking about whether it’s 7alal or not, I’m just saying everyone has the right to choose who he’s attracted to, while at the end let’s leave it up to them to decide.

After lots of backs and forths and never ending questions, I went like, “Ok you know what? I’m not fully aware of the topic and I still need to research more about it”

At another Sohoor the topic comes up and a friend asks me, “Ok would you approve if your child becomes gay?” Huh? Why not…I mean…if there is something I could do to predict at a early stage and prevent it i’ll do it. “But you can’t predict?” She said

Shit…everytime this topic comes up people keep on asking me questions that need lots of thinking. I just thought of it as freedom of expression, everyone has the right to get attracted to whoever, it’s something very personal, like talking about someone’s beliefs. But at the end of the day, I haven’t gone deep into the topic yet.

Rainbows, rainbows everywhere. I’m not here to talk about rainbows, I just believe there is something uncomfortable with two moms having a child or two dads having a child. I believe there is something completely wrong with tweens and teens going out in public and saying “Gay and Proud. Lesbian and Proud” . The word and proud itself brings up so many questions

1. Omk/ Abouk 3aref 3ala “Proud”*

2. Do you even know what this puts you through?

3.Are you actually gay/ lesbian or are you “Proud” just to be the talk of school?

And question to many people on fb, did you just change your profile picture to be like so cool? Well I have many friends who believe in LGBT rights, and I would even find many around me who are actually “Rainbow”, while others are approving of it  or practicing just to appear liberal & cool

Yaay we’re liberal we approve of anything out of the norm, against all societies barriers. We approve without even getting deeper into the topic. We approve without thinking twice.

If you approve of Rainbows and believe in them its a belief/ principle of your own, and no one has the right to judge or attack it, but if you aren’t you might as well dig deeper into that topic.

What about you? Do you believe in rainbows?

*Omek 3arfa it’s part of a campaign that appeared on Instagram & Twitter http://www.cairoscene.com/LifeStyle/Omek-3arfa-Instagram-Egyptian-memes

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Destruction

Holla! So It’s me again. Gone away for sometime, but as per your requests i’m back again with my talks. You know, being a working person and having zillions of tasks you should keep up with doesn’t always help when it comes to doing your own thing, unless you give it time and effort. And here I am again but still, i’ll be back officially very very soon and bombard you with my episodes and never ending talks.

So, I’ve been observing and experiencing lately a certain behavioural pattern that has been going on for sometime, but seems like we’re not confronting ourselves to it.

“Don’t ruin yourself”, “Don’t ruin your life” “Don't do that to yourself” and “You deserve much better” they say.

They say! They see me at a better place. They see me ruining my own life, and what am I doing about it? Destroying it even more with my attachment to certain actions, and obsessions.

Sometimes I just can’t see whats wrong with my life. What’s wrong with what I’m doing. It’s just an action and a reaction. Although there might be a problem with not being aware of what you’re doing to destroy your life, the bigger problem is when you know exactly what’s wrong, you know the consequences, yet you’re too attached to it to the point you let it destroy you bit by bit.

Certain needs lead subconsciously to self destruction: The need for attention, the need to be different, understood, appreciated and loved. Low self-esteem, the feeling of being useless, and the lack of certain social skills also lead to self destruction.

Self destruction comes into so many forms, you could start smoking like crazy, drinking, even physically hurting yourself and in many cases, psychologically hurting yourself.

You might not be smoking, drinking or even using blades to hurt yourself, the psychological harm you do to yourself, is the hardest of all.

Are you in love with someone? Are you happy?

If you aren’t and still in that relationship, you might as well reevaluate it.

Are you still attached to an Ex-lover, who’s in an on/off relation with you?

If it’s consuming you're thinking and behaviours, you might as well rethink about it.

Are you trying to prove yourself so hard to the extent it’s ruining your relations with others & ruining who you are?

Do you cry yourself for sleep everyday, wishing for things you know they wont happen?

Are you a totally different person in public?

Are you addicted to a certain thing that you cant stop it?

Well here is the thing, be frank to yourself to the extent that you know every inch of your soul. Be honest. Know what you want, what you can afford, and what you deserve. Create the best balance for yourself.

I mean, you know he’s not coming back, whats the reason for hurting yourself every single day? You know it, no matter how much pain you cause to yourself, you’re the only one harmed in here.

And about your depression and solitude, if you leave yourself to fall into it, it will take you no where. Don’t wait for that magical hand to show up and offer help if you aren’t ready to find light by yourself.

And if smoking is taking you somewhere, the only place it’s taking you is more shit, more problems and more illness. You know very well it’s a trap, you know it won’t do any good for you.

The thing is, sometimes no matter how well we know what we deserve, we’re just too weak to get up and follow the right path. Sometimes we run away from reality. Sometimes we’re in denial, and other times we’re just helpless.

So, here is the thing. If you are consciously or subconsciously harming yourself, know for sure you’re the only one being hurt in here. Reevaluate yourself, reevaluate your choices actions and thoughts, if they bring on negative, pull yourself out of them immediately. And know for sure, self destruction is a choice not a fact. Be smart, know yourself know very well it’s worth, and importance, and please don’t fall into destroying yourself.

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Deega’s reply to anonymous

Dear Anonymous,

Communication is the best way with your parents, you need to clearly communicate your thoughts with someone you trust (A parent or a Cousin) who could help you out in getting through with your needs.

Have a clear understanding of why they are doing so, and accordingly you would know how to tell them that you need some space.

If they are overprotective, try not to mention “Freedom”, instead talk about “Trust” in you as a person, and your decisions. Find a way to bring them closer to your life, let them know your friends, make them confident about them...and step by step they could trust your actions and give you what you need.

If you want to talk more,

Feel free to inbox on my FB page’s Inbox

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“(i am writing in english because it’s way easier to speak in a non-native language than it is in a native one, because you feel less restricted, less at home, and with more freedom accessible).

and i am asking you, because you seem strangely understanding of teenagers in ways (i think) no one is.

let me start by saying that i am not as “imprisoned” as a lot of teenagers, and this is not to complain about my parents or my lifestyle or to complain at all. it’s just me simply letting out what i feel instead of punching a wall.

it always angers me how little trust my parents actually put in me. if i’m writing something, they’ll demand to know what it is. they’ll ask for my phone password and look through everything. they’ll let me know i’m watched. and they try to minimize my relations with the male population as much as they could.

i realize i’m not (well, not always) actually hiding something, but i get defensive, because i don’t think it’s ever okay for a fifteen year old not to have at least some space, or something to let out my anger into.

of course, yes, some people have it far worse, but it’s not a competition. it’s not about who has it worse, it’s not about how much this trust actually is. it’s about the fact that i don’t feel trusted.

and i really do not want to hide anything, or go behind their back, but it’s hard.

and that’s why i’m asking you for advice.

because sometimes it’s hard convincing them that going out with some friends is not going to make me end up with a guy, and it’s not going to make me less “mo7tarama”, and that “kalam el nas” is not really what matters.

thank you for reading all of this, a n o n y m o u s.” 

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how do i send you a story or a confession ? im new to this whole thing

Send it here feel free

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Men are incapable of love , you really need to talk about this , even the ones who fall or seem to , falls out sooner or later , no matter how long this later can be

Tell me more about "Incapable"

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شيماء قناوي تكتب: انا مين

سؤال دايما بساله لنفسي

انا مين؟ انا صح ولا غلط

 انا بعمل الي بحبه؟ 

طب انا مع الناس الي شبهي؟

 طب مش مهم ناس شبهيحلي الاقل ناس بحبها ؟؟

 طب ياتري نا عايزه اشتغل الحاجه الي بدرسها؟نا بموت ؟

..طب صاحيه ؟

 طب المزيكا الي بسمعها دي شبهي؟

 طب انا بحب نوع الاكل ده ؟

 انا مين انا يمكن مش عارفه انا عايزه ايه ده اكيد

 .. واكيد في غيري كتير اوي كده

 .. تاييهين في الدنيا لا هي راضيه عنهم ولا هم راضيين عنها

 وقليل اوي الي بيقدر يمسك نفسه انه يمشي مع التيار

 واقل بكثير الي بيختتار انه يمشي مع التيار .. لان ده مكانه

 بمعني ان مش معني مثلا انك تتكلم او تكتب تريند انك لو عملت ده تبقي بتقلد 

ولو معملتش دا تبقي جامد

 .. الفكره كلها ..انت مين ؟

 يمكن بتحب الكوره؟ يمكن لا؟ 

او يمكن بتحبها لما بتلاقي ماتش شغال وبس يمكن بتحب الرسم؟

بس كسلان تتعلم يمكن بتعرف تكتب؟

 بس خايف الناس تقول علي  كلامك محن 

يمكن بتعرف تعزف

..بس خايف الناس تقولك " مزيكا يه الي انت بتحبها دي"

 يمكن نفسك تساعد حد

 ..بس مش عارف لانك حتي مش عارف تساعد نفسك

 ..من فتره مش طويله ولا قصيرة

 قررت الاقي نفسي

 افتح صفحه جديده مع نفسي لاني استحق دا

 .. استحق الحياه الجديده

,استحق ان في عيد ميلادي الجي افتكر السنه دي بكل حاجه كويسه فيها

 واكون حققت فيها اي حاجه زي مثلا اني عايزه اخس

..بحاول يمكن ساعات باكل كثير بس بحاول

.. زي مثلا اني بحاول اقول الي في قلبي زي اني عايزه فعلا ادي لنفسي فرصه

 ..انها تظهر وني اقبلها

 واحبها

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شهد راشد تكتب: راحة البال

عارفين لما بنقع مثلاً ف نتعور في رجلنا؛ لو التعويره دي كبيره و مش نضيفه عمرها ما هتخف و تروح؛ هتفضل موجوده للأبد. لاء مش للأبد؛ بس هتفضل موجوده لحد ما تقرر تروح ل دكتور و ينضفها كويس و يعالجها و يموت الميكروبات ف تخف و تروح و كمان ما تسبش أثر؛ غير أنك هتاخد بالك و أنت ماشي بعد كدا.

أهو حياتنا كدا بالظبط؛ بنمشي في الحياه و نفضل نمشي لحد ما نتكعبل ف نقع في أي غلطه أو مشكله؛ بدل ما نقعد نفكر صح و نعالج المشكله دي بنتناساها و بنمثل أن مافيش حاجه؛ مع أن في كتير. ف بتفضر التعويره و تعلم و تعكنن علينا عيشتنا؛ في حين أننا لو قررنا بسرعه نروح لدكتور يعني نقعد و نفهم و نأخذ وقتنا هنخف بسرعه و مش هتسيب علامه و هنفرح و نرتاح بجد. كل اللي هتسيبه درس ل قدام.

أنا عارفه أن الكلام أسهل بكتير من التنفيذ؛ بس أنا مش قعده بعلمكم خالص. أنا عيشت دا ف أنا جيا أقول الخلاصه من وجهه نظري.

خد وقتك للأخر في الحزن؛ و مش مشكله لو عيشت شويه في الحزن عشان لما تفرح ما تكنش شايل في نفسك أي حاجه. يعني خلص اللي مزعلك أول ب أول.

لو محتاج تعتذر أوعى تتكبر؛ مهما كان أيه اللي غلط بس الشعور بالندم دا موت بالبطيئ و الأحسن 100 مره أنك تروح تعتذر و تسمع أن اللي أنت مزعله سامح و خلاص على كدا.

حب نفسك أوي؛ محدش هيحبك زي ما أنت هتحب نفسك و محدش هيخاف عليك زي ما أنت هتخاف على نفسك. و من الأخر كل واحد عقله في راسه يعرف خلاصه.

مش لازم في كل حاجه تمشي بدماغك؛ يعني لازم يكون لك رأي و فكر بس بردو لو أخدت أراء اللي حواليك هتشوف الصوره أكبر و هتفهم أكتر.

أوى تدي ودنك لأي حد؛ كلامي مش عكس بعده؛ لما تيجي تأخد رأي اللي حواليك أختار اللي أنت واثق فيهم و بس و يفضل تكون خبرتهم في الحياه أكتر منك (زي مامتك أو باباك أو أخواتك الكبار كدا يعني) و حتى لما تسمع منهم قرر أنت.

قعد لوحدك؛ متخفش مش هتكتأب أكتر ولا هتقوم تموت نفسك؛ بالعكس أنت هتعرف تتناقش مع نفسك كويس و تقرر هتعمل أيه في حياتك.

فكر و أكتشف قيمتك عند اللي حواليك و قيمتك في المجتمع؛ مش هقولك روح أترهبن في الدير؛ بس هقولك روح أتطوع و ساعد حد محتاج لأن اللي بيشوف بلاوي الناس بتهون عليه بالوته. مش بس كدا مش لازم تساعد حد أقل منك حظاً بس ممكن تساعد صحابك قرايبك و أي حد حواليك.

حس أنجازك في حاجه معينه؛ يعني لو بتطلع الأول أفتخر بنجاحك؛ لو أترقيت في الشغل قدر مجهودك؛ لو مربيين عيالكم كويس أفتخروا بيهم و بتربيتكم.

أخر حاجه أنت مش مسئول عن كل البلاوي اللي على الكوكب؛ متظلمش نفسك من فضلك. أنت مسئول عن حياتك و بس مش مسئول عن كل الحوادث ولا حياه كل بني أدم حواليك.

الحياه مش سهله بس مستهله؛ ف عيشها صح و مبسوط و لو قفلت في وشك خد وقتك و أفهم و صلح و أتصلح عشان توصل للحياه السعيده و الصح.

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صديقي المجهول #كلام_ديجا

يا مساء الفل عليكو من تاني

معلش..اعذروني ان الأسبوع اللي فات مانزلتش كلام جديد

بس الأسبوع ده...كلامي عن موضوع سألتوني عليه كتير

بس ماكنتش عارفة الاقيله داخلة صح

يمكن عنوان الموضوع يبان سطحي شوية

بس فالحقيقة هو اعمق من كدة بكتير

من كام يوم واحد صاحبي قاللي

"هو انتي ليه حياتك قايمة عالناس؟ و ليه الناس ليهم دور مهم اوي كدة في حياتك؟"

ساعتها كان ردي "ماعرفش؟"

روحت بليل كتبت لأستاذي العزيز قلتله ازاي يعني حياتي ماتقمش على ناس؟

وازاي ممكن نعيش من غيرهم يعني؟

بس مؤخراً

توصلت لنظرية ممكن تمشي معاك و ممكن لأ

الناس في حياتك سواء انا عايز ده او لأ

ماينفعش تعيش من غيرهم يعني

السؤال هو...مين اللي يستاهل يبقى في حياتك...و مدى تأثيره عليك قد ايه

و لو الشخص ده مش موجود في حياتك

حياتك هتقف؟

ولا هتكمل عادي

وايه اللي بيخليك متعلق بيه اوي كدة؟ 

هل هو دوره قوي اوي كدة في حياتك؟ ولا عمال كل شوية يشدك لتحت وانت مش واخد بالك؟

...عن صديقي المجهول

بيقول اننا صحاب

بيقول انه دايماً موجود

بس ساعت الجد

فص ملح و داب

صحاب اه

بس ان عوزته مش هلاقيه

بيظهر وقت مايحب 

و يختفي وقت مايحب

و يوم ما يجي يقول ازاي...انا موجود

بس ماتعتمديش عليا اوي كدة

صديق اه

بيقوللي اللي هو عايزني اسمعه

صديق اه

بس مش عايز يحطني في جدول مواعيده

صديق اه

بس مش عايز يظهر في صورة واحدة معايا

صديق اه

بس ماحدش لازم يعرف انه بيكلمني

برستيج و كدة

صديق اه

و يوم مابحكي معاه كأن كنا امبارح سوا

بيديني دَفعة كبيرة لقدام

بس تاني يوم مش بلاقيه

صديق اه

صديق اه

فاهمين بعض اوي

عارفين بعض كويس 

بس صداقة من نوع غريب...مانتاش فاهم ايه الغرض منها بالظبط

و ليه ساعة الجد مش بتلاقي الصداقة دي؟

اصل الصداقة مش شوية فضفضة و خلاص

ولا كلمتين لزوم الموقف و بعد كدة بخ

ايه الصداقة دي؟

 ليه مش عايز يطلع للنور

و ايه دور الجندي المجهول اللي بيتقمصه ده؟

و يا ترى الصديق اللي بينصح ده...صديق فعلاً؟ 

ولا في ناس اصلح منه في البقاء

و بيبقوا موجودين فعلاً؟

عن صديقي المجهول

استنوني في كلام جديد الأسبوع اللي جاي

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شيماء قناوي تكتب: الفالنتتين ؟

انا معنديش مشكله مع الفالنتين ولا مع ان الناس تلبس احمر ولا الهدايا و لا  حتي البوستات والهري دا

انا عندي مشكله مع الي اصلا كان السبب في الفالنتين وهو الحب

ايوه يا جماعه الحب ..الحب هو المشكله

وبمعني اصح السوال هو

هو ليه الحب بقي كدا  

ايوه ليه

ليه بقي اخره اليرلاشن شب في الفيسبوك

ليه؟

ليه يا جماعه طب استهدوا بالله كدا

مفيش حاجه اسمها ان الحب يوم واحد

بيحبك يعني يوم واحد ولا ايه يعني

و لو مجابش الهديه والورد يبقي مش بيحبك

يابنتي وياا ابني افيقوا

انتو بتصسعوا حياتكم مع بعض عايشين قصص شبيهه بالحب

و خليني اقولكم ببساطه ومن وجهه نظري يعني ايه حب؟

الحب انك متفق ش من نفسك اي حاجه

انك تكسب صاحب وفي جدا والي بيكملك في كل حاجه

مش لازم تكون كل اهتمامتكم مشتركه

بس ممكن يكون في بينكم نقط مشتركه

انكم تفهموا بعض

تدعموا بعض

تثقوا في بعض

تشيلو بعض في الوقت الصعب

انه يعرف ماضيكي ويقبله

وانتي كمان تعرفي ماضيه وتقبليه

متغيروش بععض لكن تتغيروا عشان بعض

تدافعوا عن بعض

يبقي الي بينكم اكبر من امسحي الولاد وامسح البنات و امسحي صورك و متتكلميش ومتعمليش

الي بينكم اكبر من تحكم ذكوري  

اكبر من انك تبقي دلدوله وانك تبقي سي سيد

والاكيد ان الحب اكبر من هديه في يوم ١٤/٢