As someone on the aromantic spectrum, I'm so tired of trying to come out to people and just hearing: "oh, you'll change your mind when you find the right person" or one time I came out to a guy during truth or dare and he said, and I kid you not: "playing hard to get is not attractive"
Like, what?
The most annoying part of this whole thing is that I'm cupioromantic. Which in simple terms is feeling little to no romantic attraction, but still wanting a romantic relationship. I am completely on the side of NO romantic attraction at all. In truth, I would like to have the experience of a crush, or just know what it's like to have one even if I don't act on those feelings.
So when people say shit like that to me, it makes me feel like a pig with a fuckass carrot dangling in its face with its mouth sewn shut.
⬆️ the cupioromantic flag btw
Another thing that PMO is assuming just because I can't feel romantic attraction while wanting a relationship means I want a glorified best friend, not a partner. Fun fact. That assumption is wrong. I do want a romantic partner, I just don't feel the exact same way they do. It doesn't mean I don't love them.
One other common thing is that people assume I'll date anybody that has a crush on me or asks me out. No. Hard no. Like anybody else, I want a healthy relationship with someone I know and trust, that understands I still love them even if I can't return their feelings exactly. I have standards and needs as well, I won't settle just because someone shows interest.
There's other things but this is getting long and my grammar is getting worse. Respect everyone in LGBTQ+. That includes everyone on the aro/ace spectrum, even if I was specifically talking about the aromantic spectrum today. :))
