I think I've figured out why Bkdk antis are.. well.. antis.
They project onto Deku.
That's the best explanation I can think of. They see the relationship that Izuku and Katsuki had when they were 5 years old and when they were 13. They take it as a static relationship. (We don't know much about what's in between, you know.)
They see how Katsuki USED to treat Izuku– with no respect– and they relate it to their own situations. That's fine and all, identifying with a character is something everyone does and it's in no way bad.
I will not speak for everyone who relates to Izuku. And I do too, I have been treated badly by people who were supposed to be friends. However.
When they identify too much with a character– Izuku in this case– it leads to an almost possession of the character. They start to believe this character is meant to portray their specific struggles, even if they don't realize it. If Izuku doesn't react a certain way to Katsuki's antics or his clearly competitive actions, it, in short, pisses them off.
Suddenly ‘Horikoshi's writing is horrible’ and ‘Izuku has Stockholm Syndrome’ even though neither are true. Izuku is his own unique character with his own unique quirks, no pun intended. He doesn't owe anyone a specific reaction, he doesn't owe US a certain decision.
His situation is unique in that it is his own. As similar as our lives are to Izuku's, we cannot expect him to act how we would or how we think he should.
Say what you will about the Bakudeku/Katsudeku/Decchan ship, it won't go away and is far from being toxic. Don't prefer it? Who cares, that's fine. But claiming that a relationship is toxic, when it is not, is foolish and can unintentionally make you seem intolerant.
For some, it's hard to remember that when speaking to someone online, they're speaking to a real person. Real people who have real feelings and real struggles, real opinions. In the end, it's just an anime and it's just a manga, a work of fiction. Hurting others and wishing them pain won't change anything.
Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
