Black Lives Matter

Stay educated, stay safe ❤

[suga-ssi]

Project Manager Park’s number 1 supporter.

[uwuesque]

why the fuck is sex always viewed as some sort of skill that you should get as good at as humanly possible to be desirable?

sex isn't a competition, nor is it a skill. it's about doing what makes both of you feel best in that particular situation. far away from social expectations, things you see in pornography or anything like that. you shouldn't be judged for not understanding what they want, being overwhelmed, not in the right mood or just not into certain things that your partner wants.

if you don't know how to give a blowjob and your partner doesn't take the time to tell you what they like exactly and to make sure you're comfortable, they shouldn't be surprised about getting a crampy, anxious blowjob.

if you feel like you're being judged by them every step of the way, you're likely not going to relax or enjoy it as much as you could. and that's not your fault. even if you know you are prone to assuming that other ppl are judging you without a good reason, your partner should still be actively doing everything you need to make you feel safe and accepted. knowing they're doing their best to respect and understand your feelings usually helps a lot already. yes, even if it's just a short fling, or a short fling in a series of short flings.

not having romantic feelings for your sexual partner (whether you experience them in general or not) is perfectly fine. but even a one night stand should never, I repeat NEVER disrespect or disregard your feelings, as neither should you.

if you realize half-way through that you're too stressed out to keep going at that pace, you have every right to pause/slow down for as long as you need, or even end it right there, just as your partner has. it's not your fault, sometimes your brain just has to process other things simultaneously, which can lead to lower libido. not saying you can't get horny when you're stressed, you most certainly can - but especially in that case, you should tell your partner immediately and they should very much accept that.

same goes for your partner. if they seem to be somewhere else with their thoughts, not really present or just very cramped up, then you shouldn't blame yourself first. there can be tons of reasons for that. however, if you don't take the time to ask and understand what's going on, if you don't take the time to make sure they're comfortable, then you're simply being an inconsiderate dick.

your partner should never judge you for doing what feels good for you. if they don't like something, they can tell you, they can stop, shake their head, or gently push away your hand, and so on. if they expect you to know right away and claim that you're just "bad in bed" if you don't, they don't have high standards, they're just being childish.

communication during sex is not "awkward"!!! you're not "killing the mood" for stopping and assessing what you're going to do together, where your boundaries are, how you feel etc. if your partner can't handle five minutes of conversation to clear things up, they're very likely just in it for the orgasms and for your body, but not for you. again, even if it's just a short fling, basic empathy should be the minimum.

of course, there are certain things to know ahead of time, but those usually just include having condoms or lube readily available. and that's it. those are just some logistic safety measures which are in your partner's interest as well. if they want to have sex without a condom but one of you can get pregnant, they should still make sure they have a condom on them just in case one of you isn't okay with it. and if they don't want to have sex with a condom at all? then don't do it. don't bend your boundaries just to satisfy their needs. you should always consider their wishes and desires, but only if you're okay with doing those things. if not, then they can't demand you to "be a bit more open" or "respect their needs" if it implies neglecting your own.

when it comes down to choosing what to do, you should always go with what the person with the highest boundaries deems okay. otherwise you risk not only harming them mentally or physically, but also being remembered as "that one emotionally stunted guy who didn't understand you can get pregnant even if you pull out".

I'm probably repeating myself a lot, but this is all extremely important. unfortunately, it's not really taught or talked about anywhere. especially if you're still figuring out your sexual likes and dislikes or just starting to have sexual contact, please I beg you, never go further or faster than you want to just because you feel like your partner will lose interest in you otherwise. please make sure you stay safe and comfortable all the way!

if they really want to have sex with you, they'll be willing to respect you and your needs. if they are instantly disappointed in you if things don't go exactly as they want, or if they refuse to really listen to you, or if they don't tell you what they want in a way that's understandable for you, or if they get mad if you don't get the hang of something they want you to do the first time, or if they lose interest as soon as they deem you "not good enough" (which usually means they don't feel like you can read their mind, instantly know everything they want and act in perfect accordance right away), they aren't worth your time.

[transempowerment]

As many of you know, today is Trans Day of Remembrance.

There are no words to express the utter loss our community has suffered this past year. Thirty nine of our siblings in struggle, many of whom were people of color, were killed in the U.S. since January 1 of this year. There may be others whose names we do not yet know. This is a time of mourning for the entire community, and we must hold each other close as we close out the year next month.

Take care of ourself today, and every day after this. Give yourself the time to feel, to experience, to love, to embrace as we remember these thirty nine names, faces, lives, people, and the ones who came before us.

We say their names - and remember their stories

Dustin Parker.

Neulisa Luciano Ruiz.

Yampi Méndez Arocho.

Scott(lynn) Devore.

Monika Diamond.

Lexi Sutton.

Johanna Metzger.

Serena Angelique Velázquez Ramos.

Layla Pelaez Sánchez.

Penélope Díaz Ramírez.

Nina Pop.

Helle Jae O'Regan.

Tony McDade.

Dominique “Rem'mie” Fells.

Riah Milton.

Jayne Thompson.

Selena Reyes-Hernandez.

Brian “Egypt” Powers.

Brayla Stone.

Draya McCarty.

Tatiana Hall.

Merci Mack.

Shaki Peters.

Bree Black.

Summer Taylor.

Marilyn Cazares.

Dior H Ova.

Queasha D Hardy.

Aja Raquell Rhone-Spears.

Lea Rayshon Day.

Kee Sam.

Aerrion Burnett.

Mia Green.

Michelle Michellyn Ramos Vargas.

Felycya Harris.

Brooklyn Deshauna.

Sara Blackwood.

Angel Unique.

Yuni Carey.

We remember.

[ID 1: Dark blue background. White text lists the names of trans people killed in the U.S. in 2020, with dots between each name. A dark pink rectangle at the bottom frames white text reading “Trans Day of Remembrance.” The Trans Empowerment Project is in the bottom right corner.]

[ID 2: Square photos of seven of the trans people killed in the U.S. in 2020, framed in dark pink. There are two dark pink squares, one with white text reading “TDOR” in it and one with the TEP logo.]

[ID 3-6: Square photos of eight of the trans people killed in the U.S. in 2020, framed in dark pink. A dark pink square is centered, with white text reading “TDOR” in it.]

[yoonminist]

jimin’s reaction to yoongi saying they’re having kimchi friend rice tomorrow 🥺

[radicalurbanista]

you can’t support autistic people and support the police. No amount of paint jobs or sensitivity training can stop police from killing with impunity

[emerald-studies]

AJ Mitchell - autistic; killed by police 

Petition here

[black-to-the-bones-deactivated2]

He was an activist who inspired millions to fight for their rights. He knew what was wrong with our country and risked his life to help his people achieve equality.  In the society where black were treated like animal he did everything possible to change this. His brave soul, his will and courage changed the history of America , changed the people. He made us believe we can win this war. He payed for it with his life. He will always be remembered.

[alwaysbewoke]

this should be reblogged everyday just so people can know that black rage is always justified. always.

[alwaysbewoke]

man this movie is going to be something else

[original-honeychiles]

I was 17 years old and we took a bus to Chicago as part of the nccf to see chairman Fred and witness what the pigs had done. It was a plan they executed him and they executed Mark Clark. They have been attempting to murder them for more than a year and finally they got their chance. Black people lined up around the block 4 days to look at the crime scene and it was grizzly. members of the party pointed out all of the bullet holes and discuss the fact that Mark Clark only pulled the trigger of the shotgun as a reaction to being murdered which allow the police to rain down lead like a hurricane on the sleeping party members. Nothing was ever done about this murder scene and we are still waiting for black people to realize that this was a plan that they want to execute against each and every one of us. Either you stand your ground or you fall on it.

All power to the people

[indigenous-maya]

“Many people take pride in the cultures of the Americas and the worldview of the indigenous people but please don’t make us idols because we’re not myths of the past nor present. We are active communities. As long as one indian is alive in the Americas or the world, there shines a bright hope and lives an original thought.” - Rigoberta Menchu | Maya K'iche

[raiffiesart]

Fire Frogs ~

Background: @raidesart | Characters: @leffiesart

[yourbigsisnissi]

When people tell stories about how their parents beat them, it’s always interesting to see their face change because they expected me to say “me too lol” but I instead say “I’m really sorry. You didn’t deserve that” Last time a co worker who also has West Indian parents was telling me in a joking way how he remembers being beaten with a belt because lied about his report card. As he was laughing it off and saying he deserved it, I just said “wow that’s awful hun. You didn’t deserve that.” And his whole face changed. Like it hadn’t occurred to him that it’s messed up that a part of remembering his childhood is remembering how badly it hurt to be beaten so badly at such a young age. Another time I had a friend, non West Indian parents, who talked about how she made a mess on a dress that her parents got her. It was really expensive apparently and she spilled red juice on it. She talked about how she was ordered to take the dress of and was beaten with a belt too without any clothes on. And she was laughing and said “I was a bad ass kid lol” and I said “no hun you were just a kid”. And she looked at me and immediately stopped laughing and just sat there like “yea…I was just a kid. I don’t know why they did that to me” My mom was raised in a household where she was beaten so badly….I just don’t understand how she is so loving now growing up in a home where she got so little love. They called it discipline, but once she became a social worker she began to see that it was abuse. That she grew up terrified of her parents, although they thought it was respect that my mom felt. It was fear. We have to get comfortable challenging what is often seen as cultural norms. We have to be a generation of people who are not ashamed to say “I would never beat my child”.

[carnival-phantasm]

We have numerous studies linking physical punishment on children, some far less drastic than the ones mentioned, to behavior/aggressivity issues and mental disorders in the long term, but it’s so normalized that most people think kids will become “spoiled” if they don’t ever get spanked – something far more related to parents being absent and not participating in their education than “lack of punishment”.

Beating children is just the lazy, ignorant way out and a sign of failure as a parent. Hitting some defenseless kid when you are angry is far easier and quicker than calming yourself down and having a conversation where you have to adapt your words so your kid can understand, but the latter is proper parenting and teaching while the former is just giving your children a risk factor for social and psychiatric disorders.

[theghostthathauntsurlocalmansio]

being an abusive person isn’t strength, or something to be proud of. being a symbol of fear in your family household shouldn’t make you feel accomplished. hurting your children is pathetic and will only result in losing your kids, some way or another.

[prettyasice-deactivated20230416]

Follow @mengwe on Instagram

[emerald-studies]

Please Sign These Petitions!

***You do NOT need to donate to change.org. If you do donate, it does boost the petitions to be recommended to other people signing. You can directly donate to the victims’ families. But I repeat, you DO NOT need to donate to change.org. If someone reblogs this and says, 

“dOnT dOnAtE tO cHaNgE.oRg!!!!!11” 

You now have proof that they don’t read posts 💞💞💞 If change.org triggers you soooo much, YOU can make alternatives to sign instead of screaming about it, adding nothing 😘😘😘 Mwahhh***

Also, if you don’t believe that petitions work, you better keep that same energy with stop signs, traffic lights, food label warnings, etc. because those don’t always help people either but the effort is what matters. Also Elijah McClain’s case is being investigated because of a petition….soooo get that shit out of here.

If I am missing a name, or you’ve heard about a new case, please pm me instead of reblogging so I can fix it faster.

New petitions in bold:

George Floyd - change.org

George Floyd - amnesty.org

George Floyd - colorofchange.org

Get The Officers Charged

Charge All Four Officers

Breonna Taylor - moveon.org

Breonna Taylor - colorofchange.org

Breonna Taylor - justiceforbreonna.org

Breonna Taylor - change.org

Breonna Taylor - thepetitionsite.com

Ahmaud Arbery - change.org

Ahmaud Arbery - change.org 2

Ahmaud Arbery - change.org 3

Justice for Oluwatoyin Salau

Pass The Georgia Hate Crime Bill

Defund MPD

Life Sentence For Police Brutality

Regis Korchinski - change.org

Tete Gulley - change.org

Tony McDade - change.org

Tony McDade - actionnetwork.org

Tony McDade - thepetitionsite.com

Joao Pedro - change.org

Julius Jones - change.org

Belly Mujinga - change.org

Willie Simmons - change.org

Hands Up Act - change.org

National Action Against Police Brutality

Kyjuanzi Harris - change.org

Alejandro Vargas Martinez - change.org

Censorship Of Police Brutality In France

Sean Reed - change.org

Sean Reed - change.org 2

Kendrick Johnson - change.org

Tamir Rice - change.org

Tamir Rice - change.org 2

Fire Racist Criminal From The NYPD

Jamee Johnson - organizefor.org

Darius Stewart - change.org

Darius Stewart - moveon.org

Abolish Prison Labor

Free Siyanda - change.org

Chrystul Kizer - change.org

Chrystul Kizer - change.org 2

Andile Mchunu (Bobo) - change.org

Eric Riddick - change.org

Amiya Braxton - change.org

Emerald Black - change.org

Elijah Nichols - change.org

Zinedine Karabo Gioia - change.org

Angel Bumpass - change.org

Sheku Bayoh - change.org

Angel DeCarlo - change.org

Sandra Bland - change.org

Sherrie Walker - change.org

Darrien Hunt - change.org

Cornelius Fredericks - change.org

Elijah McClain - change.org

James Scurlock - change.org

Darren Rainey- change.org

Kendrick Johnson- change.org

Darrius Stewart- change.org

LaVena Johnson- change.org

Kenneka Jenkins- change.org

Sam Dubose- change.org

Philando Castile- change.org

Philando Castile - signmoveon.org

Natasha McKenna- change.org

Freddie Gray- change.org

The Freddie Gray Law - Assess, Treat, and Safely Transport -signmoveon.org

Samuel DuBose- change.org

Kimani Gray- care2petitions

Kenneth Chamberlain Sr- signmoveon.org

Sean Bell- change.org

Jennifer Jeffley- change.org

Oliver Campbell- change.org

Bruce Greenway- change.org

Dominique Fells - change.org

Rayshard Brooks - change.org

Alfred Wright - change.org

Mubarak Soulemane- change.org

Byron Williams- change.org

Mitrice Richardson- change.org

AJ Mitchell (a boy with autism) - change.org

Merci Mack- change.org

Lakeith Smith + A’Donte Washington- change.org

Malik Thomas- change.org

Matthew Tucker- change.org

Malik Williams (paraplegic man shot at 84 times)- change.org

Amani Kildea - change.org

Stop the Criminalization of Mentally Ill Black Youth

Equal Maternal Healthcare among Women of Color

Alonzo Brooks - change.org

Improve Mortality Rates & Health Care for Pregnant and Non-Pregnant Black Women

Demand Equity in Healthcare System

Medical schools must include BAME in clinical teaching (Black and Minority Ethnic)

D’Andre Campbell - change.org

Quinton McClinton - change.org

Marcus Malone - change.org

Darné Brown- change.org

Give Every Patient an Equal Chance to Live: Diversify National Stem Cell Donor Registry -change.org

Lemon G. Hamilton - change.org

Marqueese Alston - change.org

D'Quan Young- change.org

Shan Carter - change.org  

Isabelle Eris - change.org ( @starry-eyed-angel )

Alonzo Brooks- change.org

Kayla Moore - change.org

Nina Pop Petition - change.org

Akiel Denkins - change.org

Kyron Hinton - change.org

Keith Collins - change.org

Keith Dutree Collins - change.org

Sha-Asia Washington - change.org (a 26-year-old Black woman who died during an emergency C-section earlier this month. Black mothers are 3 to 4 times more likely to die of pregnancy-related complications than white women in the United States because f racial bias.)

http://www.pb-resources.com/

https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/

If you are outside of the USA, you can use this information to sign. You only have to use it once and then change.org remembers your info:

USA

Los Angeles

CA

90001

(Please write this down for future reference, if you ever need it.)

[dontmeantobepoliticalbut]

On May 24th, several hundred protesters stood on the porch of the Kentucky Governor's mansion, many of who were armed with rifles and demanding for him to come outside. This took place for nearly two hours while many beat on the glass windows of his home. The same group later that day hung an effigy of Governor Beshear from a tree. This group was made up primarily of middle-aged white males and they were protesting over COVID-19 restrictions. In response to this protest, they are now building a fence around the Governor's Mansion. ZERO ARRESTS WERE MADE.

On July 14th, 87 protestors sat in the front lawn in front of Kentucky Attorney General Daniel Cameron's house. They were sitting in lines with their hands in their laps. This group was unarmed and made up of mostly young people both white and of color who were demanding justice for Breonna Taylor. Other than his grass no part of the Attorney General's home was touched. ALL 87 WERE ARRESTED AND CHARGED WITH A FELONY. They face a sentence of 1-5 years.

This is the story you need to be sharing today.

[blvkvholic]

[dontmeantobepoliticalbut]

[emerald-studies]

Please give @ogorchukwuu on instagram a follow.

[emerald-studies]

I would like to come back to this post because multiple people have been saying, “This is censorship.” “I can’t share my opinions?” “This isn’t gaslighting.” 

You  are part of the problem!!!!

When someone is sharing their racial trauma and you decide to criticize and belittle their experience, that is gaslighting. 

Also, if you believe that sharing “opinions” aren’t harmful, 

how about if you were injured in a car accident caused by a drunk driver and I said,

“Well, maybe you shouldn’t have been driving.”

Or

“No one get in car accidents anymore.”

Or 

“Maybe you should’ve driven different and you would’ve been fine.”

Or

“Why is it always about your injuries?”

Or

“Well, just to play devils advocate, maybe the drunk driver was having a bad day.”

Or

“In my opinion, I don’t think that driver was being reckless….”

That sounds soooo fair, right?

Right?

[jimiyoong]

stunning

[mijomii]

Is this werepuppy gonna be the child between you and your imaginary wereboyfriend

He’s very real, he just happened to leave me to raise our child. He said he was out to buy some cigarettes.

I guess the shop is just very far away.....