The Sun fell behind you and never stood up.

Sibelle. Writing, roleplay, feminism and pro-Blackness. Gender is /entirely/ a social construct, whereas sex is an observable fact. Both are real, and one harms just about everyone alive because it’s actual bullshit. Also, nerdy shit.

[desibelle]

Black gays really casually tossing around “I’m a white man’s whore~” like the ‘white man’ didn’t literally rape your ancestors and those ancestors weren’t treated as subhuman and oversexualized by all of white society, like Black women aren’t affected by that stereotype to this day. That phrase literally makes me vomit. Nothing about it is cute.

[n7brendan]

[engimemeing]

the verse just makes this better though

Galatians 4:16 “So now have I become your enemy by telling you the truth?”

[robotlyra]

Galatians 4:16 is just the biblical version of

[profashionall]

[golfgalaxy]

my organs when i finally eat my first meal at 5pm

[desibelle]

Dorm life is really just trying to finish papers while someone’s girlfriend moans louder than your music in a room nearby.

[desibelle]

Racist and colorist “feminists” will understand why it’s problematic to have very thin women in all media and how that’s harmful to women with other body types, but point out why girls like Amandla Stenberg and Yara Shahidi being the face of Black teenage girlhood in Hollywood is an issue and suddenly: ????????

[myboyfriendpetebuttigieg]

“friendly reminder” posts annoy me, but here’s one anyway:

The word “problematic” was never meant to be the auto-win card of social justice discussions. Problematic is not a synonym for bad or wrong. Problematic literally means that an issue is complicated, open to debate, and raises important questions about an issue, questions that should be analyzed, discussed, and unpacked.

So when you say something is problematic, don’t just lean back in your chair, pat yourself on the back, and call it a day. Go deeper. Get a discussion going. Analyze that shit. Hear from others and come to some tough conclusions.

Saying “we shouldn’t do X because X is problematic” is as nonsensical as saying “the weather outside is weather.”

[africanaquarian]

They gave a mixed British girl a whole ass hair documentary just because she cut her big 3A curls off lmao they woulda never gave no dark skin 4C head girl nothing like that the natural hair community is a joke

[africanaquarian]

AND a tour? Wow

[bunnys-kindaweird]

https://www.naturallycurly.com/curlreading/big-chop/why-nia-the-lights-big-chop-is-a-ticket-to-a-different-career-interview

this could literally only happen bc she’s light w a 3 curl pattern like. a DOCUMENTARY?? bruh.

[africanaquarian]

Of course. Literally every single black woman l know has been on a journey with their hair. Cutting it off is nothing new. The reasoning isn’t new. Bitches been bald. But everybody else had the wrong texture and the wrong complexion.

[menaturally]

Look at y’all talking shit with no background knowledge lmfaooo

She’s a journalism major and her tour and documentation was basically her fucking final. Nobody GAVE it to her. They picked it up after the fact and she’s going to continue the tour and screen her documentary

And before her big chop her Afro was fucking HUGE and untamed. She wore it loud proud and wild as fuck.

The same shit that type 4 folk be shit on for.

Miserable asses

[menaturally]

This is how she wore her hair 98% of the time. You’re delusional if you think light skin trumps or erases this as you move through a Eurocentric world.

[africanaquarian]

Girl don’t be dumb. Having light skin most definitely does affect how you’re treated in a Eurocentric society. Denying so would be both ahistorical and fallacious. She definitely does not get the same reaction as a woman with type 4 hair lol. Light skin and loose hair has always been the backbone of colorist preferential treatment in the black community.

And the tour is sponsored. By bumble&bumble and aerie specifically. True she could’ve made the doc by her own hand but the tour was given. So yes they did give her the funds for this. Not because she’s a journalism major or whatever the fuck. But because her privilege has afforded her the ability to be a figurehead in the community.

[moyo-mkali]

As a dark skinned black girl I understand the sentiment behind the reason, as colourism do play a role into why they decided to sponsor her. However, I’m not going to knock her accomplishments or what she’s doing on her natural hair journey either. To sit and talk down on her project because of it is also feeding into the division that exist within our community. Black hair is highly controversial always has and always will be. But it’s up to us, black women (no matter what shade/texture) to show our journey . She’s also apart of the natural hair community as well. And she’s also black no matter how she looks! It’s really ignorant to see hateful ass comments like this. The target should be the companies capitalizing off us. Demand more representation from the companies that supply our hair products. There are lots of little black mixed girls in the world who needs representation also. So stop coming for sis , and let’s work together to get all different type of black girls stories told.

I’m tired of us tearing each other down! We build together and prosper or we fall apart as a whole. Point . Blank. Period.

[africanaquarian]

Pointing out preferential treatment isn’t divisive. It’s honest. You already acknowledged colorism is what allowed her this opportunity in the first place. That’s the entire issue. Because of colorism women like herself are representing the majority of black women and therefore, the stories of those of us who don’t look like her go unheard. If us prospering means turning a blind eye to something that’s not fair and staying quiet about it, then we deserve to fall apart.

[black-rising-deactivated2018122]

That girl manipulates her hair to look like that. She uses a blow dryer and diffuser to make her hair seem more curly than it is. If you watch her styling videos her hair you will notice.  She used the natural hair movement as a come up, her IG handle was “frogirlginny” and now it’s “niathelight” lmao 

But there are plenty of black girls who do NOT have her texture or her skintone that are gassing and following her. That’s the problem with us as black people/women. We have a hand in how these light skin women with type 3 hair took over the natural hair movement. 

[ourqueenfelinefatale]

“I feel like there is only one image of a woman within the natural hair world and there should be many. There should be darker skinned women, and women with short hair, and women with tighter curls and different textures, and room for white women with looser curls too.”

By saying this you know she doesn’t actually understand/care about the natural hair movement or care about black women so next. 

[dicapito]

As long as her ass got paid, fuck everyone else.

[phoenix-ace]

“and room for white women with looser curls too.” wow….

[jamaicanblackcastoroil]

Always white women before her actual sisters

[futureblackwakandan-deactivated]

“That’s the problem with us as black people/women. We have a hand in how these light skin women with type 3 hair took over the natural hair movement.”

@black-rising you said it right there. We lowkey allowed this happen. Now everybody up in arms because they’re the face of the movement.

[kontrazvedka-deactivated2019031]

[ladha]

This is so…lazy. When people are talking about emotional labor within relationships, specifically heterosexual male/female ones, they’re talking about how women are expected to cater to their male significant other in every way possible or be seen as insufficent or expendable, or usually, not deemed worthy of being called a woman. It’s not just listening to your boyfriend. It’s listening to your boyfriend, while not being listened to, and listening to your boyfriend and being expected to fix all of his problems without addressing your own. Becoming his caretaker. Like…this is lazy. It’s as if y'all lost all critical thinking skills in the span of a microsecond.

[bigspender]

@ the ladies

wouldn’t it be cool if we could like… be ugly… but then…. not be considered subhuman for it

[feminismandhappiness]

I have written in long detail about my issues with “everyone is beautiful” and this text post summarizes it in 18 words

[sheabutterbitch]

What type of representation would you like to see for black women in media?

I want to see black women in film and TV with characteristics that may be deemed ‘ghetto’ but aren’t just used as comedic relief. I want these women to be given real storylines, with depth and emotion. Black women with colorful hair, long nails, loud voices, and strong opinions exist in real life and I don’t want to write them out of media.

I want black women in horror! I want characters such as Angela Bassett’s and Gabourey Sidibe’s in AHS to be frequented. I’m of the belief that women master horror because we live through horrors of everyday life that aren’t too far off, and with that logic, this goes doubly for black women.

I want to see black teen dramas that actually tackle what it’s like to be a black teen girl. How we are policed and sexualized by everyone for our bodies and the perceptions of us (perpetuated by the media, ironically). I want black girlhood displayed beautifully: dance battles, playing double dutch with phone cords, getting our hair done, etc. Black girls, if they aren’t simply portrayed a best friend, they’re rarely shown in a relatable light.

Finally, I want all types of black women to be utilized for the roles listed above. Black trans women, fat black women, black lesbians and bi women taking on all of these roles.

[africanaquarian]

ty lee was actually one of the most badass characters in atla. despite being a non-bender she constantly had the upper hand against benders and other various warriors of considerable skill. she was the most agile, flexible, and nimble and one of the most versatile fighters. in this essay l will

[jehovahhthickness]

[babydollbimpe]

Nine Black YouTubers You Should Watch & Support (Because It’s Time for The White Girls to Share the Brand Deals)

Yas and Hals - Beauty/Fashion, Pranks, Reactions, Vlogs, Challenges. Two London Sisters who are always lit while SERVING face. 

HeyParis - Storytimes, Beauty, Reviews. A Canadian babe who isn’t afraid to speak her mind and make us laugh as well. 

ThePatronnes - Fashion, Reviews, Advice. Two best friends who love fashion and helping us out while running their makeup line Patronne Cosmetics.

Nella Rose - Chit Chat / Relateable, Fashion/Beauty, Q&A - Nella is hilarious and says everything we’re thinking out loud with topics she discusses.

Mimi Missfit - Fashion/Beauty, Advice, Vlogs, Reviews - Mimi loves to show her fashion sense and give advice with the always wise African Mums.

Rachel Bada - Fashion/Beauty, Advice, Chit Chat - Rachel always slays her looks and makes us laugh with her talk series.

Aliyah Maria Bee - Fashion/Beauty, Advice, Storytime, Chit Chat - Aliyah is the best friend we all want as well as being funny and stylish. 

Daina - Music, Fashion, DIY, Vlogs - Daina makes music that we all need to be hearing on the radio and her makeup and vlogs keep you entertained. 

Gigi Beauty - Beauty, Hair, Vlogs, Family - Gigi will have your face beat and looking stylish while being adorable with her daughter and her man.

#SUPPORTBLACKYOUTUBERS

[driflloon]

my experience as a girl has just been “I just wanna be beautiful” for 20+ years it really is the root of all evil

[laiosbian]

This is real life and I prescribe The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf for it

[0bfvscate]

New York Gothic

Your apartment has no windows. Or doors. Or walls. You awaken one night with no money or clothes in a featureless white room.

There are so many things to do, and so many places to go, that you lie awake at night, haunted by the opportunities you’re missing. 

You are lost. The only people who stop to help you are lost, as well.

“Where are you from?” You ask. Everyone you meet came here from somewhere new; Paris, London, Chicago, Mexico City. You have never met a local. You wonder where they went.

Every night you hear a strange, steady thumping. You thought at first it was your upstairs neighbor playing music, but every night, the sound comes from a different place. One night, the sound comes from your door.

You have bed bugs. You have roaches. You have mice. You have centipedes. You have spiders. You have ants. You have moss. You have mold. You have vines breaking through the cracks in your ceiling. You have saplings growing through your floorboards. You have birds nesting in your ceiling. You lock your door every night, but you can’t keep all intruders out.

One day, you collapse in the middle of a busy street. You are afraid that people will trample you, but everyone moves to avoid you. You relax. You are safe, here, where no one will notice you.

You discover a new restaurant. It is named in your honor. Magazines herald your discovery, and you are given a book deal and a speaking tour to educate people on the details of this new restaurant. Alone in your new penthouse, the day of your discovery plays over and over again in your mind. You lay paralysed as you try to remember the faces of everyone who was there when you entered. Other patrons, staff, the hostess-  you must remember, so you can silence them before they denounce you. “You know you didn’t ‘discover’ us,” He whispers menacingly.

The train stops in the tunnel. You wait for it to start again, mildly annoyed. After half an hour, you look around the train car. The other passengers are getting restless. The train conductor says something garbled over the loudspeaker. Another half hour passes. People are growing frustrated. Someone tries opening the door between the cars and finds them locked. They pound furiously on the glass, but nothing happens. Another hour passes. The loudspeaker clicks on, but no sound comes except for the high-pitched whine of the open speaker. You suddenly become hyper-aware of how far below ground you are, and how small the subway car is. The light go out.

[morganalefays]

y’all: finally the EVIL summer is over!!!!!!!! getting ready for my one true bae fall!!!!!! pumpkin spice and aesthetic here i COME!!!!!!

me, a northener: 

[yukiranine]

me, a southerner:

[beltsquid]

me, a Californian: