Advice for ABDLs looking for a Mommy
A lot of boys on here seem to think like this: “I’m looking for a Mommy-dom who’s attracted to submissive men, therefore I should try to act as submissive as possible in order to appeal to them”. I can’t speak for every dominant woman, but I think this is the wrong approach! For me at least, half the pleasure is the process of taking a grown man and reducing him to a submissive little boy. I don’t want to start out with a guy who says he loves diapers and wants to be treated like a baby. I want him to hate diapers! I want him to be grossed out by the thought of drinking breastmilk! I want him to be embarrassed when I speak to him in baby-talk! Now, you probably do want to wear diapers and drink breastmilk and be talked down to like a baby, because that’s why you’re reading this, but wouldn’t it be more fun if you were “forced” to experience those things instead?
When I first got together with my boyfriend, he didn’t act like a helpless little boy. He was cool and funny and good-looking. He’s still all those things, and the fact that I put him in diapers and make him submit to baby treatment is more arousing precisely because of that. He’s not the type you might expect to call his girlfriend “Mommy”, and while most of our friends know we have a kind of “she wears the pants” type relationship, I doubt any of them could ever guess that I regularly change his dirty diapers! I always knew he was submissive in the bedroom, and he knew I was dominant, but we communicated that primarily through jokes and flirting. He didn’t waddle up to me, pull down his pants to reveal a wet diaper, and beg me to change him as a way of asking me out. While I might have found it hot if he had done that, it would only have been because I was already attracted to him.
When you’re looking for a Mommy on Tumblr (or anywhere), act like you’re on a first date! You’re trying to show off how charming, handsome, and even how mature you are. You have to appear as a normal, attractive man first, and then it will be enjoyable for her to strip away your adulthood and turn you into her big baby. It will also give a potential partner the peace of mind that you’re a functioning human being who isn’t totally dominated by his kinks. Talk about other things with her, not just diapers! I don’t mean avoid talking about your fetishes entirely, because that’s likely where any sexual passion between the two of you is going to be ignited, and kinks are also fun to talk about with people you’re just friends with, but try not to speak to women you don’t know very well when you’re in that haze of horniness that makes you act too forward. Always remember to respect her boundaries. If you do this, you’ll be ahead of 90% of the competition!
