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I made a baby blanket for a pregnant woman at work and I went back and forth about it like “is this weird? To like hand make something for someone when we’re like friendly acquaintances not like bffs. God why are you so fucking awkward.” Anyway I gave it to her and she said she loved it and in the back of my head I’m like yea she’s nice and probably just humoring the weirdo. Well she texted me a picture this weekend of a scrunchy faced newborn at the hospital wrapped in the blanket I made her. And I’m like. Wow. She loved it so much she took it with her! To the hospital! To give birth! She wrapped her newborn it! I am just so filled with love and joy right now.

People will love the things you make them. Because you thought of them and you cared.

ragingadhd

RA characters and whether or not I’d trust them with a gun

From a traumatized American

(TW: guns)

Horace: yes. One of the few people that I’d actually feel protected rather than in danger if they had a gun.

Will: no, and not because he’d be irrational. I just think he’s the most likely to forget the safety’s off.

Halt: yes so long as I am 10000% certain I am on his good side

Crowley: yes but not to the same extent as I trust Horace

Gilan: yes but I would be uncomfortable

Maddie: no.

Alyss: yes because I think she’d never use it

Evenlyn: no. She’s definitely responsible and I trust that she wouldn’t be crazy, but still she’s a little too short-tempered for me to feel safe

acorvidgoblinharpy

Is motherfucker just a heteronormative person’s way of calling someone “daddy”?

A a deeply distressing feeling takes hold when I walk through places that were once full of people… to find emptiness. I’ve never been a fan of crowds, but so many places in my city are gone now - or still there but devoid of people…

I think my city is dying … and I’m terrified…

#adelaide #dead malls

hermigeddon

Third Life: medieval war story. heavy Game of Thrones vibes. romance, loyalty and angst

Last Life: subtle zombie apocalypse vibes. The call is coming from inside the house. There Is An Imposter Among Us. Betrayal at every turn

Double Life: this is. This is a sitcom. it’s a sitcom about marital troubles and gossipy neighbors

murderofsomeone

glad to see everyone's mutually brainrotting over them.

khalidsmshahin

Used audio from BoJack Horseman for Gravity Falls’ Mabel.

puirell-deactivated20221122

ok back to being a bitch again. if you ship a literal child and adult together i hope you die

what-even-is-thiss

I understand the need for spaces labeled “no cisgender men” but if you make a space like that you need to understand why not everyone who isn’t a cisgender man will feel safe there.

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And frankly if you feel uncomfortable with anyone who looks like they might possibly be a cisgender man walking into that space you may need to rethink your labels and what you actually hope to accomplish with this thing. Whatever thing that is.

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If an amab non binary person with a beard walks in, how do you plan to make them feel like they belong? Are you addressing the crowd as “ladies”? Are you or others at the event labeling trans men in some way as one of the girls? Are you making broad sweeping statements about how there are no men in the room? Are you calling out people that misgender others? Does all of the marketing for your event have a distinctly feminine or female symbolism lean to it? Will you make efforts to include someone that the other people have abandoned because they aren’t like everyone else in the room?

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I’ve met cisgender women who make spaces like this with good intentions. For example, I know someone who knows someone who set up a poetry reading series that excluded cisgender men with the intention of creating a safe space for people to practice their public speaking skills and connect with other writers like them in a mostly cis man dominated scene.

The problem with this is that people just assume that everyone who isn’t a cis man will feel safe there. But most people who aren’t cisgender men are cisgender women. So non-binary, trans, intersex, etc. people will almost always be outnumbered at these events. And some folks who aren’t cis women will feel comfortable there. Still, a lot of us won’t. If cis men aren’t allowed to attend and it’s not a transgender only event, I don’t go. Because it’s gonna be mostly cis women in there expecting to see other cis women. And cisgender women with their cisgender view on the world often just don’t understand why that’s a problem for some people

Sometimes people need to ask themselves “Do I just want to make a women’s event?” and most times the answer is yes.

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Some folks seem to be interpreting this thinking that I don’t want these spaces to exist. I never said that. The point I’m making here is that if cisgender women actually want to be allies to trans, gnc, and intersex people they need to put thought into the events and groups that they organize and respect that certain people will always feel uncomfortable at these spaces no matter how well they are handled.

If you want to be a leader, if you want to participate in “safe spaces” at all you need to put in the work to make those spaces safe. Safety is not guaranteed just because you put “no (cis) boys allowed” on the poster.

theconcealedweapon

sapphic-sprite

fat butch lesbians are actually perfect. I’m right and if you think I’m wrong then there are things you need to be sorting out. fatphobia is rampant in the entire wlw community and needs to be talked about more. especially with how prevalent it is used to further negative stereotypes of butches. fat butch lesbians are beautiful/handsome! fat butch lesbians deserve to feel welcome and accepted in wlw spaces!

[image description: it is a Sponge Bob meme where Sponge Bob is bowing down to a poster that says “fat butch lesbians” end id]

dirt-empress

It costs nothing to scroll past, click off, swipe away -whatever.

It costs you nothing, to not post that comment.

I absolutely hate when I look in the comments on someone’s video or post and STRANGERS are trying their hardest to hurt them- it’s especially bad when the creator has done nothing to deserve this.

If you think it’s okay to comment something cruel, violent, insulting ect to someone just living… I’m so sorry your life is so vile you feel the need to spread that. But they don’t deserve it!!

m-makes-things

Putting this here too as it’s so disappointing- I haven’t experienced this personally- as I don’t really exist outside of a few niche communities. Why do people feel the need to cause unnecessary harm to strangers they don’t agree with ??

It costs nothing to scroll past, click off, swipe away -whatever.

It costs you nothing, to not post that comment.

I absolutely hate when I look in the comments on someone’s video or post and STRANGERS are trying their hardest to hurt them- it’s especially bad when the creator has done nothing to deserve this.

If you think it’s okay to comment something cruel, violent, insulting ect to someone just living… I’m so sorry your life is so vile you feel the need to spread that. But they don’t deserve it!!