[Image IDs: Series of tweets from (neuro)diversity (green heart, yellow heart, orange heart, red heart, sparkling heart, purple heart, blue heart emojis) (@/ GummiPie) reading: I went to a woman's funeral. Her husband gave a eulogy and spoke mostly about himself. I mean he started from his birth and spent a significant amount of time explaining his life and career before he met her. Her pastor said she was the kindest, most helpful person he'd ever met.
Her kids said she was the best most helpful loving mom. Everybody said she never complained. She put everyone first. It was a virtue. She didn't take care of her, she devoted herself to church, husband and kids. They cried so much. An angel on earth! They'd miss her dearly.
I never met this lady. I sobbed. My husband thought I was going to join her in the ground when I bent down to give me rose and spoke to her. I told her I understood why her heart attacked her. She swallowed so many teeth!! A dozen people said she was the best woman on earth and
I hadn't learned a thing about her personality except that she made it small. I heard about her service and she never complained. I don't even know if she was funny.
That's when I decided to stop putting everyone above me all the time. Stop swallowing my teeth. Because I refuse to let these people kill me and then get up at my funeral and talk about themselves. How I died for them but without saying it. I refuse.
If you hear someone praising you for "never complaining" please get mad. Please take up space. This is your life, not a pageant. Complain. Even if you can only whisper "this hurts me". Complain.
No one can help if you won't say "this hurts". Maybe you're crazy like me. Maybe little "harmless" comments hurt. So what? Say something. Maybe they get mad and block you. (start all caps) Good! (end caps) You have to find a life that does not hurt. You have to say something. Nothing is too small.
If you think "other people wouldn't be so hurt by this" so you shouldn't speak up, you're wrong. You literally were forced (start all caps) Pushed or pulled) (end caps) into life. You didn't ask for your sensitivity. There are people allergic (start all caps) to water. (end caps) Should they not complain because it's atypical?
Things hurt. Hurt changes your brain. It practices the pain and (start all caps) Gets better/faster at hurting. (end caps) You must find peace and practice (start all caps) that. (end caps) The damage of pain is silent and invisible but it's one of the realest, most dangerous things we know. /End IDs]