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[trustfundkiller]

Hey TFK, in your experience what is the best time of day to freestyle at upscale bars & restaurants (nyc)? Ive tried to catch the after crowd (after 5) and found it to be dead. Do you think there are better places for free styling ? Also do you prefer the financial district or midtown or UES?

It depends on who you’re targeting.

UES is old money

Midtown is mixed

FiDi is newish money (not totally new but, like 1 gen & foreigners)

4-8 is crap anywhere in the world, don’t bother.

9-midnight with 11 being the best is when you want to be places.

Go around 9 for more SD/BF types, go exactly 11 for picking up escort clients.

Skidadal after midnight.

[misssgia-deactivated20170801]

Hi Gia I really look up to you, how did you go about meeting your current guy? I know you get asked this a lot but have had little to no luck finding anyone worthwhile... Where would you go to freestyle on a Friday evening/night? I'm getting tired of wasting my time 😔

Don’t freestyle on a Friday night. A lot of posers come out once the direct deposit drops.

Head out Monday through Thursday, spend 30-60 minutes at hotel bars, upscale happy hour places.

Be friendly and inviting. Treat it like a sales job. Make it a goal to Exchange information with at least one potential.

Honestly that’s it to free styling.

You may luck out the first time or your 15th time.

Good luck.

[thecurvycourtesan]

@misssgia still my fave…

[asknecol-deactivated20161209]

Throwback Advice- Freestyle Masterpost

Everyone freestyles differently. To me, freestyling is another term for networking/socializing to find established suitors. The best nights to go would have to be during happy hour (4 PM-6PM) Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays. Here are some tips that I follow whenever I freestyle.

1. Dress the part. Whether you are going to a lounge or a an upscale hotel bar, you must dress accordingly and appropriately.

2. Know your target. Look for men that sitting at the bar, alone. Go for the boring. Go for the lonely.

3. Go up to him. (This part can be scary for some and that’s okay) Make sure when you do, do not look nervous. Instead, be energetic and flirtatious. Men love that.

4. Compliment him. Men love compliments no matter what they are. At this point, you are boosting his ego and he’s enjoying every moment of it.

5. Have business cards ready. If you do not have business cards, it’s okay. You can always use a pen/paper to exchange phone numbers. This is how I go about freestyling on a typical Friday.

I sit directly in the middle of the bar because I can see who’s coming in and out. At this point, you are trying to pin point your target. Look for a man who looks well dressed, obviously, but you have to examine carefully. After you do this, wait at least 5-10 minutes. Once you see a POT, go up to him on purpose and say “Excuse me, is anyone sitting here” and eye contact is crucial at this point. Make sure you smile. Obviously he is going to say no because it’s an empty seat.

Once you sit down and examine him properly, you tap him on the shoulder and make an excuse to talk to him. Ask him literally anything. Usually I say “I’ve never been here before, would you mind telling me what this place is like” . This moments time, you are striking a conversation.

After he is answering your question, compliment him. I go for the eyes personally. Once you do that, he’s going to say, “You are sweet, thank you” This line right here is my favorite. After I compliment him, I ask two things that are crucial. I go for their cultural background and their occupation and this is how you word it. “I would love to learn more about your cultural background if you don’t mind.”

Whenever you are comfortable, you simply ask about his occupation. Mind you, this conversation could last for hours. It could last for 30 minutes.

Whenever you are comfortable, politely ask for his phone number. Here are some tips on places to freestyle: Please check out http://www.fivestaralliance.com

This website has every single Luxury Hotel/Lounge you can possible think of. It doesn’t matter which location you are in so I encourage you to check it out.

I will definitely say that Steakhouses, Charity Events, Galas, Golf Courses, Country Clubs and VIP Lounges are your best friend so please whenever you get the chance, go out and have fun! I will name some popular places. Also, look up conventions in your area as well.

1. The W (My absolute favorite) 2. Blue Martini 3. Mastro’s Steakhouse 4. Ritz Carlton 5. Soho Beach House 6. Biggs Mansion (Exclusive Cigar Lounge) 7. Mandarin Oriental Hotel/Lounge 8. Four Seasons 9. Morton’s Steakhouse 10. Hotel Monaco Bonus Lounge: Petrossian Bar located inside The Bellagio in Las Vegas. Have fun and remember, smile, wave and flirt :) Use your Art Of Seduction skills ladies.

This can also be found on @libraryofsugar’s blog as well. This blogger reblogged my original Freestyle Masterpost.

[moepoke]

This is some college AU gold

[allicisdollasigns]

Ok plan making tip with POT’s to avoid them flaking if you’re making plans ahead of time: Solidify the date by making sure a reservation is made. Don’t leave it up to them to hit you up when they get back from traveling (I’ve heard this so many times), these men lose interest so quickly you need to make sure they have a reason to show up, if you have specific plans-reservation, date, and time, they’re less likely to cancel.

[somalisugarbabe-deactivated2018]

Can you explain how you would free style? I've been on SA for a bit and it's a waste of time x

GTFO off SA for starters babes! Real talk doe. Here’s my solo freestyling tips ladies that live in large cities!

1) Look like a million bucks. Spurge on a new dress or lipstick to make you feel confident! I always make sure I got my hair done, nails did, everything done BIG before I embark on a solo freestyling mission haha. When I know I look good or sexy, it gives me that extra bounce in my step.

2) Location, location, location. Ladies, I can’t stress it enough. Unless you live in a rural area, you should know the hottest places SD’s hang at. For myself, I prefer lounges, hotel bars, and the occasionally boutique hotel or cafe. Everyone has different spots, but, for solo freestyling (which I prefer because I’m a loner at heart) I stick to my usual spots, sometimes randomly switching it up if there is an event or depending on the season. Men are more likely to approach if you’re alone versus a squad of women because of the fragility of the male ego. I’ve freestyled with other girls before, yet found most of them boring and moody. They would get pissed if men showed more interest in me, can’t complain cause I got a bombass personality and make people laugh, which gets me ahead of the rest. I’ve said it a million times, don’t rely on just being pretty! You gotta let that personality shine! I wasn’t the most confident growing up, but, I faked it until I believed it. Plus, an SD told me once “show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of her…”

3) Make friends with the bartenders. The only reason why I say this is because I used to be one! You got a great resource and wingman behind that bar. They can get you into VIP parties and tip you on celebs coming by. I made good friends with a bartender from Chiltern Firehouse and he always gets me free drinks even when I come with a POT haha. Most of them are used to being mistreated or ignored, so they like being recognized and treated fairly ( I always tip 20% because I know how tough the job is). With solo freestyling, I usually chat them up right away to get a free drink and it has never has failed me. Once you start a fun conversation with the bartenders, other patrons sitting at the bar will join in or share their thoughts ( I usually debate about whats the best drink on the menu and others will pipe in and give their advice)

4) Make up a story as to why you are alone. Examples? Say you’re waiting for a friend but they’re having car or transportation issues. Say you’re visiting the city by yourself just for the weekend. Say you’ve been stood up if you reallllllly want men to pity you and get drunk for free. My usual story is that I’m a flight attendant with Emirates staying near X location and wanted to explore and get a drink by myself because my co workers are exhausted. That way no one will think it’s weird that I come alone often. Men love flight attendants that I will say! But, I don’t divulge many details about my lie and often ask more questions about others ( which is the sure way to get people to like you)

5) Entertain the first man that buys you a drink. Even if he’s not cute, doesn’t look like a POT or SD, do out of courtesy. Remember his name no matter what and use it because people like the hearing the sound of their own name. While talking to him make sure show off your outgoingness to him and every man in that room. Every now and then, sip your drink slowly and seductively, flip your hair over your shoulder,  tilt your head and smirk while talking with a fella. Other men (aka his friends or patrons at the bar) will pay attention and try to get involved in the conversation. A man finds a woman more attractive when others are interested in her as well. It’s like women fighting over a pair of shoes on sale, they only find it alluring because others want it too. So just accept one drink if you’re not interested, keep screening the room, and finesse every man that tries to talk to you or join the conversation. 

And that’s it folks! Honestly, it too me a while to get better at freestyling alone, but I love it! And I always meet interesting guys, make new friends at the bar, and get a free drink atleast! 

[cinnamonsugar-uk-deactivated201]

+ 1 going by myself has worked out well for me everytime.

[misssgia-deactivated20170801]

Can you tell us about the Russian women's ways to seduce and manipulate men?

I’m sorry I’m not Russian but I think their overall mentality has a lot to do with it.

Russian women don’t mess around. They come from very poor beginnings and will cut a b*tch to get a man with money and the lifestyle that goes along with it. Food be damned. They know what’s up.

One of the baddest women I’ve ever seen in person was a 40 year old Russian chick (who told everyone but me she was 36).  Call it arrogant, conceited or whatever, but I consider myself pretty fucking hot. I know when I walk into a room I’m probably going to be one of the best looking, if not the best looking woman in there.  But this Russian woman is probably the only woman I have ever stood next to and felt completely shitted on.She was tall, and thin but curvy.  She had implants, but they were probably a C/Small D, pretty modest.  She had fillers, but they were not obvious.  She was the companion to this much older European billionaire, and I was hanging out with one of his best friends. They were spending the fall/winter in an exclusive area in the States. The billionaire had several girlfriends, and he would give them each allowances based on the time they spent with him.  One girl he had not seen in ages  was getting $30Gs a month, so I can only imagine what Ms. Russia was getting.Anyway,she would go to Whole Foods wearing Herve Leger cocktail dresses (this was back when Herve was hot) and 4 ½" Charlotte Olympia heels, and carry a Birkin. She was constantly doing beauty treatments and working out (she had just taken up boxing). I made a comment to my friend about it and he was like “Yeah, that’s part of their culture, Russian women. They are very dedicated to staying fit/looking good.”She was very sweet though, and gave me some great tips.  She considered me a “baby” because I was a lot younger.  I’m pretty small, but she pushed that I had to start really working out (her exact words were “We have too!”). She was a gold digger extraordinary.  She told me she was going to find a husband (not the billionaire). She was determined. We lost touch, but I’m sure she was successful. 

All that to say, Russian women are no fucking joke!

Also, Russian men are raised to spoil their women. If anyone ever saw that short lived reality show about Russian women in NYC, there was a 20 something year old guy on there talking about how American women were raised differently than Russian women. He said American girls would accept meals at Wendy’s, but not Russian women. 

This falls into line with everything I preach. If you are a highly feminine, intelligent, fit, good looking woman (with standards) you are golden.

[modelinterrupted]

Told y'all about that Russian mentality.

[bentleyboyfriendsclub-deactivat]

ok just to add to the Russian thing, two years ago Jakob was invited to the Russian embassy in London and when he got there he noticed this woman straight off the bat because she was gorgeous.

so he went over and introduced himself and she goes in her beautiful accent “what do you do” so he being the charmer he is goes “British secret service how about you?” she immediately without missing a beat goes “Russian secret service” which immediately got him interested in her.

a while later she goes “this is a boring party, there is no champagne” so Jakob says “let’s go to the champagne bar at the ritz then” and she says “I can’t I have people to talk to” so he tells her “OK in half an hour meet me back here and we’ll go to the ritz” so half an hour passes and he goes to where he’s supposed to meet her and she isn’t there, shocked by this because everyone is usually at his beckoned call he goes to find her and when he does he takes her by the arm and tells her they’re going now.

as they’re walking to the exit she asks him what he drives and he tells her a Bentley which is true and he asked her the same and she goes “I drive a Bentley too” but Jakob’s driver had taken him down to London and he always takes him in Jakob’s Mercedes so when they get outside and both of their cars are there and she gives him this look like well there’s my Bentley where’s yours? so he goes “ok let’s go in your car” and she goes “no you go in your car I’m going in mine” HA! at this point he’s telling me this story and I’ve fallen in love with her myself.

they finally get to the ritz and she’s sat in this champagne bar sipping Bollinger and after they’ve been talking for a while he asks her what she actually does and she tells him “I break men” so he laughs and her assistant who went with her is sat there looking at him like you’re laughing but she’s dead serious and he says to her “am I too old to be broke by you” (he was 51 at that time but he doesn’t look it) and she says “my husband is 60” which obviously takes him aback. Anyway they have a good time and he gives her his number which she politely took and put in her purse. then he’s talking to her assistant and she goes “you think she’s kidding about breaking men. Her husband sent her over to live in London while he’s in Russia because their son goes to Harrow (a very expensive boarding school here in England) but he sent all his staff with her and they were told that if another man goes near her they were to break the mans legs” he never heard from her again.

[brownbarbiesugar-deactivated201]

READ THIS READ THIS READ THIS READ THIS CAN I CONVERT TO RUSSIAN THO?!?!?!?!?!?

[billiondollahbaby]

Found some gems on instagram 💎

[whatisdisdotcom]

Platonic side daddies

They do exist and they aren’t there to pay an allowance but they will pay for hella expensive dinners ($250+), traffic tickets or airfare for a job interview in their city.

How to get one:

1. While freestyling, meet a guy older than you that is not interested in being a sugar daddy but does have generous qualities. This initial assessment is really important!!! If you meet at a bar and he doesn’t pay for your bill or offer you something after you closed your tab prior to meeting, don’t bother. You don’t need another fuck boy, especially one that is past his prime, crusty and dusty.

2. Do not act too flirty!!! Be subtle here because you want this to stay platonic: he should be able to tell you’re single but doesn’t think you want to sleep with him. Make it clear you enjoy his companionship and literally do not say anything about sugaring.

3. Stay in touch. This may be easy for me because I don’t mind talking on the phone for half an hour just to catch up with someone. If you can’t, you will need to work on this skill because it’s essential. Text conversations don’t bring people across a generation gap closer. It probably won’t make him feel a connection or bond to you so it will waste your time more than a quick phone conversation every once in a while like once a month.

Keep the convo about things he’s interested in so you learn more about him and his personality. What does he get excited about? Where does he like to spend his money on? If you listen, you will learn this faster and easier than if you talk about how much you love the latest foundation at Sephora when he’s interested in athletic hobbies. Yes I know it’s dumb because a woman can be an athlete Monday to Friday and wear makeup on the weekend but some guys cannot comprehend that. However, it’s not your job to teach them that.

When you assess what he likes, you’ll have a better understanding of what he would be more than happy to get you in the future.

4. You should not have to ASK him what you want. If you describe the situation, he should OFFER to pay for it. The benefit in spending “time” talking with him without asking upfront for compensation or gifts is that he sees you as a genuine person without entitlement. (This time shouldn’t eat up your life! The time you might spend mindlessly scrolling on Instagram can be used for a quick chat instead.)

Obviously if he doesn’t feel comfortable paying for something like a plane ticket despite all this means he’s not worth any more of your time and you should block him.

Do not rely on them for bailing you out of desperate situations like coming up hundreds of dollars short on rent. It might work, but it might not because that could make him feel like he’s being used! You don’t want him to feel like that when you aren’t sleeping together.

Bonus tip: this method works even better when you don’t live in the same city. The distance keeps it from progressing into something sexual and allows you to form a strong connection NOT based on your looks. He will love getting to know your personality and, when things come up, will be more inclined to help you out.

Obviously, I’m not including every nuanced thing I do, and there are women out here who finesse cars out of these guys but I thought this could help out someone.

[beneficeduvagin-deactivated2019]

 My issue is men I have dealt with who are platonic potentials don’t stop texting or calling. They are clingy as f**k. 

[trustfundkiller]

Hi I know you can't give all your secrets away but I have to ask-how do you plan to(if you haven't already) bypass the invite only to most of these billionaire social events? Will you just freestyle at the hotels in the area and not go to the actual event? Do you combine the trip with some very low key work in order tp recoup expenses? If you prefer I come off anon, I'll do that. I just really enjoy the way you're unconvential. I'm sure I would get creative tips from you. Thanks :)

Alot of the events are dirt easy to get into. The others I look at how best I can crash them.

For example the Snow Polo is free and VIP tickets for the parties will cost what, $500? Thats nothing, also if I can make the right friends, the ticket is free.

Singapore Yacht Shows are also easy and free. I’ll pose myself as a fun girl and get on a ship or two.

The Gala in Italy is a bit harder. I’d probably hang around the area and look for the people who wandered off and try to befriend them. Or Go really early and sneek in as staff or go really late when no one cares. Also the after parties are where the real action is anyway. Also I might try to get a press pass so I can have real unlimited access.

I like to actually go to the events when I can.

As for how to fund it all. I’m killing my self for the next few months to save the money. And naturally, I’m going to work whereever I go. Especially Singapore as its very easy to make money there.

Like, if you really really want money, you can’t just sit home posting ads and hoping for the best, especially women of color, sucks to say but your not very appreciated via a computer screen, you need to get in these mens faces and let them see how fab you are. 

And by the way, I’m shy/reserved as fuck. But I use interesting items to catch people attention and then I force my self to switch off and the fun girl I know I can be to go on.

Research……

[barbienefertiti]

Snow polo is a well kept secret lol

[blkluxe-blog1]

How to tell if a perfume is cheap:

If you can smell any alcohol it is a cheaply made product.

How to layer: Eau de parfum is the stronger, most long lasting scent of the two. (Parfum vs toilette)

Then its eau de toilette.

Body mists/sprays are meant to LAYER on top of your fragrance.

The strongest is a perfume oil. Place that on your pulse points. Wrists, inside elbows, behind knees, sides of the neck, nape of the neck, behind the ears, around the armpits, décolleté/cleavage, etc. And anywhere you excrete sweat.

When you pass by a man, hug him, kiss him (on the cheek or elsewhere), he will have your scent on his mind….FOREVA.

My holiday fling used to text me saying he couldn’t get my scent out of his mind, his sheets, his car. It would drive him crazy in the best way. He would smell his hands and clothes everytime I left.

[raincitykittyy]

We need you to elaborate on this booty facial please!

Just like what it sounds like! I guess Seattle isn’t cool enough to offer this treatment but places like LA, Vegas, and New York have spas that offer them. I’m just gonna exfoliate with some skincare products then put a mask on my butt 😭 I’ll let you guys know how it goes lmao

[buttnekkidblackgirl]

I know this sounds really weird but I put clay masks, chemical peels, and toners on my pubic area and it’s made a DRAMATIC difference. If you’re a WOC, you know the struggle of having hyperpigmentation and hella ingrown hairs; my shit used to dead ass look black so it’d defeat the purpose of shaving 😒

Luckily I don’t have to deal with that anymore with my “routine”‘so no more laser for me

[bellebrownsugar]

Where do you buy your chemical peels from?

[buttnekkidblackgirl]

Toner: PFB Vanish + Chromabright

Mask: Pür Dirty Girl Mud Mask

Chemical Peel: MUAC Body Peel

[she-makes-her-own-luck-deactiva]

Girl you bouta save my LIFE. How often do you use each?

[buttnekkidblackgirl]

I use the toner twice a day-morning and night. I us the Peel 1-2 times a week for 10-20 minutes. I use the mask 2-3 times a week for 20 minutes

[littlechocolatedancer]

Really?? 🤔🤔

[buttnekkidblackgirl]

Lmao while I’m not about to show a picture of my coochie online, girl this has worked wonders. Even my boyfriend noticed a difference and stopped talking shit about me doing this routine

[sugarspicemelanin]

Issa word. I’m starting this next week

[eddietheguy-blog]