[holybagelsstuff]

Damn I wish we could perceive Luke and Leia as their own people and not as Padmé and Anakin's children only. "Luke got it from his mother/Leia got it from her father" they didn't even raise them???

[rock-kandyshark]

Yeah I'll kick the hornets nest: you should not be making egg jokes about strangers, especially to their face. These kinds of jokes are potentially damaging to closeted trans people, because you don't know someone's situation. Maybe they already know they're trans, but are in an unsafe situation. Maybe they just aren't ready to address it. Maybe they'll start doubting if they actually want to transition or they only think they want to because a bunch of people told them they do. And it's especially bad if, say, you're making a transfem egg joke to a trans man who isn't open about his transness, which could lead to serious dysphoria (and vice versa for trans women). Not to mention how terrible it is to do this to nonbinary people. Do not joke about a nonbinary person being a binary trans egg, it's extremely disrespectful and transphobic to do so. And it's hard not to notice how implying someone is an egg only extends towards binary genders. Imagine someone is doubting their gender, and everyone is telling them they're obviously a trans man egg. They might end up forcing themself into that binary because they think that's what everyone wants.

All of this isn't to say you can't kindly and respectfully say "the things you've been saying sound very similar to the trans experience, I think it's possible you may be trans, but ofc it's up to you to decide whether or not to look into it". I very much encourage that, especially if the person is your friend and seems to be struggling. The thing that's really bad is making jokes at the possible closeted trans person's expense, or thinking of "cracking an egg" as something to brag about and not something to help someone through because you care about them

[shamebats]

Let's Fly

Why the Egg Prime Directive matters

Assigning gender is the tool of our enemy. It is supremacy culture, distilled to a single razor-sharp point of gendered violence. We do not need it.

[rob-by]

The pathologization of anger needs to be talked about. What do you mean my therapist is telling me that there’s something “chemically wrong” with me because I am still angry about my mom DYING OF COVID.

of course I’m still angry? My mom and 1.3 million other Americans are dead and you want me to shoot sunshine out of my ass about it?

[rob-by]

“But It’s been 3 years since she died, you have complex grief” yeah and she was on a ventilator for 11 days and she kept writing “I am scared” and “I don’t want to die” on a notepad over and over again. While you were still going out unmasked and unvaccinated and coughing all over each other, I was living a nightmare I couldn’t fucking wake up from. And every single day I’m reminded of it in the form of “haha wasn’t the pandemic such a wacky time haha” and “I’m not getting a booster you can’t make me 🤪 (nobody asked)” and “it’s not real they made the numbers up!!!”

“You’re not coping” Ok here’s the deal; I’ll stop feeling this anger when we have a national memorial (we don’t) or a cdc equipped to stop it from happening again (we don’t) or a population that takes a deadly disease seriously BEFORE it effects them personally (WE DON’T!)

until then, I’m pretty sure my anger is A COMPLETELY NORMAL HUMAN REACTION given the facts at hand

[junewild]

incredible innovations on the beverage front

[transandrogyny--turtlebug]

I still think pregnancy and childbirth should be degendered. we stopped talking about that and I need us to pick it back up pls

[fagdyke-fckry]

People in the notes arguing that this is about individual comfort and misgendering are missing a major piece of the puzzle, which is that programs made for mothers and pregnant women often by definition exclude anyone whose gender marker is not F on every form they’ve ever filled out.

Insurance agencies use M markers to deny coverage for pregnancy related healthcare. Doctors offices hang up on pregnant people trying to schedule pre- and post-natal appointments for themselves because their voices or their names aren’t feminine enough. And if they manage to make the appointment, they can get harassed out of the waiting rooms or face medical malpractice behind closed doors.

Charities and benefits made for pregnant or new mothers don’t accept pregnant/new fathers or non-gendered parents. The WIC fund is called women, infants, and children.

If we degender pregnancy and childbirth (and periods while we’re at it) we open up support for every trans and intersex person who needs it. We normalize pregnant people of other genders and sexes, leaving less room for harassment and malpractice and more accountability for those who decide to be assholes anyway.

It’s not a-fucking-bout comfort. It’s about safety and survival. This can literally be the difference between life and death for some people.

[evil-enby-osoka]

i hate that nonbinary people can't be, like, nonbinary.

whatever we do, we can't win. we can't be seen as actually nonbinary. people binarize us and often mock us or get aggressive or dismiss and ignore our nonbinaryhood or something else.

if we don't medically transition, we are "just cis trenders."

if we do medically transition, we are "just [binary trans] eggs."

we are "technically transmasc or transfem anyways" if we don't use these terms.

we are lumped together with binary trans men and trans women if we do use these terms. our nonbinaryhood is ignored or seen as some kind of "gender-lite."

we are aggressively pressured to disclose if we're AFAB or AMAB, TMA or TME, transmasc or transfem, "boy nonbinary" or "girl nonbinary." and if we refuse to answer, people get double mad at us and pick something for us anyways.

if we show the slightest hint of something that could be interpreted as binary gendered, we are immediately binarised.

if we put a lot of effort into looking the most ambiguous or androgynous or neutral, people still try to find something. and they become aggressive. people often EXPLODE [PT: explode] when they can't gender someone by glance.

our ways of expression are constantly mocked and ignored (like neopronouns, nonbinary-centering labels for gender and orientation, basically all things that are associated with nonbinary people).

but if we choose more typical ways of expression (for example, use "he/him" or "she/her" pronouns), people use it to ignore and dismiss our nonbinaryhood.

we just can't win, and it's upsetting.

[dreamw0rms]

i’m worried i might have an ulcer… i’m having throbbing stomach pain in one spot and a perpetual feeling of painful overfullness that won’t go away even though i haven’t eaten anything in over 24 hours

[ziggystartuff67]

Hello niche community

[corporation-cats]

[theadventuresofmichaelpawlak]

If you just had a clear box, you’d know that Schrodinger’s cat is alive and very confused.

[red-garden]

Bringing back wheel spin

You just transmigrated!! Your system is breathing down your neck already— apparently you didn’t actually die, your original body is just unconscious. You’ve been randomly assigned a character that you, as a no name rogue cultivator with middling skills, have a month to ‘beat’ in a fight. You don’t have to actually win! You only have to challenge this person to a fight in a public place and be declared the winner. If in that month’s time you can convince that person to throw a public match with you (or beat them organically if you think you can!), you will get sent back to your original body/life as though nothing happened. While transmigrated, you cannot tell people about your situation or why you need to win the fight. If you can’t ‘win’, you will stay stuck as a no name rogue cultivator with no way home for the rest of your life. The choice is yours….

Picker Wheel - Spin the Wheel to Decide a Random Choice

Picker Wheel is a wheel spinner for a random picker. Various functions & customization. Enter choices or names, spin the wheel to decide a r

So how do you do? (Explain in notes)

I can beat them organically and go home!

I can convince them to throw the fight and go home!

They trick me and win the fight anyway….

I lose the fight organically…

I don’t challenge anyone! Let me stay here!!!!

A secret third thing

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[fuckyeahchinesefashion]

How do Chinese cooks cut vegetables

[lagonegirl]

http://www.nola.com/politics/index.ssf/2017/05/what_state_prisoners_get_to_wo.html

OMG 

[pinehutch]

Things that I knew about: that the mass incarceration of people in the USA , particularly black men, has direct ties to/is an extension of slavery. Things I did not know: this specific shit about Louisiana HOLY FUCK this is evil.

[i-hate-you3000]

OH MY GOSH????

'Modern-Day Slavery': Many Southern States Have Prison Inmates Working in Governor's Mansions and Capitol Buildings - Human Trafficking Sear

When activist Sam Sinyangwe was awaiting a meeting with the governor’s office at the Louisiana state capitol building in Baton Rouge, he not

At Least Seven States Have Prison Inmates Working in Governors' Mansions and Capitol Buildings

The 13th Amendment provides a loophole that allows for the legality of unpaid prison labor, which is sometimes called "modern-day slavery."

[joy-haver]

Grew up next to Angola. It’s much worse than you think

[sisterreisaid]

I wonder how many people are imprisoned for weed

[kaccvcate]

I’m from Mississippi and it’s like this in my home town. Enslaved prisoners clean roadways, pick cotton, everything they’ve done since before slavery was supposedly ended. What they teach in schools is nothing but propaganda.

[hannahlockillustration]

Open for commissions!

I have five slots available for late August! Email me at [email protected] with what you’d like and I’ll get a quote to you.

[phoenixyfriend]

Why are so many weed smokers in denial about Actual Negative effects

It's like they heard "the damage of marijuana was vastly overstated by paranoid tee-totallers who hated any kind of fun" and decided that meant "it is completely harmless and nothing you hear about it doing damage is true"

"There was fear-mongering" does not mean "it's ALL fear-mongering"

I feel like a lot of weed smokers go into any and all conversations with a defensive attitude of "any criticism is going to be overblown and exaggerated" and so actual concerns of "a lot of people get migraines if they smell weed smoke" or "this can cause allergy/asthma attacks" are dismissed as fake.

But like. No. Maybe step back and recognize that you are selfishly hurting other people and that maybe they have reason to ask you to change out your delivery methods to something that doesn't result in secondhand inhalation.

[neurodivergentnacho]

Oh, I remember being 15, hearing that cannabis can reduce tics (I have Tourette’s), giving it a shot, and IMMEDIATELY jumping to that “Oh, I guess they were lying then, you can’t even become physically addicted to weed, I guess it’s COMPLETELY harmless!” conclusion. And honestly, I’m glad that the very first stoner I met had completely messed up his sleep schedule and quality by smoking too much too often, and flat out told me “I think I’m both addicted psychologically AND physically.”

15 year old me was stunned and wanted to argue back (“Bullshit, what do you mean, it’s harmless!”), but I could see harm caused by cannabis right in front of me with my own two eyes.

And so what happened was that I, becoming friends with a lot of “bad influence”, made it my goal to be the well-informed harm reduction friend. I was a trip sitter more times than I can count, watching people on all kinds of drugs to make sure they don’t do stupid things or to calm them in panic attacks / “horror trips”.

And you guys, I have seen people on bad horror trips caused by cannabis only. I have seen drug induced psychosis when the only drug was weed. So yeah, it might not happen often, but it happens and you’ll not know it unless you know yourself VERY well and you know the people around you, who are exposed to the smoke, well too.

If you meet a bunch of stoners, want to try it yourself, and they want you to hit a blunt or bong or try edibles while knowing you’ve never consumed anything with THC before—RUN! What you do with curious “I think it’s cool” people is asking for a history of migraines, psychoses, etc., (even in the family), telling them what to expect in a first use, and then you GO SLOW! You treat it like party drugs—inhale once and wait. See what happens. Even if they’re not one of those who react negatively in a medical sense, they still could get overly emotional all of a sudden and spend the next 3 hours thinking about bad memories. It happens.

What I especially don’t get is people dismissing “This can cause asthma attacks”. Any kind of smoke can trigger someone’s asthma, hell, deodorant can trigger asthma—RUNNING can trigger asthma!

When I was among people who use all kinds of illegal drugs recreationally, there always was some kind of “This is a substance that changes things in my body and my perception; it is important to be mindful of what changes to what degree” mindset. That’s extremely important. And I considered that “common sense” for a while.

And then, suddenly, there were stoners who only ever drank alcohol if at all, then smoked weed for the first time and realised “Oh, no hangover! I smoked so much I fell asleep, but today I wake up and I feel absolutely normal! Slept wonderful, even!”—and not only are they not mindful about what happens in their body and mind, they also aren’t mindful about other people as a result.

After constantly being told “All drugs are evil”, it’s extremely easy to adopt an “It wasn’t bad at all, strange. I guess it’s harmless, then, they all lied to us, and everyone who complains simply still buys into the lies” mindset. That’s a trap. Don’t fall into that trap.

[gaynfl-moved]

what's your "if I won the lottery I wouldn't tell anyone but there would be signs" thing? mine is getting a fully green kitchen

[gaynfl-moved]

[cannibalchicken]

[girl-mercury]

nickname poll

So currently I answer to my full first name (which I usually introduce myself with) as well as two nicknames/diminutives plus my last name when people mistake it for a first name. There are two or three other nicknames I've also gone by in the past. I'm perfectly fine with this, or neutral at minimum-- I have a common name and have had to be flexible with how I'm distinguished for my whole life. I also don't feel a deep and fundamental connection of my name with my identity, though I think going by another name entirely would confuse me.

A number of friends have been appalled at me being called names I don't say are my name. Which is really weird to me, although I'd go to battle for anyone else who was getting either deadnamed or called something they didn't want. But this perspective seems surprisingly common!

How do you feel about being called something other than the name you introduce yourself with?

I think it's fun if people give me (non-derogatory) nicknames or shorten my name

I don't care if people call me something else and will answer to it

I'm mildly uncomfortable or annoyed but won't make an issue of it

I HATE being called something else and will always correct people

Nuance in tags/Vanilla extract/I'm bald

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