Dumb Lab

blog=a mess||warning: sudden rants|| posts mostly about adhd,autism,madd,cats♡

[dumb-lab]

This blog is for adhd/mental health/Neuro diversity related posts💫

@fromheadinclouds poetry side-blog

@lovingly-weird artsy and cute side-blog

[black-quadrant]

ADHD affects how I experience time, not how I experience attachment. I love you. I miss you. I just don't realize how long it’s been since I last said that, let alone messaged.

I understand that most normal functioning brains need regular engagement to maintain a bond. Absence doesn’t diminish my affection. My silence isn’t neglect or disinterest. It’s time blindness and object impermanence. The contact gap is purely neurological, not emotional. Thank you for being patient with my inconsistency and holding a seat in your heart for me.

[cungadero]

i hate viruses so fucking much. literally getting attacked by a fucking shape. a concept. consumes no energy. responds to no stimuli. its only existence is to fuck with you. like fuck offf

[thrice-the-nobling]

prev's tags are too good not to save

[remanence-of-love]

[mshwy]

even if I have to bloom out of the ruins of who I used to be

[neverbreakheart]

[bathroomcube]

how your 20s feel when you dont know what ur doing

[importantcatpics]

[mollyjames]

Cleaning gets easier when you remember it's a thing you're doing to make your life less miserable, and not a thing you're doing as punishment

[mollyjames]

[edhelwen1]

You can stop in the middle of cleaning!?

[wheeloffortune-design]

Yes! Because it's not a goal to be achieved, but a cycle!

Instead of seeing the house as clean/not clean, it helps a lot to see cleaning as a constant upkeep of your environment. Taking care of your home, and of yourself, is a good thing!

(still unlearning the guilt and anxiety associated with cleaning. it's an uphill battle.)

[thepromiscuousfinger]

[missgreeneyartz]

No one discovers “a secret third thing” better than people with ADHD

[imp]

*learns basic social skills well into my 20s that most people know by the time theyre like 11*

[hellsite-yano]

having strict parents will do that to you

[tdwhisperer]

Having autism will do that

[probably-lucifer]

Having ADHD will do that to you

[1337n00b-deactivated20210119]

Being LGBT will do that to you

[hero-in-high-tops]

[importantcatpics]

[fromheadinclouds]

Your perception that puts me in a box when I stand in front of you, suffocates me.

By Gi || 030425

[sandersstudies]

So rude that you can’t say “okay, I’m done thinking about that” and then actually stop thinking about it

[dailycatsblog]

[lakemojave]

If you are currently sitting or laying down this moment ask yourself if you are resting or rotting. Change your behavior accordingly

[lakemojave]

There is no romance in decay when the decaying is easy

[lakemojave]

You are naught but pawns in my game

[b00tlegf4g]

I hope some of y'all take this as a sign to rest intentionally too.

if you're "resting" but thinking of all the things you have to do, that's not resting, that's rotting. Even if you haven't done anything all day, give yourself some time to rest and truly relax. When you let yourself relax guilt free, you actually regain energy for your responsibilities.

[nonbinary-octopus]

this post has helped me a number of times since I first saw it. I have realized I was rotting instead of resting, and depending on the circumstance, got up to do something, or settled more comfortably to actually rest.

Thank you.

[umbrellanumber5-deactivated2021]

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This.

This is why people who stay in my life are neurodiverse like me!

[nottoolateforthegame]

Huh

[thisisnotjuli]

this!! I swear I lost like all my friendships bc of this, like I had a group of friends in hs that one day I realized “huh I haven’t talked to this people in a while” and popped in to say hi and they were all awkward?? because they hadn’t seen me in a while?? and that’s when I realized that friendship works different for them?? I was like yeah I haven’t talked to you in like four months but it’s not like I’ve forgotten about y'all why would anything change, and they were all like we haven’t talked to you in four months why are you here again acting like nothing happened? and it was really confusing for me

[mimir-bashir]

YEAH! THAT!

Also I have a thing where I just put the people on pause. If I don’t see them or contact them, my brain kinda put them in stasis. I don’t think about them nor misses them, and I stay on what I last knew about them (how they look, what they study/work). So when we meet again I’m like “wait, you’ve aged?” and I have the same familiarity with them thanI had before.

[gender-snatched]

Anyway all my mutuals I haven’t messaged in forever - this is why

[official-lucifers-child]

oh my gods this makes so much sense??? there are people who i haven’t talked to at all for literally over a year and we’ll pick up like nothing happened, but for their people it’s just like…… falling apart but onesided???? i think we’re still on the same level but actually we’re strangers??

[link-the-feral-anon]

Ohhhhhh

[shark8-my-leg]

OHHHHHHHHH….

[quarra]

Ok but listen, on the other side of this, as a person who moved hundreds of miles away from everyone i knew and then became a hermit for several years, it was SUCH A FUCKING RELIEF to get in contact with an old friend and have him be like, “my friendship levels do not degrade, so in my mind we are still awesome close buddies” and i almost fkn cried. I thought he would be mad or would have moved on because i had slacked on my reaching out to him and staying in touch and doing all the friendship things. But NOPE. 800 miles of distance, depression, and life changing circumstances didnt steal our friendship and i am SO GRATEFUL.

[thatlittleegyptologist]

#came back to tumblr after four years #lottie and I immediately went like that spiderman meme yknow tags via @rudjedet

I have literally no friendship degradation whatsoever. I will not have spoken to someone for 5 years or more, and they’re still as much a friend to me as if I had only seen them yesterday. I’m just very bad at communicating if someone is not in my direct orbit. So when Sonja reappeared on this site I basically screeched into her notes like a banshee because I was delighted and we picked straight back up where we’d left off.

[elodieunderglass]

Happy to go on the record that I don’t expect regular contact and will welcome hearing from people after a long time

[beyondthisdarkhouse]

Holy shit, I didn’t actually realize this was a Thing.

[fromheadinclouds]

Fever Dream

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Fading, floating memories.

What is it that I'm feeling?

What is it that I felt?

You, in my memories stay the same, while

Your features and traits blurs into comfort

And I wish to see you again and again.

I don't know you anymore,

But when I see you, you're still the same.

And you're still so different,

While I, in my memories forget myself.

Who was I? Who was it that I made myself around you?

Did I ike myself back then?

Where did I live all this time?

Between blurred lines of truth and lie,

Behind soaked memories of those times,

In distorted events through my closed eyes.

If I feel it then why does it not seem real?

If it hurts why do I think it's not real?

If i'm not lying why does it not sound real?

I remember you, the one you were back then.

But I don't remember myself.

- by Gi