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I love them so much

Made this while trying to come up with something actually cool to draw and i came up with nothihng

are people under the impression that aromantic people never want to have close personal relationships with the people in their lives. "oh i wish i was aro it would save me all this drama!" actually human relationships are always deep and complicated and messy and have the potential to hurt and help and change your life and being romantic is just one possible aspect of that. aromantic people want to be close to the people around them just like anyone else. and i know the real issue is that people think romantic relationships are the only way to be truly close to someone else but it's weird and off-putting to constantly hear the implication that aros are somehow fundamentally incapable of forming relationships that would impact their lives negatively cause they don't wanna go on dates with people. not even mentioning the aros who do

knifearo

the thing about "oh it would be so much easier if i was aro" is no it fucking wouldn't. yeah genuinely sometimes aro people do spare themselves a lot of shit by opting out of the weird damaging social constructs around dating. but the reason that a lot of us are able to do that is because we've spent EXTENSIVE time unlearning the societal standards that are coded onto all of us by our upbringings and actively reteaching ourselves how to value our own inherent personhood and taking the steps to distance ourselves from the social constructs and contracts that everyone else in the world participates in and making the active choice to turn away from the one thing that society promises will Make You Happy. which is fucking hard actually. and it sucks a lot of the time. it would not be easier if you were aro. you would have more reason to do this work! you might have less of a choice in it! but you could do it right now if you really wanted. you just can't be bothered

micromontage

keep twisting the narrative I'm almost there

partywithponies

I don't think adult humans get enough cuddles and I am so serious.

You look at almost any other species of mammal and they give each other physical affection all the time, but for some reason we've decided that physical affection when you're an adult should be exclusively romantic and to want frequent physical affection from your friends or family is strange or sus or a sign you actually view them romantically, and this can't be good for us I don't think.

what-even-is-thiss

You should wash your hands if that’s possible for you but I’m someone who can’t wash my hands often due to medical reasons so if you’re ever in a situation where you can’t wash your hands for a long time for whatever reason here are my hot tips:

Get a pocket sized hand sanitizer you can refill from your big one and keep it with you. Never assume the place you’re going will have it. I’ve even seen doctors offices be out of hand sanitizer.

Keep your nails short and keep them clean. That’s a place germs can hide from your hand sanitizer. Keep their hiding place as small as possible.

To get grease off your hands get some kind of napkin, tissue, or other soft disposable paper product and grab it over and over again until you feel clean. This blots off the vast majority of the grease and works better than wiping in my experience

When you do get the opportunity to shower, exfoliate your hands. Dead skin builds up when you don’t scrub several times a day and it looks gross. If you have light skin like I do you might even start to notice a weird grey ash colored buildup. It’s gross. Exfoliate it off.

Hand cream is a good friend because hand sanitizer does dry you out a bit. Though if you’re like me it dries you out far less than water.

Disposable gloves are wonderful things. Great for handling raw meat, great for cleaning, great for grabbing things out of water or other liquid.

If you’re avoiding water for severe eczema like I am, do still wash your hands if you come into contact with chemicals. To stop the water from drying out your hands afterwards, dry off your hands completely. In between the fingers and all. Very very dry. Then cover your hands in hand cream and let the cream soak in on its own.

Cream or ointment is generally better than lotion because lotion tends to have water in it and water is the problem in the first place.

Good luck! Don’t spread germs!

dragon-in-a-fez

I can clearly remember the moment I first realised my mother and I were living on completely different planes of existence. I was 7 years old and I came home from my school's first track and field day having placed second or third in every event. the teachers had been making jokes all afternoon about how many times they had to call my name. my friends thought I was cool as shit. my enemies thought I was cool as shit too, come to think of it. I was proud as hell. so I get home with the entire front of my shirt covered in ribbons like I was a military dictator who'd awarded himself every medal, I walk into the kitchen and tell my mum all about my day, and she goes "oh, that must be disappointing not getting any firsts." and I'm like no?? first of all the first place ribbons are red and I don't like red. second of all look at me. there's literally nowhere left on my body for accolades. I am fucking Jacked of All Trades. how could this possibly be a disappointment.

transed-my-gender

turn around for me. good puppy. close your eyes, let me blindfold you. now stay. stay.

whistle - come here puppy. whistle - come here. you can do it, you can find me. just listen to my voice, come here. you look so concentrated and adorable. come. such a good puppy, just follow my voice. there you go. oh you’re all wet and ready aren’t you. grinding on my fingers like you can’t help yourself, with your legs shaking, you can hardly keep yourself up, poor thing.

i got a new toy for you, go find it. fetch. getting warmer, good puppy, go on. colder now. warmer, warmer, colder, warmer, burning hot, there you go. now bring it here. no no no, in your mouth. make it fit. now drop it. good puppy. show me how you’d play with it. don’t be shy, show me. oh it just slips right in. get it all in like we’ve trained. listen to you whine as you take that knot deeper into you. keep it all in.

whistle - come. oh no you don’t get to walk anymore so your toy doesn’t slip out. be good and get on all fours. look at you, all whiny and pathetic, crawling on the floor. you’d be bumping into furniture if it wasn’t for me. heel. sit. sit pretty. does it feel good when you sit on it? you poor thing you’re all wet, even your thighs are soaking. keep it in and open your mouth. such a good puppy deserves a treat

myrinthinks

So I'm an archivist and a few days ago I got an email from a 15-year-old girl wanting to know if I've got any material on the only still-existing old mill in town (you've got to imagine this mill not like a quaint, stereotypical windmill the likes of which Don Quixote fought against but rather like an industrialisation-era factory).

I wrote back and asked if she needed this for a school project or for something else where there's a deadline looming, for the simple reason that the more time I have, the more in-depth I can go with my research and the more material I'll be able to get for her.

And she answered that no, it's for her personal use because she's interested in abandoned buildings in general.

And, like. What an absolutely excellent hobby for a teenage girl to have. I bet she's the coolest person in her class and I hope that no one ever gives her a hard time about her interests.

benjaminallhope-fulltimemind

just a handy little info chart on the spectrums of sexuality.

mythicalcoolkid

[ID: a poster that reads "These spectra are all different." Below are four arrows, up to down, each labeled with a different sexuality spectrum.

Sexual attraction

Top: allosexual - often experiences sexual attraction (a feeling of wanting to have sex with a specific person)

Middle: grey-asexual - rarely experiences sexual attraction

Bottom: asexual - never experiences sexual attraction

Notes for sexual attraction:

There are other types of attraction and corresponding spectra. See: romantic, platonic, aesthetic, sensual

Asexuality can shift over time. See: aceflux

Libido

Top: high libido - often or strongly experiences libido/sex drive (a feeling of wanting sex, but not directed at a specific person)

Bottom: low libido - rarely experiences libido

Notes for libido:

Libido can change greatly due to mental health, life circumstances, and various other factors

Sex favourability

Top: sex favourable - sex is appealing and enjoyable for them

Middle: sex indifferent - does not particularly like or dislike sex

Between middle and bottom: sex averse - dislikes sex and finds it not appealing

Bottom: sex repulsed - finds sex repulsive or disgusting

Notes for sex favourability:

There are other spectra of favourability. See: romance favourability, touch favourability

Sex favourability can depend on context. See: aegosexual

Sex favourability can shift over time. See: sex fluid

Sex positivity

Top: sex positive - believing that "sex is good and people can do what they want"

Middle: sex neutral - no particular stance on sex

Bottom: sex negative - believing that "sex is bad and sex should be restricted"

Notes for sex positivity:

The other spectra are about things the brain/body does. Sex positivity is about ideology

Any combination is possible. Now you know these things exist. If you want to learn more about something, look it up.

End ID]

certifiedsexed

Certified Sex Ed Post!

roadkill-pup

aftercaredaddy-deactivated20260

It’s thrilling to be “naughty.” The forbidden vibe, the little rush of rebellion - it’s delicious.

But let’s be very clear about the truth underneath all the conditioning:

There is nothing inherently wrong with any consensual sexual interest you have.

Not one damn thing.

Society’s rules, your upbringing, the church, the internet purity police, your ex who shamed you, the random morality influencers - none of them get a vote on what turns you on when it’s between enthusiastically consenting adults.

You don’t need permission.

You don’t need to be “fixed.”

You don’t need to apologize for your wiring.

If it’s safe, and mutually wanted → it is morally neutral at worst, and beautiful self-expression at best.

You are allowed to want what you want.

You are allowed to chase the heat that actually moves you.

You are allowed to stop performing “acceptable” sexuality for an audience that was never entitled to a performance.

Freedom isn’t just political.

Sometimes it’s as simple as finally letting yourself moan the way you’ve always wanted to - without mentally scanning for judgment first.

Own it.

Explore it.

No hall pass required.

bite-sized-thembo

edsrosetattoo

This is the best idea in the history of film.

rachel-sez

Standing in a checkout line, when an older man asks me about my Goncharov t-shirt. I say "It's a movie, " when the person behind me chimes in, "Oh, yes, Scorsese."

The original gentleman goes on to tell me about the author Goncharov, his favorite of his novels, and a famous character from one of the novels. The three of us discuss whether the main character in the movie is intentionally named after the author, referencing that character, or whether it just sounded good to the film maker. We discuss how steeped the movie is in symbology.

Two of us are having a very different conversation than the third.