Eduard Ezeanu

I'm a confidence and communication coach with 7+ years of experience, I've coached clients from over 20 countries, on 5 continents, ranging from students and young professionals to CEOs and millionaires, and my confidence and communication courses have been purchased by over 5000 people. This is my blog.

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If you are easily manipulated by other people, it's because you care too much about their approval, which they can skillfully give and withdraw to get you to do what they want. But if you learn to not care that much about their approval, you effectively make yourself immune to manipulation.

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A healthy work limit is 39 hours per week

People who work more than 39 hours a week are putting their health at risk, new research from The Australian National University (ANU) has found. The research shows the work limit for a healthy life should be set at 39 hours a week instead of the 48-hour-week limit set internationally about 80 years ago. 

Lead researcher Dr Huong Dinh from the ANU Research School of Population Health said about two in three Australians in full-time employment worked more than 40 hours a week, with long hours a bigger problem for women who do more unpaid work at home.

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Gilgamesh, where are you hurrying to? You will never find that life for which you are looking. When the gods created man they allotted him death but life they retained in their own keeping. As for you, Gilgamesh, fill up your belly with good things, day and night, night and day, dance and be merry, feast and rejoice; let your clothes be fresh, bathe yourself in water, cherish the little child that holds your hand, and make your wife happy in your embrace; for this too, is the lot of man.  

- The Epic of Gilgamesh, translated by N. K. Sanders

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In this day and age, it's crucial to regularly fact check information we receive from various sources, especially the old and new media. A lot of it consists of distorted data, cherry-picked data, or blatant lies.

— Eduard Ezeanu (@eduardezeanu) May 4, 2018

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It is rumored that the most common last words humans utter are “Hey, hold my beer and watch this!”

— Eduard Ezeanu (@eduardezeanu) March 23, 2018

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Society often criticizes, demonizes and tries to repress in its citizens impulses that are not really harmful. And this repression is actually unhealthy. That does not mean however that all our impulses are completely harmless in today's world and we should just let them loose entirely. Ultimately, it's best to think seriously for yourself about practical consequences and decide which impulses to let loose, which to restrain, and by how much.

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I don't believe in spirits or ghosts, but if I would, I'd be pretty sure there's one in my apartment that keeps hiding my freakin' keys!

— Eduard Ezeanu (@eduardezeanu) February 22, 2018

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Exploring Lisbon, Portugal.

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People often seek these enlightenment experiences where all of a sudden, the most intricate aspects of life become clear to them. I find that a lot more often, gaining this kind of clarity is a slow, long and gradual process, which results from a combination of practical experience, book learning, discussion, and rational, analytical reflection. There are no quick fixes.

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“When you’re only thinking about yourself and you make poor decisions as a result, regret tends to be a byproduct. So let’s try not to confuse stupidity and self-interest with romance and valor.”

Well said.

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When a person comes to a conversation with one or more strong but delusional beliefs, since beliefs act as filters and foundations for assigning meaning, you'll often say one thing and they will hear a completely different thing. You'll say "You look lovely tonight" and they'll hear "You look terrible the rest of the time". There goes your compliment. 

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Okay: exaggerated, but still makes a good point.

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In virtual worlds, you can face challenging encounters—with scoundrels and wizards and spells—that you know for sure will work out in the end. Or you can die and be reborn. Real people, with their unpredictable ways, can seem difficult to contend with after one has spent a stretch in simulation.

From the early days, I saw that computers offer the illusion of companionship without the demands of friendship and then, as the programs got really good, the illusion of friendship without the demands of intimacy. Because, face-to-face, people ask for things that computers never do. With people, things go best if you pay close attention and know how to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Real people demand responses to what they are feeling. And not just any response.

- Sherry Turkle, Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age

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"When you tear out a man's tongue, you are not proving him a liar, you're only telling the world that you fear what he might say.” - George R.R. Martin, A Clash of Kings

— Eduard Ezeanu (@eduardezeanu) December 23, 2017

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Lying to someone may spare their feelings and earn their approval for the moment, but in time it erodes their trust and respect, which are critical ingredients of strong relationships. Being willing to tell them the harsh truth on the other hand, is one of the best ways to build trust and respect.

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"Tact is the art of making a point without making an enemy." - Isaac Newton

— Eduard Ezeanu (@eduardezeanu) November 29, 2017

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The highest form of empathy is being able to see an experience somebody is going through, through the lens of their needs, values, personality and beliefs, not your own.