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#i mean we always knew this was coming eventually. renting a house where i live is a countdown until the landlord's kids get old enough #not that he was making us move out or anything like that we just realized It Was Time while the market is sorta low to get a place #trusted the It's Time premonition to move out of our first apartment back in 2014 & then a year later they renovicted everyone so like...

molabuddy

i think to be in a happy longbig relationship you gotta be best friends first and foremost. like no matter how developed the romantic side gets, if youre not friends then its straightup over.... a husband is a friend first and a husband second..

molabuddy

i feel like a romantic partner should imperatively be someone you can trust just like you trust a friend , someone you can be a little hater with . someone you share interests with and someone you can see yourself continuing to share interests with even when interest in the initial thing you guys met about fizzles out ... & someone you trust to be supportive of ur interests even when they Dont get it. someone you can do stupid bits with .someone you could spend 6 hours in a car or waiting room with just fine. i think because there’s a lot of societal pressure to Get a partner, a lot of people go looking for a partner and get one without even considering that they should actually be friends with that partner as well. it sounds like its Not worth it.

to me romantic love is beautiful and joyous and lovely , but platonic friendlove is the glue within every relationship that bonds people together

elasticitymudflap

top 5 things about my new place:

#5 fucking big ass fan (doesn't work)

#4 room that feels like a saw trap

#3 garage wiring

#2 wet tunnel to the other side of the basement (NEW)

#1 garage that clips into wall

Honorable Mention:

this guy

elasticitymudflap

sorry everyone they saw this post and they took away my wet tunnel priviliges :(

#(previous owners fucked up the plumbing so bad we had to get an emergency team and a city inspector or we'd have poo house)#(the GOOD news is there wasnt asbestos under there... unlike the rest of the basement 💀)#(<- already been abated by a specialist tho thank god)

top 5 things about my new place:

#5 fucking big ass fan (doesn't work)

#4 room that feels like a saw trap

#3 garage wiring

#2 wet tunnel to the other side of the basement (NEW)

#1 garage that clips into wall

Honorable Mention:

this guy

#this isnt even half of the stuff thats going on in here #(yes i cleaned the saw trap room since then and with proper PPE 👍)

redrosesinblue

torchwood-99

"I love you but you're doing wrong in a way I cannot condone" and "I hate you but you're being wronged in a way I cannot stomach" are top tier and I need more of them.

razzmothazz

still caring about internet friends you lost touch with years ago is so embarrassing. yeah i had a deam we met up irl recently. the last time we spoke was maybe 7-8 years ago. i still wear the laces we randomly decided was a sign of our friendship. i dont know what any of your socials are or if youre even active on any. sometimes i see someones art resemble yours and i wonder for hours. do you still go by that name you chose? whenever i see it i wonder if its you. we couldve passed each other in this vastness a thousand times and not have a clue.

razzmothazz

we were lonely kids having fun together. do you remember?

liarsblade

There's this perception, I've noticed, that if you're going to have a cultural conception of something like "mental health" in your fictional setting it has to be like Ideal, it needs to be the ideal version of mental health awareness/conception/care or it needs to not exist at all even a little. Does that make sense.

liarsblade

Similarly there's also this idea that either a character knows what therapy is, has had some, and has had an overwhelmingly positive experience and result from it, or they have literally no concept of therapy at all, like Harry Du Bois not knowing that he's a cop style. Total blank. Very odd.

liarsblade

The options are not "this story takes place in the Instagram infographic universe" or "you get nothing. Everyone has a caveman's understanding of what depression is." is all I'm saying. Make a setting with a concept of mental health that sucks. Send the character to therapy that doesn't work. Officially diagnose them with something that sucks and is absolutely going to be taken out of the in-universe dsm in a couple of editions. Try something difference.

#can i be real and say i also want a little of this for neurodivergence too...#i feel deeply for character who Knows There's Something Wrong With Them(tm) and apparently so does the rest of the world they live in #& they're clearly some kinda asd/adhd but undiagnosed and also unaware there's even a diagnosis to be had #maybe this is a world where the DSM-V and tiktok/ig ''''neurospicy'''' influencer culture doesn't exist or permeate their life so much #and maybe that character has found a way to exist in that world comfortably—without medical jargon and therapyspeak—and that's okay?#maybe that character struggles but also has people who love them and understand them without having to microlabel every experience #friend is overstimulated from intense sensory input and on the verge of having a meltdown?#friend's gonna go sit in the closet for an hour with the lights off. who cares if it's weird that's just the way they are.#ig my point is that the''therapyverse-ing'' in fiction sometimes doesn't feel like a plausible or even desirable reality for many people #bc some of us have spent our lives without diagnosis or knowledge or even ''correct'' terms to describe our symptoms and experiences #idk... IDK!!!#neurodivergent stories talk about our experiences without depersonalizing them by sounding like psych textbook challenge: impossible

stuckinapril

Best brain hack is taking “this too shall pass” and applying it in the micro. The panic you feel from an argument with a friend, wanting to get on your phone when you should be studying, the absolute obsession with someone you’re crushing on, pain from rejection, utter hopelessness at a situation that is not entirely hopeless. Heavy on situations that induce panic and incentivize you to act out of turn, maybe to send a text you shouldn’t be sending or to blow up at someone or whatever it is. The antidote to knee jerk reactions is literally just “this too shall pass” and allowing yourself to feel the physical manifestation of your extreme emotion. Literally just ride it out. Even for things that can’t immediately be resolved, it makes such a big difference and prevents you from reacting in ways that you would undoubtedly regret down the line.

#genuinely saves my ass on the regular w ocd panic

memeuplift

mossspores

life if comes fucks me

t00thpasteface

nothing online is ever truly deleted. except that one fucking thing you're looking for

susiemybeloved

Came to me in a dream

autodiscipline

#kusatchi real as hell

patinoiree

maritime fishin' 🦞

#NOVA SCOTIAAAAAAA LETS GOOOOOO 🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞🦞#peggys cove light house i see uuuuuuu

pangur-and-grim

accepting the whole autism thing has actually brought me so much calm, because when I was kid everyone seemed instinctively repulsed by me and I never understood why. ESPECIALLY the adults! which is a little fucked, because who are you supposed to go to about bullying if the teacher is participating? and even my family members seemed disgusted by me on some level, so I was like a cartoon parody of a human being where my closest friends were my pet rats. but reading studies on autism now, and learning about the double empathy problem, and about how neurotypical people ARE repulsed by autistic people in an uncanny valley sort of way and DO dislike them upon first encountering them (unless, ironically enough, they’re told that they’re autistic) - that’s actually been so cathartic. especially now that I’m older and have an okay-ish handle on masking, and so am no longer live in a nightmare world where literally everyone in my life seems icked the fuck out. I don’t have to discount my early memories. I can be like ohhhhh yeah that’s just something that happens. I didn’t do anything particularly bad and it’s not that I wasn’t trying, I was just born with the cursed sigil on my forehead. like ohhhhh they were reacting to the curse, ohhh okay, cool cool, that’s actually fine. I’m actually alright with that.

#bearer of the curse

themoonandmyman

Wouldst thou like to live fergaliciously

shrimpin-aint-easy

Can you please just have an ounce of shrimpathy?

loscharlitos

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