Sugar Babe

Black sugar baby. 21 years young. Houston, Tx. To see my post search #sugar story #new post

[hermajestyimher]

Keep Yourself to Yourself

Don’t get overly comfortable with the people you are forced to share spaces with, maintain a level distance and mystery about yourself around them. At work, school, or any other communal place, don’t overshare and get too cozy with people. Remain professional and adopt a specific character while you’re in those places. By not letting others get too comfortable around you you are protecting your most vulnerable side and others won’t know where to attack you from, don’t let others think they know you. You only see people’s faces, you don’t know their hearts and what their true colors are. Self-preservation is key not just for success but for basic survival.

[elegantsugarbabe]

Hey ladies, just a reminder to NOT let these assholes talk, do anything, and or make you feel less than you are. YOU are in control of this shit. It’s okay to have an understanding, but just because they have money don’t mean you have bow down to them and follow they “ RULES”. Homie have me fucked up, I like your money but I don’t need it ✌🏾

[hoodratsocialite]

Shout out to thefemmeguild on IG

[fabxrich-bellaxo]

How to Enter the Sugar Bowl pt. II

If you missed Part 1 to this Series, you can read it here.

*** Again, this list is based SOLELY on MY experience in the bowl. I’m not saying to do these exact things, however this is just a guide to get you going. ***

Now that you’ve made a Sugar Alter Ego, it’s time to go to work. Not every man you come across on these sites are Sugar Daddy material. A LOT of these men are creeps looking for some naive girl to give them free sex, and that’s not what we’re here for!

These next couple of steps are trial and error. Not one man is the same, therefore not every technique will work.

Step 4: Screening POTs

In the Sugar World, a POT is a potential Sugar Daddy. For this step, let’s assume all men are POTs.

Before you can meet with a POT, you need to screen him. Screening is a tedious process within itself, however, the more information you collect, the better AND SAFER you’ll be in the long run.

These are some things you can ask to collect information: 

- How is your commute from work to home & vice versa?

- What does your job actually entail?

- Did you go to college to major in your field? Or did you have another major/job field in mind?

- Do you like your car? Why did you decide to settle on that one? Do you plan to purchase another?

Now usually, you would NOT ask these questions straight out first meeting or talking to a POT. You can use these questions as a disguise of ‘breaking the ice’ and getting know more about your POT. Also, pay attention to the minor details. Often, we drop subtle hints of our life when just talking randomly or even when we feel comfortable with the person we’re talking to. Those small details can fill in the gaps of what you couldn’t find out straight away.

Now that you have some information on your POT, go searching. You can use some websites that find out people’s backgrounds such as:

- LinkedIn

- FreeBackgroundCheck.org

- Google Image Search

-Facebook Search phone numbers or emails

These will just get the ball rolling. Once you find a LInkedIn or Facebook page, you can access the POT’s job, high school/college, friends/co-workers/family, Hometown/Current City, hobbies, etc.

Now that you’ve talked to and screened the POTs, next is preparing for a date. Before you decide to meet up with your POT, boundaries must be set. Agree to meet in a public place (i.e: restaurant, mall, Starbucks) so if you should run into trouble, the POT knows not to make a scene and bring attention to himself. Please use this to your advantage, SAFETY IS ALWAYS IMPORTANT!

Stay tuned for the last installment pt. 3 coming soon!

[fabxrich-bellaxo]

How to Enter the Sugar Bowl pt. I

** PLEASE, Take This As A Disclaimer. I’m Just One Person Speaking Solely from Experience. I’m in NO WAY Advising Anyone to Follow What I’m Going To Say. I’m Simply Explaining What I’ve Done to Get Where I’m at Right Now. ** - Bella 💕

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I ALWAYS get questions asking how to become a sugar baby and I honestly hate that question. Not because I don’t want to help anyone, but because it’s such a detailed topic. Sugaring is considered a sex occupation, thus making sugar babies sex workers. Of course, Sex Work is frowned upon, however there’s a market for it so someone has to do it, right?

I’ve been a Sugar Baby for almost 2 years now and in that timespan I’ve been in 3 extremely different arrangements with wonderful gentlemen. I’ve been a spoiled gf at one point and even have been proposed to. So I must say I’ve had a fairly successful run thus far in the Sugar Bowl. So I figured I’d share some things I’ve done that I believe have helped me. Of course, this won’t fit all into one post so I’m going to make this a series here on my blog.

Step 1: Make a Sugar Alter Ego

The first thing, and most important, thing you must do is create a sugar alter ego. Buy a notebook. This notebook is you’re Little Black Book of Sugaring. On the first page, create your alter ego. This person only exists in the sugaring world.

They must have:

a First, Middle (opt’l), Last Name

Date of Birth

Hometown & Current City of Residence

Family Life

Education

Occupation

Miscellaneous Facts about themselves

All of these things MUST NOT give a clue to your Vanilla Life. (Your Vanilla Life is your life outside of sugaring.) The one thing that can possibly be the same is where you currently live, but if you don’t want to share then change it.

Step 2: Create your Profiles

Once your sugar identity is made, you need to make them a profile. Some sites I suggest using as a newbie are SA (Seeking Arrangement), Tinder, POF, WYP (What’s Your Price? - an auction for dates). Use the info about your alter ego that you created to fill out your profiles.

Next, take pictures. Again, the objective is not to let your Vanilla Life and Sugar Life intertwine by keeping your Sugar Life a secret. That means, don’t use the same pictures on your sugar profiles that you have on your Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn, etc. Shall you use the same pictures, your face MUST be blurred out.

The key to attracting a POT (Potential SD) is by amazing pictures. Your pictures must:

Show your full body

Show you doing something fun (a hobby, vacation pic, etc)

Clear face shot (with or without makeup, your choice)

When it comes to setting yourself apart, having great pictures play a HUGE role in making POTs interested enough in you to want to read your profile. Once the messages come reeling in, that’s when you can pick apart which ones are worth your time.

Step 3: Create a Fake Number

Now that your profile is complete and pictures are up, it’s time to create a fake number. There are two routes you can go, using an app or google voice. With an app, I’d suggest using ‘TextFree’ or ‘TextFree+’. Both are free and the number is steadily available as long a you keep using it. Now with Google Voice, you can access that by using that Email Address you created for your Sugar Life. See how that came in hand? From there you can download the Google Voice app on your phone. With both apps, I believe you can save numbers in your phone’s contacts but they’ll only be used in the apps. All the logistics shall be explained once the apps are downloaded.

You NEVER want to give men your real number. Your safety is a priority at ALL TIMES. There are some crazy men who will try to find out information about your Vanilla Life. By Google searching your pictures, reverse dialing the phone number you gave them are just a few ways your Vanilla Life can be found out. That’s why it’s imperative to keep your Sugar Life & Vanilla Life separate. One false move and your whole identity is known and who knows who can be privy to that type of information.

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So that was Steps 1-3 for starting your Sugar Life. I hope this post and blog series helps someone out there trying to enter the Sugar Bowl. As always, my inbox is open; I’m always willing to give advice and help someone out.

Until My Next Post,

- Bella 💕

[professor-trophy-wife-deactivat]

Dinner on the beach in Africa 🤩

[intlsugarbaby-deactivated201408]

Travelling to a Meet POT Checklist

Having travelled to numerous places to meet POTs, I have had a mental note of a little checklist that I always use. I am finally writing it down because I see that a lot of people are interested in travelling to meet their POTs, or sex workers/escorts interested in meeting with clients that are not from the same hometown and wish to travel. Travelling is a lot of fun but you must also be aware and stay safe. Here is a little check list that I have come up with that will help ensure more of your safety and comfort while travelling. Make sure you can honestly answer all these questions and fill it out fully before you travel anywhere!

Xoxo love J (IntlSugarBaby)

Checklist & Questions:

The Security:

1. Do I know his real name?

2. Do I know his business/work?

3. Do I have his real contact information?

4. Have I had a Skype conversation with him yet? (To verify pics are real)

5. Have I had a phone conversation with him yet? 

6. Have I researched him enough? (Is he on any criminal web pages, SB blacklist, anything in the news about him, etc.)

7. Did you give all this information to at least 2-3 trusted sources? (Give one to a friend that you trust in person, another one that is from the sugar bowl could be from tumblr, and etc. Make sure people have this information!)

8. Do I have security cash in case things go wrong? (Always make sure you have extra cash on you in case things go wrong. I would say maybe 200-500 extra on you. You never know)

9. Have I discussed intimacy with him? (Does he know that you will not be having sex on the first date you are down there? That you will not tolerate inappropriate behaviour?)

The Comfort:

1. Where am I travelling to? How long am I travelling to this area for? (I only recommend 2-3 days maximum for a first travel)

2. If I am travelling longer than 3 hours on a plane, am I getting first class? (You bet your ass you better be!)

3. Am I getting round trip flights? (Double check and call the airline to make sure it is valid! If you feel more comfortable booking yourself make sure you get all the money to book through PayPal for your trip!)

4. Am I getting my own hotel room? Is it booked with: Four Seasons, W Hotel, Trump Hotel, etc? (Non-negogiable. You must get your own hotel room. No ifs, ands, or buts. Call the front desk to guarantee it is booked and to make sure you have your own room. Make sure you are ALSO getting a nice hotel, not some cheap MOTEL!)

5. Have I discussed allowance and payments to come down? (Plane ticket and accommodation do NOT account for your time being spent down there. You must be paid for your time that you are with him. Usually for my 2-3 day rule I would ask anywhere between $1,000-3,000. It all depends for how many times you see him, how long you see him, etc.)

6. Have I discussed a “free-time” with him? (You need a break from him. You need your own time. Within each day you are down there say you need this which can be used to explore, have your own spa day, etc. You are NOT required to be with them at every moment!)

7. Do I have arrangements that a car is picking me up from my house/friends house/local area to the airport and back from the airport? As well as soon as I land in the designated town that I am being picked up by a car and drove straight to the hotel? (Never hop in a car with him straight from the airport. Make sure you go straight to your hotel from a limo/taxi car paid for by him you should not be wasting a dime on anything down there. If you need transportation to the airport from your hometown make that known to him!)

8. Have I discussed when I will be getting my payment? (I always ask for it as soon as I meet up with him in an envelope. This allows you that if no matter if there isn’t a connection there you still get paid! Do not accept payment after your date through paypal or any other way, or cheques. Always make sure it is in cold, hard, cash and in an envelope first meeting. No excuses) 

9. What is the itinerary once I get there? (Make sure you know a list of exactly what you are doing. Are you going to a broadway show? The casino? A dinner? Where is the locations + addresses? Make sure to always keep checking in with your “safety” sisters aka friends! Also plan! If you are going to LA and want to go to Hollywood tell your POT. Remember this is a little trip for you so enjoy it!)

What to pack in my suitcase:

1. Always bring a carry on or a large purse. It is a lot quicker to go through the airport without having to check any bags. Remember to always pack light as well because you definitely will be shopping down there!

2. Bring 1 casual outfit. This is for site-seeing, going out and exploring. Something you feel comfortable in (shoe wise) and can walk around for extended periods of time. I would suggest a pair of jeans cute sandals or flats and a super cute top. Accessorize to make yourself look better - nice purse, sunglasses, bracelets/watch etc.

3. Bring 2 nice dinner outfits. I usually am super indecisive when it comes to dinner outfits. I usually bring two really nice ones! One will be a tight dress medium-short length, and another a more longer dress that is classier. Once you arrive in the city you will know what fits in more there and what is easier and more comfortable to wear. Bring your best heels: Louboutins! And of course accessories.

4. Bring 1 Sleeping wear. Usually a comfy top and bottom, or if you are feeling more risqué bring a sexy night gown or something. Remember you have your own hotel room and intimacy is not expected on your first trip down there. This is purely for your comfort!

5. All your sleepover gear stuff. Toothbrush, small lube of toothpaste, make up remover wipes, hair and bobby pins, hair ties, deodorant, a super mini body spray (check your airlines for maximum you can bring).

6. Your make up and accessories. Bring your most used make up such as: Foundation, powder, eyeliner, mascara, eye shadow, a couple of brushes, eyebrow pencil and lip gloss. You can bring bronzer and blush as well but remember don’t bring your entire make up kit! Some stuff might get lost… bring stuff you DEFINITELY would use! As for accessories: sunglasses, a statement watch or bracelet, and ring possibly. Keep it minimum, stick to statement pieces! Don’t want to loose anything!

7. Bring 1 Bathing Suit. You know maybe you want to take a dip in the pool, go to the sauna, or head to the beach on your time off. Who knows, always great to have a bathing suit packed just in case - you never know!

8. Extra feminine supplies. Just in case you get your period on the trip, you never know! Also bring extra gravol, or advil that you potentially could need trying different foods, or just not feeling well on the trip. 

9. Pack anything else you think is necessary! Remember, pack light and research what the weather is going to be like when you get down there. Is it going to be warm? Rainy? Cloudy? Check all the weather and make sure you know and pack accordingly!

Plane Checklist:

1. Bring head phones, ipod (if you don’t have an iphone), phone charger, lip gloss, little compact mirror, passport, wallet with extra cash in it, your drivers license (if you are over age of 19 in Canada you can drink there, or over 21 in States! That way you don’t have to bring your passport along with you), a magazine, and little snack to enjoy. This is usually in my hand bag/purse that I also carry on the plane. It is your plane survival and extra time alone survival kit!

2. Get your boarding passes in order, text your POT that you arrived at the airport and just wait to board the flight!

Enjoy your trips meeting your POTs! Remember to have a great time and go through the check list. If they are hesitant about any parts of it or can’t answer and try to negotiate around some of the things… these are viewed as red flags. Immediately drop them. A POT will ALWAYS want your safety and comfort to come first. If he speaks of sex in the hotel, or anything that you are not comfortable with you immediately lay down the line saying that it won’t be tolerated. Make sure to stand up for your values and comfort. The worst thing these men can say is NO which is not a big deal at all. There is a million other guys to replace them. They are indeed replaceable.

Have an amazing trip to where ever you travel to. Remember to stay safe! Safety is a number one priority! Wishing all the hustlers the best of luck.

Xoxo love Mama J

[fucklovepayme]

perfect timing for this post for my recent anon. 

[highclassugar]

How To Make Real Money

“After a recent post, i got tons of messages asking how i was able to score such high allowances while barely seeing these men.

Some general advice

Get a head start

I believe that you have to give your sugaring some time. If you are in a position where you need to make some quick cash, you are more likely to accept low offers. In order to get a great allowance, you have to be in a decent starting position. Don’t be desperate, assholes smell that shit from miles away. 

Dress well

Even if you don’t have a lot of money, try to dress well on first dates. Inexpensive companies like Zara provide everything you need: A pair of heels, a dress and a nice jacket. When in doubt, wear black. And don’t show too much skin. If you do own designer items, put them on! 

Have manners

You better know how to walk the walk and talk the talk. You know which forks to use and which vino to order. The internet is your friend.

Don’t show that you are impressed

This is important and a great way to manipulate rich men. Don’t show how impressed you are. He takes you to an amazing restaurant? Talk about “this other place” you had dinner at. Do your research before. He owns a private plane? Sentences like “Oh my god, I love sitting in the jump seat!!” show that you are excited about what he has, but not too surprised or impressed. Act like everything he has is according to your expectations, but not below or above them. There is a fine line between being easily impressed and putting a man down. Try to balance. 

I’m going to illustrate negotiation and manipulation skills using my current SDs as examples, but remember that every man is different and you gotta adjust the mind-games accordingly. 

SD 1: 5000 euro for a 2-day trip every month. Married. True business man. So with this man, it was easy. He was the one that brought up an allowance before even meeting me, asked me how much I wanted. I asked him to make an offer (I prefer that, if I make an offer myself I’m always worried he would have offered more otherwise). It was a quick phone call, he offered 3500 (in case we got along obviously). I told him I’d think about it, calculate what i needed and get back to him. Didn’t text him for about 2 days, then sent him a short message saying “I am going to need at least 5000 to take care of my needs”. Again, in order to have the ability to take risks and be so bold in negotiations, you can’t be in a desperate position. He texted me back and agreed within 10 minutes. 

SD 2: 8000 euro, 2 evenings a month, no intimacy so far. This is far more interesting than SD1 and the way most SDs work. In my experience, highly effective. And we all know, i love to play people. Especially men.

So, this type of man - yes, i can certainly generalise -is complex. He wants someone that likes him for him, not for his money. Something real. At the same time he knows exactly that the money is the reason we want to be with him. He doesn’t want us to show that though. This man is extremely generous, but doesn’t want to feel like he is paying for sex or companionship. He wants to spoil the girl of his dreams. To this man, you better don’t bring up an allowance until after the 2nd date.

So, how do we deal with this? We don’t want to fear him away, nor do we want to be tricked by salts. Salts hope/assume we won’t talk about money because we don’t want to seem like gold diggers. Real Sugar Daddies want us to be more than gold diggers (even if thats all we are). So, how do we know we aren’t wasting our time but have a true gentleman as a POT? 

1. Obviously, screen the shit out of him. What his profile says doesn’t mean anything, but does he give you his real name? Find out as much as possible and if he is able to afford you.

2. Let him choose the restaurant for the first date. If it’s an expensive place, extra point for him. When you are there, don’t you dare order the cheapest dish. You order one of the most expensive things, and when you are done eating, you keep ordering expensive drinks. Watch his body language during all of this. Does he cringe while you order the lobster?  No need to waste your time. Does he decide to order bottles that are 100 bucks? Good. Talk, laugh, smile and listen during all of this. Find out what he is interested in. Theatre, music, sports? Generous men will feel the need to give you a few hundred bucks after a good first date (bonus point). When that happens, you smile and say “I have a hard time accepting this, I had so much fun with you”. Refuse twice. He will give it to you anyways. And think very highly of you. No kiss at the end of it.

3. Text him the next morning. Say how much fun you had, and that you would love to see him again. On date 1 you found out what he is into (sports, theatre, whatever). Do your research online and tell him about an event he could be interested in. Suggest it as a spot for your second date. He is going to love the fact you listened and are interested in his hobbies. The seats he gets are another great indicator for his generosity.

4. During date 2, get over any mediocrity you might have in yourself. Brush up on your general knowledge, talk about current events. Impress him, know more than him. Talk about your dreams. And dream big. Wanting your own company and the ability to provide for yourself will make this man more generous than your dreams of designer clothing. If the date goes well, you can let him kiss you. Maybe.

5. After the second date, its time to talk about allowance. Emphasise your dreams again, and see what offer he makes. If it’s too low, move on. Again, sugaring takes time. But this technique has been proven to be rather bulletproof and scored me whatever I wanted.”

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[professor-trophy-wife-deactivat]

“See babe? Told you I look good in London”

The top of the London Eye 🤩 He loves taking pictures of me, haha. I often don’t even ask - he just thinks I’m cute 🥰

[bbygreenqueen]

The Start

Woohoo! I finally made a seeking arrangements profile and started my journey as a sugar baby! I know people have mixed feelings on the site and so I decided it's a good first step, it'll help me learn through experience so that maybe one day I can start freestyling. I've already gotten quite a few messages and I'm even talking to one POT, we plan on meeting next week so that's exciting! We've been texting for 2 days now (gave a fake number), and we have a lot of things in common which will make hanging out with him a little easier lol. I think he's going to take me to his fav sushi restaurant, and I'm going to make sure its during lunch (safety first!). I will continue to update when things progress in my journey 😊

[martinmcdonagh]

[eliteplatinumbaby]

Watch classic movies, you tend to learn a lot from the women then. They were ruthless yet soft and always had men drooling over them. They controlled men without men knowing they were being controlled, that’s powerful.

[missdarlingsb]

What is the best thing to drink when you’re not wanting to drink alcohol on a date with a POT? Or even when freestyling I am a massive lightweight and want to stay on top of it when it comes to decision making and keeping up with my persona. I feel like if I go out with a POT and get drunk/tipsy I won’t be able to guarantee the best arrangement for myself nor will I be as sexy as I usually am

If I’m not drinking (and I rarely do unless it’s a cocktail or shots) but want to look like I am, I order a short glass of coke or lemonade on the rocks. It looks like you’re drinking a bourbon & coke or a vodka soda. If the place sells mocktails then that is an option too. Although if your POT is a regular they’ll probably notice and if they’re not, they may very well ask which cocktail you got if it looks good (which is fine if they know you’re not drinking but if you want to be subtle about it then suddenly you’re exposed). Restaurants and bars will often make you non alcoholic versions of their cocktails too!

[gagosianwife-deactivated2019120]

Always hold your head high and enter the room like you’ve come to collect

[professor-trophy-wife-deactivat]

Hello from London! Yes, I made it safely. Yes, I had champagne on the flight. Also... I’ve been detoxing from my phone for a bit - no cell service here except for WiFi. But know I’ve been having fun! 💝💕😘

[elegantsugarbabe]

Where do you unusually find your SD's? I know some SB's like to freestyles and others use tinder, seeking,ect...

I use Seeking for all of my recent SD dates, I’m trying out Tinder for the 1st time, and I’m also thinking about Freestyling but just haven’t done it.

[elegantsugarbabe]

Tinder Date

Okay so  had this date with a POT but he turned out to be a Salt. I meet him on Tinder and he looked like he had $$$$, plus he was weird looking so I decided to give it take a chance. His profile said he was a CEO of a family company. We went to this place that was in a very upscale area, all the people who have money shop here but the place we went to wasn’t so expensive. RED FLAG plus he wanted to meet around happy hour, which was okay but that was a new one for me. This place have the same prices as Pappadeaux ($$). We been talking for about a week and I was trying to butter him up into buy me some flowers or a gift on our first date. I thought I had him when he asked “what is your favorite color” but he walks though the door and I see nothing in his hands not even a flowers 2nd RED FLAG. I know he don’t owe me anything but it still would have been nice, right? Now we are sitting here talking he’s telling me about how he buys these overseas cars and fix them and sell them. He’s showing me all his cars which are Audi’s and Porsche’s (which don't seem very much up to date). Then we get to the part where we talk about a possible arrangement . I tell him what I would like and he tells me “wow expensive” and I’m like lol okay how were your other arrangements payments and this MF had the audacity to tell me both of this former arrangements settled for $250 3rd and final RED FLAG for me. So I politely thanked him for buying my drink because we didn’t spend enough time to order and left. 

[venicechick]

I made 8k freestyling last week. Beginners luck ? Most of the money came from this super nice 79 year old man. I went out twice last week. God Bless these wealthy Jewish men 😍 I’ve described my first experience already. Second time I went freestyling I met this old man who was super rich and was absolutely charmed by me. I didn’t even have to bring up to him what I was there for😄 He couldn’t hear very well anyway. I had to speak up and repeat myself multiple time. I felt like everyone at the lobby could hear us. Zero fucks given, of course. I told him stories about my struggles - you know, the life of a girl who doesn’t have a trust fund. I also mentioned I have to send money home every month ( which is true) and that’s where he went, “I can’t even imagine how hard it must be for you. I want to help”. And he did 👍🏻 After dinner we went to his apartment and he wrote me a check 😅 He never tried anything sexual. I mean his hands were constantly shaking I think he might have Alzheimer’s. We’re supposed to have dinner this week. I called him and left a voicemail. He hasn’t responded yet tho. We shall see. I felt safe giving him my name and everything. His background checked out; he’s very wealthy. He told me, “Now you have me. You don’t have to worry so much anymore”. I sure hope he meant what he said.