How do you fight? The 4 ways of fighting! 🤬😩👿🤐 . An argument or confrontation can be perceived as "unpleasant" or to be avoided, but there can be no connection or intimacy without confrontation. We quarrel with our partners or family, because we know that we can express such a taboo feeling as anger with a person that will (almost) always "forgive" us. At the base of our anger is a feeling of fear and pain, that comes out as anger and rage. . . There are 4 ways in which we express anger, for each one there is an "antidote" to limit the damage. . . 🤬1) Criticize: Attack, judge the person "You always talk about yourself, you are so selfish!" (Antidote) I Feel, and Request: "I feel excluded from the conversation, I need to share, can we talk about my day?" . . 😩2) Being a victim: Being defensive through victimhood. "It's not my fault we're fighting, you started it!" (Antidote) Responsibility: Take responsibility for the situation and your contribution "I can understand your point of view and how I may have irritated or hurt you". . . 👿3) Belittling: Lack of respect and consideration towards the topic and the person "What a stupid thing to get angry for!" (Antidote) Acknowledge : "I didn't realize that it hurt you, thanks for letting me know". . . 🤐4) Silent treatment: Avoiding, not talking, ignoring the situation "sulking" (Antidote) Managing and communicating emotions: "I can't discuss it now, I know it's important for you to discuss, but I have to take a break" . Do you recognize yourself in any way? Or do you recognize partners or exes?😉. . . . #blogger #journey #business #entrepeneur #women #change #life #lifestyle #girls #mind #businessowner #businesswoman #startup #startuplife #lifecoach #coaching #psychology #mentalhealth #lifechanging #creative #genderequality #lifebalance #liveincolor #empoweringwomen #selfawareness #values #womenentrepreneurs #creativepreneur #startupcoach #lifepurpose (at Amsterdam, Netherlands) https://www.instagram.com/p/ByigdRriORO/?igshid=16u3dkq8i5d77