who up warring they hound

[emesissy]

if you can't handle me at my "ugh mom 🙄" then you don't deserve me at my "unhh momm 😵‍💫"

[elpeadro]

happy KYS Saturday everyone remember to KYS 😇😇😇

[muzzlesbian]

wish i were dying or something idk

[i-am-made-out-of-bees]

[analog-delight]

and the other thing about lesbian trans men is like. the inverse implies that i used to be a straight man. or that i am in some capacity still a straight man. and i have never been a straight man in my life. i have never been treated like one, i have never identified as one, i've never been one. and i had it drilled into me from birth that i couldn't possibly be a lesbian.

but if men can be lesbians, what's the point? why was i tortured? why did i torture myself thinking in circles something that i was told couldn't be true?

there's no argument you can make for including trans men in lesbianism that doesn't include lesbian trans women in straight manhood. there just isn't.

[small-witch-big-hat]

There is this:

"straight manhood" is not equivalent in shape to "lesbian". It really isn't. Whether it's due to the nature of patriarchy or transphobia or whatever else, they are not homologous.

I am a trans woman who tried so, so hard to be a straight man, and then a bisexual man, and then I admitted to myself that the problem was, I was never a man at all. I never had a home among straight men. I DID have a home among gay and bi men - and honestly, I STILL feel oddly at home among them. Doesn't make me a man.

A trans man who spent decades of his life thinking he was a lesbian has spent those years in a minority group, relying on solidarity to survive. Asking him to abandon that framework when it will cause him pain is not a helpful course of action.

I was tortured, too. But my pain doesn't invalidate theirs.

[analog-delight]

but what is it about trans men's manhood that lets them fit the shape of lesbian? why is that category of men welcomed in?

[armachitikian]

It's pretty simple: if you make this weird exception for trans men to be included in lesbianism you run into one the two issues:

-you consider trans men to be just like every other men, nothing about them makes them special or different from cis men > so they shouldn't get any special treatment > so cis men should also be included in lesbianism > so there's no point in lesbianism because it's just bisexuality

-you think it's fine for trans men to be included in lesbianism because don't think they are exactly men but you use male pronouns and other masculine terms to qualify them because it's what they want and you want to be nice to them > "trans people aren't actually the gender they say they are but I pretend like it's the case to be nice" is just straight up transphobia

The term lesbian isn't a teddy bear, it's a word that has a meaning to talk about something that needed a name, twisting the definition will have the consequence of this thing not having a name anymore, and I think "a woman who loves other woman and who therefore doesn't center men" is a pretty big deal that needs a name

[elpeadro]

happy KYS Saturday everyone remember to KYS 😇😇😇

[elpeadro]

what's frustrating about "transmasc Jax 'discourse' " is that beyond all the "girls have to share their toys" irl aspects, if you strip away literally everything but the text itself--so no knowing Gooseworx is a trans woman, no progesterone joke comic, no maid Jax merch, etc etc etc--it is still very much not ambigious on Jax being transfem vs transmasc.

like we know two things about Jax for certain:

he is frequently associated with trans-coded dialogue (most obviously the "egg" comment), imagery, and characterization.

his character is defined by emotional repression and a forced performance he puts on out of fear/refusal to show vulnerability around others and to himself. this is something the show both explicitly says in episode 6 with the "archetypes" dialogue, and shows in episode 8 where Jax's punishment is his performative mask being stripped away and his friends laughing at the real Jax underneath.

From these two facts alone--and knowing intuitively that realizing, accepting, and living as a trans person is a journey that requires emotional awareness and introspection--what conclusion should be drawn here?

[valtsv]

lowkey i want more "problematic" aromantic and/or asexual representation. i want aro/aces who are unhappily married or in romantic relationships that they abandon for entirely selfish and not necessarily sympathetic reasons. i want aro/aces who are bitterly jealous of their friends' romantic partners for making them happy in ways they never could. i want aro/aces who are corrupted by power because they can't find satisfaction in other people. and i want romantic relationships that are ruined by friendships or even the allure of isolation. i want love to lose.

[valtsv]

i want a character in a romantic relationship to sincerely feel like they're cheating on their partner with their friend(s) or their work/quest/whatever. and i want them to break up about it with the same degree of drama and grief that would have happened if they'd actually been having an affair.

[clickrtrained]

the Worlds Normalest Girl is terrified of silence but also starts crying when things are loud

[clickrtrained]

the Worlds Normalest Girl thought she heard footsteps and started trembling while also clutching her phone like a weapon

[clickrtrained]

the Worlds Normalest Girl is rereading her texts with her friend for the fifth time today because shes worried shes somehow wrong about the date and time they arranged two weeks ago

[mon3trs]

some of you, i think

[saltielesbearz]

people dont give a shit when people hc a non-binary character as transmasc and give them periods and have them binding or top surgery, but the second someone headcanons a non-binary character as transfem suddenly everyone is like “erm you shouldn’t put labels on a non-binary character it’s really gross and problematic to do that actually”

[your-local-foxgirl]

USAmerican lesbians really went "okay so theres guy lesbians and woman lesbians"

[your-local-foxgirl]

"guy lesbians are strong and earn money and they are the dominant lesbian in the relationship and women lesbians are weak and are good caretakers and are the submissive one in the relationship"

[elpeadro]

"guy lesbians are BIGGER and have MUSCLES and cut their hair SHORT and wear SUITS and TOP their woman lesbian with their dick i mean their cock i mean their STRAP (it is very important to clarify guy lesbian's penis "isn't a penis") and any relationship MISSING its guy lesbian or woman lesbian needs to be TOLD it's OKAY to be DIFFERENT, and this is my baseline idealization of lesbian relationships and a box of tropes I force fictional lesbians into conforming around"

[sywene-06]

I also redrew them as the chainsaw man movie :3

[averymelody]

well on the one hand the way jax lashes out at any suggestion of femininity and constantly gets defensive over the idea that he isn't comfortable in his own skin COULD be a thoughtful, nuanced depiction of how unrealized trans women are conditioned by societal and internal pressures to cling desperately to their masculinity and try to force themselves into playing up an identity they clearly aren't truly comfortable in, written by someone who is a trans woman and very likely identifies with that exact experience. or on the other hand it could be that the character who has clearly not even begun to question his very obviously performative identity has perfectly figured out his gender and is a fully realized trans man, and also that all trans men react with instinctive, disproportionate disgust to any remotely feminine traits. there's just no way to tell tbh

[femlich2233]

Transmasc Jax makes no sense if you think about it for even a single second.

Making this post because all the "Hahaha, wow, I can't tell if Jax is transfem or transmasc! Both have so much evidence!" type posts because they annoy me deeply. So I'm shooting down transmasc Jax once and for all.

Point 1. Why would a trans woman's self-insert be a trans man? That makes literally no sense.

Point 2. Why would Goose draw a trans man taking progesterone?

Point 3: If Jax is a trans man, why would Goose have Zooble put Jax in a maid outfit and comment that they thought he'd be into that kind of thing? All it does is make Zooble look like a total pos.

Point 4: Why would Jax make a sad, bitchy comment about Zooble's ability to change their body if he liked being a man with a male body?

Point 5: why would Gooseworx make this comment if Jax is a trans man? It just comes off as transphobic in that context.

Point 6: Why would she add this line about Jax being an egg if he's a trans man? He wouldn't be an egg; he'd just be a stealth trans man.

Final point: So much of the symbolism around Jax just becomes wildly transphobic if he's a trans man and not a trans woman. "These ears and this tail are representative of my masculinity." *Ears and tail are not actually a part of him but rather just a part of the fragile outer shell/mask he shows to the world.* If Jax is a trans woman? Based, relatable, and accurate. If Jax is a trans man? The only logical conclusion to draw would be that gooseworx is transphobic, which is fucking stupid and obviously not the case.

In conclusion, please, for the love of God, stop acting like transmasc Jax holds even a shred of the weight and viability that transfem Jax does. It's literally just this meme:

[elpeadro]

happy KYS Saturday everyone remember to KYS 😇😇😇

[valtsv]

lowkey i want more "problematic" aromantic and/or asexual representation. i want aro/aces who are unhappily married or in romantic relationships that they abandon for entirely selfish and not necessarily sympathetic reasons. i want aro/aces who are bitterly jealous of their friends' romantic partners for making them happy in ways they never could. i want aro/aces who are corrupted by power because they can't find satisfaction in other people. and i want romantic relationships that are ruined by friendships or even the allure of isolation. i want love to lose.

[valtsv]

i want a character in a romantic relationship to sincerely feel like they're cheating on their partner with their friend(s) or their work/quest/whatever. and i want them to break up about it with the same degree of drama and grief that would have happened if they'd actually been having an affair.