EmBODY Consent

An art project based in Athens OH to describe the effects of rape culture on Ohio University Students

[carebewear]

I do often think about how the origin of “he would not fucking say that” was in reference to a post which depicted Cartman SouthPark responding politely when asked for his pronouns

[schistcity]

meme phrases are so mobile and versatile and that's really really beautiful but i'm always thinking about the first "she x on my y til i z" being "she ebbin on my neezer til i scrooge" and the first "fork found in kitchen" coming from a tweet about sehun from exo being spotted at a gay bar. like sometimes you just utterly nail it the very first time and no variation of the joke is going to be better.

[schistcity]

EXACTLY.

[schistcity]

a small collection

[penny-anna]

having a job is very weird bcos by and large your coworkers will be a variety of ages and you will not all be at the same stage of life. your coworker will be like, well I’m off home to spend time with my husband & child, what are you going to do with your evening? and you’re like, well, I plan on playing Rollercoaster Tycoon for as much as it as possible

[embodyconsent]

This is the kind of violence that stems from the toxic thought of  the 'friendzone'.

Women do not owe you sex.  If they want to date men who you consider 'brutes' then you respect their choices because they don't owe you anything.     And if you don't think that this exists, look at the foul comments on articles on videos of people saying 'thats what they get for ignoring him.'   Violence against women is apparently understandable because women are objects.  If women do not obey the men in their life they deserve to be thrown away, abused, and destroyed.

Male hegemony is disgusting.  All men have this ingrained into them from the moment of their birth, due to this culture.  They MUST spend their time attempting to analyze it and stop participating in those behaviors.  Men are disgusting, because they have been socialized to be so.  And yes.  ALL men. My heart goes out to the victims whose only crime was having free will or existing on the same campus with men.  

[knifefightingbears]

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Thanks Dan Savage, for defining bisexuality for us.  I understand and even agree with your call for bisexual people to come out to their friends and families (IF THEY FEEL SAFE TO DO SO)  The call to come out has been heavily criticized in the past as it feels like it is defining what it is to be a ‘good’ LGBT person, but those who can coming out can be very beneficial. HOWEVER, Dan Savage, people do not call you biphobic for saying bisexual people should come out.  We call you biphobic for saying that gay men shouldn’t date bi men, because they are not interested in long term relationships.  Because you’ve said that bisexual is a step to coming out as gay.  Because you say that people HAVE to come out or they’re not being part of the movement.  And because you have decided it is up to you, a gay man, to define what bisexuality is.   yourfaveisproblematic fucknodansavage for more resources on Dan Savage. Dan Savage is also extremely transphobic, has refused to apologize for using “t****y” and should probably just stop.

[embodyconsent]

 People of Athens: If you are a male who was sexually abused as a child, or if you know someone who was, please be aware of this program being held tomorrow night. Here are the details:

This Thursday, at the Athens Community Center, WOUB and the Scripps College of Communication will sponsor a male sexual abuse discussion, which includes a screening of the movie "Boys to Men Healing." The program will consist of screening the movie and then a panel discussion with Dr. Howard Fradkin, MaleSurvivor co-founder, Advisory Board member and nationally known psychologist; and sexual abuse survivors. The event starts at 7 p.m. and is open to the public.

[embodyconsent]

It Happens Here Ohio University

Ohio University student stories describing personal experiences involving sexual violence.

Just a reminder to anyone interested in sharing their stories about sexual assault and violence on campus in a safe place, It Happens Here is now live and accepting submissions

[embodyconsent]

This semester EmBODY Consent will be working on a couple of projects, the first of these being our own It Happens Here magazine.

We will be publishing stories of sexual assault and gender based violence at OU.  We are accepting submissions to the tumblr for now until the website for It Happens Here is up and running.   If you have any stories you would like to share, feel free to send them to us, anonymous is entirely allowed.  Send any questions about it to the ask box!

[embodyconsent]

We'll be printing the final cut of these over in the next month! This was adapted largely from khaoskomix's guide but in a printable form so we can pass it out to people

The full text (Feel free to point out any errors or problematic phrasing)  

[pg 1]An EmBODY Consent/Fuck Rape Culture Zine

Adapted from KhaosKomix

SO WE WANT TO HAVE SEX…

Take 1 for you and 1 for a partner!

I identify as:

I prefer the following identity words: (Man, woman, top, bottom, femme, butch, boi, etc)

[pg 2] Refer to my chest and genitals as:

Words that I find uncomfortable/triggering are:

Other triggers I have are:

For the following questions use the scale:

1 Absolutely not

2 Not interested

3 Maybe/Unsure

4 Interested

5 Absolutely 

[pg 3] Birth Control/Family Planning

*Skip if you're in a same-sex relationship or otherwise can't get pregnant

__Doing anything sexual which poses a risk of pregnancy without a reliable form of birth control

__Doing anything sexual which poses a risk of pregnancy with a reliable form of birth control

__Using emergency contraception

__Becoming pregnant

__Creating a pregnancy with a partner

__Helping a partner through a pregnancy

__Experience a loss with pregnancy (miscarriage or abortion)

__Supporting a partner through a loss with pregnancy

__Parenting with a partner

__Parenting by myself

__Paying child support for a pregnancy I co-created

__Terminating a pregnancy (abortion)

__Choosing adoption if there was a pregnancy

[pg 4]Sexual Acts

__Masturbation

__Holding hands

__Hugging

__Kissing (cheek or face)

__Kissing (Closed mouth)

__Kissing (Open mouth)

__Being kissed or touched on the neck

__Kissing or touching partner’s neck

__Giving hickeys

__Getting hickeys

__Wresting or play fighting

__General massage, giving

__General massage, receiving

__Having my chest/breasts and or nipples touched or rubbed

__Touching or rubbing a partner’s breasts, chest, and or nipples

__Frottage (dry humping)

__Tribadism (Rubbing naked genitals together)

__Masturbating in front of a partner

__Partner masturbating in front of me

__Receiving manual sex (hands/fingers in/on penis/vagina)

__Giving manual sex (hands/fingers in/on penis/vagina)

__Receiving manual sex in/around anus

__Giving manual sex in/around anus

__Ejaculating (coming) on or in a partner’s body

[pg 5]__Having a partner ejaculate on or in my body

__Using sex toys alone (vibrators, dildos, masturbation sleeves)

__Using sex toys with a partner

__Receiving oral sex

__Giving oral sex

__Receiving anal oral sex

__Giving anal oral sex

__Vaginal intercourse (receptive partner)

__Vaginal intercourse (insertive partner)

__Anal intercourse (receptive partner)

__Anal intercourse (insertive partner)

__Involving food in sex

__Cross dressing during sex

__Partner cross dressing during sex

__Biting/scratching a partner

__Being bitten/scratched by a partner

__Wearing something that covers my eyes

__Having a partner wearing something that covers their eyes

__Having movement restricted

__Restricting the movement of a partner

__Being slapped or spanked by a partner in the context of sexual  pleasure

__Slapping or spanking a partner in the context of sexual pleasure

__Pinching or having any kind of clamp used on body during sex

__Clamping or pinching a partner’s body during sex

[pg 6] Social Expectations

__Talking to friends about sex life

__Exclusive romantic relationship

__Exclusive sexual relationship

__Dating other people

__Having sex with other people

__Involving multiple people in sex

__Directing others during sex

__Being directed during sex

Is there anything else about your expectations from this relationship you would like your partner to know?

Sexual safety

__Sharing sexual history

__Using a condom

__Using a dental dam

__Using lubricant

__Getting STI Testing

__Being unable to communicate during sex

__Partner being unable to communicate during sex

__Sex after drinking/Intoxication

[pg 7]Our Bodies

__ Affectionate touching without asking first

__Sexual touching without asking first

__Public affectionate touching

__Public sexual touching

__Partial nudity in front of partner

__Full nudity in front of partner

__Having a disability, identity, or difference being made a part of sex.

__Menstrual Sex

__Shaving my own pubic hair

__My partner shaving their pubic hair.

__Extended eye contact

__Having my body stared at

__Talking about each other’s bodies

Some parts of my body are just off limits.  Those are:

I am not comfortable looking at, touching, or feeling some parts of another person’s body.  Those are:

 [pg 8]DON’T STOP HERE

Compare your results with your partner(s)

Talk about your results.

Anything you felt was missing or want to clarify?

What sexual fantasies do you have?

As I've said, if anything strikes you as off, reply to it or send us an ask so we can fix the problems!  

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BREAKING: Steubenville Rapist Ma'lik Richmond Has Been Released [TW: Rape, Sexual Assault, Rape Enablism, Rape Culture, Rape Apologism, Victim Blaming, Victim Shaming]

After serving less than a year in a juvenile detention center, Ma’lik Richmond is free.

Ma’lik Richmond, who was found “delinquent” in last March’s Steubenville rape case, has been released from an Ohio juvenile detention facility, WTRF reports.

In part of his statement, Richmond’s lawyer, Walter Madison, praised his client’s courage in the face of the unimaginable hardship (or “hardness,” as Madison put it) of being a 16-year-old convicted rapist:

The past sixteen months have been extremely challenging for Ma’Lik and his extended family. At sixteen years old, Ma’Lik and his family endured hardness beyond imagine for any adult yet alone child. He has persevered the hardness and made the most of yet another unfortunate set of circumstances in his life.

There was no mention of the 16-year-old Richmond was sent to jail for raping, nor any hardships she may have faced when, in an “unfortunate set of circumstances,” Richmond and his football teammate Trent Mays sexually assaulted her. Richmond and Mays’ victim’s lawyer, Bob Fitzsimmons, noted this in his statement:

Although everyone hopes convicted criminals are rehabilitated, it is disheartening that this convicted rapist’s press release does not make a single reference to the victim and her family - whom he and his co-defendant scarred for life. One would expect to see the defendant publicly apologize for all the pain he caused rather than make statements about himself. Rape is about victims, not defendants. Obviously, the people writing his press release have yet to learn this important lesson.

Richmond was sentenced to one year in a juvenile facility — the minimum he could have received. He began serving his time on April 1. How nice for him that he got out early.

Madison has appealed the verdict, arguing that Richmond’s brain wasn’t “fully developed” enough to know that what he was doing was wrong, and therefore he should not have to register as a sex offender.

In November, a grand jury indicted four adults — including Steubenville High School’s superintendent Michael McVey — for their role in the case (they plead not guilty last month). It’s not over yet.

[webelieveyou]

Updates on the case that prompted us to begin this blog.

[thentheysaidburnher]

[factualfeminist]

Damn. Spot-on.

[anxietyhaver]

wow that is accurate

i need to go cry for a few hours now

[webelieveyou]

This is very true, but also potentially triggering. Read with caution, please.

[femininefreak]

Powerful Photo Series Morphs Real Women With Barbie

[embodyconsent]

Call for It Happens Here Submissions!

Ohio University is going to be starting our own It Happens Here magazine.  

(Middlebury has an excellent one, check it out here: http://www.ihhmidd.org/)

We'll be publishing submissions online, anonymous submissions welcomed, about people's experiences with sexual violence.  If you'd like to submit your story, feel free to email me at [email protected], or send me an ask.  You don't have to tell me your name, just share your story.

[embodyconsent]

An interesting study that looks at sexual assault statistics by orientation.  

[transwomenssurvivornetwork]

Hi and welcome to the Trans Women’s Survivor Network! We are a project dedicated to creating space where trans women and all CAMAB trans people can discuss our experiences with violence and abuse together.

There’s a huge culture of denying this space to trans...

[trinitytg]

[embodyconsent]

Yea.  

[embodyconsent]

Hi! I am a peer advocate for OUSAP and I just wanted to let you know that we here at the program love and support what you are doing! For everyone else who is a survivor or a victim of Sexual Violence, Stalking, or Domestic Violence we are here and we want to help! 740-597- SAFE (7233)

Thanks for your support.  I'm publishing this to give any followers a remdinder of the OUSAP number.  If you're at Ohio University and you need help, call them!

[newwavefeminism]

The Reality of Our Race-Based Achievement Gap

A new paper published in the academic journal American Politics Research found that policymakers are far more likely to enact “teacher quality” bills when white student achievement drops—but not when graduation rates are poor among African American students.

Whether white citizens realize it, they’re more likely to prioritize education as an important issue only when white students aren’t doing as well—while they are not at all likely to prioritize it when African American student achievement lags. The research also discovered that when white students were doing comparatively worse, ranking in the 10th percentile, states enacted two more education policy reforms than when white students were doing well, scoring in the 90th percentile. There was no such legislative action correlated to poor achievement rates by black students.

Evidence illustrating what we all already know to be true. Public apathy, erasure and disdain for black students lead to education policy that directly ignores their needs and futures. But of course, please tell me more about how the black community is in a cycle of poverty and just doesn’t value education. In reality we have students literally calling out for help to deaf #teamcolorblind ears.

[embodyconsent]

http://apr.sagepub.com/content/early/2013/05/01/1532673X13482967.abstract  here is the abstract to the paper.  Not at all surprising