my safe space

twenty-five. she/her

[cupidsfemme]

yearning for this ૮ ◞ ⸝⸝ ◟ ྀིა

[eternallystuckonhold]

i miss hand holding. that small form of intimacy is under appreciated.

[sassy-bi-latina]

I have a question, because when I ended the episode the comments I saw were widely different of what I expected.

Am I the only one not mad at Alin?

I feel like I'm the only one not mad at Alin.

And it's not even a "Red is my favorite color" kind of situation.

I'm genuinely not mad by her actions simply because I didn't see anything wrong in the specific situations people seem mad about?

Like, I understand why she helped Kate in the river. I would too? Like... She seemed pretty drunk, she fell, she wasn't getting up and her face was inside the water. So, yeah, I would help her get out of the water at the very least. I get it's annoying and honestly quite maddening getting your proposal interrupted by an ex but that's not on Lin?

Then the kiss, understandable that Jane was mad and hurt but you could very well see how Lin hated every single second and was actually trying to pull away/push Kate the second it started, she just struggled a bit (personally I think Jane should have shoved Kate).

And then someone was telling me how it was not very respectful that Lin went to talk with Kate in private but like... Lin, for us the viewers, was very visually done with Kate's bullshit and from Jane's POV it looked like she just jumped too quickly to conclusions cause she was still hurt.

And while I can understand Jane and her insecurities. I don't understand why, we as the viewers, seem to be so against Lin?

People are saying she's not setting boundaries. But she has? With both Pie and Kate. It's just they decide to ignore them. Just like how Jane has set boundaries with Tim and he keeps ignoring them. But other people ignoring your boundaries doesn't fall on you. And we see Lin giving opportunities to people but we've also seen her cut both Pie and Kate off when those boundaries were repetitively crossed.

I have even seen someone say it seems that Tim deserves Jane more than Alin. And that one really set me off. The manipulative fake ass nice guy that can't take no for an answer and is willing to hurt the girl he claims to love just in the name of winning her over? That fucker? Sure...

[ruhaniya]

Not a fan of how i act when i like someone

[eternallystuckonhold]

too many times i’ve allowed mistreatment for sake of wanting to see the best in someone.

[deeplifequotes]

The best lessons I’ve ever learned came from the worst experiences in my life.

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— Rudy Francisco

[askyea-poesy]

You deserve to be in environments that bring out the softness in you, not the survival in you.

Brené Brown

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— josé olivarez // natalie diaz

[vanillawildflower]

i’ll actually die on the hill that it’s jeremiah who is the most consistently misunderstood and mistreated character on the show, not a certain #someone else just because his key character traits aren’t being brooding and mysterious and having avoidant attachment style.

jeremiah describes being fully wasted and dissociating with lacie then sobbing afterwards (while she was very much proud of it) which full well sounds like he was taken advantage of yet all b*nrads don’t give a fuck and still shit on him for “cheating”. when it’s been established in canon that he thought they were fully broken up. not even mentioning, steve and taylor have been ACTUALLY cheating on their sos for months, but of course b*nrad defenders and consistent logic just don’t mesh well together.

jeremiah is constantly described as never taking anything seriously, when we’ve seen time and time again that he is serious. even freaking steven acts like he’s a joke (some best friend there lol). who was taking care of susannah’s bills? who stepped aside if it would mean his brother could be happy? who was the MOST supportive of belly going to paris to follow her dreams instead of staying where she was comfortable? and who stayed in the hospital all night when steven was hurt, keeping his distance for belly’s sake but being on standby, just in case she might need him?

jeremiah haters also describe him as manipulative and vindictive, but remind me again. which brother was making fun of belly over her checking her appearance, something which obviously meant a lot to her at that time (it’s the name of the frickin show)! which brother made her constantly feel like she was just an afterthought and not the first choice? which brother always left her hanging and wondering what she’d done wrong? right. whereas jeremiah is always telling belly she’s beautiful, that she can do anything, and that she deserves everything. it’s not even a competition for me

jeremiah is constantly slut shamed when he and belly have had the longest and strongest relationship in the show by far. he’s also the only canon bi character which makes this extra weird. poor writing but also the double standards against jeremiah specifically, all the time, is really something.

all of this isn’t even mentioning the fact that jenny had to do a complete character assassination of jere (in the books—and likely, in turn, the show, though the full extent has obviously not happened yet though i’m bracing myself for it) to stop him from being the obvious better choice, because he is and has been. we have seen jeremiah be an extremely mature, supportive, open, warm and loving partner to belly, and belly in turn is HEAD over heels in love with him. i mean, girlie is skipping towards him, smiling stupidly in all their scenes, and calls him her soulmate and last love. she isn’t constantly upset and doubting herself and insecure the way she was with a certain someone else.

the ONLY way they are not endgame now is by completely ruining jere and bellyjere’s relationship, because so far it’s pretty much been an idyll (taylor herself says this) – obviously it hasn’t been perfect all the time, but they’ve never given up on each other, and always come out the other side stronger. will this likely downfall make sense for them? no. will it make sense for jere’s character? no! but there’s no other way for bellyjere to not be endgame with how happy they were together for over three years—the longest main relationship by far in the show. it’s the only way to make b*nrad and c*nrad the favored choice. if you have to destroy one ship to make another look better, how good is it really? my genuine question for jenny.

so i stand by this. jeremiah is the most consistently misunderstood and mistreated character in tsitp by far — both by the fans and the creators.

[eternallystuckonhold]

jere will always be loved by me even if no one in the series or outside of it love him.

[eternallystuckonhold]

hello so i’ve decided to list my top fictional couples. some with my favorite tropes attached, some without. some canon, some not. some are controversial but idc. they’re MY faves. you don’t have to like them, hell you CAN disagree. but what i will not tolerate on MY blog is disrespect. so keep it cute :).

alright in no particular order shall we get started?

1. Kanthony, they truly are a beautiful representation of rivals to lovers. i know public opinion and the author likes to list them as enemies but if you look at my blog you’ll see what i feel is truly enemies. anyways the gentle looks, the yearning, the sweet words…best season of bridgerton.

2. Rotis, now if you know me you know i’m a sucker for popular girl x nerdy boy. especially if the girl is head over heels in love with her nerdy boy. every day i grieve that they’re not canon. they truly brought out the best in one another. otis wasn’t deeply insecure and questioning everything and ruby was more vulnerable, softer with him. i grieve.

3. Spelivia, this was the perfect trope of she fell first but he fell harder. i love love love seeing black love bloom and grow. the way they held one another accountable. the way that they pushed one another even if it meant not being together. the way that they supported one another when separated. that is love.

4. Jori, another perfect example or frenemies/ rivals to lovers. if we’re being honest as a child, i always felt tension between the two. a lot of the things they did for another, there isn’t a hetero explanation in the world. tori really cared about jades opinion and tori was jades safe space and the only person she really allowed to touch her.

5. Jacey, surprise surprise another rivals to lovers trope lmao. but look, the tension was always there. pacey allowed joey to have her own autonomy and individuality. he pushed her to her goals. he wanted her happy even if it wasn’t with him. he was just happy to be in her life. jacey is the most iconic love triangle that most tv shows today try to replicate it.

6. Everlark, ah a ship that is the epitome of fated. soulmates/it was always going to be you. despite the horrors they went through they still managed to fall in love not once but TWICE. through torture, through the deaths of their friends and family, through having to kill to survive. peeta was that gentleness that katniss needed in the chaos. he never pushed her to love him. he accepted her as she was and what she offered and each time he could put his life on the line to keep her safe he did it. each time katniss could keep peeta alive or save him she made sure it was done. they’re truly each others person.

7. Rina, my favorite invisible string theory couple. they are one of the few jacey adjacent ships that were executed properly. ricky struggling with change and gina struggling with stability. they were written for one another. ricky gives gina that stability that she needs and gina gives ricky that change he needs. rina will always be famous.

now…lmao time for some controversial ships. reminder to be kind. if you don’t agree that is fine. but again these are MY opinions. you don’t have to be here.

8. Raylor, now as much as the oc fandom adores marissa i quite literally couldn’t stand her and because of that i couldn’t root for her and ryan. the relationship was toxic from beginning to end. i always felt that they should let one another go. marissa was constantly spiraling and ryan was constantly trying to save her. but with taylor, ryan is lighter. happier. he’s not constantly on edge. he cracks jokes. taylor allows him to be vulnerable and light. he allows taylor to be her neurotic self without judgement. he humors her in a lot of the things she enjoys and says. they bring one another a sense of peace that they’ve never truly had. the only other people i’ve seen ryan be at peace with besides taylor is the cohens and summer.

9. Bellyjere/Jelly, now i love a good friends to lovers ship. jeremiah being in love with belly since they were kids is sweet. him knowing that she had feelings for his brother and not acting on them because he felt she’d never return his feelings just for her to start dating and him finally voice himself…. yeah. the way he’s gentle with her. he’s attentive to her needs and her likes and dislikes. he reminds her how great she is when she forgets. he pushes her towards her goals and things she loves. it sucks that it’s being stripped away to build up another ship. as a writer it pains me. if you have to assassinate a character so badly to make another look better, you’re not a good writer.

10. Riara, now this is a true blue enemies to lovers ship. reminder enemies to lovers means they both have to have had to actively try to kill one another. they have. they have to truly hate one another to be enemies to lovers. they do. that being said, the tension. god the tension they have is so goddamn palpable i can feel it through the screen. i love it. i feel something when they’re onscreen. i feel as if i’m intruding on a private moment. the way rafe speaks so softly to her. beginning to show some care. yeah i love me a true enemies to lovers.

lmao i have more but unfortunately i’ve reached the image limit. but these are some of my favorite ships in media. i love each one for different reasons. might do this again it was fun. but each of these in their own way help inspire me to write. the layers to each character. the depth to the ships. the chemistry.

[angelofthe2000s]

I’m afraid some of ya’ll just don’t have the freak gene that lets you enjoy ACTUAL enemies to lovers. Ya’ll think that trope is just like coworkers fighting over a promotion or smth like no give me people that have tried to maim and kill one another or give me nothing

[eternallystuckonhold]

a lot of the people calling keisha toxic i feel, didn’t watch the show through the lense of a 17 year old girl. yes keisha hurt justin but her actions were not malicious. she did not actively set out to hurt him. in her mind she was doing what was expected of her. her mother did not provide a safe space for her to come forward with the christian situation. shelly even admits it. everyone around her was pushing christian on her despite keisha’s visible discomfort whenever he was around or brought up.

keisha simply was navigating how most teenagers do. she felt she had to protect her mother, not the other way around. so she grinned and bared all of the bs. her biggest fear was hurting her mother. you guys forget justin’s, parents although dawn was firm, were a safe space for him. they allowed him to express himself emotionally. eric was consistently reminding justin to feel his emotions and to not run away from them. keisha didn’t receive that, im not saying shelly was a bad mother but she was emotionally absent. those of you saying you would’ve told your mother, you may have had a more emotionally safe relationship with her.

keisha is just a young teenage girl, feeling like she has to grow up quickly. with a father that comes and goes, an emotionally absent mother. she truly was sorta raising herself. she watched shelly internalize her emotions and figured that that’s what she’s supposed to do.

you guys throw around the word toxic to freely. it’s frustrating. keisha is complex and flawed but she’s not toxic. do i agree with how she handled things? no. but i understand because if i was her i would’ve rationalized and felt like those were the right things to do as well. most teenagers would. the whole she could’ve handled it better is easier said than done when you’re watching with adult eyes and a mature mindset.

but hey who the hell am i? live laugh love keisha clark lmao <3.

[001x456]

people who don't experience hyperfixation don't know what it feels like to hyperfixate so much on something that it becomes not only your subject of obsession but also your source of happiness and literally the main reason why you still keep going; literal source of strength and life.

shoutout to my favorite fictional characters, favorite people, favorite ships, favorite movies, favorite tv shows, fanfics and archive of our own

[inkprilled]

This, but what about the times when you suddenly don't feel the same joy for your hyper fixations as you did literally the day before. It's like this thing that was the source of most of your happiness and contentment, just suddenly gets switched off in your dopamine centres. You're just sat there like, wtf do I do with my time and self now? its especially awful when you feel all your apathy and depression start to take centre stage again because your hyper fixation isn't there to push it back anymore. So you just end up waiting in limbo for the joy to spark again.

[eternallystuckonhold]

i’ve noticed that nobody truly knows what enemies to lovers are anymore. they THINK they do. but they don’t. a lot of the time i’ve noticed people calling a ship with the two people competing against one another or mild miscommunication when they were younger enemies to lovers. when it’s RIVALS to lovers, and that’s completely okay. but we aren’t about to rewrite the definition of what ENEMIES to lovers is.

rivals to lovers is a sub genre of enemies to lovers but enemies to lovers is not a sub genre of rivals to lovers. they are not interchangeable. certain boxes have to be ticked off for it to enter enemies otherwise it’s just rivals. rivals ≠ enemies. rivals is usually competitive, trying to outdo one another. usually with petty disagreements and arguments. never any violence. and no true hate in the actions. dislike, yes. annoyance, yes. hate? no.

with a true enemies to lovers dynamic they have to have moments where they are actively putting the other in danger. that’s not debatable. they truly hate one another and have no regard for the others life. there will be moments where they’ll spare them, or hell even save them. but the element of danger and harm is important. during the time of them trying to harm one another there’s a tension a chemistry. like only they know how to push and pull one another. until the tension builds and they inevitably hookup.

but again, the element of harm has to be involved with a ETL otherwise you’re thinking of RTL and that’s okay. but let’s not use ETL interchangeably because you can’t. ETL is not necessarily healthy and a lot of the time i’ve noticed because it’s not healthy you don’t call a perfectly good example of ETL not ETL. a lot of yall don’t like ETL like you say you do. you like RTL.

i can name one ship in particular that’s a good example of ETL but is labeled as toxic and evil. it’s not supposed to be healthy. it’s literally founded on the sexual chemistry of the two characters trying to kill one another. it’s a taboo type of dynamic. you think you like the dynamic until it’s perfectly presented.

but i digress.

[playingbutter]

THIS!!!

[reinieseason]

START COOKING LIMOREAU WRITERS !!! I WANNA SEE AUS, ALTERNATE UNIVERSES !!! PEOPLE ARE SAD WITH THE ENDING, THEY WANT ESCAPISM AND WE WILL GIVE THEM ESCAPISM. GET TO WORK CHOP CHOP. I WANNA SEE ROYALTY, FAKE DATING, PERIOD PIECES, FUCK EVEN GOSSIP GIRL

[eternallystuckonhold]

i tried to venture out and try other ships besides rina. but that backfired, joshua taylor bassett is the only man that’s not a complete weirdo off camera. he’s the correct and only choice across the board. i tried with the spring i cut my hair and on the show the endgame ship, the man mistreats her and can’t communicate properly. and off camera the rival ship, the one with better chemistry, that man is a complete sexist antivax weirdo. so back to the alphabet show i go. with respectable people on and off screen. rina you are a gem. other ships can’t compete where they don’t compare.