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limitless posting in a meaningless world

[galaxywarp]

[transmasc-theory]

"Go outside" not in the sense of "be in nature to reset your brain a bit" but in the sense of "go and look at how the world actually operates when you aren't in a bubble of people with your shared thoughts and beliefs every so often to remind yourself of how privilege actually operates in the real world."

"Trans men aren't victims of real transphobic violence, they're just seen as mentally ill girls (and therefore safe)" is a belief that only exists if you have never seen how women with schizophrenia are treated. Look at how conservatives SNEER the words "mentally ill" when talking about LGBT people they want to murder. Them calling you "mentally ill" is not a sign they want to protect you and help you "recover" like you think it is due to spending time on sites that are generally more positive to mentally ill people. When conservatives call someone mentally ill, they want that person locked up and forcibly medicated for the rest of their natural lives at best, and killed at worst. Go outside. Watch.

[echo-loves-flowerboy]

Imagine getting kidnapped by a guy who ravaged your entire village and serving as his semi-sex slave for years until some other guy takes you from him as compensation for a woman he just threatened to rape like 3 pages ago and you wait for a week anxious about wether he’ll finally decide hurting you to insult your master is worth the broken alliance and then the singular guy in the camp who seemed to sort of care about your future bites the dust and your master keeps going on and on about how much he wishes you were dead and he’d killed you when he first laid eyes on you because at least then his best friend would still be alive and every day your fear he might get delusional enough in his grief to finally snap your neck and on top of that the only reason he is raining hellfire upon innocent people in a war he has zero stakes in is for the sake of leaving a legacy and Briseis should be allowed to beat every man in the greek camp to death with a brick is what I’m saying

[gender-incinerator]

not wanting to be a woman is not an act of misogyny but some of y'all are not ready to hear that

[han-the-human]

Imagine for a moment that we were having a discussion about trans womens struggles.

Someone says something like:

"Trans women are often viewed by society as being predatory men and this stereotype is incredibly harmful to trans women"

This is reasonable and true, it is backed by the material realities and experiences of trans women.

But what if someone responded with:

"Remove the word "trans" from this sentence and it sounds incredibly stupid! Women (cis women) aren't viewed by society as predators! Any trans woman who says she's been viewed as a predator for being a woman must not understand how the world works!"

We can agree that this is a ridiculous argument that ignores the reality of being a trans women in favor of projecting a cis-hetero-patriarchal view of gender onto trans women, while invalidating those who don't fit that framework.

Now take this and apply it to trans men.

[magnoliamyrrh]

the year is 2035. the new beauty standard is for women to cut their ears off, as ears are a masculine trait which make the face look too big and hearing isnt necessary as it doesnt align with being demure. evil feminists say perhaps this is unnecessary and ears are natural. women are agressively proclaiming they are cutting their ears off due to sensory issues

[this-is-weird-behavior]

i really do not think it can be overstated how much hatred against trans men on this site is driven by people finding trans men Just Kind Of Annoying. people have pipelined themselves into posting on the daily about how tmes should be raped to death because 6 years ago a teenage trans boy was somewhat overexuberant on a fandom post, and other such minor irritations. finding someone (and therefore their entire segment of the population) Just Kind Of Annoying is a direct line, especially on the internet, to completely unpersoning them. nothing one of those people ever says or does should be taken seriously, even if it's a matter of life and death. because they were kind of annoying :/

[redstonedust]

i understand (on paper) why companies are anti-piracy but its funny when random individuals are also strongly anti-piracy. like how does it negatively affect your life if someone you know downloads a cracked torrent of sims 4. you dont work for EA. EA isnt gonna pay you for this. you lose nothing. its fine. chill out.

[troublepunk-ldn]

me as a teenager: man it sucks to have no privacy or autonomy but i guess its for a good reason. when i turn 18 i will realise how young i was and understand why they did all that.

me as an adult: teenagers are an oppressed class, their abuse is normalised and systemic and they need to start killing people

[alvie-pines]

what people dont get about the transmasculine experience is that transitioning often subjects us to MORE misogyny than before. after my family found out i was trans, they were MORE misogynistic to me. my gender presentation was more closely controlled. i was more closely controlled. i was screamed at for dressing tomboyishly. my breasts were suddenly a topic of discussion. i hadn't even mentioned medical transition, but i was told i was "ruining my [divine female] body" by... what, flattening my chest and wearing flannel? i was suddenly a source of embarrassment, the eldest daughter who refuses to conform to her role as a woman. i was forced into dresses that showed my cleavage and bare back, in middle school, which i was extremely open about not wanting to wear.

all of this is explained by a very simple fact, which has always been common knowledge in the transmasc community: they don't treat us like men just because we say we are.

[weirddogfreak]

hey so if you hate trans men specifically because they TRANSITIONED into a MAN, that is not cool and feminist that is transphobic. Hating somebody specifically because they transitioned is weird. You wouldn't hate those same trans men if they detransitioned/had never transitioned and that is transphobic.

[fangs4faggots]

i think we should start openly mocking male creatives who can't figure out how to write women. like actually i think it's embarrassing that it took elliot page transitioning for christopher nolan to give him a good role. why did it take like ten years to get the first female lead in a marvel movie? why is it a Known Fact that stephen king can't write women? why is 50% of the population omitted from large ensemble works? i asked my friend to name a movie directed by a man with a majority female cast and he said ghostbusters 2016. ghostbusters. ghostbusters. g

[ahotknife]

where’s that article by james frankie thomas where he says like “prior to my transition there was only one kind of sex i wanted to have. and i thought i could never have it” because i am about to blow these people’s minds

[ahotknife]

i found it 😌 the article was published on Slate and here’s JF’s commentary on it

[ahotknife]

i have gotten some very odd anons about this post that i’m choosing to ignore. but i am going to double down on this. no i don’t care if girls watch gay porn or imagine themselves as a gay person or wonder what it would be like to have gay sex. so many people imprison themselves by thinking they could never be gay and/or trans. well i’m telling them they better watch out. being gay and/or trans is real. and it could happen to YOU. as a matter of fact i sincerely hope it does

[projectxa3]

from Anarchopuppy

#tbh i think the intense stigma against “straight” ppl “fetishizing” queerness keeps a lot of ppl in the closet

#theres no harm in exploring those feelings in private. indulge in the fantasy and see where it takes u

#dont be a creep to other ppl obv but that goes w/o saying #if id had the courage to confront the ache id feel when i thought abt lesbian sex and how id “never be able to have it” earlier

#it wouldve saved me a lot of time

[animentality]

[alfgifu]

this reads like it was submitted to a local newspaper in the early 1900s

[genderkoolaid]

was thinking abt the difference in how (some) people view women's products as "things companies are trying to sell to women" while men's products are "things men want as consumers" and like. men's desires are constructed by the patriarchy. this is the problem w engaging w the concept of the patriarchy as like, the culmination of every single individual man's active desires instead of a system inherently intertwined with other systems of power. like men are constructed manhood is sold to you! if you think that everything the patriarchy says about women is a lie but you take it at it's word on The Ways Men Naturally Are. I simply need you to rethink things

[lightning-and-lavender-fire]

From I Am A Transwoman. I Am In The Closet. I Am Not Coming Out. by Jennifer Coates

[marxistcalvinisthobbesist]

when you post "The Article About Internalized Transmisogyny" to make a point about masculinity jfc

[genderkoolaid]

The Article About Internalized Transmisogny literally ends by making a point about manhood and masculinity and misandry in queer/feminist spaces:

I hate that the only effective response I can give to “boys are shit” is “well I’m not a boy.” I feel like I am selling out the boy in baseball pajamas that sat with me on the bed while I tried to figure out which one I was supposed to be, and the boys who I have met and loved from inside my boy suit—who believed they were talking to a boy. I feel like I am burning the history of the naked body that sits on the floor of my shower. The body that went to prom in a boxy tuxedo and coveted the dresses.

Because I am not a boy, but I had a boyhood. I was, and am, made to live as a boy and I cannot suspend the perspective that gave me and join in when it’s time to fluster one of those clueless fuckers into anger by calling him a fuckboi and then tell him his anger proves he’s a fuckboi, or to humiliate one with an OKCupid screenshot because we’ve willfully conflated the clumsy ones with the threatening ones so we can grab those solidarity faves. It’s fucked up. It has metastasized.

More than a few out transwomen have told me, privately, they they are uncomfortable with these things, but are afraid that speaking up about it would cause ciswomen to like and trust them less. “I play along,” one of them told me, “because in the queer community the only people who defend cisboys are cisboys. I don’t want to give up finally being read as a girl.”

Another says “I do the misandry stuff because it’s an easy way to earn queer cred points, but when I think about it it makes me uncomfortable.”

Another: “It’s a coping habit I’m not proud of. If I agree ‘girls rule boys drool’ it makes me feel more like a girl.”

Have you noticed, when a product is marketed in an unnecessarily gendered way, that the blame shifts depending on the gender? That a pink pen made “for women” is (and this is, of course, true) the work of idiotic cynical marketing people trying insultingly to pander to what they imagine women want? But when they make yogurt “for men” it is suddenly about how hilarious and fragile masculinity is — how men can’t eat yogurt unless their poor widdle bwains can be sure it doesn’t make them gay? #MasculinitySoFragile is aimed, with smug malice, at men—not marketers.

This conclusion—widely shared—is a product of insulated discourse. What I am NOT saying is: “open the floodgates, let in the shitty male trolls!” I know the trolls—they have tried to be my friends, they have tried to sneak into feminist spaces with no desire to learn or listen. I understand not trusting men who loudly and constantly hold forth on women’s issues and refuse to accept when they are mistaken. I’m not encouraging anyone to trust blindly. I am pleading to the discoursers: consider that this insulation has effects and try to mitigate them, if your priority really is finding truth amid a muck of concealed patriarchal lies. Check to see if maybe you are saying things and reproducing things mostly because it sounds good and feels good and nobody is challenging them.

These are not discursive problems that only apply to an “undercover” transwoman, these are discursive problems that are seemingly only visible to an “undercover” transwoman forced to carry multiple perspectives like bactrian humps.

Because I am interested in complicating your definition of maleness and of boyhood. I was born into that shitty town, maleness, in the remains of outdated ideals and misplaced machismo and repression and there are some good people stuck living there. They are not in charge. They did not build it. And I don’t feel okay just moving out and saying “fuck y’all — bootstrap your way out or die out, I was never one of you.” I want to make it a better, healthier place—not spend all my time talking about how shitty it is and how anyone who would choose to live there deserves it. And to me that means considering them with charity, even when they make it difficult to. [...] Because it’s not a small deal that the words “not all men” have become entwined inextricably with male fragility and whininess. It makes it awfully easy to insulate the (largely cis-)female perspective on what males are. To begin a statement with those words—“Not All Men”—is to give grounds to anyone who wants to laugh at the rest of it. But here is the truth: not all men are what you think they are. Man does not mean what you think it means. Generalizing harshly and broadly but implying “you know which ones I mean” is an intellectual and rhetorical laziness that is not allowed to pass anywhere else in these communities. Because we don’t get to choose who our words and behavior affect, we are obligated to choose them carefully.

[silyaspider]

'women's products as "things companies are trying to sell to women" while men's products are "things men want as consumers"' — The 'active male / passive female' schtick appearing for the thousandth time. That's the core of patriarchal gender and it's everywhere once you start looking.

Also, yeah, while it's cool that I get to stop cosplaying as a man, the things I thought sucked about masculinity were not only gender dysphoria. A lot of it was gender dysphoria. Some of it wasn't. I don't actually think most men are benefiting from the patriarchy, they're just being told they benefit while people are shitty to them.

[giormless]

With all of the hatred being spewed out towards Transmascs in particular from our own fucking community I could easily make a bit of reblogging every instance I see with this image. I'm so fucking tired man

[blasesaint]