The meaning of life according to a 20 year old who is depressed and has very little life experience but who has been quietly observing the chaos around her and has come to the following conclusions: Sometimes when you're having a bad day you look around you and you notice that everyone looks happy, beautiful, successful and in love. And sometimes you want what they're having. So you resolve to go on that lemon detox diet, you wear that short skirt to try and get the attention of the boy you like and you stay up until 4:00am in the morning studying for finals, thinking it's your only chance at happiness. But at the end of the day, you come home and you're tired and it dawns on you: you're so hungry that you can barely think and you don't know how much longer you can keep this up, your crush is a jerk and only wants to get into your pants, and you're actually terrible at science but you get good grades because you memorise all the notes and kiss your professor's ass. You're only studying Dentistry because it's a high-paying job and people call you 'doctor', but other than that, you really don't give a shit about oral health. You think about those perfectly happy people you saw that day and all of a sudden, you feel alone and disappointed. But before you go out and get blind drunk or high (or both) and wake up in the embrace of a stranger (because that's what all of your friends do), consider this: Happiness is not having the perfect body, finding Mr Right or a six-figure income. Happiness is finishing a good book, enjoying a wholesome home-cooked meal, or running into an old friend you haven't seen in years. Happiness is transient. Along with feelings like sadness and anger, it's part of the gamut of human emotions. It's not something you can gain or work towards. People are not as perfect or as happy as you assume they are. In fact, they're going through the same ordeal as you, and if you're discontent, it's not because you're missing something that everyone else has found, it's because you're human. Stop looking for your Happy Ending. It doesn't exist. Start appreciating the seemingly insignificant moments in life.Those are moments of true happiness. And the secret to success? There is no secret. Success is not a number or a career, it's knowing who you are, your values and principles, your strengths and flaws, knowing what kind of mark you want to make in the world, knowing what inspires you and what deters you. Success is working hard to uphold all of these things without letting other people's judgement inhibit you. Perfection is a human construct. It's like infinity. You can theorise about it, you can aim for it but you can never reach it. Beauty refers to your physical appearance. Society dictates the standard of beauty and consequently, some people are deemed beautiful, other people are not. Beauty can be objective, it can also be subjective. If someone comments on how beautiful you are today, thank them and accept it for what it is: a compliment. Don't question it, don't doubt it, don't over-analyse it. They're trying to be nice, and besides, the most flattering compliment you can ever receive is not "you're beautiful" but "you've inspired me" or "you're interesting". The terms beauty and attractiveness are used interchangeably but refer to different things. What is attractive is not always beautiful, and what is beautiful is not always attractive. When people say confidence is beautiful, they really mean confidence is attractive. And countless other things can make a person attractive to another. Beauty should not be a measure of your self-worth. Neither should wealth, status or intelligence. Stop trying to measure your self-worth altogether. Every human being, every living thing is worthy. Remember that. If you think self-harm, drugs or alcohol, or doing anything wild for the adrenaline rush are a means of 'escape', remember, an 'escape' is not a cure. But you already knew that. Maybe it's time to stop looking for a quick fix and start looking for a cure. As for love, once you know who you are and aren't afraid to be exactly that, the right person will find their way into your life. Being with this person should feel like second nature. You should be able to spend three days apart without going crazy. They should not be perfect (because no one is, and if you think they are then it's an illusion) but they should be perfect for you. And they should challenge you in some way but you should go together like Yin and Yang, like Mac and Cheese.
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